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Did the other one as well;

lol scared of results from an online test? I guess it could matter depending on the country you're in, someone may be watching

For example I'm taking the 8Values quiz right now and there is question that can go both ways because it is worded too ambiguously; "The sacrifice of some civil liberties is necessary to protect us from acts of terrorism." So when it says "is necessary" you would imagine you might have to answer one way, because it's a technical truth that yes individual liberties like privacy are infringed to protect us from terrorism right now, with the current technology we have. But you could take it as a values statement as well and say, "No it's not necessary, because they need to do better and find out ways to protect us without infringing our liberties." However even THAT response could be taken as a position of a liberal OR conservative. It's these kind of questions that need to be shored up on these tests. Maybe I expect too much. Anyways ended up where I thought I would (except I feel I'm more Market economic than it says);

LMAO come at me Stalin wanna-bes. I'm not sure but there were a few questions that the answer seemed intuitive on for most people to answer a certain way, but the way they were worded seemed to corner you a bit. I'm not even sure what the word means because it's thrown around so liberally these days. My basic understanding is isn't Fascism just an idea that supports a powerful government that is strict and tyrannical (in various degrees) in accomplishing it's goals? Regardless of if the goals are liberal or conservative leaning? Anyways here we go;

What did Winston Churchill say about Democracy again? Oh yeah; "Many forms of Government have been tried, and will be tried in this world of sin and woe. No one pretends that democracy is perfect or all-wise. Indeed it has been said that democracy is the worst form of Government, except for all those other forms that have been tried from time to time.…" Nothing more need be said on the topic............ except this other great quote I just found hah; "At the bottom of all the tributes paid to democracy is the little man, walking into the little booth, with a little pencil, making a little cross, on a little bit of paper—no amount of rhetoric or voluminous discussion can possibly diminish the overwhelming importance of that point."

This is a nice meme, but there is a comfortable amount of money to be made in stoking fear and hate. Always has been. The funny thing is the channels like those of Stephen Molyneux and Sargon of Akkad use to be at the forefront of left-liberal community sphere like 6-8 years ago LOL. How quickly things change.

Are you sure about that? What you think looks good and what girls think looks good are two totally different things. Consider getting some help from female friends or family, or spending some money hiring a dating coach or professional stylist/photographer.

This is a very interesting observation. Nice post @electroBeam

My penis is small and every sexual encounter I have is monumentally disappointing. Good luck.

Don't you live in China? This would be a real good way to get executed, if you're into that kinda thing...

I managed to brute force my through it mostly and out-think it, and not have to go on any sort of medication. Still comes and goes in waves but it's definitely not as debilitating as it was when I was younger. It'll probably stay with me for the rest of my life so it's just a matter of managing it. Now I rather just feel annoyed by it, I don't really dwell on negative emotions or resent about it.

I did Salvia once when I was 18 which was a rather interesting but largely neutral experience, because I was atheist then and just did it out of curiosity and for fun with a friend. Other than that only marijuana and alcohol drug wise. It's funny because back then I planned on doing a lot of psychedelics when I was this age I am at right now (27), but now that I am here I still feel I am not ready or the person I imagined I'd be back then. I still have some struggles with depression and other things that are making me quite fearful about getting serious about psychedelics. I feel like I need to accomplish some more practical things for myself before I delve into that. Life is a long time though so I'm just going to go at my pace and when I'm ready I'll know it. I definitely do want to have an ayahuasca ceremony at some point in my life, as well as a classic shrooms and LSD trip.

Re-frame so you think of rejection as a simple mismatch, rather than a result of "deficiencies". So if something doesn't work out you don't automatically have a negative connotation and emotion about it. Instead you just accept it and think, "Ok, it just wasn't meant to happen."

