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I agree. That's why I included the life experiences/ social conditioning parts in my description of high-value. I'll also add present life circumstances too. For example, that will affect her mood. So, high-value to her could change day to day. But the core of what counts as high-value will always be there.

I get what you're saying about women being emotional creatures. However, I'd push back on them not caring about anything else. Because what causes them to be highly emotional in a way that leads to sex is perceiving a guy as high-value and trusting him (enough). So, really the emotions are a consequence of the image she has of the guy in her mind.

? If you mean that what is high-value in the context of female attraction isn't an objective status signal for men, then I agree. Whenever I say high-value guy I mean it in the context of what female attraction regards as a high-value guy.

My opinion is they are attracted to high-value guys who's value they see as relatable and attainable. Or you can also say trust instead of R&A. Value is mainly determined by what made sense in caveman time as value. And then life experiences/ social conditioning adds a unique twist to what value ultimately looks like for the girl. Examples of cavemen value are: - Competence, power & influence, social status And things like humor are attractive in so far as they imply you have one of these caveman values. I.e. humor implies competence of intelligence. Further its an honest signal you're relaxed enough to have fun which implies social status and competence, as if you had had terrible social experiences you wouldn't be relaxed enough to be humorous, or feel safe enough to attempt it. Trust works the same as value in this way. But these emotional things you describe I'd mainly class as in the trust part of the equation. And, these emotional things you list only make her happy if they see him as a high-value guy who they trust. So, if she smiles receiving a flower, she isn't smiling because its romantic. Its because its a positive thing occurring between her and a high-value guy who she trusts, or she's smiling because its bumping the trust levels up.

My goat

How tf is it insulting to be hanging out with a girl and not be thinking about sex with her

@Valach i agree. But that's a different discussion

I mean to be fair in part looksmaxxing is a response to the bs about looks not mattering. Which was also pushed a lot by RSD.

Pick up. And. Looking at the cute boy in the mirror.

What are a set of questions that help you get a picture of who someone is? For example, not just deep questions, where you don't even know what job they do. I get frustrated talking to people sometimes because I ask them questions but I come away thinking I don't really understand who that person is still or what archetype or personality type they are. And, PLEASE, no responses of 'just follow your curiosity' or I will roll my eyes so hard they pop out my head ;). Bonus points if you have a question set that escalates nicely in conversation :). For example, starting light, and then getting progressively deeper.

@Hojo Thanks bro

I get you. If you keep working on it you'll know it very deeply. There's definitely some truth to that. However, the issue with hard work alone is you often train bad habits.

I agree that hard work is very important in terms of getting results. But I disagree that it is almost guaranteed that you'll get good just by sheer volume. You'll probs guarentee at least intermediate. But getting to advanced level in a field requires iteration and good theory usually.

Glad you find me so clever

Yep you're right I actually read off a printed out pdf document when talking to people. Its even glow in the dark for the night clubs

@Schizophonia Thanks. @Valach I get you but am looking for template questions.

I get what you're saying for sure. You go on social media and you see so many comments around X being a dysfunction or Y requiring healing. As though a healthy human just rides through life on some magic carpet of ease and good vibes. But there are many dumb charismatic people with strong frame. So, these views get perpetuated. At the same time though, there is a fair amount of normalised behaviour that is dysfunctional. But most people aren't being nuanced in their thinking.

I agree with that. I've been really disillusioned by therapy. The profession has a slick culture of avoiding accountability. You criticise a therapist and often "it just takes time" or "The model isn't a fit" or "You have to take responsibility for your own healing". Its a real shame. But at the same time, the profession attracts the more artsy creative feely types. Which has its positives, i.e. empathy. But these are not your star athelete types who constantly iterate on their performance levels, so they continuously get better. And so the standard stays low. I love the competent ones tho. They're stars.

Ok I understand what you're saying now. And my mistake you were giving a perspective more than advice. Though with severe disorders, multiple years of therapy doesn't seem unexpected.

I hate how therapy has become this sort of magical remedy for all emotional problems people experience. Especially in dating. So much advice about how if you're a dude who struggles with women you need therapy. And its mostly nonsense advice.

Dude I get you're coming from a good place and i agree shrooms can be helpful. But you gotta watch it giving advice like that. Taking shrooms whilst having bad mental health issues can be a fucking disaster.

LMAO this chick crazy af... and apparently... incredibly dyslexic. Also why not do what girls do to recognise the crazy dudes

Cybersecurity, Dating, Siege 6. Might go back to Piano

Bro is dating on veteran mode

Yes, being called bad in the life purpose section of actualized.org is my no.1 kink