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Any time spent in front of a computer screen reading articles, discussing on forums, or watching videos........... is zero time spent outside, interacting with the other sex, helping you build relationships and get laid. As much as there are definite factors with technology and society, the brutal truth is this is a 100% personal issue that is solving by simply taking action. Of course the young men suffering won't want to admit this, they'll have a list of limiting beliefs and a victim identity they want to maintain without even knowing it.

Imagine if public education actually taught young people how to form healthy relationships (sexual or otherwise), instead of learning what will be ultimately useless math formulas for 98% of people, or taught how to become good memorizers for tests that will teach you no skills for working a job in the real world. Instead they leave this domain to a completely vapid and broken culture, where parents are literally too busy working to teach their kids anything, so young boys end up absorbing an utterly toxic mindset towards women from hip-hop culture, and young girls end up buying into the delusional and fantastical expectations that modern feminism instills in them. I remember the only thing I learned that was even slightly relevant to this was from my Gym classes in high school where the only thing they said to us was, "Wear a condom if you're going to have sex." and "Don't catch any STDs because they're bad mmkay???" Combine this with hilariously unregulated technology and social media and it's exactly no surprise when some incel goes to shoot up some school because he couldn't get his dick wet.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with killing anything, for any reason. Where exactly in the universe does it say we shouldn't, or it cares if we do or don't? It's completely relative. If you are the one killing and it benefits your survival, from your POV it's good and great! From the others that suffer, it's evil and bad! Put yourself in the perspective of the Nazis by pretending to be them, I mean REALLY imagine it. How do you think they were able to do what they did? Precisely because they thought what they were doing was good, because it benefits them and their ability to survive. What we call traditional "morality" is nothing more than a collective social consensus that we all imagine and choose to agree on and participate in. If your survival agenda operates outside of this then it literally doesn't exist for you, you simply have your own consensus. In an absurd hypothetical if we all collectively agreed 100% as a society tomorrow that it would be ethical and better for humanity to euthanize all mentally or physically handicapped people, it would literally become good. There is no exterior higher authority or arbiter that says we shouldn't or can't (unless you imagine one of course). From the universes POV it makes no difference what happens.

He is just the most cunning and ruthless power hungry ego that rushed in to turn Russia into a kleptocratic oil mafia after the USSR collapsed. If he actually had any shred of empathy he would use his extreme competence and political capabilities to help the Russian people, not let the country devolve into the 3rd world ****hole that it is now. His face should be plastered beside the word Corruption in the dictionary.

The idea of self improvement kind of emerges at Orange so it makes sense there is a lot of that here, which is fine. Gotta start somewhere.

I completely sympathize with the question, but isn't it kind of obvious in a way that it's utterly arbitrary? Like no matter what "way" it is, or could have been, you'd still be standing there (or not ), wondering if there is some underlying meaning or reason for it. So if the question always persists no matter the contents of it, does it really matter to have an answer? Maybe consider the experience of the wondering itself is the answer?

At a very young age when I first developed what we could call a traditional consciousness (around age 4 or 5), I remember having extremely vivid experiences of dreams and nightmares that I could swear to this day were absolute reality. One of them even taking me sleepwalking outside at 3 in the morning at age 4 haha. I recall a vague feeling of everyday life seeming magical. My imagination felt so limitless and enjoyable to explore, and almost felt like a superpower. I asked a stupid amount of questions all the time, much to the annoyance of my mom in particular Then over time as I started having curiosities satisfied, and started slowing down on the questions, day to day life became less magical. I realized I was slowly getting grinded down by the culture I was in, but I didn't go up in arms about it too much as I've always been a generally mellow person and didn't want to make life harder for myself. However I still felt a rebellious curiosity inside. Fast forward to now almost knocking on the door of 30, I feel "ok" feeling I have reality mostly "figured out" like a lot of people, but I definitely have a melancholy and nostalgic yearning to go back to what it felt like being a kid. I can slowly feel myself leaning back there after years of work, but it takes an extraordinary amount of effort. Sometimes I'll stumble across something whether it's a personal experience or listening to something like Leo's videos that give me a "hit" of that, but it feels like it's passed and gone. Frankly as open minded and exploratory as I am (probably in the 99th percentile), existence NOW at this age feels ridiculously fucking boring compared to what it was like to be 5 years old. I'm just curious as to why the human experience seems to start like LITERAL liquid magic and imagination, and then feels like it's all gelled together into something solid by constant pounding from the forces of everyday "reality" as we grow up and become adults? What is going on here, and why the hell aren't more people concerned about this in society??? Just posing this generally but more interested in a meta-physical explanation, answer how you feel. Would like to hear your thoughts @Leo Gura Cheers

