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@Preety_India Just living a fun, free youth. Having relationships, both sexual and plutonic. Being able to study.

@itachi uchiha Yes, but that is not what I want help with on this post

@itachi uchiha PTSD dude. I suppose the recommendations I was seeking were more emotional ones.

I've been working on it for 7 years now lol

I'd recommend Internal Family Systems Therapy

Flowing with life, acceptance of what is

@Loba You've lost me again lol

@Loba I seeee

Soap box?

Bro, your comment is literally full of criticism lmao

I don't think its so much about relativism on this forum. Its more about developmental psychology models like spiral dynamics. Its a key part of the work on here. So, seeing it in terms of Putin acting from a place of stage red is something that would be more in line with the teachings on here.

Agreed. I get what you're getting at @Leo Gura re developmental psychology. However, I do notice you engage in bullying behaviour again and again, despite saying you are going to change. As an avid follower for years, this continued behaviour puts me off continuing engaging with your work.

Game can you get you really effective at socialising. However, imo, its a rigged game. You go from being really ineffective at getting your needs met by other people to being really effective at getting your needs met by other people. However, the better game to play is to transcend teh paradigm of getting your needs met by other people, and meet them yourself. David Tian has some great content about the issues with PUA. I believe in IFS as the best way to transcend this rigged game.

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Go check out David Tian's stuff for relationship type stuff. Avoid pua stuff like the plague re relationships.

Pffff, not sure

Loving the self love. Kudos!

Milf gang

What's an example of reactivity you'd have?

@StarStruck Nice one dude, and respect for the introspectiveness.

To my mind, if OP doesn't want to, then he doesn't have to. He wants to dance with young women, that preference is valid, and non-abusive.

@StarStruck Sounds to me like some well meaning co-dependent traits from you dude. I deal with similar thought patterns to. Essentially, other than if you are being abusive, you are not responsible for other people's emotions. If you don't want to dance with them, then you don't have to, and you don't have to justify yourself. Its toxic to demand that other people dance with you because then you are demanding that people deny their own preferences. If she feels sad, or angry, or whatever emotion, that no one wants to dance with her, that is valid for her to feel. However, it isn't your responsibility to fix it. Its her responsibility. To my mind, the above is the psychotherapeutic approach to boundaries. Also, this is why many incels are toxic. They feel angry at women, and that anger is valid (cos its an emotion. Note though this isn't me saying that they should feel angry at women). However, they then match with an entitlement to women, and things about how its unfair that women aren't into them. In dating terms, people don't each other shit, except non-abusiveness. Women sometimes do the same thing too in reverse.

Hey guys, Thought I'd pass this on. I'd really recommend the book: The razor's edge by Somerset Maugham. It shows the story of an unfolding life of characters in Paris in older times. In it one of the characters elects to pursue a more spiritual path in life, and the story tracks how the path that character walks contrasts to those who do not choose that path. As a young man myself, I particularly resonated with this character (who is also a young man). It might be nice to have some literature recommendations on this forum. Its cool to read these sorts of stories that will resonate with our chosen paths. I find it quite challenging to find such reads. All the best people.

@MarkKol These are core human needs. You have them too

Art is often a political tool. There is access to the sublime via art. Also, it is an emotional coping mechanism for many. It allows many to feel seen, and validated.