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A nuclear war won't happen unless there is some kind of freak accident that escalates out of control. And a large scale conventional war is simply no longer a possibility since 1945 and nuclear weapons exist, period. So the thought doesn't even need to be entertained. Even the largest, most corrupt, selfish egos in the world will exercise caution with their fingers on a trigger like that. If there is one thing the ego won't accept it's utter annihilation of itself or the playground it prances on

I say this bluntly, and you probably don't want to hear it but I believe it's what you need to hear - Next time either with her, or another girl - You need to cut it with this weak stuff > You were already in the situation where she was receptive and ready, but you were "hoping" for things to work out in your plan, which means not actually being masculine and making it happen. Not actually being decisive and kissing her. What you do is start looking at her until she looks at you, and if she isn't you softly whisper "hey" to get her attention. Once you make eye contact and you're that close you fucking kiss her, period. Don't wait for any more signals or thoughts of "is this the PERFECT moment?" If she rejects you it either means she doesn't like you as much as it seems, or she is extremely inexperienced. You accept whichever one it is and move on. She didn't ruin the vibe. YOU did by not being decisive with your energy. You need to take responsibility here. You tip toed the line too close but didn't cross it, and so she mirrored your energy. As the man it's your job to lead. At the right moments of course. You feel terrible and frustrated because you didn't seize the moment like you should have, so there is regret and pain now because you ignored that calling. That's ok though. Everyone goes through some kind of learning curve. What you do now is realize there will be many more of these moments in the future and you know what it feels like when you don't take them! So now that you're going into this new phase in life what are you going to do more of???

I feel awful for you that you have to go through that @Someone here. I've gone through something similar and come out the other side (it seems), but from your post not to the degree you are going through. It's very tough, but not impossible! Of course mindfulness meditation can help if you are aware of that practice. Sitting silently with our thoughts and becoming an observer helps take out the "sting" of them so to speak. As you realize most of them aren't useful, and just contribute to the "feeding" of the anxiety. Depending on the severity though and how severe the symptoms you've described are some of these practices can only do so much for you. It might be wise to seriously consider seeing a therapist or getting some medication to ease the suffering. If something like that is getting in the way of you functioning in daily life or going out in the world to fulfil any obligations, the problem needs to be tackled and handcuffed like a violent person in public. The stuff talked about in Actualized.Org can help, but it's mostly for healthy already stable people. If you don't feel stability then I would ignore everything here and seek professional help.

Vent if you need to, that's good. But remember to inhale after the exhale . There is no such thing as objectivity. You need to abandon the notion. It's subjectivity though and through.

That's alright that those those exist and that they happen. Not saying it's a good thing, just that they exist. It's a response your brain is coming up with because you are going through suffering and overwhelmed. So logical processes can lead to the conclusion that the only way to escape the suffering is to die. Which is of course absurd because that in and of itself leads to more suffering for yourself and others. The thing here is you aren't your thoughts, they are something that is happening. However where does it say thoughts = reality, or just that because you have thoughts you need to act on them to make them reality? You see thoughts are just thoughts. They are hollow, light, and just float by. Like a feather in the wind. Pay attention to the signals they send, but don't take them too seriously. You are doing great work by feeling your suffering and not suppressing it anymore @RoerAmit. That's a HUGE step in the right direction.

Why do you say this? Does life not have the solution in it, as well? Bullshit.

Yes @Stratos! These are the right questions to ask! Sit on this and try to answer anything that comes up, and if more questions come up, follow those too. So, trying your best to strip any labels down. What do you feel (not think) the answer is; Do you want cannabis because it makes you feel great, positive, and excited to do it? Or do you just need to do it because it's something you're used to and you don't know how you might fill the gap if it wasn't there? You see habits are like grooves in the Earth that rivers flow down. In order to change a habit you have to either slowly make new grooves to divert that water into a healthier path, or REALLY bite the bullet to work to quickly make a damn to radically redirect the water. Experiment with both these approaches and go with the one that produces more results for you and your goals.

It can be seen as endearing in rare occasions, but from what I know the success rate for that kind of length of pursuit is extremely low. The female perception will most likely be of creepiness, disgust, desperation, low-self esteem etc. If it was meant to happen it probably would have happened. There are millions of women, so just move on with life. Way healthier approach to this that saves everyone time and energy. On a related note the idea of soulmates and twin flames while nice is also filled with a lot of delusion. In reality we are all compatible with a ton of people to various degrees. I've noticed a trend that those that romanticize the idea of a soulmate the most regularly have low self-esteem and can't set proper boundaries. So if you miss an opportunity with a really great person, don't try again too many times. Just accept it and start looking for the next opportunity. Practice letting go.

Criminally underrated space movie Sunshine. Where Capa finally starts the sun up again at the end. Instead of being violently ripped apart immediately like you'd expect when their ship collapses, it's like God is rewarding him with a moment of infinite beauty for sacrificing himself saving humanity. This scene from The Grey always hits me. It's rare you see such rawness in big budget movies.

Relax champ. I only responded about her behavior in this thread. Hardily hounding or constant.

