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As long as it's consensual and healthy, I'd say anything goes.

That's so sad. I hope his family can get some closure. They deserve it. This is why you ultimately can't trust anybody for these big picture life questions and understandings. Yes you listen to different teachers, read books, and explore different concepts. But whatever conclusions you come to have to be completely authentic and independent, and they usually take a lifetime to develop. Time breeds humility and understanding. If you think you've somehow got the answers to life (and death) by listening to a 30 something year old talking head on YouTube, you've completely lost the plot................

Do you live with your parents or by yourself? How much responsibility do you have for your daily life? If you have to go out and run all your own errands like getting groceries or buying things just kill two birds with one stone. You are going to run into countless women out in the world. Use the natural opportunities you have in your daily life to practice your skills. I literally make a deliberate effort to flirt (at varying levels) with every female cashier, secretary, or administer I run into. Even if I have zero intent to ever date most of them. Not only can it brighten up their day, but it naturally builds confidence with the other sex, and I never have to worry about psyching myself out when I do want to pursue. Apart of the reason it seems so daunting and why you'll never make real progress thinking like this is you're setting it up to be this huge scary task before you even start, when really it's not. You encounter women everyday, fucking talk to them. Like taking a whole Saturday, one of your few days off work and dedicating it to something you can already do 5+ times a day even at work? What a waste.

DOPE.

Don't be tempted to make fun of Jesse Lee Peterson just because he's a conservative pedant. He might seriously have brain damage or sustained some kind of head trauma. Something ain't right with him. The lights are on but nobody is home.

Good long list. I'm sure you could fill a lot of time with those and have a lot of fun doin it.

So? That's just where you're at. That's your journey. There is no script for life, that is pure cultural egoic bullshit. Maybe you're doing what you need to to heal before you break back out. It's only temporary. Then do that! And I'm sure you've got a lot more potential hobbies, or old ones you can re-spark. Actually sit down for an hour and commit to looking at the things you could do and think about them. Not just a passing few minutes of "ahh nothing came to mind right away guess they don't exist."

If you need to do drugs or psychedelics to make hobbies interesting or enjoyable, you might have a substance abuse problem. Things may seem like a chore from where you are right now, but that's because you are sitting where you are right now and not INSIDE the activities giving them an honest chance. Brainstorm some stuff you'd like to do or think would be fun, and just try them. You'll be amazed how fast you'll be consumed by positive emotions.

Simply fill your time doing things you want to do. You'll be enjoying yourself so much you'll practically forget other people exist.

Look, it's so easy to feel shameful and disgusted with yourself because of the huge cultural taboo and hatred towards incest, but you can't blame yourself and stew in those feelings. That's why it won't go away. You were both little kids and didn't know what you were doing! Even if you felt like you did, you definitely didn't understand it or what it meant culturally. Kids are extremely curious and don't have any filter for their actions, or any self control. You could try and talk to your sister about it, but if she doesn't want to process or remember it herself ultimately you will have to do it alone. Think about and appreciate what I said. It will release from your thoughts the second you realize it for what it is.

Got my Pfizer shot today. Can confirm internal organs melting, losing mind. Will be last post on forum. RIP.

It's great to work on yourself, and make small gradual changes in different areas. But those are all to fix "problems", and flaws which is an inherently negative game. You are helping yourself by moving "away" from suffering or a place you don't want to be to somewhere better. What are you doing to move "towards" things that will "fill your cup" and give you the meaning you want? Sorry to break it to you, but nobody will ever be able to offer you anything that fixes this feeling. You can have all the material possessions you want, have the greatest supportive friends, and the most understanding amazing partner. But they can never, never, EVER give you that internal meaning and satisfaction. You have to orient your being, summon your drive, and create that within yourself FOR yourself. In whatever medium that happens to be. This is the most urgent and primary goal of your life. It should be at the top of your priority list after you got your basic survival handled. So the question is @SageModeAustin. Do you know what is meaningful for you personally? What are you doing to pursue it? And if you don't know what it is why do you think you haven't found it yet?

You've got a few options; - Contemplate deeply, and learn if this is an authentic desire or the result of some kind of trauma or other issue with your sexuality that's causing this. - Keep looking for a partner until you find one that understands you and is accepting of your fetish (and will also indulge it). - Hire an escort for a night and go crazy with your fetish to get it out of your system so you can move on. Most fetish's are temporary and don't last. For me personally I haven't had a single one stick around ever.

@Preety_India are you sure about that? Have you ever had a house pet like a dog or cat? You probably notice you can have a profound connection with many animals, just because they don't speak a language doesn't mean you can't decipher very closely what they are feeling. What about infants? They can't speak at all and mothers eventually intuitively figure out what they need. My problem here is with the word itself (slavery). It's the most extreme gradient on a scale where other words can be used. It's like calling someone a rapist because they accidently grazed a woman's arm when she didn't want to be touched. Not only is it inaccurate, but it makes light of all the beings who have actually suffered from slavery.