Yea I get that, but I want to go back to that magical place without dropping too many of the useful things I "know" I want my cake and to eat it too. Only done Salvia. I have some other ones on my list I want to experiment with eventually. Probably because we're fed materialism through our culture, if we were all born a thousand years ago where everyone except an extreme minority worshipped a religion there wouldn't be a place for nihilism. If you're a believer in the lie there is an afterlife so you don't have to worry. Besides my imagination bringing up the pages of stories I wrote to life, no. I do recall controlling the direction of the breeze with my hand though when I was lying in the grass at age 10

Dinner is great for a second date, it's not too forward or intense, and you get a lot of time to talk face to face and build connection. It's only trying too hard if you book reservations at the fanciest place in town, just find somewhere decent with a fun vibe where you can sit down and order food. At the end of the night when you have to pay, suggest casually that you split the bill in half or pay for your own meals. If she is cool about it and doesn't suggest that you pay for everything, she's probably a keeper. Think of it like a shit test. Personally I don't continue dating a girl if she expects me to pay, it usually says a lot about what they'll be like in the future if they have that expectation that quickly. Speaking from experience Have fun!

Existence is already spooky enough as it is, I guess if you're genuinely curious about it just for the sake of curiosity, then do it. But don't come crying to anyone when you see stuff you don't like. Otherwise I'm not sure any other reason would be valid, it's like creating a form of suffering for no reason at all. It seems the point of the work here (vaguely) and the general point of emergent consciousnesses the universe itself is to move in the opposite direction of suffering. At least that's the intuition I get. I'm not sure I've come to a personal conclusion about this yet but it's kind of like how @Leo Gura has said there is the lower duality of (g)ood vs (e)vil, but there is an absolute (G)ood or (L)ove that is higher than both, but no opposing (E)vil or (S)uffering.

I answered as honest as I thought I could, I guess I'm pretty balanced?

Never trip by yourself no matter what drug or dosage you're taking, that's irresponsible as fuck. It's no wonder psychedelics get a bad name. If we want them to be taken seriously sooner rather than later we need to adhere to a strict code of conduct.

Notice how I haven't said anything about if veganism is good or bad or not, and you are still locking down your position by finding another piece of confirmation bias, not just any piece but appealing to the ultimate authority of the person who literally runs the forum we are chatting in

A nonchalant answer for fun, probably doing Salvia. You know it's a really weird thing to have lived 99.999999% of my life as a human being, and then having the full blown experience of being a couch and a TV for a short time.

Nobody can tell you that answer to that. I guess you'll have to figure that out for yourself, if you're curious enough which you seem to be. What's the worst that can happen from hearing some of their perspective? Maybe it can give you that slight advantage you need

Yes, that's true. Besides being responsible for COVID, are the things that might be stopping you from getting that interaction right now insurmountable? Notice and dissect the contents of the statement, "I can't live the rest of my life alone". You are referring to it as if it's something that's already a reality, and one that cannot change. Not just that but you ascribe "sadness" on top of it, but you are probably aware that people are able to be alone and be happy right? Not that I'm advocating you do so, just trying to get you to consider it's possible. The consciousness work is great, but don't be so eager to climb uphill with a boulder on your back. Suffering is a part of existence, because existence is everything of course. Do you see how you might be creating even more suffering by trying to remove it? Obviously it's preferred to minimize it, or avoid it if it's unnecessary, but to try and "remove" part of reality won't work, and it's actually a form of selfishness. If you mean something different by the word remove, I'll listen. Do you know or do you feel that goal oriented or material stuff won't make you happy? Who is to judge that what makes @levani happy is a bad thing or "shit", besides @levani? I don't mean to overstep here, but I do want to challenge you a bit because I sense you've accepted some sort of limitations that anything that isn't this consciousness work or higher value spiritual labor is a waste of time. Consider that might be relative for what you actually need right now. Remember you said yourself you want to be a complete human being, so wouldn't it be wise to have some more patience and not skip over stuff?

