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Could try making a post in r/seduction and seeing whether anyone is in your area

@Rishabh R If you don't like the reaction you get from them towards something you find valuable, perhaps just don't tell them about about that thing you value.

@woohoo123 Hey dude, I welcome your post, and I don't judge you for your state of mind. I would recommend getting into deep inner work. My intuition tells me that your desire for the attractive women is not really a desire for an attractive women. Instead, what you really desire is to feel worthy of something, i.e. love/ respect. And, in your life so far you have unconsciously, and perhaps consciously, concluded that to be worthy of that thing some others must perceive you in a certain way. And, that getting a similarly deemed attractive standard of women you are with is a means of getting others to perceive you in a worthy enough way. If I am right in my interpretation, and you do not do inner psychological work, then you will be controlled by this standard for worthiness you have, at least, unconsciously chosen for yourself. And I imagine even if you get this higher attractiveness partner this standard for worthiness will re-emerge in different ways in your life. So, based on these interpretations of mine, I would recommend doing inner psychological work with an attempt to change your standard of worth to being simply your existence, i.e. you are worthy of love/ respect purely by virtue of existing. Some examples of what you could do are things like inner child work, IFS therapy, humanistic therapy, primal therapy, journaling about your childhood.

@Rigel Yes, I've heard its dramatically effects a user's REM sleep

Same. -------------------------------------------- I think you want to cut out hard addictions, as you reasonably can, like the plague. And I think weed if used as a consistent means of emotional regulations becomes a hard addiction. That said, there are, I'd say, more sensible and less sensible ways of cutting out those addictions, i.e. incorporating shadow work into addiction recovery.

@Holykael From an intellectual perspective, I suppose you could consider replacing 'masochism' with the idea of martyrdom. And then it seems more understandable.

@lapis Where would you place yourself politically? I.e. left or right wing? I'd be interested to hear your views.

@Recursoinominado I don't think it has necessarily failed. Imo, you have to meet people where they are at when it comes to self-dev. If they are selfish rn, then they are selfish rn. Coming to an authentic left wing style politics, i.e. not a left wing politics just chosen out of self interest, is somewhat of an intellectual and emotional achievement. Maybe, if you're willing and familiar with the concept, try out some spiral wizardry in the sub-section.

@Someone here Fairs. I mean this chicka you spoke to may very well be basing her social commentary on personal insecurities. But maybe not. I do find it interesting how things go in and out of fashion.

@r0ckyreed Imo, there is quite a lot of bias in societies in favour of people having kids. I think people get flustered by child free people because it goes against a cultural norm that many take as a necessary part of life. So, by going against that norm you affect their sense of self identity. Hence you get a rather emotional response, imo. I find the argument that its selfish not to have children a bit ridiculous. Its way too black and white to my mind. I'd check out the r/childfree subreddit, just so your mind can get in touch with the fact that there are a lot of folks who decide not to have kids.Also, its probably important to get perspectives from someone of a similar expected socioeconomic stance to you. I.e. its quite common for a middle class person to be pro having children and just gloss over all the added difficulties that they would have if they were working class and raising kids.

@Someone here In the example, you could consider learning about IFS therapy theory. And, imo, realise that your thoughts, and emotions are just the result of different subpersonalities that make up your psychic structure. And your suicidality is just the result of one part trying to help other parts avoid pain in the best way it knows how based it currently knows how. You could then just take the requisite steps to change the role of the suicidal part into a healthier one, and make your psychic structure very healthy, whilst retaining all these intellectual beliefs.

@Someone here Ah man I love the look of dark haired attractive women. Would never rather megan had blonde hair. Also, i reckon its quite possible that an averagely attractive woman could more attention next to megan but not for the reason you might expect. Often, imo, guys will have a sense of reality where very attractive women simply aren't taken seriously as a dating prospect because of lower self-esteem, so they wouldn't even consider Megan Fox as a dating prospect. So, the most attractive girl in the picture would be the average girl.

