Roy

Most successful people, or those at the top of hierarchies all have some really bad skeletons in the closest in order to have gotten where they are. It's unfortunate but it is what it is. Just focus on what you can learn from them and discard the rest. Try not to idolize people, you'll eventually become disappointed. Never "meet your hero's" so to speak. Become your OWN hero.

Well that should take the sting out. She ain't even gonna be there anymore. You know what's funny I remember this EXACT same thing happened to me when I went to college in 2011. I was getting to know this girl for about 3 weeks and was getting into her, then when I expressed myself about where I wanted to take things she told me she was looking to drop out. She packed up and was gone that weekend. Can you describe a bit more what you mean here?

Cool. Good luck! Just be mindful about how you come across. You don't want to be doing this from a place of fear of losing her or missing out, or she'll sense it. Be genuine and casual about it, tell her what you (actually) appreciate about her and how you feel. It's counter-intuitive but those vulnerable moments where you open up, are actually where you show a lot of strength and security. Regardless of what happens (what she says) it will still be true.

If you really really like her, then make that known ASAP and pursue her. Regardless of the outcome though, if she rejects you and/or gets with that other guy, you need to be detached though and realize where you are; You are at a college campus! There are plenty of other girls you will like. Don't worry if one doesn't work out. It's not like it's a small town or island where it will taunt you forever

This might be overly cautious thinking but, yea man stay the fuck away and don't have sex or get connected with her. Maybe not even as regular friends. If that guy is bitter about things and decides to be a dick he might target not just her but people in her life too, just to upset her. Like smashing windows on your car, beating you up, etc. Low life scum do not care what has to happen if they want to hurt someone, physically or mentally. You obviously have plenty of options anyways so why bother with the risk.

I will strongly consider buying it when it comes out. I was a gamer for a long time but I have not been interested in any games that have been hyped up or have come out in the past 5~ years. I mostly just stick to Eu4 when I want to play something, or a different shooter now and then. AOE2 (The Conquerors Expansion) was one of the first games I ever had, it's aged quite well and is still great to this day. I have it on Steam.

How much do you need? PM me the exact details and I could E-transfer you. Sometimes it's just better to bite the financial bullet in order to get out of a situation.

Confront him directly about it. Put him on the spot and tell him what you didn't like about it. He'll either apologize and gain some respect for you, or won't take ownership for it and the relationship in whatever capacity it exists will end. Either way you will both know where you stand. You don't want it to be in limbo.

A lot of places. There is a ton money in real estate. Houses are expensive for a reason > because of what is being put into it.

Adeptus is a good guy and has actually brought up some fair criticism of Leo. Y'all need to relax. It's not like he's accusing him of being a child rapist or some crap about the old Actualized logo.

We live in a physical world where physical force is quite tangible and useful.

Tread carefully. She broke up with you for a reason. Contemplate how you could be setting up for failure if you go back to her again.

What happened with you and J @ivankiss? I couldn't find it scrolling through. Could you sum it up in like 2 sentences?

Don't say such a thing. Get it out of your head that this all comes down to some sort of mechanical list that needs to be checked off for them to be interested. Social interaction is way more dynamic than that. If they don't even go out and find out who you are they don't know you. So why are you putting stock in their judgments not to go out? As if anyone has a "value" anyways. What a Spock way of looking at the world. Not reality at all.

This is the benefits of online apps vs real life. Yes the cold approaching and game is great for developing a lot of general social skill, but you don't even know if the people you are approaching are looking to date. They are total strangers on the street going about their lives. You are rolling the dice. As said women are indecisive creatures. You get can 20 phone numbers, maybe 3-6 of them actually will go on a date. Then maybe 1-2 will want a 2nd date. That's a pretty low conversion rate. Not as in it has anything to do with you but just general statistics of finding a decent match for a relationship. Most of the them are just matches on Bumble, probably more than 60% of the matches that I end up talking to I go on a date with, because they are actually looking to date and not fuck around (most of them lol). I only approach in real life if I hit off a conversation well with someone who I think will be a good match, I can usually tell just by looking at them. Most of the girls I see are between 18-24 working as cashiers and while a lot of them are pretty are usually too immature for me and they probably live with their parents or are going to school if they are working that job. Not that there is anything wrong with that it's just not what I'm looking for.

Life is too short to wait around for perfect conditions.

Happy for you man, these are pretty fun reads! Have to say it makes me a little envious that I've changed and can't enjoy having casual sex anymore. Even if they are hot it just doesn't do it for me. I mean I'll obviously enjoy it in the physical sense and the pleasure, but it's just not satisfying anymore so I don't even bother pursuing it. And I turn down anything if I'm offered. I'm just at the point now where I'll only have sex with someone I really like, or love. Otherwise it's just hollow, for me personally. Accepting the flow of life.

