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@mw711 I would recommend you do the following three things: 1) Cultivate a 'Loving-Kindness' practice. Firstly, you will like yourself more, and people will tend to respond to you accordingly. Secondly, you will like other people more, and people will tend to respond positively to do this. 2) Cultivate a 'Body awareness meditation' practice. I believe you will consequently be more grounded, and retain a greater sense of self. 3) Get clear on your personal boundaries, and preferences. Firstly, regarding the former, identify/ create an idea of what behaviours towards you, you will tolerate before moving on from a person. Secondly, regarding the latter, identify/ create an idea of the traits of the people that you want to connect with socially. I believe this screening approach will prevent socialising being toxic, and will cause you to emanate a vibe that demands more respect, makes for a more pleasant social experience, and increases the chance that you'll make the type and abundance of social connections that you presumably want. I wish you the best.

@Carl-Richard I think that's a great find! I haven't watched the video yet. However, I'm curious to see how this video allows me to develop my understanding of stage yellow v stage green. Sometimes, in some ways, I struggle to understand what stage yellow materialises as in actual discourse. I still am unsure what 'post-intuitive' means in the context of 'post-intuitive' being a stage yellow trait. Thank you for presenting me with the opportunity to learn more about this. @Leo Gura your words here, "It's going to boil down to a difference in emphasis. Vaush's emphasis is on practical political action and progressive victory. This guy's emphasis is not that, so Vaush will struggle to see the value in it. The problem is that higher perspectives don't seem valuable or practical. But what isn't realized is that value and pragmatism becomes its own dead-end. Lack of value isn't a bug, it's a feature as you evolve to higher perspectives on life. But don't expect those who are mired in survival concerns to understand that.", remind me of the critical legal theorists, particularly Duncan Kennedy. They approach the project of theorising law through the lens of pragmatism, postmodernism, Marxism, and legal realism. I bring them up because although their postmodernist and Marxist influences lend themselves to appealing to universal notions of truth and knowledge. I find that they decide to argue through internal criticism. To my mind, that entails that they argue using the values that are deemed important today in judicial/ extra-judicial/ academic discourse. It strikes me as stage yellow stepping down to stage green so as to bring about the change generally desired by critical legal theorists. General comment I'm unsure whether to class postmodernism as either stage green, or yellow. I would like to hear people's perspectives regarding whether they think postmodernism is stage green/ yellow, or perhaps, even Turquoise. Thanks in advance.

@preventingdiabetes There is plenty of time. Watch it. Edit: I'd like to add the following. I believe all 'wants' are acceptable, and worthy of love, respect and protection. I caveat that with my belief that one should not act on a want where it would be abusive to other beings to do so.

@integral It seems so fucked to me from what I've heard from my female friends. Its like fucking poison

@Hardkill Absolutely true, and valid. I'm marxist, very left-leaning politically. However, if you're smart about it you can access resources that allow you to be the exception to the rule and rise out of your class position. Its shit like not being prepared to leave your family, or do things like LoAttraction, and therapy that'll keep you stuck. A good rule of thumb is if people think you're crazy then you're on the right track (within reason lol).

@Striving for more Join the reddit pick up subreddit, and then join their discord server. Some of the shit is fucking hilarious. Julien's game is so fucking funny at times. I particularly love the bit in a compilation of his when he gets rejected and cheekily goes, 'REJECTED' ahhaahha. I use it myself as well lmao.

@Leo Gura Damn, that really resonates with my experience of PUA, too.

Its counter-intuitive, but I'd advise 'Metta (Loving-Kindness) meditation', and 'Body awareness' meditation. Metta will mean that your psyche comes to see the world as more safe, other people as more understanding, and willing to appreciate. And your actions will carry a vibe that is more collaborative, than competitive, which I've found, though its been a limited experience for me, to make things way more easily. Body awareness meditation will ground you. By grounding, it basically means you'll be less concerned with other people's opinions. There's more to grounding than that, but that's what comes to mind for me now. By body awareness, I'd recommend body scan meditation. This is where you move your attention throughout all parts of your body over the period of the meditation. Also, if you want to test it, next time your talking to someone, put your awareness in your body as you're talking to them. (or if you lose track of the convo, do it from time to time, during the convo). I hear, and have somewhat experienced, the benefits of placing your attention whilst in convo in your calf muscles. Good luck! And kudos for posting about this sort of thing, its a testament to your self-awareness.

@Lews Therin Fair play, bro. Glad to hear you got that value. Perhaps, different people get different things. Your comment is reminding me of some of the cool stuff that I learnt from him too. I think he is really especially beneficial for people who had a shitty set of cards dealt to them mentally in life. I know I was one of them for sure :).

@Evoke I'd advise watching experts talk about what they are experts in. Owen is an expert at teaching men how to be very successful at casual dating, via the PUA route. He's not an expert on cultural analysis, which is what it seems like these videos are about. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Also, aside from feeling entertained, reassured, and more hopeful and courageous I never generally got much tangible value from Owen's free videos. I've noticed a lot of people commenting about how they watch his videos, but come away from his videos inspired, yet without knowing exactly what the point of the video was, or having learnt much.

@NightHawkBuzz Focus on something that matters. I'd disagree re focusing on diet inflammation. Focus on your base psychic impulses, and structure. Go do IFS therapy. And, do extensive self-work on your own along side your therapy using IFS books.

@Danioover9000 Nice one dude.

You got this dude re moving out.

@Danioover9000 Ground yourself in their eye colour. Notice their eye colour, and then keep repeating their eye colour in your mind.

@Preety_India Thank you. I might try handwriting my journaling. I've recently been inspired to do it actually after watching, 'Girl, interrupted'.

@TheAlchemist Good point. I disagree, with the above user, that it has the same problems as old religion. It is much less tarnished than old religions in teh cultural discourse, and is more easily perceivable as a non-religion by the masses. And in the internet age this lack of tarnishing, and illusory ability make it potent for what OP says.

@Raphael Do-Nothing meditation is about true acceptance, as it is about 'being'. Everything is acceptable. IFS is a therapy modality based on the idea that there are no psychological disorders. Every parts of us is non-bad. Again, everything is acceptable.

Just block him, and report him to mod via private message/ relevant button

@Salvijus I don't think you even believe it yourself. You just want to believe it. It may well be true, but I sincerely doubt that you believe it out of anything other than spiritual bypassing. What help is telling a person who has such issues as I discuss that what he really wants is God. And, there will be plenty of solutions besides god.

Attend trauma therapy. And look into IFS (internal Family systems Therapy) specifically.

@Salvijus I disagree. I really don't see how that's helpful, either.

@Breakingthewall Thank you. I appreciate your perspective.

@SaltyMeatballs Hahaha that guy is an absolute legend in the PUA scene. Like insanely so. oooooo Its... Julian Blanc ooooooooo (Tyler/ Owen voice xD). Dude is legit af.

@Gabriel Joy I really think 'Do-Nothing' Meditation blows all the others out of the water, re beginner gains.