@Frosty97 The programme PIMP by Julien is a classic. I'm not sure whether you can purchase it through good-faith means these days though. A programme by Austen Summers might be useful if you can't. I think his style of game is somewhat similar. Less provocative perhaps. You can buy his programme SHIFT too for getting a lot of inspiration to start. But seems a bit overkill to me. Also, I'd do field reports. Julien used to say it was 51% of learning cold approach game. Up to you if you want to start doing field reports from day one. Maybe just focus on getting approaches under your belt for like a month and then start field reporting. -------------- AG Heydan is a pua who also has a product called 'The system'. Its an ebook. And it contains a really good goal setting system imo. ----- Finally, vet who you take advice from. Have they walked the path you want to walk? I.e. have they done cold approach where they started from a similar level to you, and got to a level you want to get to. Commentary on male-female dynamics is full of absolute delusion imo. Even by guys who seem very professional or otherwise successful. You should be vetting me and other users on this thread included, imo. Edit: Finally part 2, I'd also take the mindset that everything you do in your game journey is understandable, and worthy of being met with understanding, respect and love. Game isn't determining your worthiness as a person. You're already worthy of respect and love and acceptance in every moment, imo. Game is more like a skillset to learn and also a way to embrace shadow parts of yourself. I think its easy to lose sight of that in the pickup subculture, and would actually hurt your growth in pick up and beyond to lose sight off.

@Someone here I get you dude. Sounds intense for you. However, nonetheless, I would still put the overwhelm as a consequence of the way your psyche is currently structured and how this new information affects your psychic structure. I believe recognising this allows one to embrace nihilism as a intellectual idea, without falling into the low conscious emotions many do. Its a common trap imo to associate intellectual beliefs with the driving force of emotional states. For example, Nietzsche was not depressed imo because of his intellectual beliefs but because of the structure of his psyche. I understand you don't ay you are depressed here but I still you, to my mind, claiming your intellectual beliefs are the driving force of an emotional state (overwhelm). I think we can do many things without acting based on knowledge based decisions. For example, take the following: When you were a baby, you would have still cried for your mother when you were born. This is not based on conscious knowledge. You can think nothing and still get an erection when you see a member of the opposite sex you are attracted to. This is not based on conscious knowledge.

@Someone here Fairs. I don't think they are ambiguous, but maybe they appear so to you. i get this one was short. But its because i feel the answer is simple. I get the confusion. I disagreed because i don't think the emotions come from your clueless state. Not everyone who feels clueless feels overwhelmed by it. The overwhelm is to do with the way your psyche is presently structured atm, and how that structuring interacts with the new belief that you are relatively clueless. Maybe you build a sense of self-identity around how much you know about the world. If you didn't, perhaps you would not feel overwhelmed.

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@Someone here No I didn't. I was actually referring to your feelings of overwhelm.

@F A B Its the difference between having a career and having a life calling, imo. I see life becoming a work of art with a life calling. Maybe you could compare it with your choice of relationship partner. One may choose to have a relationship with the nice girl from work who they share some interests with. Or one may choose to have a relationship with their soulmate.

@Someone here I don't understand the point you are making in reference to my comment

@Someone here I'd say because of a large amount of misinformation but also some genuine concerns. A lot of people aren't mature enough to properly handle and use psychedelics in a safe way. And unsafe use can mess people up.

@Someone here Well you sort out your negative emotions surrounding the level of not knowing via doing inner work imo.

@aklacor727 Honestly, I wouldn't recommend trying to 'game', i.e. try and act other than how you would normally act, with anyone you want a serious relationship with. Only for those you want a casual relationship with. Your mutual attachment styles are, to my mind, going to determine how your relationship goes. I'd just follow your intuition, and maybe look up ways to build intimacy, i.e. via this: . And try to make sure that you respect each other's boundaries. And, hey if it works out it works out, if it doesn't it doesn't. ----- That said, if you want to make having an awesome relationship a priority in your life I would get into doing deep inner work, and get it so you have a secure attachment style and have emotional maturity.

@Leo Gura I'd appreciate your perspective on voice journaling too, if you're willing, please. Also, I'd appreciate your perspective on using voice journalling to go through the contemplative questions on the life purpose course, please.

Does anyone here do voice journaling? I.e. speaking about a topic in your personal life and having a voice recorder note it.

Oh my mistake, also, i meant to say that I listen to the voice recording afterwards. My current thinking is that it might meet the human need to feel heard.