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Because she is selfish. Just by what you're saying here she's only oriented to worrying about what she is getting, not what you are. Which is the opposite of a what a relationship needs to work. Preferences could change over time, but it could take many many years. There is also no guarantees. If you aren't attracted to her now, you probably never will be, sorry. Huge red flag. Not even a red flag, a fucking nuclear siren. I'm not sure if maybe English isn't your first language. Are you literally saying she threatens and beats/hits you @Vercingetorix?

Do not have coffee before and during workouts, that's so much unnecessary strain on your heart.

Life purpose and self-actualization first. If you get other parts of your life handled prior it will be much easier to do dating and pick-up, you will be much more attractive and high value right from the get go.

@Kiko Don't blame yourself like it's your fault. She was probably just uncomfortable because there were expectations planted in both your minds by your friend, and that killed the natural buzz that could have happened otherwise. Things need to happen organically. It's obvious why it didn't work out. Having a preconceived "obligation" to get together just spoils everything from the start. It was never going to work out because of this. Not your fault so you can relax.

@Recursoinominado I've never studied or practiced any pick-up in my life and did this multiple times when I was a bit younger. I would hesitate to call it skill, it feels like I was just lucky to have the natural killer instinct (and looks) to be able to do it. With this one girl we literally never exchanged a single word. We just caught each other glancing at one another a few times, she walked by me to go do something, which I pretended not to notice. Then when she walked by me again I gently caressed and grabbed her hand and guided her back to my room to get it on. I didn't even get her name until a few days later, hah. I'm not even sure how I would describe or teach anyone how to do that. It's just one of those things where you "know". It's a deep animalistic feeling, there is no thoughts or mind involved. In fact there couldn't be because that would fuck it up.

It's actually more accurate to say this is the other way around. Women in general (not just the "top" ones) have the advantage on dating apps and have a much larger pool of men to choose from. I don't know why it keeps getting brought up so one lopsidedly, maybe bitter men are just more vocal in this domain? But statistically men cheat WAY more often than women, across nearly every culture. This is fact. However I think it's not brought up as much because while both sexes will be happy to demonize cheating women as whores, sluts, etc. Cheating men only get mostly women pointing out their poor behavior, because there is a subconscious attitude in the psyche among men (toxic masculinity, if the word means anything) that a guy who can get with a lot of women is "skilled, cool, and a player." Even if that includes cheating. Obviously it's low consciousness behavior all around but we need to be fair about this if were going to talk about it. Because this is considered more of a personal issue and not a larger social one. The context of the conversations that it's taking place in are mostly among family members at the dinner table and small groups of individuals and friend groups. Nothing. This is the inevitable trajectory of our culture and society. Worry about upholding your own values, because you aren't going to convince the masses that what they're doing leads to suffering. Social programs, higher taxes, a green revolution (sacrificing/sharing/donations/communal living). This is the direction we need to go especially with climate change looming over and stressing every system. Reform our education system to teach our youth about just how terrible and reckless our culture is towards sexuality, and inform them of the dangers. I'm not sure exactly. I'd like to add one last point that polygamy is not sustainable for our species but monogamy is. It's obvious math.

Taking advice from others can be extremely useful, because you are possibly getting another perspective that might not have been possible for you to consider on your own. This exploration will help you expand, don't close yourself off to that.

Notice how you're feeling all those emotions, yet you keep coming back to it. What does that tell you @Tiny Nietzsche?

Yes they probably find you attractive. It's just a word they use to describe it. It might have flowed better with the context of the conversation. Don't over-analyze this. Just be happy you got a compliment and go from there!

Yes. And going from Tier to 1 to 2 is one of the largest. It is distinct in that it transcends a massive realm of bullshit the other stages are stuck in, and sees relativity in it's true nature for the first time. This is special. No, but it's a LOT more neutral than the Tier 1 stages. Of course, Yellow is just free of more forms of deception than the other Stages. That's what developing includes. Yes, because a lot more things get done and improvements can be made if people are cooperating and not stuck in their own bias' and ideologies. Honestly though what's the point of this thread? It seems like you just have a bone to pick with Yellow. Do you resent it or something? What's your angle.

