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@Leo Gura Hmm fair enough. I get your point. Kernberg's perspective still fits the self hate view though.

@Leo Gura I disagree actually. I base my views on narcissism off psychotherapists like Dr Frank Yeomans and Dr Otto Kerrnberg. I think that narcissism, in the true NPD sense, is a compensatory mechanism developed by a psyche as a means of protecting against deep feelings of emptiness and shame. Here is a video by Yeomans if you're interested: Kernberg actually believes that NPD is a secondary defence mechanism, such that if that defence mechanism were to be surrendered the client would then be left to experience their primary defence mechanism of BPD. BPD being characterised by pervasive self-hatred.

@something_else Based on this narrative, he behaved like an entitled child who can't handle their emotions imo. You did nothing I would class as disrespectful. I personally wouldn't want to be friends with someone who behaved in that manner.

I'm curious about what the delta description is

@Something Funny Great dude!

lol we got jesus as a mod

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@bloomer PM me please if you want to discuss this further

Hey folks, Was wondering if folks had any tips regarding effective journaling? i want to use it to process events from my past. Any perspectives and tips on this would be great. Thanks in advance.

A note to users to still maintain a base level of respect and decorum when in strong disagreement with others. I.e. no personal attacks on OP please.

@Thought Art I agree totally bro. Its essential to balance fashion with comfortability.

@Leo Gura Only if it was above 10" in size

@spiritual memes Thanks chief ?

@Leo Gura Yes, to my understanding, he has little feuds with contemporary rappers from time to time. I think he came back into the consciousness of younger folks when he got embroiled in a diss track feud with machine gun kelly.

@Leo Gura Thank you. I hope to be of service.

@Thought Art Any particular recommendations?

@LostSoul Hey mate. Its something I struggle with myself. But my best current understanding is to journal about events from your past and engage in humanistic psychotherapy. Humanistic psychotherapy is the most empathetic and human centred psychotherapy I've personally come across.

@Swarnim Are you able to connect to people in at an intimate and deep level?

@Cireeric I think 'developing work ethic/ discipline' is another key one

Ye I wouldn't be a part of actualized if it wasn't for pickup. I also had some stage orange achievements in my teenage years that blew my mind, and i put a lot of it down to the mindsets that people like Owen Cook, and the RSD crew instilled in me. That said, I also met some limits of that mindset petty soon after that too.

@Julian gabriel You can do shadow work, i.e. via journaling, depth psychotherapy, holotropic breathwork. Imo, a lot of beliefs are just defence mechanisms, and serve as means to aid our survival in various ways. For example, as a means to hide a part of ourselves we have come to believe is unacceptable. By doing shadow work you can rewire your unconscious patterns and as such these defence mechanisms fade away. Hence leading to belief change imo.

@Leo Gura ?

@Blackhawk So, you think the Russian side are evil? If I am correct in that assumption, why do you think they are evil?

@mr_engineer Perhaps instead of a debate think of it like a dialectic. Wiki: "Dialectic, also known as the dialectical method, is a discourse between two or more people holding different points of view about a subject but wishing to establish the truth through reasoned argumentation. Dialectic resembles debate, but the concept excludes subjective elements such as emotional appeal and rhetoric". Also, imo, if you want a tip on going meta, you can learn about deductive reasoning and experimenting with turning each argument you have or come across into a premise-premise-conclusion format. I.e. Premise 1: All cats are blue Premise 2: There is a cat near me Conclusion: There is a cat near me that must be blue (Conclusion is just what is true if both premises are true). Then you can inspect whether each separate premise is true, and investigate what sub-premises need to be true for a premise to be true. Make sense to you?