I don't care, and I don't need to know about any history. It's as irrelevant as a bug hitting the windshield of my car. What is relevant is what happens in the public viewable part of the forum. Perhaps. But I'm not misinterpreting what is going on in this thread on this particular page. And I'm seriously doubting the ability to sort it out when it's clear a lot of threads are getting consistently derailed by nonsense. Here is the target of some personal development to do, to put your "feet on the fire" so to speak..... Consider that if you are constantly getting involved in drama, to stop and think "What part am I playing of the equation?"

This is quite a gaslighting and narcissistic post to make, especially given what they said. I'd take a moment to read and reflect on it.

lol well I have? Outgrew that scene pretty quick. Still it's pretty obvious though if you get kicked out from a club it's because you were probably being a twat. And no it's not cool, girls will think you're a loser. Keep in mind they are on the INSIDE of a club. They aren't going to leave alcohol and music to go outside and fawn over a dude. They will be inside laughing and wondering what he did for about 3 seconds before going back to dancing.

We aren't talking about the OP. We are talking about a hypothetical person you brought up, of a "hot guy". >>

Or maybe that guy needs to stop being a douche and learn to be chill as ice

How old are you @Vivaldo? The simplest way to get laid without "cheating" (hiring a sex worker), is to go to parties with young people. College settings are best and will give you the highest chances. Go to some house/dorm parties with friends, have some alcohol to get a buzz (but not drunk) and you'll find talking to girls and flirting to get laid actually isn't that scary or difficult at all. Just don't try too hard. It's probably the best setting in the world to be in if you're just looking for sex. People at that age group are LOOKING to get laid and have one night stands. For example > I kid you not at my very first college party I got laid simply from making eye contact with this girl across the room. She walked by to use the washroom and when she came out she stood by me. I whispered in her ear if she'd like to go to my room and that was that. Thing is I'm not even that good looking or have James Bond level game, you just have to follow the signals and the "vibes" and things will happen for you. Your only job is to simply be in those places where that stuff can happen to you.

Don't worry I'm sure one will pop up in spite by tomorrow at least hahaha..... Y'all are children really. Boys throwing mud at the girls, and girls gossiping and poking fun at the boys. I'm close to stepping up the moderation in this subreddit with the amount of elementary crap I see here every day. Like Emerald said, both sides of the same coin.

Solid post @Emerald. I'd love to see how the radical social progressives would react to it though , you know with the non-binary crowd and "gender/sexuality doesn't exist" attitude and all. Perhaps I don't understand it enough but the kind of stuff you're talking about here doesn't seem to square with the recent ideologies springing up. Just curious if you've experienced any resistance. What have been your encounters with them if you've had any?

This has been addressed in the past. The logo was created with no intention or knowledge of any relation to that stuff. It's just an unfortunate coincidence in similarity that people use to troll or discredit Leo. This is a self-development forum and his business is about self-development. Obviously he nor anyone else here (I hope) would ever advocate for pedophilia. Have more faith in peoples intentions. As for the underlined quote you used, it's understandable seeing that direct text in passing would make anyone raise their eyebrow. But given full context and understanding of the dynamics of the conversation, you'd come to learn that Leo usually sometimes uses a contrarian and confrontational approach to get people to open/change their minds. If you can't tell the difference between a clearly well motivated self-help teacher trying to evoke thought in people in an argument and an actual criminal pedophile then there really isn't anything anyone can explain to you. I'm locking this thread because I just elaborated on the topic, and this will prevent it from turning into a shit-show.

Morality is completely relative and an ego based construction, so let's throw that out the window for this conversation. What is "real" let's say is suffering. So if you were attempting to be more conscious (for whatever reason), wouldn't you notice that minimizing suffering seems to be a byproduct of that? Why wouldn't it be? Ain't that convenient but look how that's just a clever way to shift the responsibility off of your conscious because the pain (suffering) would be too much (because killing the animal would be too much for your conscious, you implied). Would you not agree you are still part of the equation here, being the customer and investor of this whole ordeal?

Of all things to worry about, I wouldn't worry about hypocrisy that much. Everyone in the world is a hypocrite to some degree. I have yet to encounter a single person that isn't a hypocrite to some level. It seems to be the human condition or something. Just keep trying to be a better person, if you are a hypocrite sometimes during the journey. Don't stress and consider it a byproduct.

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Epic history doesn't have a huge catalog but their videos are primo. I usually put them on when going to sleep, or any Kings & Generals playlist. I found this channel some years ago of a Norwegian dude that just drinks vodka and films himself jumping in ice water and doing other silly things. Just living life and enjoying himself. I find it really grounding and simple. I've been watching since he was only a smaller channel with about 10K subs, and he's blown up since. He is one of the few people I can ever recall not changing a single thing about his authenticity or quality of videos because of success. It's so refreshing.

I was gonna say bad idea since OnlyFans was gonna nuke itself by banning sex content, but they decided not to press the button it seems.

This is me atm, lookin alright for feeling mostly depressed and miserable bahaha.