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I think the general meditation trap for young adults is to go hardcore into spirituality while neglecting basic survival stuff like playing around with careers. Or at least trying to address what gets in the way of starting a career. For example, through addressing time management issues, or organisational issues. A trap, for example, would be prioritising gunning for enlightenment whilst unemployed and living in your family home at 21. I think that's the clear 'spiritual bypass' trap. But there are many different ways to have meditation in your life, whilst not falling into that trap.

David Buss hypothesises that Women look mostly for social status indicators, and Men look mostly for fertility signs (youth being favourite indicator). I can see the sense in that

What has helped me are the following lecture series: (I think lectures could be better than books for you) Issue with most political content is its very emotional, sensationalised, and honestly not very accurate. I think its helpful to take in perspectives which are a higher level and more neutral in tone. This helps because your mind then refers more to these sources, instead of these emotional/ sensationalised styles. Leo is also rather dramatic in the way he speaks (i am saying that non-judgmentally), and i think it is good to balance that out with more grounded lecturers. Has helped me at least. I get though that lecture series can seem like a bigger time commitment. ---- That said, I think most important is correct diagnosis of cause of your anxiety. For example, it could be that the existential stuff is just symptom rather than cause, and you're anxious because you eat gluten whilst being a undiagnosed gluten intolerant. Random example but you can see the point hopefully. You seem like an organised guy so you could devise a plan to try and test what the possibilities are.

Yeah mission was gangster

I get you

What do you think is a good model for tier 2?

I guess good thing to do is to question the science that underlies Spiral dynamics.

Well, did not realise fires could do that

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Agreeed

I heard book: Staring At The Sun: Being at peace with your own mortality: Overcoming the Dread of Death by Irvin Yalom is helpful.

I'd argue though that a key thing is self-belief. If you believe that you will be successful then the hard work has a very different flavour to it. Often that belief stems from having earlier corrective experiences. For example, seeing progress from a gym program. Hard work for a depressed person who has struggled to meet their previous goals, and hard work for someone with many accomplishments behind them, is rather different I'd argue. So, if you are someone who has struggled to meet goals, then you'll need to get some corrective experiences and then your relationship to hard work will change. At least that is my theory.

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Congrats !