That's incredible, you know it's actually learning about that story of the monk that finally put the nail in the coffin and exposed the limitations of my previous materialist/scientific worldview some handful of years ago. I always had a general sense that there was "something more" to life and that although I simply couldn't understand it at that time, my intuition was pulling me towards opening my mind no matter what. Do you still recall your first significant moment like that?

Is this how this monk was able to self immolate in protest of the Vietnam war, because he did enough consciousness work to destroy his ego to the point where he could burn to death without flinching?

The problem isn't necessarily any particular diet, so to say (although it can be). It's that people have piss poor body awareness and take responsibility for how they are feeling, and then try to outsource how to discover what specific diet/healthy lifestyle is optimal for them. They think they can shortcut the problem but subscribing to a strict grocery list of a fad diet like raw veganism or carnivore diet, but what they really need is a trip to the doctors office, a nutritional coach, and a behavior specialist to get to the roots and build a solid foundation for health. Stop being so blind and attaching to things that fit your confirmation bias and be honest that the people in these videos would be sick and rotting regardless of the contents of their palate.

What do others provide you with, that you yourself can't provide yourself with? Consider that you're looking for others to "cure" your loneliness, as a distraction from tackling it internally, head on. So, is your consciousness and contemplative work at all geared towards tackling your loneliness?

I love learning from channels like this because people like Roma and the movement she represents is perfect examples of how every POV is simply perspectival and partial. She has a lot of great things to say, and while there are obvious grains of truth in them, it is and ultimately limited and fundamentally biased. Just by the nature of the content in it's existence is literally dividing the population in half Great study case here.

Don't listen to him what he just said was nonsense. In fact it's the complete opposite, a lot of Alphas can be highly insecure! Which is why they feel the need to socially posture (aggressive/manipulative) and even put people down sometimes so they feel safe and "on top of the pecking order" so to say. A natural, healthy Alpha has a strong sense of charisma and leadership about them, and can make everyone feel welcome and useful. As for the OP's concerns; This may sound insultingly simple, but really all you have to do is smile and wave when people look at you . It's just a fact of life that people are gonna look and stare at each other. It happens to everyone so don't think you're so special and being targeted specifically. If you feel that people are expecting a certain "vibe" from you based on the way you look, yea that expectation can be annoying. But you know what you can do to cure that insecurity? Shock them with authenticity. Be yourself so fucking well that it makes them second guess their assumptions so much that they're embarrassed

This video is just a compilation of cherry-picked unhealthy and sickly looking people, how can you fall for such obvious propaganda lmao?

"There can't be a reason for pursuing selflessness, because if there was a reason, that reason would be selfish." Just wanted to highlight this quote for appreciation and whatever discussion arises. Jesus Christ it's literally gold. It's so ridiculously simple, yet awesomely profound and elegant. Thanks for sharing all this wisdom with us @Leo Gura!

I'm sorry for your suffering @Dunnel I really am, but please consider that you DO care, which is why you are here. It's unfortunate what you are going through and it certainly isn't fair, but you do have a choice you know, even if it feels like you don't. You do not have to believe the stories and the things your mind is telling you. No matter how convincing they seem there is absolutely no proof they are true. Maybe you can't see that now, but you can come too. You need to stick around to find out though. One day you will look back on this point of your life and realize it was where you discovered tremendous strength in yourself as a person. Our lowest and worst moments are our greatest opportunities for growth.