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The speech pathologist should really help, good for you going to a professional. Out of curiosity do you listen to a lot of lectures or podcasts? Sometimes just hearing different people talk a lot to learn new vocabulary and ways of expression can help a lot. It certainty helped me.

I have a hard time listening to this one without crying. I usually skip it when listening to the album. Makes me think of my first love. There is something powerful emotionally about impermanence. Guess you can't appreciate things fully if they last for eternity.

Consider you won't have "breakthroughs". Maybe it will be a steady burn until you look back a while from now and realize, "hey, things have changed!" Notice how even your wording you are unfairly setting up a standard for yourself of "satisfying/wow level", and when you don't reach that it feels like you haven't done any work........... when perhaps you actually have? Focus less on expectations. Vision. For the place you want to go to, and the person (you) you imagine. Not just trying to move from something. It may seem like the goal is to "cease insecurities, depression, helplessness", but what you really want is to reach for greater things. Suffering seems to have this elastic effect - where you can make progress and "stretch" the band so to speak, and pushing through the resistance makes you tougher, which is great. However it might take a sharp clear vision that's authentic and positive to cut the band, to break you free.

Counter-intuitively, consider you may be able to "let go" when you accept it and stomach it for what it is. No logical reason to feel shame, most things in our life are out of our control. Especially when we are growing up and at the complete mercy of our parents and other authority figures. Think, how could you blame yourself as responsible for something you didn't and wouldn't choose? You can be ready to finally "drop" the bags, when you open them up and move through what's inside. Among the rubble and dirt, focus to find what lessons are there to be learned, and use them to build inner strength and resilience. Shame, guilt, and other useless weight emotions shed themselves when confronted by truth and love. Be careful to take time with this though. Be gentle with yourself and go through the process at the pace you need to.

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You really think so? How would you explain terrorists, rapists, pedophiles, etc then? Are they just doing all those things for the hell of it? No. They have absorbed that abuse and trauma and made an identity of it, and now they act it out because that's what makes up their reality, and is unfortunately all they know in some cases. I can't remember where I read it but there was a study that showed that more than 65+% of incarcerated males were the victims of some form of abuse in their formative years. A regular functioning person simply does not strap an explosive vest to themselves and suicide bomb a market. Regardless of what they've been told you can almost assume with 100% certainty they had something terrible happen to them growing up. Of course this is an extreme example. Depending on the degree of abuse ones reaction could be from doing nothing at all to doing everything in their power to shell out what they got.

There is no difference between aloneness and connection with everything.

@SelfLove Most of them are designed to be extremely time consuming so you've gotta watch out for that, and not get invested in too many. Just compare TV as a medium of art to film - It takes 8-12 episodes of 30-50 minutes each and multiple seasons to tell a story in mostly unnecessary detail, that a movie can compact into a 1.5-2 hour experience. Which is a better investment? It's okay to have something to relax and completely shut off to once in a while, just be mindful of it's quality (are you learning from it?) and how much time you are spending doing it. Personally I only follow a single show (The Expanse), as I've realized the rest is mostly garbage and doesn't meet my standards lol.

You've been mostly unhappy for years as you've put it, and are under "daily-torture". Yet you are still unsure about whether you should break up? Am I getting that right? Those emotions and feelings you've been having are signals OF that inner voice dude! At some point you need to stop waiting to be satiated by your doubt going away and just make a decision. Sometimes you have to pull the trigger on big decisions not knowing exactly where it will lead to. Time is a precious resource. Don't see it as "taking something away from you". See it as taking back control by radically changing your environment and relationships, so you can get back to that place where you're bright and full, with so many dreams. If you're having that much consistent doubt about things over 2 years that goes beyond just your OCD. The answer is already there, you just haven't gotten past the fear to face it yet.

Who gives a shit? What people think doesn't matter. It's as important as what colour dirt is. It shows actual confidence and integrity when you can choose not to participate in such a widespread cultural habit and be secure in that. If you don't like the way it makes you feel, why in the WORLD would you do it? It's such a simple thing to get an answer to. Like Sadhguru said on the topic of smoking, "There is nothing wrong or bad about smoking, it's just a stupid thing to do." I haven't drank alcohol in 10 years, because I just stopped liking it. Did I "miss out" sometimes? Yes, but if you're honest you'll realize it's a small cost to pay for your own health and integrity.

They censor it because it's misinformation, it's disruptive, and it doesn't help anyone. Remember in school how there was always that kid that got sent into the hallway or to the office because they were being too annoying? It's like that, but scaled up to the level of society lol.

I finally got my 2nd dose of Pfizer yesterday. Feeling quite relieved ! No noticeable symptoms besides a sore shoulder. Just like any other of the 20+ vaccines I've got in my life really, except this one is waaaaay more important.

