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Neither of you decide, you try to work it out. Its not an act of inventing your own standard of what is socially calibrated. Its a process of working out what is socially uncalibrated. It should be treated like a scientific study imo.

Well you can't just decide on your own what is socially calibrated. Because being socially calibrated is about understanding how to generally have pleasant interactions with other people. There are a certain set of traits and behaviors that exist for that. You can't just start claiming that displaying traits that generally lead to unpleasant interactions aren't socially uncalibrated.

@Buck Edwards You might find value in this too: IFS Buddy Chatbot: https://www.ifsbuddy.chat/ Its an AI powered IFS therapist.

@Buck Edwards I can certainly relate to your frustrations. It sounds good to me though that you have been able to quickly identify that you don't fit with particular therapists and move on. That's something I've struggled with personally in therapy. So kudos to you there. I've been with quite a few therapists now, I guess I try to see each new one as a learning experience. And if it doesn't work out with them, then its all part of the overall recovery process.

@Buck Edwards I think a depth psychotherapy can be useful, so I second IFS therapy. I'd also recommend looking into somatic healing modalities, where you work with the becoming comfortable in your body. Things like deep tissue massage, TRE and Yoga. I understand that finances might get in the way though .

@Scholar Sorry for your loss. What comes to mind for me is to keep the stages of grief in your awareness. Try and talk to a trusted friend, or a grief counsellor. Vipassana meditation can help you be with the emotions that come up. Massage and Trauma release exercises can help you release stress that inevitably rises during such a time. That said, I haven't looked into grief processing that much. Hopefully my recommendations are helpful though.

I was just saying that a certain aspect of pickup is low consciousness. Hence, my saying that there are various positive aspects to pick up.

Tony Hinchcliffe. He is a stand up comedian who hosts a popular US comedy show called 'Killed Tony'.

I mean this is tame by his standards no? I watched some of his Kill Tony and he was a complete asshole from time to time imo..

@Majed To get good at pickup you essentially have to become obsessive about fulfilling one of your primal needs. Its a very self centered project to get involved with too. Imo, obsessing about something like that is pretty low consciousness, and obsessing about low consciousness things will kind of warp your mind. That's not to say there aren't various positive aspects of pick up.

I agree

Yeah thanks for suggesting the idea @Princess Arabia :)

I just don't trust Trump at all lol

@enchanted I'd say learn about the classic political theorists. For example, get hold of a university reading list on political theory 101. You can: 1) Read their works, 2) Watch relevant lectures, and/ or 3) Learn from things like wikipedia, chatgpt and stanford encyclopedia of Philosophy. For number 2 I think this course could be of value: ^ First video in the 'Moral foundations of politics' lecture series. Haven't been through this lecture series myself. However, went through another of the speaker's and found it excellent.

I'm not sure I quite understand mate. I mean I understand your reply as a standalone comment but not as a reply to my comment.

Those guys linked are like the opposite of black pill imo lol

Yeah I totally agree, except the last part. Not sure I understand that bit. Was just answering the 'is it even possible' question.

Wingman. Someone you do pick up with

For sure. Just do a quick google and I'm sure you will find various stories of people becoming successful after being in very adverse life conditions, i.e. homeless and drug addicted.

@Spiritual Warfare Depends on your psychological state and your life circumstances.

Core symptoms of PTSD: 1. Intrusions or re-experiencing of the event (such as intrusive memories, repetitive play in which the events or aspects of it are expressed, nightmares, flashbacks, distress triggered by reminders of the event or events). 2. Avoidance (such as avoiding thoughts, feelings or memories of the event or events, or avoiding people, places, conversations or situations that are associated with the event or the events). 3. Arousal and reactivity or sense of current threat (such as irritability, being overly vigilant, being easily startled, concentration problems, sleep problems). Complex PTSD "According to the ICD-11, Complex PTSD consists of the same core symptoms of (ICD-11) PTSD, [as listed above] but has three additional groups of symptoms (which are sometimes referred to as ‘disturbances in self-organisation’ or ‘DSO’): 4. Problems in affect regulation (such as marked irritability or anger, feeling emotionally numb) 5. Beliefs about oneself as diminished, defeated or worthless, accompanied by feelings of shame, guilt or failure related to the traumatic event 6. Difficulties in sustaining relationships and in feeling close to others" To my understanding, a key difference is to do with whether you have had multiple or prolonged traumatic experiences. Growing up in abusive household is more CPTSD, and being near a terrorist attack is more PTSD.

Hey OP, Sounds to me like you probably have complex ptsd. Pete Walker's book on surviving to thriving can be helpful imo. Also, I think Dr Ramani's Youtube channel will be especially helpful for understanding your family dynamics and your options going forward.

Nice dude. Was just making a silly joke about whether the AI had got laid or not though lol.

Hmmm I dunno. What's this AI dude's lay count?