Don't sit and analyze too much, or even take what she said to heart or too seriously. You will be able to understand more clearly as you get some distance and time passes. Right now it's important to sit through your emotions (fully) to process them, not worrying about your logical mind going crazy about what you could have done differently. Trust that in a few months time the answers will click in your mind, and you will go "aaaahhhhh ok." The most important thing is to swallow and accept the outcome. Realize yeah it might suck, but your life is obviously not over because of this. A break up sucks but it should not be devastating. It's just one of many people that probably won't be in your life anymore. That's alright. Many people come and go. It's normal ! It's counterintuitive because we want to move away from the negative stuff, but feel what you have to feel right now. If you gotta cry, cry your fuckin heart out until your eyes hurt. Sitting there and taking it like a punching bag right now is exactly what will help you move through it and come out the other end stronger. Don't forget to focus on other things though. Hang out with friends, pick up some more responsibilities at work, and go to an event. You want to remind yourself that you still gotta life to live and while you enjoyed their company you weren't dependent on them for anything. Hope this helps.

Those are all degrees of sharpness of the same blade.

I used to get anxious and had a neurotic feeling I had to come up and plan all these crazy ideas to be impressive, but then I realized it's simply not worth the investment to a stranger and to make such a big deal out of it. 9/10 times I just suggest for a walk in a park or to hike a nature trail, and either have a snack at a coffee shop before or after depending what time of day it is. It's a two part date that costs $5-10 max for a coffee + gas, and there is less pressure to be talking constantly when you're walking. If you're meeting them for more than a first date that's when you arrange dinner reservations or to go to some event.

Women can be skittish, elusive, flakey, and highly indecisive creatures. This is just the nature of things. You don't take it personally when you step in dogshit right? You just accept it might happen when you step out and decide to walk in a world where there is dog shit on the ground. Don't blame yourself when women behave like women. Simply keep going and you will get your results man. It could just be bad luck - people are busy in the summertime - etc. Exactly how many phone numbers VS numbers of dates have you had since you started in May? Have you been keeping track? I've gone on about 20 1st dates since May 19th, only 3 of them have resulted in a 2nd date so far. This shit is hard man. Keep your head up! I bet what's going to happen is sooner than later you'll meet that girl that clicks with you and you'll be in a relationship and ecstatic . Patience + effort, and good things will come my friend.

@Vzdoh Not everyone starts the "race" of life at the same gunshot. The reason many people are on here spending "countless hours theorizing" is because they trying to fill a deep hole in their understanding from not having the luck of having a proper upbringing, or trying to untie an extremely corrupt knot of confusion in their minds. These limiting beliefs and deficiencies can go down very core of the their being. As in the suffering has made up most of their experience in their existence. They don't know what things could be like if they were better. It's difficult to navigate out of dangerous waters to the shore if you don't have a lighthouse. They are here to find out that lighthouse even exists. It's not as easy as just going and "doing it". That's honestly just a simpleton thing to say and a complete nothing sandwich. Of course the reason you might not understand fully is if you started from a position of privelege, which you did by your own admission. Everyone has to work hard to reach a certain set of results yes, but you have to appreciate some simply need to work harder than others based on the foundation (or lack thereof) they were given in life. When you tell someone to "just do X bro quit being a victim!" In such a sterile and binary way its going to be really hard for them to take it on seriously. Especially when and I'm sorry to say this, it's coming from that good looking babe who is going on an egoic speil about herself. It just comes off as patronizing and cringy. Humans, and particularly vulnerable ones need more nuanced connection, not a set of math formulas preached at them. Not to mention it will never be as easy as just doing it when you have a problem like being too short. Which while isn't a big deal in the context of our spiritual existence, poses a large problem within the judgement of our low consciousness culture. People grappling with what are essentially handicaps need a higher quality specialized form of advice and need to resonated with first. Or it'll just fall on deaf ears or even make the problem worse.

I've always been a fan of art and creative endeavors for as long as I can remember - Whether by collecting things, browsing shops endlessly, making my own things, or listening to music like an Audioslave almost every day. It's always been apart of my life, but recently I've noticed something has been clicking and I've reached new depths of appreciation and enjoyment of it... I've been revisiting music that I used to listen to as a teenager and even quite recently, and while I was certainly a fan then and couldn't shut up about it - now it's like a completely different thing. The lyrics and meaning of some pieces have been utterly re-contextualized. In some cases I find myself simply crying at how beautiful it is, like I've heard all these words before but now I understand them in their essence and it's totally penetrating me. Sometimes left thinking how the hell could I have missed this all these years??? I have no other way to describe it, in some cases it simply feels like a mental orgasm. I've been at this work for about 4 years now in some capacity. I'm guessing gaining deeper insights and expanding my consciousness has indirectly revealed some things to me that I couldn't see before? I'm wondering has anyone else noticed this phenomena in their life? I'd like to hear your experiences on this.