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Get away from your sister. Move out. You can't control yourself to not abuse her, and there is no excuse for it. There is a way forward. But you need to stay away from her. Go to anger management classes, or do therapy.

@YIDIRYIDIR I disagree. You need the foundation of a lot of books, then you can become a maverick. Otherwise most of one's creativity is gonna be spent re-inventing the wheel, and falling into all sorts of traps. Imagine trying to make a historical theory without reading all sorts of books on what happened in the past. The theory will likely be delusional

In some ways I agree. In some ways I disagree. For example, this young generation is much worse of in terms of ability to get a house, and they have to deal with trying to make it in a world full of addictive tech.

@Oppositionless I get you. Thank you for your response.

I would potentially be prepared to lay down my life for values I believe in. That may coincide with fighting for my country. But I wouldn't fight for my country because of the fact that its my country. Though its easy to say now. I imagine my country would put use all manners of manipulation to get me to join. My country is more developed than Ukraine in terms of its dominant ideologies but just look at what they did there in Ukraine to get men to join the military. They restricted any guy from like 18 - something like 60 (not sure exact age) from leaving the country. And forced many to join the army. To me that ought to be a war crime. To enslave your citizen population to fight for you is barbaric. I don't care how it affects the likelihood of military victory.

I would say that it can make someone stronger but it is really a result of the context in which the trauma occurs. There is indeed such a thing as post-traumatic growth, where people can grow from experiencing trauma. However, I would argue that only occurs if the trauma occurs in a certain context and/ or the aggrieved person has certain corrective life experiences. However, its important to look at how demographics tend to respond to things. And the ACE (Adverse childhood studies) consistently point to the conclusion that the more traumas a kid goes through the more likely they are to die significantly younger, have more diseases, worse mental health and health outcomes. Imo, this does not mean that an individual is doomed to a worse outcome. They might get lucky and have corrective life experiences. For example, they make friends with the kid of a trauma therapist who gives them recommendation that put them on a path with much better outcomes.

Haven't seen the video but wouldn't be surprised. Some of these guys have seemingly really min-maxed on what works on apps. I only have nominal experience with min-maxing on dating apps (sorta makes me uncomfortable to just min-max, but am unsure where i stand still on it), and i noticed clear results from it. That nominal experience just involved using a recommended opener.

LOOL Intense pulse light would be an interesting hobby ahahahaha. Nice tho! I like soccer too. My team is Chelsea.

Haha its Indian cricket league! Best cricket league in the world.

I eat snack bar, and some chicken bites for breakfast, with a coffee. For lunch, I am trying to have a chocolate Huel drink, and a relaxing drink. Dinner maybe a sandwich from the shop. Weekends I am a bit of a degenerate when it comes to my diet though hahaha. I laugh but it is important that i get a handle on it.

I get what you're saying bro. Makes sense. But I really want to make clear that I'm not suggesting you do that. I really don't have the success in this area to be giving out advice, besides some very basic stuff. Makes sense to me logically tho what you say. Wings REALLY helped me get started approaching too. Though, I was watching Leo's how to get laid video last night. And he did advise that if you are someone who is socially anxious, like with most people, that basic social stuff should be the first step. Rather than going from basementmaxxing to some club haha!

Haha fairs. I guess I was being too generalised in my comment. I might try that out actually. I've been struggling to get myself to give it another go. I tried one of Todd V's challenges around not being the first to break eye contact if you lock eyes with a girl when out and about. But have struggled to find a next step that isn't too daunting. But i dunno, i probably just need to get wings lol.

I get you. I was just making the argument that pickup is useful advice for a minority of men. But is too difficult to be a solution for most men.

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I'd say yes, but with two exceptions. Firstly, it just sort of skips the beginner social skills stage. For example, most pickup doesn't start with you going to the local meetup and just practising making friends with others who are also there to make friends. It starts with you going to some bar that can be hella intimidating as a noob lol. And the social skills needed to have good interactions are higher. Its like learning swimming by your dad chucking you into the deep end of the swimming pool lol. Secondly, its all fixated around making you have social skills that help make sex from cold approach more likely. Things like relationships and friendship social skills are not included much. But i dont want to speak too much on this subject. I have struggled a lot with pickup in the past, have done maybe 10 months total of it consistently and am still low on the skill tree. So i dont want to mislead.

Pickup can be great. But i don't see it as a solution to men's dating issues. Its way too difficult to be a reasonable solution that will help most struggling dudes out. Its good for the minority of dudes who are willing/ able to put in the high effort and strategy to really transform their dating lives. Basic social skills help is a better form of general solution I'd say.

Yeah but there is a difference between the type of person who is persuaded by evidence such as in the Epstein files situation, and someone persuaded by the mere existence of a dark possibility, i.e. 9/11 inside job. Yes there is an element of inaccurate pre-judgment from the mainstream when it comes to conspiracy theories. It is wrong to dismiss things as impossible just because they sound outlandish. Conditional probability makes outlandish events very likely. However, it is also inaccurate to jump to conspiratorial conclusions when other possibilities also exist. Conspiracy theorists who make correct guesses about things are still guessing. For example, those who much earlier guessed what Epstein was doing. A reasonable person will take the dark possibility seriously but will not jump to it as a certainty.

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@ROOBIO I struggled/ struggle with game too. I am ENTP. Which is sort of an ambivert. I find it hard to work out what I actually disagree with in pick up and how much is just me wanting attraction to work in a way differently than it does. But i dont know, i haven't done pickup properly for more than 4/5 months at a time. I made some significant progress, but not that much so i can't really speak that well on the subject. I did notice that I stopped seeing women as so special the more i did pick up last time. There would be women who stood out to me, but women as a whole became less mythical lol. I'm sort of back to that mythicalising now again cos i haven't been gaming. I'm thinking of giving it another serious go again soon.

Can practice self-amusing. Like do stuff to make yourself laugh in conversation. Rather than trying to make other person laugh. Can make it lighter and more enjoyable. If you don't really like that style, can just focus on self-engagement. Notice when you start getting bored/ drained by conversation and try to switch to topics that you are interested in.

Thanks Errr I do a mix. Cos I'm in cybersecurity training at the moment, and my trainings use various virtual machines to teach linux. Currently have used Ubuntu, and Debian. Might be using some kali soon when I learn more about ethical hacking! I've only done basic ethical hacking so far but each time has been a thrill. That's cool you donate too btw.

Linux being free is mental. I only tried it recently for the first time, and its epic.

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Great perspectives bro. Its great to have people on the forum who have really done a lot of great work in stage orange. Without strong stage orange development people really get into a lot of cope. Myself included. Being able to reliably climb skill trees is so key. I find it actually pretty useful to think in terms of video game ranks when it comes to skill trees. If you in copper (i play siege and that is the bottom rank), you need to find a ladder to bronze. Then a ladder to silver. Etc etc. People do get delulu and think that because they cant get laid in copper that the game is pointless. But really you gotta focus on climbing to that next rank. Its like a copper saying the game is too hard when they immediately play in a champ lobby. I get it though. Limiting beliefs and emotions can feel like facts, and you can get debufs from failure. I think once you climb one skill tree from being poor to being good, then your mind can really open up, and you get a roadmap on how to get good. For example, maybe you realise getting coaching is meta. Before that its understandable to have a lot of limiting beliefs and struggle to progress. Thats why its useful for parents to help their kids climb at least one skill tree growing up, i.e. theatre, sports etc. Otherwise, its easy to make an identity about not being the type of person who is able to be good at skilled things.