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You worded it as if it was a statement and not a question. That you can't accept that they are losing interest, so they ought to win you over. Sorry if I misunderstood it's not always easy to interpret what people mean through just text.

Don't think too highly of yourself if you're genuinely wondering and questioning why things aren't working. It's going to be hard to find someone who is into being a third wheel. And yes while technically you can make it a "separate" relationship it will never feel like that for them.

You love him right? Is the relationship great? If yes then I don't see why you should leave. Do what you can within reason, but remember to set the boundary it's not on you to be his only support or solve the problem. Make sure he is getting professional help like therapy and consulting about what medication he needs to take.

If you start eating healthy for a while, you'll likely become disgusted by shitty food, or at least react badly too it. I haven't been able to eat McDonalds for 10 years even if I craved it. Yea it would still taste good, but if I ate a big mac meal with a coke, it would make me physically ill.

I'm not saying you need to get blackout drunk. Just enough to grease up the wheels and slow down all the neuroticism. In fact now that I think about it, this might be the only thing alcohol has any use for at all.

Yes they do. All the time. I worked in an old folks home for just a little of a year. In just that short time I learned you have to be mindful of making bonds too close with too many of the residents because every wintertime the common flu rolls around and kills a surprising amount of people. We need vaccines because the human body is only so strong and we live an ever changing biological environment. The particular issue with Covid is although it's only somewhat more deadly than the flu statistically, it is OVERWHELMINGLY more contagious. So many more people will get it, and many more people will die. Think about it, every year a new common flu strain makes a lap but it's something we barely think about. If you're old or work in healthcare you gotta get a shot, and it's more or less optional for pretty much everyone else. You stay home if you get sick, but that's about it. Hell nobody even ever thinks about wearing a mask when having the flu, it's just common sense to stay away. Now we have Covid, where even after 8 months of vaccinations, we've mostly opened up from lockdowns and we are seeing it spread like wildfire back to contraction levels we had with no vaccinations and moderate lockdown. This demonstrates exactly how stupidly contagious it is. Imagine if the vaccine didn't exist, nobody was wearing masks, and there were zero lockdown rules anywhere. There is a very high chance we'd be looking at the collapse of most societies and an extremely strained civilization. Supply chains would break down, global trade would halt, health care systems everywhere would fail. Somehow a virus that doesn't give a shit who it infects has been politicized though and many morons would be completely fine with all the above, well at least until they couldn't order a big mac in the drive thru, or when they are having a ventilator put down their throat. Mortality has a nice way of purging the stupid out of you, that is if you make it out the other side. Like I'm pretty sure there were no Black Death deniers and conspiracy theorists back in the day lol. If you were preaching on the streets that it was all a hoax you'd get stoned to death back then

There is a reason they call it liquid courage. I'm just saying. Why go through hours and hours of study and courses, what $15 can show you isn't that big a deal?

Why would it not be worth it? If you want something out of life, you have to put something into it. I'd argue you might not be aware that the reason you are just going to "let it happen" is because you actually want to be depressed about it and feed your ego secretly. I can tell because I've gone through exactly what you're going through. Let's take a look at all these (judgmental) words you've used; And you don't need to meet 5000 girls to find a girlfriend or someone to click with. Leo uses absurd hyperbole with numbers like that. Maybe a few hundred, even less. Not a big number considering how many people you meet in a given year.

I'm the exact same way, I can't be bothered with the majority of people. You know what is great though? Those FEW people you really like go find them.

You don't need to spend a second listening to any coach or pua, or spend time reading any material if you just want to get laid. Simply go to a bar, get drunk, and it'll happen. No matter how socially inept or unattractive you are. How else did the human population get to 8 billion??

Ngl I bought AOE3 on a steam sale years ago.... haven't tried it because of the narrative I've heard about it, and remember seeing my friend play 15 years ago and not liking it then lol. Funnily enough it looks like it's based on the colonial era of history, which I enjoy quite a bit. I have a shameful amount of hours logged on Europa Universalis 4

Bruh play with me sometime! I've been wanting to play it again.

Really sorry about your situation. If you're disciplined with some habits and show up to work for every hour you're needed (and taking on extra if you have energy), you'll bring yourself to a more stable position. I believe you can do it. I'll share some ideas, hopefully they can work for you. - Look up videos for creative ways to save money on groceries. What food to eat that's low cost, high in calories, easy to make. You might need to sacrifice some taste and flavors you've been used to in life, in order to save money for now. You can spice up most meals for cheap though. - Walk or bike to work if at all possible. It is free, saves you money on gas, and is exercise that's built into your day. Not to mention depending on your location you see beautiful things you miss driving by at 100 kmh - Break any addictions you have that drain money for no reason. I know I'm preaching here but it might be breaking the bank here. You need to quit cold or at least severely limit any vaping, smoking, weed use, or alcohol. They are ridiculously expensive and provide nothing to you. - Find habits and ways to reduce stress that are no cost. If you live near parks spend time there, or going to the beach, or nature trails. These things improve your life and you don't need to pay for them. As opposed to video games or other habits which costs money for equipment or subscriptions. - Also be diligent af about what plans and things you sign up for with phones and related items. Only get what you absolutely need and nothing more, especially if you're signing up for a few year plan. Also just so you know, your credit score only goes down when you miss payments on recorded items you signed your name on. For example my credit score is based off; - 1 bank loan I have - Phone plan payments - Car loan - Credit card Rent payments won't count towards your credit score, unless you have a mortgage. Don't be late for payments for these things or you'll take a hit to your score.

