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I think screening men is important. However, I'd recommend doing a long term depth psychotherapy so that you change your internals. I'd recommend IFS. That way you won't be attracted to toxic men, and will be attracted to healthier men. I suspect there is some trauma bonding here.

Sorry to hear you had that experience dude. I would recommend avoiding psychedelics for now. I believe that its important to be grounded before engaging with psychoactive substances like cannabis, and especially psychedelics. I had a few pretty paranoid trips on weed myself.

Trauma release exercises (TRE) by David Berceli may help. Here's a link to a free, and professionally done course by a practioner: trecourse.com Perhaps, regular messages may help too

Guys get much more grounded with age. They know who they are more, and that breeds confidence.

Approach anyway, don't worry about IOIs when you are a newbie.

I'm following Leo's advice re addiction from this vid

Sincerely, I'd recommend that after every interaction you come up with one thing about the interaction that you did well. As a bonus, you can come up with one thing that was funny from the interaction.

@vizual I'd recommend Leo's video on Mystical traditions around the world

Honestly since I went through pickup, and learnt about power dynamics in social interactions. I really think the opinion people have is often based more on the context of the social interaction in which it is expressed. For example, if I engaged my diaphragm and talked to someone with steady eye contact about spiritual enlightenment I'd get a lot more supporting opinions than if I said it with less authority. Rhetoric is everywhere! That said, ideas of consciousness popular in our circles do tear apart a lot of people's world views, and ultimately there sense of security and safety. So, it makes sense, to me, for them to resist accepting our views.

Haha Vegas is wild. 5 meo dmt vegas sounds next level

Not sure myself, but wanted to say congrats on the job offer!

Do you actually want to have sex with her? I.e. do you feel turned on during the date at all

I'd imagine so. However, you'll probably be told by plenty of people irl that you do need one to be happy.

@Barbara Damn NDAs are everywhere these days

@itachi uchiha I'd call it marketing rather than propaganda

This is such a common pre-newbie experience. You are continually re-watching content that reassures you that you don't need to take action. I'd go to a depth psychotherapy and start working on your internals

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALo_q-gq_6Q

Has anyone here recovered from the emotional affects of bullying? If so, how did they do so? I want to hear about certain techniques that people have used. I am not looking for things like the following. "I just decided not to be held back by my bullies anymore". I want a method that enables deep change. Thank you in advance.

Brother go to a depth psychotherapy and deal with the painful shit that happened in your past, i.e. bullying. Talk about any situation in which you felt lesser than.

I really like Richard Rortey's words: Rorty suggests, that “we see knowledge as a matter of conversation and of social practice, rather than as an attempt to mirror nature” (PMN, 171). Rorty provides this view with a label: “Explaining rationality and epistemic authority by reference to what society lets us say, rather than the latter by the former, is the essence of what I shall call ‘epistemological behaviorism" (quoted from stanford encyclopaedia of philosophy)

@Amannl3in There are some free universities in Europe. There's one in Norway I think.

Listen, Preety, its a fucking horrible situation for you. I've been following your progress on the forum for a while, and understand you have CPTSD. I really don't think your going to progress with things until you leave your living situation with your family. And I mean by any reasonable means necessary. Like even going to university for year so that you can get funding for your own housing (if your government runs such programmes).

I fucking love Julien's humor lol, and I love his style of game accordingly. So prefer his content. Trolling in game is life Owen was always the bedrock of why I got so interested in game back in the day tho.

Its become apparent to me that I was constantly, and regularly abused during my childhood, including by my parents. My mother actually sided with my main bully over me, and would often compare me to him. I realise now this is the route of my feeling of defencelessness. People could do whatever they wanted to me, and I wouldn't be protected. Any advice on how I could deal with this? (I know about drawing boundaries, but I want to learn about how to make identity level change such that I am inclined to draw these boundaries) Thanks in advance.