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@lxlichael I hear you. "Right on cue with that "positive reinforcement"," It was not my intention to positively reinforce. However, I can see how would be a consequence of what I said. "beware destructive incentives". That's valid, and I can see the value in what you're saying. Perhaps, I'm perpetuating harmful behaviour. However, I don't think I am in this case. Quite the opposite. "it's never "courageous" to project your mess onto other people". I would disagree with you there.

I don't understand your first paragraph. I'd like to understand it better and would appreciate it if you were to rephrase it. I agree in some senses I am following what other have projected. I suppose in some sense I'm a follower. However, in other ways I am voicing my own beliefs. "A life that lacks genuine inner innovation will lead to a projected life onto others you perhaps have underlying jealousy around." I would agree with that somewhat. It will lead in part to a projected life onto others. However, i think its dangerous to dismiss people's views/ concerns merely because they lack genuine inner innovation or are partly projecting. I believe it allows for dangerous power dynamics to take hold. I believe people's voiced concerns always contain some value. Perhaps, it takes more digging with some than others. I respect your critique of my comments.

I don't think you are a heretic dude. I respect your post, even if i disagree with some of it. It was a courageous thing to post.

@Leo Gura I'll be real dude. This sort of reply doesn't help the cult perception/ issue. I don't think its right to say he's full of shit. Respecting critiques like this from @Karl-Heinz Mueller are important to keeping this forum a healthy place. I might disagree with a lot of Karl's point, but I believe it is important to act respectfully towards him simultaneously. Everyone, and every one of their expressions is worthy of respect, imo. I wish you both well.

If we adapt to fight, we are more likely to fight. If we adapt to peace, we are more likely to peace.

Regarding your expressing these comments here, I find them abusive, and wrong to post. That said, having these attitudes, thoughts, and belief I completely respect. I have had a lot of thoughts, and emotional states like this. I have had various incidents of psychosis, and been abusive to people before too. I don't think that this forum will generally be the best place for you right now. It sounds to me like the events in your life have left you very ungrounded, and understandably so. And, with the enlightenment talk here being so pervasive I think this forum can be very ungrounding itself, and may compound your issues. I've changed my mind regarding recommendations. I'd like to make a few recommendations. There's a subreddit called r/CPTSDFightMode. You might find some solace there. I'd look into IFS therapy. Its very validating. I'd look into loving-kindness meditation. I understand that this might be triggering at first, but I believe it would help. I wish you well.

@Iesu Hiya. I don't have an answer that I'm confident enough in to recommend. However, I wanted to say I'm in a similar position in some ways, and that I wish you the best.

@Jon_Bundesen Hey, dude :). Thanks for the post. Firstly, I think its really remarkable that your thinking about these things at your age. So you're already ahead of the curve massively! Kudos! I hear you regarding school not feeling right for you. It sounds like there is an intuition there for you that you should be elsewhere, which I respect. I recall Leo saying in one of his videos regarding intuition that once you understand what your intuition is, then you want to follow that intuition. However, also you want to ground that following by using your thinking mind. I don't know your situation at school, or why you don't like school, so I won't comment on whether its worth continuing. However, one thing I'll note is that within that environment you have been able to make the real, meaningful progress of finding the more psychologically mature content of actualized.org, and putting in significant work into the Life purpose course. So it sounds like to me that there are some benefits to your current situation. I'd like to know some more things about you. And then perhaps I can give a further perspective. How is your mental health at school? How is your social life at school? If don't want to answer these questions I respect that, and I simply wish you the best :).

@ShardMare Do IFS therapy. Either using Jay Earley's workbook, or via a specialist therapist. Loving-kindness meditation too.

@Jacob Morres's post is very much dating related. If you wanna sort out your inner game properly, then go and do IFS. Loving-Kindness meditation is also sick.

@LfcCharlie4 Some sort of stage-yellow AI world simulator that is used to guide diplomatic efforts

@How to be wise Blue can manifest in various difference ways. Content vs structure.

@ShardMare Yo dude I'd look into depersonalisation, alexithymia, and r/CPTSD (reddit). I'd also recommend: IFS Getting a trauma-informed therapist who does IFS therapy Doing Jay Earley's IFS workbook Move on from toxic people in your life (Dr Ramani's Youtube channel is useful for identifying toxic relationships) I've been where you are for around 5 years now, and this is the best I've come up with so far.

@Muhammad Jawad Ah gotcha

@HypnoticMagician No need for that sort of talk on here

@Thought Art I used to. I found it pretty straightforward as I was doing a lot of game when i started it, so a lot of it wasn't so daunting. I always liked table topics. That was fun. I liked being a touch sadistic when i was the table topics master tho lmao

I'd walk away

@Raze That guy was a total creepjob ?. He's in a different league of creepiness than Torero.

@Truth Seekah Yesss Marina rocks!

@itachi uchiha I can't speak on high vibe communication. However, his course, 'PIMP' is legendary. A lot of people say it really helped them develop their game. There are means of getting access to it for a very reduced price, especially if you join that group I talk about above. Honestly, though the best shit I've seen is, 'The method' by A.G. Avery. Its a book. It also has a goal setting section that is fucking phenomenal. And in my experience goal setting is absolutely vital to getting good at game.

@Roy My first impulse was a conflict regarding whether he intends well. However, then my mind goes to his war mongering video vis-à-vis Iran, during the major diplomatic issues of 2020.

@Wijuu Find 3 - 5 students who are older than you and got the grades that you want, and ask if you can do a call with them t ask them some questions about how they got the grades they did. Identify the common patterns between them (this way you avoid/ lower survivor bias), and then implement those common patterns.

@Muhammad Jawad Honestly dude it doesn't sound like you should be focusing on enlightenment right now. I don't think you're in the correct environment. These people sound like people you should get away from asap, and that you lack boundaries. If i were to guess, your pursuit of enlightenment right now is probably a flight trauma response to a traumatic situation (abusive people you're living with) that you feel powerless towards.

@Hardkill If you're socially uncalibrated there's more of a risk when it comes to daygame. Daygame just be more normal. You're already unique in her eyes because you approach her in the day.