A noticeable fundamental difference is Yellow (proper Yellow that is) doesn't moralize, and sees the relativity of everything. This is a massive leap where you're able to eagle eye everything from a distance without being personally/emotionally embroiled in it. Red, Blue, Orange, and Green don't do this same thing @cn03. They are all immature and undeveloped to this facet. Which is why they are what they are, and not something else. A big tell to this (though not a perfect indicator) is when you see people having a discussion. A Yellow person will not get angry or be fixated on crusading to convince the other person of something. Lower SD stages almost always will.

You seem like a sharp dude @Robi Steel so I'll pose you a question. Who is actually more progressive; The people criticizing, judging, and projecting, while sitting around and offering nothing, or the people who are out there challenging and pushing the systems and society to improve?

Don't be so sure about that. It might seem convincing now, but things often turn out radically different than what people think. Social media technology for example resulted in the complete opposite of what experts and larger culture expected. Anyways as for the rest of your post - I won't pick it apart piece by piece because honestly it disinterests me to go over such semantics, you're obviously burrowed deep in your identity so I won't waste your time. You're actually technically right about most of it, but it is still blind and resistant to a larger truth: Going left/liberal/progressive is always the way forward, and is fundamentally more developed than everything else, BY DEFINITION. That's literally what the word "progress" means. Now see the problem is we live in the present moment, so we're always stuck in a narrow view of the world. However if you take a larger look at history you'll notice how liberalism (or whatever you want to label it) always ends up winning and pushing humanity forward. Sometimes it's one step back, two steps forward, but it's inevitable. We move from be exclusive and separated, to being inclusive and united. People shed their fears of the other, and different people become more equal. This is the trend of history, realize this. Notice how the liberals of today are the conservatives of tomorrow. The conservatives of now are what the liberal parties were 50 years ago. In 100 years from now the liberals of 2120 will look back and scoff at how backwards and misguided we are today. Now of course you're going to point all the flaws, hypocrisy, and contradictions of the left today. I get it, I understand, I even agree with you. Just do yourself a favor and take a moment to consider and appreciate that moving forward isn't always pretty, it isn't always logical, and there is collateral damage. In the end though after the dust settles, we will be in a better place. You can either accept this and let it happen. Or resist and be apart of the footnotes of history. Edit: I'd also like to point out shouldn't it be painfully obvious that this forum would be heavily left leaning? It's a self-development/spirituality forum, it's naturally going to attract more open minded, progressive people. You don't find right-wing views and conversations here because that is going in the opposite direction of development. It's impossible for conservatism to be the leader of advancement, it can only be integrated into it as much as is necessary for stability, because if you progress too fast people can't keep up.

If the UK, Australia, and Germany are "less advanced" than an average developed country. Then what the fuck is an "average developed country" LOL?

History and opportunity. America was born and raised into it's success and power by honing Orange. If it's worked so well for them, why would they change? Of course you're going to see resistance when evolution tries to naturally assert itself, because the psyche of America is committed to and it's identity attached to Orange. Therefore it can't see the limitations. It's like trying to explain to a stock broker why money isn't everything. Of course the truth will fall on deaf ears because all they value is money. Also the US stepped into the role of world leader after WW2. You would assume a leader is constantly trying to advance and evolve but that's a misguided intuition. They have been historically so busy policing and trying to govern the world, as well as preserving their power that there is simply no time to reflect and fix it's internal flaws. Meanwhile other Western nations on the same tier as them used the luxury of safety that the US has provided them to catapult themselves to the next stages. That's why countries like Canada, Norway, Denmark, etc. are more developed. Of course it is much more complicated then this. Macro history just gives you the broadest zoomed out perspective so you aren't lost in the details.

