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Sounds great for you. I'd need to sort out my psyche first, let alone finances before that sort of life.

I dunno man, there's far worse things you can do than laze around.

I think there's some value to what you say. However, I think it is more of a spiral dynamics thing. It sounds very orange like to me, mixed with some endorsements of other stages. I think its important to remember that tier 1 stages are not merely to be moved through, but integrated with other stages. Otherwise, one is left with a shadow, which can cause things to happen in their which people tend to usually not want to happen. ----------------------- I would also wonder about what your definition of suffering. On a meditation retreat, some time ago now, a monk proffered that suffering was the result of pain + resistance to pain. We worked, during the retreat, on placing awareness on the pain, whilst doing strong determination sitting. The result sought was to no longer resist the pain, and therefore suffering was avoided. So, in this context, if I were to love my suffering as you advise, would I really be suffering anymore? Or would I simply be aware of my pain. So, perhaps, it is pain you want to remain, rather than suffering.

I like the way you put that

@Raptorsin7 I get ya

I don't think you're retarded and annoying my dude

what about osama?

Oh yeah. Unintentional

Also, cool to see another IFS user on the forum, @Michael569. There's a few of us now. Am curious to continue reading 'no bad parts'. Have it bookmarked for a future date. You might like Jay Earley's Self therapy series btw. He's an IFS therapist who wrote a series of books explaining a step-by-step way of doing the therapy on yourself. Either way, good luck with the IFS. P.s. What process do you use for unblending?

My guess would be some form of PTSD-like psyche.

Ye tbf a lot of women have rape fantasies. Have been some studies on it, too. Regarding the original topic, I disagree with the title but like the main body of your post.

Damn, that's heartbreaking

I'd look into a depth psychotherapy. It sounds like you're in a really good place to get some real growth from it. I personally like Internal Family Systems (IFS) psychotherapy the most.

Answering 1st set of questions - What is somatic experiencing? https://www.healthline.com/health/somatic-experiencing#the-freeze-response - Did you work with an IFS Certified Therapist from the IFS Institute? Yes. A level 3. Answering 2nd set of questions - Do you guys think it’s plausible to think that one can have lots of trauma but not be aware of it? Yes. If you only live your life seeing things through one perspective, then you tend to think that is how life is. It makes sense as you have never experienced anything else. Therefore, you can live a life where you have deep trauma, but because you've never experienced anything else, you just think that is just how life is. Also, there's a phenomena called 'idealization' (Alice Miller termed this, to my knowledge). Where those who suffer traumatic childhood idealize their childhoods, such that when they reflect on their childhoods they see it as being a happy time, though it wasn't.

wth seems like you rewrote my quote

I do have a different perspective. Some things are retraumatising. I think facing your fears is useful for some things. However, to my mind, a modern trauma therapy would also be very important

What about switching from clubs to bars/ lounges, or going to higher end places in general.

I like him too

I'd look into the most modern trauma therapies. Such as somatic experiencing, internal family system therapy. The body keep the score is a book that is useful for understanding the different modalities.

I'd look into psychotherapy. ED is not uncommon with depression, to my knowledge. Perhaps, consulting with a psychosexual therapist could be a good idea too.

Yep. Case study: 50 cent meditates.

I don't see your therapist as overstepping your boundaries. I don't see why the therapist ought to consult you before working with them, unless there was some prior agreement regarding that. That said, I don't particularly like the way your therapist responded to your communications. I also find her response dismissive, as well as condescending. Particularly, the communication about the trust issue. It does prompt me to wonder whether such responses are indicative of an unskilled therapist. Whatever decision you make, you have my support and well wishing, OP.

*spoilers here too* For sure. Nice analysis. I agree with some points, and not others. I think, in the movie at least, it was supposed to portray that elvis didn't have lawyers involved in the early years because the colonel persuaded him not too. But I did wonder why in the later part, when the colonel invoiced Elvis for the massive debt owed, why he wouldn't lawyer up. Maybe there would have been some get out clause with the colonel having a fraudulent identity.

Why?

Dude I reckon that's actually a lot harder to do than you think.