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How the fuck could life not be about life ? Consider how life could possibly be a tool for enlightenment, when enlightenment is obviously just a part of life? You are enlightened, then what? Does life cease? How do you think you'd feel if you did that more often, or at least a little bit every single day? Do you think it's possible to find "truth" within those feelings themselves, if you got that voice to quiet down? I'd say you've landed the easiest homework assignment of all time. Go build a computer and see what happens Speaking of which I need to tamper with my SSD. I need my comp to work for my own fun.

Get the hell out of there man, you deserve better. Even if you struggle for a while, come up with a logistically adequate plan to leave. People, especially older people like parents typically don't change their behavior. You not being there and him basically "losing" his son will give him the kind of space he might need to reflect and grow as a person. With you there having defended yourself might make him feel more righteous and not want to change. You won't be able to effectively develop either in such an environment.

What do you like to do for fun now, or you think would be fun that is something you used to do?

Excellent. Good luck Max.

Try to help her in the simple ways you know how, but otherwise just be encouraging and supportive for her to get professional help elsewhere. It's not your job to fix her or save her. That dynamic can get real weird and eventually unhealthy, trust me I know from experience.

Well at least you know. Now work on that addiction. Facebook isn't evil, it is a great tool to keep in touch with friends and family. But it's also a large egoic distraction from living and provides warped (unhealthy) social interactions with other people. Stop giving a fuck about likes/dislikes. That is pathetic shallow garbage. Your existence is far more profound and beyond such things, start acting like it.

1. Stop using Facebook 2. If you fail step one, yes it is not a good idea to post stuff like that. It will just confuse people and spark division, ironically.

You've been here long enough to answer such a question.

Guilty pleasures are still pleasures. The cost is how much of your soul are you willing to sell to the devil ? I've had many first dates where I've had sex knowing it would taint the relationship right from that start, but I did it anyways. I wised up and learned though because I started being honest about the cost, and my own values. You ask too many questions, go do some experimenting and action!

These are just classic problems of people not being honest about what they are after and communicating it. Anytime you are being dishonest about your intentions, or manipulating communication, it's unethical. This is obvious.

System of a Down have some great political commentary in their songs. WARNING HIGH VOLUME AND CHANCE OF NECK PAIN FROM INTENSE HEAD THRASHING.

Don't do it. Relationship ended for a reason! Your suspicions are a signal coming from a valid place.

I believe it when they start playing with my butthole, and I like it.

@Max Green With that particular kind of woman you don't even need to be THAT masculine to attract her. She isn't looking for fucking Dwyane Johnson to swoop in and pick her up with one hand lol. Personally I'm not even that masculine comparatively in my own gender, but I know when to apply it and I don't neglect it. So if I do want to attract that kind of women I can pull that out of my "bag" so to speak, and get the job done. There is no reason you can't do that either even if you are very "feminine" like you say. I think you're scared and have the false assumption that you need to completely change and go to the other side of the pendulum, and become this sunglass pop-T wearing douche so you can provide what she might want. This isn't the case, that's actually a messy and reckless way to do it. What is important is recognizing what it takes to become a healthy developed person, and adequately working on your weak spots so they don't hold you back. A "real" man isn't someone who is purely traditionally masculine, it's a complete person who has leveled up all aspects, male & female, within themselves and is so secure within that that they cannot be shaken by the world or other people.

Hmm sorry to put it this way, my intention isn't to be overly harsh at all when I say this but - You can't have your cake, and eat it too.

That is a compatibility issue, you might have been better off finding a lower energy, calmer woman. Anyways while being authentic is important, in a way it can also be a subtle form of selfishness. Contemplate this. Sometimes in life you are required to "step" into certain "roles" for a short amount of time. This isn't necessarily being inauthentic. It's more of a sign of a balanced person. Be masculine when you need to be. You won't always enjoy these times, too bad! That's part of the challenge of living and developing.

I've been vegetarian for 6 years. Plant based/fake meat products are kind of disgusting and not very nutritious to be honest. Not to mention STUPID expensive. If I wanted something like meat I'd just have a cheat day or straight up go back to eating meat. I'll have a beyond meat burger from somewhere very rarely on a road trip. Just get your proteins from chick peas and different kinds of beans, eggs, etc. There are a lot of nutritious options.

Sent a well worded PM to you Leo.

This is something you've GOT to discuss earlier in the relationship (2-4 months) before there is too much attachment. Hint at it first, but eventually bring it up explicitly. Say something like, "Hey, when we're away from each other and we get horny, how do you feel about watching porn? Would you feel jealous if I masturbated to other people once in a while? Obviously I don't love them and there is no attraction. It'd be ok on my end if you wanted to." You want to clear the air and see where the lines in the sand are drawn. You don't want to be hiding something like that and get caught literally with your dick in your hand . The opinion of whether either person thinks it's "cheating" is irrelevant, what really hurts is worrying about trusting each other. You have to build those boundaries and find out what they are to create something stable and prospering.

Free will doesn't exist, very easy to demonstrate it to people as well; Get a piece of paper and pen, and write down the first movie that comes to mind, no deliberation. Notice how the content of whatever movie it was, was completely unanticipated and random? It just happened, perhaps it was related to a recent memory, or experience you had today. Notice how that was also out of control. Now extend the realization of this experience of happening, of thinking of a movie, to your entire existence. Free will ain't there. It's all just pure happening.