Was initially to solve my depression and other neurosis, but has also partly been because of an internal intuitive force (my soul?) telling me that there was definitely something more to the world and to existence than what my previous atheistic/materialist mindset was giving me. I basically realized one day, "Ok. All this science is nice but it can't possibly be it. This is not satisfying enough." Saw those limits and starting looking for other things. It's funny because some years ago way before I knew about Actualized.Org, or listened to Leo, or practiced any spiritually, I was pondering to myself what would make the most sense to explain reality, and I came to the conclusion that the universe simply is itself, and that it was it's own God. With no beginning or end, just constant change. It felt kind of gratifying to be told basically the same conclusion from Leo but still I'll have to verify it for myself experientially. It has only been an intellectual understanding thus far.

You have become too disconnected, detached, and intent on analyzing too much. Like it even matters if you end up "understanding" the why of everything anyways........ Stop worrying so much and just fucking be! Because it's the place to be!

Not sure. It would be rather annoying if it became too popular though. It's way too simplified of a model, and can easily be turned into an ideology like it already has been here.

hmm... interesting they would say that. I think there are a few options here. 1. They ARE trying to manipulate you or 2. they have been manipulated before and want to check in that their behaviour is ok (ie they are anxious that are being manipulative)

My partner and I have had a very similar experience, except it was me doing the pointing out not the other way around like your case. You don't need to do anything. What she needs to do is take a step back and let you worry about your own development. So explain this to her and ask her nicely. If she's truly mature she'll understand. People need to go at their own pace, and for a relationship to work successfully you need to have the space to be individuals without the other person butting their head in too much.

I'm planning on going back to therapy for some things. I am under no unrealistic expectations they have to understand any of the things talked about here. If that's your attitude you're probably not gonna get much from going.

Hey @Leo Gura, you mentioned a few videos back you purchased a new custom house. Have you moved in yet and can you give us a video tour ? It would be cool to see how you planned and set things up to match the flow of your lifestyle, and if there are any larger plans to run a retreat center from it or something like that. Cheers!

Isn't that what most of the right-wing populism in America is now? A lot of Republicans will PUBLICLY denounce xenophobia, racism, and authoritarianism, and I'm sure the majority of them don't actually have a racist bone in their body. But like you said it's sneaky - In the back of their minds (unconscious or not), they're probably just happy to get more votes in the ballot box and more campaign money from donations, even if it's from Neo-Nazis. Because we can't have those lefties winning can we!?! The line is basically the environment in which the politics is taking place. If there is heat in the air and things start to get nasty (violent) we see peoples true colours and who is willing to slide into fascism. How far are they willing to bend or abandon their principles in order to get what they want?

Don't let this become a limiting belief. In this economic climate most people around that age are living with their parents if they aren't in college or uni full time. So that means a lot of the girls you're probably going to meet will be in the same boat as you.

It's an example of extreme attachment and fear on her half. Her ego loves it when things are going great and peachy, and then when she loses control or there is a bit of turmoil/conflict she uses any means at her disposal to hold on, including violence in this case. Anyways I'm glad there seems to be an understanding on her part. Remember, don't buckle or cave if she comes crying and begging to stay. It's key in those moments not to get lost in past emotions but to be imagining the future healthier you. Easier said than done, obviously. Good luck hope things turn out well for you.

@Vercingetorix Yea man idk if you came here to try to get back together cause you mentioned she is your ex, but from what you've said so far the best thing for you is to move out/or kick her out and cut all financial ties and communication, ASAP. Also please 100% start (secretly) recording and saving any abusive texts/threats or video evidence of her hitting you or breaking your things. You need to be legally covered encase she goes ballistic or tries to blackmail you with a sexual assault charge or anything like that when you try to leave her. I know it might not be how you view her now, but do not underestimate what people are capable of. She has already proven she's willing to cross physical boundaries, so pretty much everything is on the table now. If you have any self-respect you should have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of behavior in all relationships. You deserve better mate, fucking treat yourself like it! Don't let her gaslight you into thinking you need to "try harder" to love her or be attracted to her or any bullshit like that. I know it will be painful, but it's gotta happen. This is not salvageable. You don't need to change yourself, you have to change the kind of people you pursue like Leo said.

Notice that a "destination" does not even really exist. Every present moment brings you to the next present moment. Life doesn't just "stop" because you reach a set of circumstances or accomplish a goal. You still have to keep going to maintain whatever it is you were after in the first place, thus still on the journey.