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The movie: Gone Girl

I've noticed some girls & guys do that to me. I think wat you did was absolutely solid regarding calling them out on their bullshit. I'm in the same situation regarding my emotional reactions, I feel like a child. It sucks, and I'm still looking for how to do it. I find it hard to draw boundaries when I'm feeling like that.

Also, people need to watch the, 'start here' videos.

I really like the sound of this. Respect for taking this step, Leo.

@axiom I'd be screaming lmao

I think a major issue is I don't think many people actually engage with Leo's content in the recommended way. Leo recommends where to start via the, 'Start here' tab. For example, understanding how important spiral dynamics is for Leo's content, I understand why making a video on how to get laid is important. However, if you're unaware of this, and watch the video, then it looks to some spiritual types like Leo is delving into lower consciousness work, rather than actually an attempt at psychological integration. Also, I think many guys here are projecting their dads onto Leo lol. Fuck it I've done it before. I think there are critiques to be made. However, I don't see many reasonable ones made. I personally support you Leo. I got your back.

It sounds like shit is really, really rough for you still Preety. I dont know you intimately, but I'm right behind you, nonetheless. I believe in you.

How about taking the step of taking away the PM feature of this website before taking down the forum? I get that it must be stressful and time consuming to run the forum, nonetheless.

Have been checking out your previous posts on the forum about, and it seems to me that your opinion towards it changes from time to time. I'm curious what your current opinion on it is now? I've seen your back in the game from your blog posts.

I think his post was about the circularity of science/ logic, and how science & logic can't prove themselves. I'd look into the epistemic regress arguments on wikipedia. Logically, racism & sexism aren't right/ wrong because logically it cannot be said that anything is true or untrue. Its hard to actually communicate what I'm trying to because every sentence requires an assumption of truth lol. Basically, take anything you think is true, and what is the justification for it being true? Then ask what the justification for that justification being a valid justification is, and dig until you find a base justification. And, if you don't find one, well, then that certainly changes things

@Yarco I think your advice goes too far. I'd work more on the mindset that means that you see the state of your skin as not acceptable. Unless it causes you a lot of issues. I'd probably visit a doctor if it causes you problems.

@Ones You're welcome chief

I get you dude. I've been in a similar state of numbness for most of my life. And re the advice issues, its nuts. I sometimes laugh at how ridiculously unhelpful it is. 'Just go outside bro' is a classic lmao. You might like the musician, 'Lund'. I found he's one of the few I can relate to. I'm personally putting my faith in IFS therapy, as my means of living the good life.

@Terell Kirby What is your life purpose?

Fair play. Credit to you for having the open-mindedness to experiment with things like this.

@Yoremo Hey dude, I'm curious, what type of meditation are you referring to when you say you have done 'meditation'? Here are the meditation techniques I've tried, and have found have significantly different results: 1. Breath Meditation 2. Do-nothing meditation 3. Mantra meditation 4. Body awareness meditation 5. See, hear, feel meditation And, I find that if I keep my eyes open and say fix my gaze on a point in the room I have different effects than if I keep my eyes closed. Perhaps, its worth exploring different meditations, and experimenting on different postures, and different ways of doing each type of meditation, so you can find what works for you, and what you like doing.

I don't agree with as many of his views as I used to. However, his passion for education has been a real inspiration over the years for me, and continues to fuel me. His video on the power of writing particularly hangs out in my mind.

I think a common issue is ungroundedness with actualized.org users. I include myself. However, I am developing this side of myself a lot. Its important to balance out the philosophical, and spiritual stuff with more earthy things. Meditations like, 'see, hear, feel' are really important. Also, I think the importance of intimate relationships, be they romantic, or plutonic, are undervalued here. Also, I don't think long-term depth psychotherapies are recommended enough, i.e. IFS. I believe PUA is wrongly recommended ahead of these psychotherapies on here.

Sounds like you have toxic shame. I think you're going to need to focus on your inner game quite a lot. The dudes at the r/pickup discord are helpful for that. (Note: Mods lmk pls if its within the rules to reference this). I'd just caveat that by saying be aware of the toxic masculinity at that place. Also, IFS therapy is the best inner game stuff ik of.

I believe IFS therapy

If you want serious change, I'd look into IFS therapy, and see, hear, feel meditation

Hiya :). I'm a pretty traumatised dude. I have PTSD. I'm very into continental philosophy, and the arts through the lens of philosophy. I'm considering it as my life purpose route. I'm blessed to be pretty on the ball intellectually, and really enjoy learning and being radical in my thinking. However, I'm aware that a strong intellect, and trauma often leads one down the philosophy path. And I'm wondering whether when my trauma clears I'll actually be really so interested in philosophy whatsoever. I wanted to hear people's perspectives on this. Be that just some brainstorming. Thanks in advance.

You could look into structuralism and post-structuralism too.

I think screening men is important. However, I'd recommend doing a long term depth psychotherapy so that you change your internals. I'd recommend IFS. That way you won't be attracted to toxic men, and will be attracted to healthier men. I suspect there is some trauma bonding here.

Sorry to hear you had that experience dude. I would recommend avoiding psychedelics for now. I believe that its important to be grounded before engaging with psychoactive substances like cannabis, and especially psychedelics. I had a few pretty paranoid trips on weed myself.