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@DocWatts Did they give a reason as to why they made that comparison?

@Aakash Vijayan You're welcome mate. I note you said your gf is avoidant in this comment and that she is 'fearful avoidant' in your original post. I believe they are quite different in their relationships. I think it might be worth clarifying what her specific style is. I think i understand that your finding the anxiety is causing quite a bit of stress in your life. My advice for getting over that feeling would be to do deeper inner work like depth psychotherapy. Also, imo, something you can do at home is exercises from the book '6 pillars of self esteem'.

@Aakash Vijayan Hey dude, I think you have some great beginnings of self awareness, with regards to understanding your and your girlfriends attachment style. To my understanding, fearful avoidant attachment styles are otherwise known as disorganised attachment styles, and are often the most traumatised attachment style. So, my understanding is that it will likely cause repeated complications in the relational dynamic between you, especially as you do not have a secure attachment as well. My understanding is that there will be a lot of push-pull dynamics at play, which can be rather confusing. So, I would imagine masculinity is not the key theme to focus on here atm but the attachment dynamics that are at play. Also, imo, a lot of masculinity is really in the avoidant attachment style territory which isn't the healthiest either, secure attachment is the holy grail. I think going to therapy is great. However, I think its important to get into some depth psychotherapy (I.e. internal family systems therapy, or psychodynamic therapy), if youre not already in it, to get your attachment style closer to and eventually into the secure category. I don't think something like CBT or mindfulness is going to help all that much with changing your attachment style. I'd also see if your gf is doing any deep inner work of her own, i.e. depth psychotherapy. Again with her i don't think something like cbt or meditation is going to be all that helpful. Imo, deep inner work is going to be needed for her to work through her traumas and get her into a healthier relational dynamic, i.e. into avoidant/ anxious attachment style and then into secure. If she isn't doing that, then I think you gotta ask yourself the question of whether you are prepared to deal with the relational dynamics of someone with a disorganised attachment style. Also, I think the book 'Non Violent communication' could be a useful book for understanding a higher consciousness way of communicating with each other. I recommend checking it out and seeing if its something your both interested.

I'm trying to work on my inner regina george, and would appreciate resources surrounding the psychology of gossiping. Preferably from some sort of professional. Thanks in advance

@spiritual memes Nice

@Holymoly Imagine what you are scared of doing. Then think 'Who the fuck would have the balls to do that' and then do it. Unless you're thinking of going on a serial killing spree, then don't do that. That would be wrong in my humble opinion.

@NightHawkBuzz Cos working at 7/11 sucks ass

Really liked this vid dude!

My guy really out here acting like a supervillain ? ^ *ThisIntegrated after making his 4th alt actualized.org account*

@spiritual memes I haven't watched the series yet but I imagine Leo might have touched upon this subject in his 'Self Deception' series

@The Mystical Man Ahh i get u, i thought the same too at first lol

@Leo Gura I would value hearing your opinion on what you think is the nonsense.

@Bob Seeker Don't talk about our daddy like that

@The Mystical Man Nah dude, it looks clear to me that its a trailer for an actual film!

@Danioover9000 It seems to me like you're a big fan of this daniel dude. How come?

@The Mystical Man LMAO it was so surreal to watch this trailer. I never thought Manson would make a film about his book

@Tyler Robinson Yes. But the dunning kruger effect is a ball ache.

@DocWatts I've only read his letting go book and I personally found it worth it. I guess it would depend on exactly what you're after. I've been dedicating myself to his letting go technique recently and I believe I've got significant results from it. I follow Frederick Dodson's levels of energy model which is similar to Hawkin's Levels of conscious model imo. Though I've taken the credibility of the model more on faith and intuition for the time being. So I don't know what credible you'd find these types of models.

@kray I keep seeing videos on that moron on all sorts of channels. Imo, that guy represents a perversion of pickup. His version of PUA is a joke.

@r0ckyreed I'd focus on dealing with that moron elon musk before all else

I'm pretty sure I want to start a small business centred around being a psychotherapist. However, I still have a lot of trauma to work through. I want to do my practice in good faith. And in keeping with that I wouldn't want to become a psychotherapist whilst I still had a load of this trauma to work through. I'm working on overcoming my trauma atm, yet I'm not sure what to do in the meantime. Any ideas?

My name is Ulax, and I am a mental masturbator.

@StarStruck Ye i know but imo this is a gamey paradigm that im not aligned with in so many ways these days. There's a degree of codependency in this sort of game thinking imo. I personally don't care to play around with trying to manage her emotions to the expense of my own personal boundaries.

@StarStruck Imo its important to have high personal standards. I'd personally want to screen out girls like that.