I drove across Canada in September of last year from Ontario to where I now live, Vancouver Island. I don't want to spam your thread, so I'll just pick out the most notable photos from the trip and name their locations enjoy! The countless polished rocks of Pebble Beach in Marathon, Ontario The endless windswept hills and fields in Grasslands National Park, Saskatchewan The contrast of elements and terrain in Rockgarden Trailhead, British Columbia Mt Rundle displaying it's grand jaggedness in the sun, visible from my kayak on the waters of Two Jack Lake in Banff, Alberta 75ft+ tall abandoned and overgrown stone columns from a settler age mining operation near Mt Revelstoke, British Columbia

I view it this way; if you want to be a "balanced" person then perhaps it can be great thing to do. But it isn't completely necessary in the sense if you want to live an intensely unique life. This isn't to say you can't live an intensely unique life and have relationships or a family at the same time, or that you can't be "developed" or "balanced" without relationships/family. It's just acknowledging that sometimes there are costs for people if they want to live a particularly unique life, whether that be having a family, or anything else. It might require completely shedding the cultural mainframe that we are always pressured under. Life is an incredibly precious thing. If you really want something specific, it will require you to completely stop giving any remote fuck about being understood, or accepted. Look at this guy for example. Profoundly happy and content and living in near complete isolation for 40 years! The lesson to learn here is discover what grounds you and be mindful to make it completely independent of the external world, including people. Nobody can really prescribe that for you, you'll have to figure it out on your own. The only caveat is to contemplate and be honest about your happiness. Are you avoiding relationships because of a hidden resentment? Or are you truly happy and the outcome of no relationships is simply flowing from your own lifestyle and sense of grounding.

It doesn't matter if a lot of those people can take them alone and be fine, it's about being extra safe and idiot proofing the process of it so the bad apples don't ruin it for everyone else. It's exactly this kind of caution that will be necessary to move the legalization along and get it more culturally accepted. If you keep encouraging people to consume extremely powerful substances alone, most people will be fine, but eventually with enough people taking them, some who aren't quite as thorough in their safety will jump off the 6th floor of their apartment building. We can't just casually dismiss it every time and say, "oh there is always some idiot outlier like that". It's not acceptable. We need to do everything possible to minimize even those fringe cases. The least you could do is just simply encourage people (mostly newbies) to do them with a partner.

I don't generally have any gripes or issues with the teachings. I think they speak for themselves and those who want to derive benefit from them will do so. However I will bring up a few things which I believe are legitimate points; - The Actualized.Org "style" has been systematically set up in a way that has lent a lot of potential to it behaving like an echo chamber. It's not awful in this regard, but it has some of those aspects. It's good you finally loosened the reigns and started doing interviews again, better late than never, but definitely late. I'm not saying we need to open the floodgates, but there needs to be an opportunity for a healthy level of public feedback. You know enough about how to be careful and precise about this not to fall into the ego traps of online persona wars, so you shouldn't be so consumed by hesitation. - There needs to be a complete and utter advocation of people ONLY taking psychedelics when they have a "sitter" with them. It's incredibly reckless to suggest people take any of these substances alone. If they are responsible and skilled enough to take them on their own they will do that under their own volition. I think it's just sensible for you as a public advocate of these substances to make people take that principle seriously. NEVER take psychedelics/drugs/substances alone. NEVER. Let people breed experience with them by ensuring a safe environment. - I've also seen you be way to callous in some responses to people looking for help with particular issues, by just reckless hip-firing statements like, "Just take some psychedelics and see what happens to X problem you have." People are looking for answers and see you @Leo Gura as an authority figure, so while another solution might be appropriate, they might see your statements and blindly assume they need to take psychedelics. Which could turn out to be a disaster for them and whatever issue they have. It could also work though. I'd say simply exercise more caution in giving these suggestions. Thanks for everything you do. As I said this is all I really have to say. Keep up the good work.

Knowingly sleeping with someone who is already in a relationship is essentially just as bad as the person cheating themselves. It takes two to tango and it's enabling it. So yea definitely not admirable behavior on her part, and probably indicates she wouldn't have much remorse or rationalizations about cheating herself. How you get over her past and your feelings about it though? Well if it makes you uncomfortable ask her to no longer bring it up, or shut the conversation down if it happens on accident. Also practice acceptance of the present moment. Her past, and everyone else's is what it is and cannot be changed. It's wasted emotion and energy to stew on it and judge too harshly. You get over it by focusing on your relationship RIGHT NOW and making it healthy and enjoyable. Personally I have very sharp principles and wouldn't tolerate being in a relationship with someone who admits to that. Perhaps if it was a really long time ago and a single mistake they've clearly learned from. Generally though I cess this stuff out pretty well early on and even if the topic isn't brought up explicitly I can read people and their values. Also you would probably know if someone is in a relationship, like if they are insistent about not going to their place, or other things to pick up on. If you find out they are whether you have slept with your or not you cut it off immediately. Cheating or getting together with someone who wants to cheat are both awful, low consciousness, selfish things to do.