That's pretty liberal and reckless usage of the word slavery. I think he was just using it to be a smart ass and make a blunt point. There is a historical connotation and severity of the word "slavery" that makes it VERY distinct from things like "ownership", "boss", "caretaker", "guardian". You wouldn't say a child is a "slave" of his/her parents would you? NO. Slavery implies you have near total control over a living thing (and it's survival), but you are DELIBERATELY depriving the quality of it's life in order to extract something. A pet is not a slave. Assuming you are meeting it's basic needs and not maliciously abusing it or making it's life a living hell. So yea Leo is just wrong here.

It's a stretch to consider most or all forms of emotional connection a form of cheating. I think we need to be more nuanced on a case by case basis, where as any unwanted sex act with another person is 100% clear cut cheating because it's physical. For example you can be really good friends with someone in a relationship and give them emotional support, but if there is never that "intent" or clear physical line crossed from the person in the relationship we shouldn't call that cheating. It doesn't matter how malicious the intents of the "orbiter" are in the example if they don't get what they want. It takes two people to cheat. Of course it may be unwanted by their partner if they don't want them developing emotional connections with other people of the opposite sex. But if the intents of the "offender" are truly innocent and pure we can't call that cheating. It's just a miscommunication in that particular relationship. You see it's tricky. This isn't black and white like physical infidelity. Equating the two (emotional vs physical) because of the dynamics of what males prefer vs what females prefer seems a slightly dishonest and convenient way to warp the reality of the situation. Statistically men cheat more than women do. Ironically though the majority of conversation around this topic I've seen seem to be coming from men whining (not that this thread is that), which leads me to believe it's just them venting and expressing an insecurity based in bias and falsehood. Unless a sexual line is crossed things aren't really clear. When people get upset that their partner has an emotional connection outside of the relationship they might be tempted to call that cheating because they fear what it might lead to, but that's entirely dependent on how deep the emotional connection is, or if it's used as a deliberate replacement for the relationship or not. You may very well be right about the cultural bias and double standards. But fuck culture, we shouldn't be too concerned about it anyways as independent thinkers. You influence the larger healthier shifts that need to happen by being principled as an individual and leading by example. Crusading and fighting in gender wars just makes the situation worse, something most people seem to be unaware of.

Doesn't mean you can't enjoy short-term pleasures, once in a while. You aren't really living life if you're only thinking about the future. "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." - Ferris Bueller

The reason people have such a negative view of porn and masturbation is because it can easily be addicting and toxic for the ego, and when people suffer from that addiction and then want to improve their life they often rebound and swing the pendulum to the other side. Which is why in self-help circles it's viewed as an objectively bad thing and all sorts of statistics and "science" is sought out, it's to confirm a highly relevant bias that those people have, because they are fearful and don't want to go back to that suffering. It's all about balance. Porn and masturbation can be enjoyable and great things, you can get a release and express your sexuality while single, which is a totally natural and necessary thing. Think about them like cake. Cake is fucking tasty, and can be really exciting. But it's also not great for your health if you have too much of it. Would you eat cake everyday if there weren't any consequences? Probably, but there are. So you have to be wise enough to limit yourself to only having it a few times a year, or maybe another treat only once a month as a reward. There is not really an issue with most things in life. It's people that are the issue, not respecting themselves or the power and impact things can have. If you are really horny once in a while, nothing wrong with jerking off. Just be honest with yourself to notice when you need it, vs when you want it and it's coming from a place of addiction.

If by making it you mean opening cans and emptying them yes haha. I just moved in so my grocery shopping hasn't been a deep dive, I'll eventually learn to make the soup from separate ingredients.

Something like this. Tomato soup with a can of lentils/chick peas + some spinach and leftover korma paste for flavor. Takes 10-15 minutes just have to stir and that's it!

Are you seriously surprised? Of course the president has to peddle to the Zionists. It's been in the US' (+ main European powers) strategic interests for the past 120 years to have a proxy state and ally in the middle east, because oil became the primary energy source after coal became irrelevant. The ethnic, religious, and historical factors are all tertiary justifications for governments to position themselves in places of greater power. As soon as oil starts to phase out in favor of a cleaner more efficient energy source, you'll notice Western powers conveniently becoming inactive in the region.

Actually I am quite unpredictable, and I am impulsive. For example I talked to a man yesterday about his motorcycle while he was eating lunch. And I don't even like motorcycles!

Am super good looking, can confirm life is still quite hard ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Perhaps the key to life here is to stop focusing on so much resistance to the present moment, and focusing more on acceptance.

The best definition of respect I can think of personally; Faith in the good will and intentions of an individual, and to a lesser degree their ability to carry that good will out. Out of our appeal to greater humanity we are encouraged to show respect to everyone by default, and we rescind respect for them when they violate that good will. For example socially we scorn criminals and typically lose our "respect" for them, because their behavior wasn't in good will and we now question their intentions as malicious. This has a lot to do with integrity. It's difficult to respect someone who has low integrity.