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Morality is completely relative and an ego based construction, so let's throw that out the window for this conversation. What is "real" let's say is suffering. So if you were attempting to be more conscious (for whatever reason), wouldn't you notice that minimizing suffering seems to be a byproduct of that? Why wouldn't it be? Ain't that convenient but look how that's just a clever way to shift the responsibility off of your conscious because the pain (suffering) would be too much (because killing the animal would be too much for your conscious, you implied). Would you not agree you are still part of the equation here, being the customer and investor of this whole ordeal?

Of all things to worry about, I wouldn't worry about hypocrisy that much. Everyone in the world is a hypocrite to some degree. I have yet to encounter a single person that isn't a hypocrite to some level. It seems to be the human condition or something. Just keep trying to be a better person, if you are a hypocrite sometimes during the journey. Don't stress and consider it a byproduct.

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Epic history doesn't have a huge catalog but their videos are primo. I usually put them on when going to sleep, or any Kings & Generals playlist. I found this channel some years ago of a Norwegian dude that just drinks vodka and films himself jumping in ice water and doing other silly things. Just living life and enjoying himself. I find it really grounding and simple. I've been watching since he was only a smaller channel with about 10K subs, and he's blown up since. He is one of the few people I can ever recall not changing a single thing about his authenticity or quality of videos because of success. It's so refreshing.

I was gonna say bad idea since OnlyFans was gonna nuke itself by banning sex content, but they decided not to press the button it seems.

This is me atm, lookin alright for feeling mostly depressed and miserable bahaha.

Have you considered tutoring programming ? It's a way to use your skill part-time (or full if you wanted) that you have control over what you want to do and teach. It will probably bring some of your motivation back to use that investment in a way that isn't as forced or stale.

Yup, but that's too bad because we don't have the luxury of waiting around. It's already killed millions of people in nearly 2 years. Should we have waited years longer before doing any vaccinations at all?

This is just common sense. If you survive an infection your body will be better off against it (and similar infections) in the future. A vaccine is just a controlled dose of an infection (simulated or otherwise) that gets you protected without having to go through all the risk of a real infection. However we shouldn't encourage people to just willingly get Covid to build an immunity even if healthy because there is always a risk it could go south for either them or whoever they spread it to. Way more danger with that option than getting a vaccine. And the statistics show it. The issue with this particular pandemic is since Covid is so ridiculously contagious there really isn't a third option to sit around. This isn't like the regular flu where you can just skip getting the shot most years because contraction rate is so low. Get your Covid shots people.

It can be lonely being a screw, in a nail world

I know you're a real person and this is generally good advice, but with the way this post is I can't help but be reminded of cringey YouTube comment spam

Well that's good, I might play PUBG again if this reduces the amount of Chinese hackers LOL

In my opinion I wouldn't go about it trying to hit a certain number of approaches just for approaches sake, because you're gonna get your practice no matter what if you're out there and putting proper energy into it. Quality over quantity. It will probably get monotonous and your encounters will get less meaningful because you'll be talking to the 48th/50th girl for the month and just want the conversation to be over I would focus more on setting what specific result do you want. Do you want phone numbers? Do you want to set up a date? If you want to get a phone number for example, just go out until you achieve your goal. It might take 4 approaches, or 23! But you keep your eye on your goal and do whatever work comes.

I thought you were going to split up with this guy? So he is so busy with work he barely wants to hang out and have sex, and when you do have sex he isn't even able to do it properly? It's awesome you're trying so hard to get things to work, but should you have to try so hard?

Find what works for you, things in your life will generally backfire if you just try to ape others. Kobe Bryant was a world class athlete that only slept 4-5 hours per night, imagine how many aspiring basketball players screwed up their health trying to imitate that without considering that they didn't win the genetic lottery like him.

Can we stop talking about Trump? He's so boring and like so last year.....

I'm not advocating for suffering. In fact I want to minimize it as much as possible! Which sometimes means being forced to pick the lesser of two shitty options. Your attitude on the other hand it seems is that you are too triggered to even accept that suffering exists at all, and want to manipulate reality to create options where there is no suffering, which of course ironically creates even more suffering in the struggle to do so.

I'd be willing to bet money a lot less Afghans will die in the next decade, compared to the previous decade from NATO being in the region.

Perhaps consider why it was so easy for the Taliban to take control of the country is because A LOT more people than we are willing to admit are either supportive of, or neutral in having the Taliban in charge. I'm sure most don't care who is in charge ultimately, they just want a unified government that will bring some stability. Though they definitely don't want white foreigners running their country after 75+ years of non-stop war and occupation. There would have been WAY more resistance if most Afghans weren't content with letting the Taliban take control. They practically waltzed their way to the presidential palace. We have to dispel this naïve notion that the Taliban is some completely separate evil entity. The Taliban IS Afghanistan, MADE UP of Afghans.

I honestly didn't even read this, wow this is bad. This is just a defeatist attitude to use to rationalize selfishness and devilry. Not the kind of behavior you want to be condoning as advice to others. We are on a personal development forum. It should be obvious we are trying to do that consciously, not by exploiting others.

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Read my post again. I'm talking about OP as the third party. Him enabling her is pretty much just as bad as her cheating herself. That is only if we know she is married 100% which is ambiguous based on what he said. The whole thing sounds sketchy.

Then she would be fine with letting you talk to him, or not getting instantly defensive. Yeah based on what you've said this sounds like some bored married woman looking to cheat on her husband. Don't be the catalyst for that to happen. Cut her off. Being the outsider of a relationship and sleeping with the cheater is basically just as bad as the cheater themselves, in my opinion.

You look healthier! I hope you feel that way too!

This^ It should be mostly obvious, you don't need to drive yourself crazy questioning everything because of a simple remark. Either you are attracted to guys, or not. You don't do this by logically thinking by the way, you do it by feeling. The actual thoughts that arise in your head are more reflections of those feelings. Perhaps, and I don't mean to sound offensive, but maybe you just don't have a lot of experience and don't know exactly what you like. I'd recommend really putting yourself out there and exploring so you can get a better idea of what that is.