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I think people tend to be referring to atomism when they refer to individualism in the context of individualism v collectivism. Atomism being the idea we should be treated as individual units, and where one ends up is a result of individual choices. I.e. pulling yourself up by your bootstraps idea.

What do you like about philosophy? For example, some people really like the ideas, some people really like argumentative precision (i.e. love logic), or something else.

I get where you're coming from. However, I do think it matters. If we engage in relationships with people who have not met their needs on their own, then they will often rely on us to meet their needs for them. And, I believe that is generally the root of an unhealthy relationship.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it in of itself. I think it would depend upon the place that it is coming from. For example, is it an expression of a love he feels, or is it something he is using because he feels he wants to try and win you over, or something else. So, I guess that would be something for you to ponder over. --------------------------------------------------------- Re being territorial, I don't quite understand what you mean by that. I do pick up a sense of aggressiveness to that. However, that could just be in terms of having boundaries. It would, to my mind, be important to try to understand how he goes about boundaries and personal preferences. I think a useful couple of books for communication, and boundaries are: 'When I say no I feel guilty', and 'Non Violent communication'. Good luck

@Kksd74628 I like your response. I'll try to drop you a reply later

I think we have a difference of opinion

Hi, I think my life purpose will involve seeking to maximise political progress in my country. I like Leo's advice about voting for the most high consciousness candidate. I want to dedicate my career to supporting such candidates, and there's a clear political party to get behind in my country in light of that. I was wondering what thoughts folks had regarding that, and what roles people could think of. I.e. trade unions, roles within political parties. I go to a very prestigious university, which means I have numerous high level options more available to me, at least to my mind. I'm also privileged enough to be highly intellectual. I don't mean to brag, I just think its an important factor to consider in this circumstance. Thank you in advance.

Some useful stuff here for sure imo. However, i think its important to include the variables that trauma and neurodivergence bring into play re the ability to be disciplined. For many, those things need to be checked, and if necessary addressed. Otherwise, life will be v frustrating, and discipline a herculean task

Ye, sounds like a useful short term solution. Just have to decide whether the insomnia risk is worth it

I'm learning IFS therapy for my LP that will almost certainly be to do with expanding the accessibility of IFS

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I think of Ido Portal, Peter Ralston, and somatic therapists. I think general fitness is great. However, I think people can come to see the body as just a tool of the mind, and not something to be cared for, looked after, and have a positive relationship built with. Here some ido portal: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lcJ8mCS5BN8 Here is a somatic therapist called Peter Levine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1RnTipiU_Q

Yo bud. Sorry to hear that for you. It sucks that you are seemingly suffering as you are. I sincerely wish the best for you. Firstly, I'll say whatever you feel is valid. Its there for a reason. It doesn't necessarily mean the thought you have is true. But imo its all serving some purpose. Secondly, it seems to me that you have some trauma to overcome, and that you feel lesser than because you don't have girls in your life in a sexual way. I think @Tyler Robinson has some wise words here: Imo believing you are lesser than because you don't get girls is a product of socialisation. I don't believe you need to be getting girls to feel fulfilled, which is what I think you really want. However, I believe that you think that getting girls will make you fulfilled, which is super understandable if that is the case. However, I don't think its as straightforward as just giving up these constructs. I think you need to find a practical way of actually becoming fulfilled, otherwise 'giving up these constructs' or 'raising your self esteem' can easily becomes another should. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- You'll probs be thinking about pickup/ game. And I see the following as both being part of that. I'd personally recommend the following two things: 1. Conversational skills training, and basic attraction training - If you have money, I know the 'ultimate man project' (UMP) product is well regarded (re attraction). Seems healthier than other stuff too. - Also, I'd go through a v basic social skills guidebook like this: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Social-Skills-Guidebook-Shyness-Conversations/dp/0994980701/ref=asc_df_0994980701/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310805565966&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16570996892812841450&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1006976&hvtargid=pla-319371346076&psc=1&th=1&psc=1. A decent amount of guys feel reluctant to do this but its helpful to get the v fundamentals down. 2. Modern trauma therapy - I.e. IFS therapy, somatic experiencing therapy I personally think the result you'll get from recommendation two would be dramatically more fulfilling than recommendation one's. But ye its up to you. I wish you well.

@Raze Lit, thanks.

Hi, If experimenting with ketamine whilst having a dissociative disorder, does this present an added risk? I don't have DID, but do have depersonalisation. I understand that ketamine is dissociative in its effects, so wanted to hear perspectives. Thanks in advance.

@Leo Gura we could have a continually updating whitelist re sourcing. And put that in the relevant forum guidelines. I.e. say in Netherlands where psilocybin is legal, or in countries where psychedelic assisted therapy is legal (there you'd source the therapist not the drug). Would be quite clear cut imo.

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Yes. Unless someone is high enough consciousness they haven't accepted significant parts of themselves. And, in not doing so, it will restrict the extent to which they can be an adequate therapist. Presuming they are a depth psychotherapist. A CBT, or EMDR therapist could get away with it tho i imagine

That's why you prioritise doing what is in line with your values. The world changes, but there will always be a way you can express yourself via a values aligned LP

I'd say its about getting really good at getting what you want, within the rules of society. I'd study George Leonard's book Mastery, look into the idea of deliberate practice, and creating personal systems. Examples of healthy orange, to my mind, are Cal Newport and Valuetainment. I'd try and get access to mentors whenever i can too. And don't take advice from people who haven't achieved something similar to what you want. i.e. don't listen to minimum wage becky's advice on how to get rich. or listen to elon musk about how to best throw a basketball.

It means Internal Family Systems Therapy. Yoga nidra is body based btw, so could help your stated aims.

You could do noting meditation whilst slacklining or other types of meditation, i.e. non-directive, or body based meditations such as yoga nidra Also, would v much recommend IFS

I think it would depend on what metric you used to define highest. That said, I agree with @xbcc that Andrew Tate is indeed the highest

I presume you asked why re the trauma part. Because if you're traumatised you might have a part of you that is scared of succeeding. For example, when you were a kid people may have picked on you when you one a prize at school. So, that part may, when it notices you are about to succeed, make you really exhausted whenever it thinks you're close to doing well at something because its still scared about being picked on. So, if that part is active in that way, no matter how good your system you'd always be restricted from doing well because of that part. Unless, you included addressing that part in your system. --------------------