I've seen a handful of him as well. A lot it might be practical and show you some traps to look out for but it's not a healthy positive place you should be pursuing a relationship from, it makes you resentful, paranoid, and sour. The thing you have to realize is these people are not happy people, which should make you concerned and second guess them. Look at how much they're criticizing everyone and the world, it only takes a short scroll into the comment section on any one of his videos to see endless bitter men. Most of which aren't taking responsibility for making the world better, the only "responsibility" they are taking is to selfishly protect themselves. Will that help make the world better? I'll let your intuition answer that. The problem with a lot of these channels nowadays is they are too centered around pleasing their audience. If that happens to be 98% men; then of course they aren't even going to self-reflect and point out the problems of their own gender! They spend all their time projecting and pointing out the flaws of everyone else. Same goes for feminists. If they did point out their own flaws of the audience then they would get linched. The last thing a bunch of egos want is to be shown how selfish and corrupt they are. You'll notice how this is consistent for almost every group. The remedy to his is to not get too invested in any group/ideology/community. Look and window shop everywhere for things that are really helpful and beneficial to yourself and everyone around you. Then disregard and shed the rest. For all the Red Pill stuff you might watch, challenge yourself to spend an equal amount of time learning modern feminist theory. From all the people those Red Pill guys make fun of. Be a mature person that's developing a well rounded view. If you're hearing stuff that makes you uncomfortable and judgmental of it, that's a good indication you should put yourself aside for a moment and listen.

Sample size seems a bit small but "Tripp Advice" seems like a genuine good dude judging by his interview with Leo. Idk who all the good recommend coaches are in the field, I've never needed to do pick-up before personally.

I've seen a LOT of his videos. He is probably the most toxic and sexist person you'll find in that category. Obsessed with minor truisms and cherry picked statistics. He fools a lot of vulnerable young men because he oozes a veneer of confidence and conviction about what he believes, and has some charisma to market it. He talks like an ultimate authority on the subject yet is completely delusional about his own ability. The guy has multiple children with different women he's no longer with, hah! Is that someone you should take seriously as a relationship/dating guru? I'd recommend you stay away from these kinds of people and save yourself some time. They tell you what you want to hear and feed you a bunch of hate and criticism that hits all the little tribal biases with you, nothing productive to really be gained. They are prime examples of devils completely absorbed by their own selfishness. If they held up a mirror of truth to themselves and were really aware of all their bullshit they would burn up faster than tinder in a volcano.

Cardio my man! Running, biking, skateboarding, rollerblading, etc for 5-30 minutes will really get the blood pumping and fill you with energy. It seems like it'll tire you out but that's only if you push the pace too hard and at that point are essentially training. Just do it casually and have some fun exploring your local area !

It's tough because your emotions and gut feelings are telling you to leave, but you should probably gather the strength to stick around for a while and save as much money as possible for the time being. Come up with a precise financial plan and stick to it. You are young, so it's more affordable to sacrifice some of your freedom NOW to have MUCH more later. Take advantage of this and try to practice patience and understanding with your father, this is a great opportunity to build some spiritual maturity. If you're working a full time job and spending all your free time studying and pursuing your hobbies. What time do you have left to get stressed out by your father anyways? Is that really so bad @LostSoul?

I have suffered from panic attacks as well. Practicing some mindfulness and grounding techniques in the moments of the attack can be helpful in shortening or stopping it. Concentrating on breathing and slowing it down to a nice rhythm, to force your body to calm down. Or deliberately paying attention and focusing on counting things in the room, like "how many red things can I count", or "what objects are made out of wood." Basically things to remind you that you are safe, not in danger, and therefore have the luxury to pay attention to such small things. It communicates to your body that it is confused, and there is no reason to be panicking. Although it will be convinced and probably convince you you should be panicking, it's simply not true. As for the root of why you're having a panic attack, you need to discover that on your own or with professional help.

Yea the amount of sexual coercion and bribery that goes on in the music/film/entertainment industry is insane. A lot of scummy people out there who won't bat an eye to leverage their power. "You want this record deal to help you become mainstream? Do you really want it? Well get on your knees."

Why do you think you don't allow yourself to feel emotions. Is there fear of certain emotions because of a past experience? Do certain emotions make you feel uncomfortable?

Taking ownership of your outlook is the reponsible thing to be doing right now, for yourself. You're right you may have no way of knowing, but do you honestly think it's likely things have turned out as bad as your mind projects? Probably not. It's just easy to think so because you are already feeling emotionally distraught given all that's happened.

Don't beat yourself up. It simply was never going to work out with that distance anyways, just be happy you had the experience of talking to her and getting to know her The likely explanation is she probably just got a little overwhelmed and found it easiest to just cut off communication. Happens all the time. Don't always jump to the worst conclusion ok @BornToBoil?