Roy

You seem like a sharp dude @Robi Steel so I'll pose you a question. Who is actually more progressive; The people criticizing, judging, and projecting, while sitting around and offering nothing, or the people who are out there challenging and pushing the systems and society to improve?

Don't be so sure about that. It might seem convincing now, but things often turn out radically different than what people think. Social media technology for example resulted in the complete opposite of what experts and larger culture expected. Anyways as for the rest of your post - I won't pick it apart piece by piece because honestly it disinterests me to go over such semantics, you're obviously burrowed deep in your identity so I won't waste your time. You're actually technically right about most of it, but it is still blind and resistant to a larger truth: Going left/liberal/progressive is always the way forward, and is fundamentally more developed than everything else, BY DEFINITION. That's literally what the word "progress" means. Now see the problem is we live in the present moment, so we're always stuck in a narrow view of the world. However if you take a larger look at history you'll notice how liberalism (or whatever you want to label it) always ends up winning and pushing humanity forward. Sometimes it's one step back, two steps forward, but it's inevitable. We move from be exclusive and separated, to being inclusive and united. People shed their fears of the other, and different people become more equal. This is the trend of history, realize this. Notice how the liberals of today are the conservatives of tomorrow. The conservatives of now are what the liberal parties were 50 years ago. In 100 years from now the liberals of 2120 will look back and scoff at how backwards and misguided we are today. Now of course you're going to point all the flaws, hypocrisy, and contradictions of the left today. I get it, I understand, I even agree with you. Just do yourself a favor and take a moment to consider and appreciate that moving forward isn't always pretty, it isn't always logical, and there is collateral damage. In the end though after the dust settles, we will be in a better place. You can either accept this and let it happen. Or resist and be apart of the footnotes of history. Edit: I'd also like to point out shouldn't it be painfully obvious that this forum would be heavily left leaning? It's a self-development/spirituality forum, it's naturally going to attract more open minded, progressive people. You don't find right-wing views and conversations here because that is going in the opposite direction of development. It's impossible for conservatism to be the leader of advancement, it can only be integrated into it as much as is necessary for stability, because if you progress too fast people can't keep up.

If the UK, Australia, and Germany are "less advanced" than an average developed country. Then what the fuck is an "average developed country" LOL?

History and opportunity. America was born and raised into it's success and power by honing Orange. If it's worked so well for them, why would they change? Of course you're going to see resistance when evolution tries to naturally assert itself, because the psyche of America is committed to and it's identity attached to Orange. Therefore it can't see the limitations. It's like trying to explain to a stock broker why money isn't everything. Of course the truth will fall on deaf ears because all they value is money. Also the US stepped into the role of world leader after WW2. You would assume a leader is constantly trying to advance and evolve but that's a misguided intuition. They have been historically so busy policing and trying to govern the world, as well as preserving their power that there is simply no time to reflect and fix it's internal flaws. Meanwhile other Western nations on the same tier as them used the luxury of safety that the US has provided them to catapult themselves to the next stages. That's why countries like Canada, Norway, Denmark, etc. are more developed. Of course it is much more complicated then this. Macro history just gives you the broadest zoomed out perspective so you aren't lost in the details.

I've seen a handful of him as well. A lot it might be practical and show you some traps to look out for but it's not a healthy positive place you should be pursuing a relationship from, it makes you resentful, paranoid, and sour. The thing you have to realize is these people are not happy people, which should make you concerned and second guess them. Look at how much they're criticizing everyone and the world, it only takes a short scroll into the comment section on any one of his videos to see endless bitter men. Most of which aren't taking responsibility for making the world better, the only "responsibility" they are taking is to selfishly protect themselves. Will that help make the world better? I'll let your intuition answer that. The problem with a lot of these channels nowadays is they are too centered around pleasing their audience. If that happens to be 98% men; then of course they aren't even going to self-reflect and point out the problems of their own gender! They spend all their time projecting and pointing out the flaws of everyone else. Same goes for feminists. If they did point out their own flaws of the audience then they would get linched. The last thing a bunch of egos want is to be shown how selfish and corrupt they are. You'll notice how this is consistent for almost every group. The remedy to his is to not get too invested in any group/ideology/community. Look and window shop everywhere for things that are really helpful and beneficial to yourself and everyone around you. Then disregard and shed the rest. For all the Red Pill stuff you might watch, challenge yourself to spend an equal amount of time learning modern feminist theory. From all the people those Red Pill guys make fun of. Be a mature person that's developing a well rounded view. If you're hearing stuff that makes you uncomfortable and judgmental of it, that's a good indication you should put yourself aside for a moment and listen.