You are right in the sense of screening for people who are extremely reckless and impulsive, but I don't think a big deal should be made of it, or made so black and white. In my experience you should be in the moment in a relationship and not dwell over the past. Find out who they are as a person currently, and what kind of relationship you think you can build with them, that's what matters. You can piece together a vague understanding of someone's history through different conversations and stories, but not so explicitly like "exactly how many people have you slept with?". Not only does it summon pointless feelings of inadequacy or insecurity, and mistrust - it's just too confrontational and a possible relationship killer. I NEVER ask how many guys a girl has slept with, and I don't EVER answer if I'm asked. I just smirk and play coy You want to create an aura of mystery, cool, and security.

I mean it matters to you or me, depending on what standards we want to have for our health. To some people it sadly doesn't matter at all. Take a pack of cigarettes for example, and all the images, warnings, and labels on it. Most sane people would see that stuff and never pick it up, yet there are those who smoke a pack a day in spite of it. I'm not excusing that behavior or peoples habits. Hell, if I had it MY way I would be a nutritional dictator for society and make overweight kids and adults legally be forced to do basic training for the army But it just is what it is. One of the outcomes of "freedom" we can call it.

This is just normal. Unless you are clearly a supermodel/millionaire that is way higher value than the people you're meeting, it's just common sense that you are only going to be compatible for a relationship with like 1/10 people you meet, not even. Values have to be in the same ballpark, goals have to go in the same direction, personalities need chemistry, lifestyles and time off have to intertwine. That's a lot of shit that has to go right to even have a chance at a decent long term relationship, past just meeting and having sex a few times. If you are strictly after sex and short term flings just go to a bar or club any night of the week. I guarantee you could pull a different girl at least once a week. Depends what you are after though. You need to go to the places you'll find exactly what you're looking for. Not just completely random approaches and expecting things to fall into what you want.

They just heat up water molecules to make the food heat up. Sounds pretty safe. idk the science behind it but I don't think it causes cancer or anything or there would be a lot more fear of them. Then again we use plenty of other technology that makes us sick all the time so I guess it wouldn't matter. Convenience I guess. It's easy to just have food on a dish and ready to be heated in less than 2 mins. Rather than putting a pan on the stove. Waiting 5+ minutes to cook, using olive oil/flipping so your meal doesn't get burned. Those kind of time differences are meaningful to people when they are hungry af and want to eat NOW

lol I'm pretty sure microwaves are extremely safe to use. I'd be more worried about the kind of food you're putting IN it to be honest. The lid is so shit doesn't get everywhere inside when you overcook stuff mate.

lmao that guy looks like if Michael Cera and Richard Dawkins had a baby.

Often when trying to address these areas in their lives, people swing the pendulum from one side to another to "correct" things. Which while may directly help, also creates a lot of chaos and a whole new set of problems. A wiser approach would be to keep your niceness, but trim it down to a more authentic degree, and then experiment adding in elements of carelessness, aggressiveness, detachment, and competence. Remember it's about becoming a well rounded complete person. Not swapping out archetypes to serve whatever is convenient to your egoic wants and desires. Edit: It's also about protection and containment for women too. It's more typical for them to want someone stronger and more aggressive than them on average. Which is understandable given what we know about evolution/child bearing. They will prefer a stronger man even if it might come with some drawbacks/stresses.

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He is the wisest primate I know that's for sure.

Hah, at least you can watch it! I've grown to have an entirely new problem the past few months > I can't even watch or enjoy ANY porn at all anymore. I have zero interest and nothing gets me going at all.

Unless it's one of my favourite songs by them talking about being fisted because one is desensitized from lack of control over selfish pleasures. Definitely Stage Red

Source? Almost every statistic I've EVER seen shows that men cheat more than women. There is a false narrative that's painted that makes it seem like men are bigger victims in this domain, but it's mostly just excessive whining because it appears there is more of a wounding factor to male pride/ego when it's betrayed. Also there is an unspoken expectation that women are "supposed" to be more loyal in their nature because of the raising children factor, while men cheating gets somewhat of a cultural pass within the gender for being a "player", and in this very thread people talking about how it's slightly ok because of the male primal urge for variety lmao. The betrayal of these archetypes may cut deep but it doesn't reflect reality. Women are more faithful and trustworthy, this is just factually the case.

You're wording this hypothetical as if suddenly there would be a naked woman in front of you, behind closed doors lol. Which of course isn't the case in real life. There are a bunch of steps leading up to that situation like approaching her, continuing the conversation with personal intent, flirting, logistically working out how to see each other again, and then getting into a private space together............ That's a LOT of opportunities for self-control over that natural impulse leading up to the opportunity for sex, and just a string of violation after violation. I just don't get how you want to use this as an example of "male-nature" we need to accept, when it just doesn't happen. Really attractive women know their value and don't offer themselves up like that.