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@Consept@ULFBERHT Ahh ok, I think I kind of get it. So during the experience, for example watching T.V, if I am able to become aware and have the feeling of turning it off, I could just turn it off. But if I have the awareness of watching T.V and I still want to watch it, I should just allow it and let myself watch T.V while being aware. Then eventually my brain will realize that watching T.V, at least cartoons or something, isn't good for me and I will naturally let it go, instead of using brute force to stop myself. Is this somewhat correct or am I missing something? Thanks guys.

Hey guys, I recently discovered releasing expectations and that there is no "good" or "bad" outcome. However, I am somewhat confused because visualizing, at least what I think, is thinking about all these positive images, which may lead to setting yourself up for an expectation if you keep on thinking about it. I may be thinking about it wrong but if you guys can help that would be great. I am just having a hard time distinguishing between visualization and setting yourself up with fantasies that will lead to expectations. Also, if you guys have any tips for healthy visualization that won't set up expectations that would be nice as well . Thanks peeps!

@Wormon Blatburm Aight thanks man. Means alot!

@Wormon Blatburm Ahh I see I did not think it would be that easy lol. So would you recommend to not visualize for things such as jealous, anger and stuff?

@Wormon Blatburm @FindingPeace @FindingPeace Also can I use visualization to help me with one of my insecurities? Like for example if I have a problem with jealousy can I visualize a situation where I am jealous but then act out how I should react?

@FindingPeace @FindingPeace Ohhh ok yeah that made a lot of sense. So in that case, if visualization is making assumptions and preparing for the future, would it be wise to prepare for negative things? Like negative visualization? And thanks btw for the explanation it helped a lot :).

@Seyed Yeah, that did help my understanding. Thank you! Hopefully there will come a time when i can wrap my head around this paradox and find the right fit for me.

@Heart of Space Hey dude, so like you said people who are new to mindfulness will have trouble distinguishing between attachment and pure observation. Do you have any tips? Like for example, I would try to be aware of my thoughts and observe them, but end up getting sucked up in the negative thought spiral. However, if I notice and become aware of the negative thoughts and try to stop the negative thinking spiral wouldn't that prevent me from being fully mindful of my thinking since I am stopping the thoughts in its track? I don't know. Right now I don't really know what to do so I just dismiss all thoughts and try to be in the present. However I know eventually being mindful would help me understand my emotions and thought patterns more, its just I don't want to continuously get stuck in those negative thought spirals. Thanks man.

Leo has mentioned in some of his videos the paradox of self-help and happiness. One is striving to improve and fix certain aspects of themselves, and the other is being in the moment and accepting these flaws. Leo has talked about how it is possible to incorporate both of these in our lives, but I am still a little stumped on how too. Would anyone care to elaborate? thank you.

@Ajax Wow thanks guy I didn't expect so many people to answer lol, but I think I have a better understanding now. It was really how I was looking at this whole situation, just like Ajax said I maybe am to focused on one side of the ball that I can't even see the whole ball. And I was coming from a place of lack, not love, so that will only affect me negatively@Saarah @brovakhiin . I think I will try and approach a sort of "accepting the moment" type of mind and see where that goes@Infinite_Zest . But to be honest I can already tell I am going to have some mental doubts about this haha. So do you have any tips for not critizing the moment and just accepting it?

Wow thanks guys haha I guess me striving to fix my aspects is just me being neurotic. I'll try to do more research on just accepting myself now because while improving myself is great and all, I first need to accept my aspects in order to approach this from a non-neurotic Thanks!@charlie2dogs @vizual @FindingPeace @Ajax

Maybe I'm overthinking it or maybe not thinking about it enough lol. But i can't seem to wrap my head around this paradox. Like, accepting your flaws while also trying to fix them just seems contradictory to me. But idk, I'm still new to this whole self-actualization thing so maybe in the future this will snap into place like a puzzle piece. @ChimpBrain

But what about all those videos Leo has on fixing those flaws? Does that mean I should just stop watching them and just accept the bad aspects of myself?@Extreme Z7 @Ajax

Hey guys do you have any videos dealing with disappointment about situations,or videos dealing with feeling bad about expectations that did not come true? Or even deeper, just becoming outcome independent? Thanks a lot guys, I've just been let down a lot by myself mostly and I want to quit beating myself up.

@charlie2dogs Thanks charlie, what is important to me right now is being happy, and holding onto my expectations believing it will help me does not make me happy. Therefore I must stop. thank you.

@Natasha thanks!

Hi guys so I have been reading articles on napping, and I have been getting mixed messages between it being a good thing and a bad thing. But one of the most confusing topics is napping after dinner. I enjoy naps after dinner but I don't know if it is healthy or not. Any thoughts? Also any info on naps would be very beneficial for me. Thanks!

Can someone please link me Leo's strong determination sits, I can't find it anywhere. Also do you guys have any tips and pointers for it? Thanks a bunch

@Infinite Thanks!

Hi guys I'm a high-school student who recently got into self improvement. But one of the things I noticed is that whenever I do something like homework or working out, I like to listen to music. It helps me focus, but I feel like it distracts me from being mindful of what I am doing. Any thoughts?

Thanks for the input guys! I think I have a better understanding now.