I think you're onto something He just needs to genuinely see there are alternatives, and that his life will actually be better, and not fall apart with a little less work.

Was just about to say. If people post low consciousness cancer from people like Sv3rige repeatedly they will be temporarily banned.

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@Vzdoh was just trying to get to the center of how you feel about it, didn't mean to assume anything. Apologies. Yes I'd carefully think about and craft what kind of conversation you are going to have with him. Is he high in self-awareness and receptive? It might be that he knows he needs to balance his life more but it's just a habit he's "grooved" into. Do you think with some gentle support he could redirect that river of his life, so to speak? And most importantly do you intuit he wants to?

@Vzdoh I guess the golden question is - do you value him and the relationship enough to wait for that day to come? How much is it worth to you, and what sort of future can you anticipate? Don't think only about the worst cases scenarios though. Also imagine the best ones I just noticed the way you worded the title,..... as if he's being somewhat deliberate about working to get away from you? Is that not how he was when you first met him, and did he make any of it clear at the start like, "Hey just so you know I work a lot and have a lot of responsibility with my career." ?

How much time per week do you need to spend with him to be fulfilled in the relationship? If everything else about your bond is healthy, and you feel you love each other...... perhaps this is the test of patience until you move in together? If you were cohabiting you would probably feel much more content and secure in this even if he maintained his high work load.

Either it's going to come to a boiling point where she will dump him to maintain the Christian identity and consider this chapter a sinful failure where she will wait for marriage. Or she will open her mind up enough to realize the dogmatic game she has been forced to play her whole life.

How are your boundaries with your job life and your personal life? Do they blend in any particular way? Are you friends with any of your co-workers, and talking to them after work about work?

That kind of suggestion is unquestionably sexual harassment and not acceptable. You are right to feel disturbed. Leaving was the right choice. Maybe you can't get at him legally, but he was short an employee because of his own unprofessionalism and selfish stupidity. Fuck him, hope he has fun running his business shorthanded! I wouldn't stir on it too much, as in blaming yourself at all. Sometimes there are just people out in the world that do such things, and you're in the wrong place at the wrong time. You are a victim, with no fault. As in how to handle it? Well the first thing (which is easier said than done) is try to get in positions where certain people might have so much power over you. Where you're more independent and autonomous during the day. Look for larger workplaces with more employees so there is less opportunity for intimate approaches like this, and it is less likely for people to try stuff like that because words spread quickly. It's nearly impossible to comprehend that kind of thing as a man - the shit women have to go through on a daily basis in the workplace and out in the world in general. It's awful. Maybe take up a self-defense course or carry some pepper spray in your handbag.

My uncle was a criminal growing up and while age tempered the severity of his crimes, his narcissist manipulative behavior has never left even at age 63. My sister lived at his house for 7 years without paying a single cent. I moved in temporarily to get a foot in a new province and he started overcharging me $900 for a room, then offers me a chance to "pay it down" (instead of giving me cash) by helping work on building his new house on weekends. Essentially extracting free labor from me. Mind you I was already working 40 hours a week for him doing extremely physical labor hardscaping. I picked up on what was going on (albeit without acting soon enough) and gave him a month notice that I was leaving and looking for another job and place to live. Already knowing this was going to happen as discussed when I moved in, he still promptly explodes the next day and threatens me physically, realizing his manipulative scheme has been picked up on and is falling apart. I quit work that day, and left without paying rent for that month. He refuses to apologize. Now there is a rift in the family. My parents are moving to the province, and my dad wants to clock him in the face. He was lucky I didn't put him in the hospital or sue him that day for threatening me or denting my car. I was just too perplexed and dumbstruck at the time it happened.

I would stay home and work. You'll have to make sacrifices but life will be easier for a while with family. You'll have more spare time to learn and educate yourself with your parents doing housework, and you'll be able to save a lot more money than being with roommates. Don't explain to them any of the actualized stuff, they won't get it. Just explain to them what you're interested in doing and your tangible plans for it. They don't need to understand anything else. Or don't share anything! Just live frugally and save money so you can get your independence faster and invest in your self education. Also, you need to drop the "wage slavery" bullshit ASAP. It's extremely toxic to your mind and your self-esteem. You won't be able to excel and get the most out of any lower end job if you resent it. View it more as a building block and first step moving towards where you want to be, not as a trap.

This sounds extremely brash. Is it all said and done? Can you not get a refund for your plane ticket? Or get your college tuition back to invest in another form of education? I would strongly suggest you sit down and revise all this. It's going to suck but you need to have a talk with your parents. Explain to them what you're feeling and why your heart isn't in your current schooling, and that you need time and support to figure out your next steps. If they are good parents they should understand why you want to be happy. I know you probably have this strong inner urge to get up and go but $2000 is honestly fuck all let alone for a city like Miami. It's important to be strategic about life and not just follow your impulses at first feel. This could end up being a really stupid decision. Sorry to put it that way but it must be said.