Sample size seems a bit small but "Tripp Advice" seems like a genuine good dude judging by his interview with Leo. Idk who all the good recommend coaches are in the field, I've never needed to do pick-up before personally.

I've seen a LOT of his videos. He is probably the most toxic and sexist person you'll find in that category. Obsessed with minor truisms and cherry picked statistics. He fools a lot of vulnerable young men because he oozes a veneer of confidence and conviction about what he believes, and has some charisma to market it. He talks like an ultimate authority on the subject yet is completely delusional about his own ability. The guy has multiple children with different women he's no longer with, hah! Is that someone you should take seriously as a relationship/dating guru? I'd recommend you stay away from these kinds of people and save yourself some time. They tell you what you want to hear and feed you a bunch of hate and criticism that hits all the little tribal biases with you, nothing productive to really be gained. They are prime examples of devils completely absorbed by their own selfishness. If they held up a mirror of truth to themselves and were really aware of all their bullshit they would burn up faster than tinder in a volcano.

Cardio my man! Running, biking, skateboarding, rollerblading, etc for 5-30 minutes will really get the blood pumping and fill you with energy. It seems like it'll tire you out but that's only if you push the pace too hard and at that point are essentially training. Just do it casually and have some fun exploring your local area !

It's tough because your emotions and gut feelings are telling you to leave, but you should probably gather the strength to stick around for a while and save as much money as possible for the time being. Come up with a precise financial plan and stick to it. You are young, so it's more affordable to sacrifice some of your freedom NOW to have MUCH more later. Take advantage of this and try to practice patience and understanding with your father, this is a great opportunity to build some spiritual maturity. If you're working a full time job and spending all your free time studying and pursuing your hobbies. What time do you have left to get stressed out by your father anyways? Is that really so bad @LostSoul?

I have suffered from panic attacks as well. Practicing some mindfulness and grounding techniques in the moments of the attack can be helpful in shortening or stopping it. Concentrating on breathing and slowing it down to a nice rhythm, to force your body to calm down. Or deliberately paying attention and focusing on counting things in the room, like "how many red things can I count", or "what objects are made out of wood." Basically things to remind you that you are safe, not in danger, and therefore have the luxury to pay attention to such small things. It communicates to your body that it is confused, and there is no reason to be panicking. Although it will be convinced and probably convince you you should be panicking, it's simply not true. As for the root of why you're having a panic attack, you need to discover that on your own or with professional help.

Yea the amount of sexual coercion and bribery that goes on in the music/film/entertainment industry is insane. A lot of scummy people out there who won't bat an eye to leverage their power. "You want this record deal to help you become mainstream? Do you really want it? Well get on your knees."

Why do you think you don't allow yourself to feel emotions. Is there fear of certain emotions because of a past experience? Do certain emotions make you feel uncomfortable?

Taking ownership of your outlook is the reponsible thing to be doing right now, for yourself. You're right you may have no way of knowing, but do you honestly think it's likely things have turned out as bad as your mind projects? Probably not. It's just easy to think so because you are already feeling emotionally distraught given all that's happened.

Don't beat yourself up. It simply was never going to work out with that distance anyways, just be happy you had the experience of talking to her and getting to know her The likely explanation is she probably just got a little overwhelmed and found it easiest to just cut off communication. Happens all the time. Don't always jump to the worst conclusion ok @BornToBoil?

Please be careful @Chris365. Taking any sort of drugs right now unless they are medically necessary and prescribed by your doctor should be completely avoided. I know it's painful, but you need to be crystalline sober as you're dealing with this. You need to tackle and absorb the emotions directly as they come for the next little bit. Consider talking to your ex in a day or two and explain that you were on something and that what you said might not have been totally authentic.

@Leo Gura I used to watch people like him before he went off the deep end. Now I'm not even surprised, I'm actually kind of pleased. He deserved it and he knew this was coming for years. What I don't understand is it's not like these people are stupid. They see it coming from miles away and they just stubbornly double down on their ideology, in this case he just started to sound more racist and crazy ever year. These "independent" media guys are so insistent on endlessly antagonizing their political opponents and fighting "the left" that they will slowly delude, compromise, and contaminate their higher values as long as they maintain the appearance of being scientific and factual. I think a huge part of the problem is the way YouTube functions and is monetized, everyone is reliant on keeping their echo chamber in tact or and if they stray too far in developing themselves or displease their audience in any significant way, it starts to crumble everything they've built up. And god forbid they lose some money trying to become better people in the process! Can't have that! It's almost like a mind virus. We are seeing the absolute toxic limits of Orange, and they'll be left behind in the dust as footnotes of society improving itself, even if the improvement seems sloppy and goes back a step or two just to take 5 steps forward. Molyneux knows better. Maybe he is unconscious to a certain degree but he's intelligent enough to know you shouldn't get away with pushing and stretching the edges of free speech with racist useless rhetoric like he did. Of course out of his own immaturity he locked his mind in a bubble and threw away the key. Hard to be sympathetic to someone like that.

Don't do that. By putting all your eggs in that basket you're setting yourself up for even more suffering in the meantime. What if you never find him? What if he doesn't WANT to touch you and won't understand your explanations? What if him touching you just feeds it more and the thoughts persist? See what I mean? You need to let go.

Don't really have any philosophy to contribute, just want to share this awesome song in the spirit of the thread

Yep just make sure the contemplation is a process of independence. This is a time where you have permission to indulge your ego a bit think about just you. That's what's important here.

Even if the opposite of your dad is all the positive things you listed. You're not authentically moving towards those things out of your own vision, you're doing them in spite of your father which is a negative. If you're to get lasting motivation you need to reflect deeper on what you really want. Not what you think you want.

Hi @Sandy6. I've suffered from the same sort of affliction for a handful of years, except my Pure OCD is harm based and centers around violence. I've found the thing that helps the most is to not give the thoughts or urges any power. Realize they are meaningless and out of your control. Notice how they simply "arise" in the mind, sometimes without triggers. It's not really you thinking them, so you don't need to feel guilt. I think that's the first hurtle many people with this sort of ailment struggle with. What you can control is your reaction to it. If you dwell on it and go down different thought paths and rationalizations, it just makes it worse. And you get lost in the emotions and uncomfortable thoughts and feelings. This is where the problem and solution is. Simply notice the thoughts as they arise. Don't "think" anything about them like "this is a bad thought", or "I shouldn't be thinking this". Or absorbing the emotions too much and letting that consume you. Notice them, and let them go. Watch them drift by in your mind. Don't do anything with them, let them pass. Mindfulness meditation is a very good practice for this because it trains your awareness. You'll be able to notice the thoughts a lot more and be detached right in the moment so you can let it pass. After enough time without "feeding" the thoughts with more thinking and emotions, it starts to die and the don't arise as much. Of course you can never truly "forget" them forever but this is the best you can do I think. Hope this helps cheers - Roy

Criminals, or anyone else who is dysfunctional in such a way that impedes them from being independent law abiding adults. When it's clear they are neglecting their survival life so bad it's going to bite them in the ass or it's hurting their family That Rome wasn't built in a day. You have an entire lifetime. Play the long game and stop seeking the "high" so much. It will come when you're ready.

That's unusual @Zak. I imagine it might be because the advice giving is coming from your ego. It's possible you're not doing it out of genuine compassion or care, but just because you want to seem "right" and smart. That feeling of regret is coming after because in reflection your subconscious might know this, but you don't. Could I be right about this or no?

I thought this guy got shot? Shame.

Don't run away from it. Don't try to change your psychology. Don't take medication. Simply realize and acknowledge the thought for what it really is, nonsense. Then let it pass. Every time it comes up, the same process. Don't think about it, don't go down logic patterns, don't get lost in your emotions. Let it pass. That thought again? Let it pass. Eventually your mind will realize you aren't feeding the thought, so it won't be relevant anymore. With enough time it will arrive less frequently in your life. Maybe it will come up again some day, who knows. What do you do then? Let it pass. I have suffered from OCD and harm based Pure OCD as well a lot of my life. This is the thing that has helped me the most. I really hope you consider giving it a try. Good luck @Kiko