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I don't believe I'll ever get married, it's fine for others but I personally don't care for it. I'm 28 now and have had a good amount of sexual partners and long term relationships. I do desire lifetime monogamy though, I imagine I'll go through a series more partners until I find a match that's just so healthy there is simply no reason not to spend the remainder of our lives together. I'll still value all the partnerships even if they end. Just because it doesn't last forever doesn't mean it was a failure. Certain people come into our lives and leave, exactly when they need to. Just enjoy the time you have with people, this is all temporary anyways.

@Scholar I'm not sure exactly what you were getting at, but I'd like you to know I don't eat animals. Also can you clarify why you crossed out "human" if you don't mind.

While punishment for breaking existing laws needs to be handed out, as a society we need to tone down the excessive hate to the point where either pedophiles that have offended or just have thoughts about it, feel like they have the space, resources, and opportunity to get therapy and help for getting past their unfortunate condition. It's obvious they shouldn't act on their urges for a list of reasons, but that doesn't mean we need to hate them or blame them for having those urges in the first place. I'm sure pedophiles would love to not feel the way they do, there is probably nothing more internally self-destructive than what they feel, because it is at complete odds with how everyone else wants them to behave. A pedophile likes kids for the same reason I like black haired women with massive tits. It's just an internal urge they ended up having for one reason or another. But ultimately we are complete victims to whatever we end up being attracted to. You don't wake up and decide what you are sexually attracted to, you just see it and it's a subjective fact for you. Besides it's not even rational the proportion we ostracize pedophiles compared to other sorts of people. In an objective sense, raping or molesting a child isn't as bad as murdering someone. Yet culturally our reactions and behaviors don't correlate to that for some reason. They are still human beings that while have made mistakes, still deserve our empathy so they can get better and offer their potential to society. Only an extremely rare but select few like genocidal war criminals or chronic serial killers deserved to be abandoned and given the death penalty imo.

Don't worry with how much we're raping nature I'm sure another one is in the pipeline for us. If you do any research on past pandemics and the issues with growing anti-biotic resistant pathogens, we actually got off lucky with Covid. This is easy mode in terms of pandemics.

I'm sure there is plenty of medications that can help, I was more implying the large scale responses to contain the virus, like lockdowns. But from what I've learned even if they could worked and attempted to implement more serious, frequent lockdowns, people simply wouldn't have followed them after a while. The virus of stupidity is unfortunately just as rampant as Covid. We were meant to suffer this pandemic. "God's plan."

They do work and they DO help, just not to the degree of most peoples unrealistic bad faith expectations. "Oh it didn't literally make me perfectly immune and to all future mutations, I guess it's completely pointless." That is the general feeling running through your brain right now, and maybe you should be honest about it. What did people honestly expect? We had the first major pandemic of this lifetime that spread rapidly across the glove and disrupted everything, of course they are going to rush to make a vaccine as fast as they can. Fast work is fast, but also not ideal. However, there was also no alternative.

If you've already gotten 2, what is the issue with getting a 3rd? Because they are being annoying now?

It's not a good thing, but it also shouldn't be shocking. Any place where people are seeking serious help and answers to extremely difficult personal problems, some of those people will up grappling with suicide.

I remember sharing some messages with him quite a while ago, I got the sense he was very caring and personable. I am sorry.

That really is amazing an independent host like him is able to do that, kudos to him. With interviewers like Rogan though I only find myself watching when he has interesting guests that I know of. Joe is a pretty unique guy but even so I wouldn't just watch because of him.

I got "Anxious/Preoccupied", doing a bit of self-psycho-analyzing - I guess even though I got everything I needed materially/emotionally and my parents were always there and provided for all my needs, I STILL feel a general angst and slight but consistent background paranoia. That I'm always doing something wrong, or I'm not normal. Even though my past 3 relationships have been very healthy, I guess I just have low self-esteem even if everything seems to be going perfect. Tis a curse.

This clip and Rose Wrist's response is exactly the dividing line we've been talking about in this thread.

Dude, she doesn't want to be your friend, or your girlfriend. She wants your money. DO NOT EVER give money prior to meeting up. Whether it's with a model or an escort. You will get scammed. Even if you don't get scammed and you date her, what the hell is the point? The "relationship" will fundamentally be based on business, and if you decide to stop giving her money she is gone. Why don't you just date a regular person for free?

This is fucking golden. +1.

In a logical sense, Elon is right to a degree and I think people are a bit too harsh with him. The issue is billionaires will always think they know what capitol allocation is best 100% of the time, and are too fundamentally selfish to know the moments when they should give it up. It's about smoothing things out, not giving all money to either him or the government. The problem really isn't rich people in my opinion. Everyone wants to be rich, and if you get rich it's usually because you helped a ton of people. The abuse and rigging usually happens after the fact. It's that the tax systems are completely non-sensical and don't scale the way we need them to. People at the very bottom or close to it shouldn't even be paying 10%, they should be paying next to ZERO until they get on their feet, which they need to the most capitol for than anybody else.

It's only as much effort as you decide put in. Just because you are dating actively doesn't mean you are obligated to kiss/have sex with them all. I was juggling about 5-7 girls within a month last year, but I only committed emotionally and physically to the one I found was the best match. I respectfully cut ties with everyone else at that point, or they did with me. It teaches you to be detached and think more clearly and objectively about if someone is a healthy match for you, instead of having it as your only option so by default you might behave needy. Leo answered it well also. Basically you want to have options or a bunch of experience and history to build yourself so you have a healthy level of detachment. Just don't be a sociopath that is just looking to lie to use them as walking fleshlights, have the balls to be honest about your intentions. Think about teenagers/young people. Their relationships are almost always very cringe and filled with massive blind spots and attachment issues, because they are needy and don't have that reference for what is healthy or what kind of person they are meant to be with. This is exactly why when those relationships crash and burn they are more prone to having dramatic reactions, like some guy crashing into a tree because he was drunk driving, or the girl threatening suicide because she wasn't "the one". Of course adults can react in stupid ways too, but it doesn't have quite the same "flare".

That's enough.

Idk why I immediately read the quoted part in Trump's voice and not my own and burst out laughing

Don't think about the literal numbers too much, those don't really matter unless you're flirting too close to the legal limits. The correct thing to focus on is the maturity levels and power dynamics. There is nothing wrong with large age gap relationships, if the relationship is more or less healthy.

I'm going to suggest you do have problems with self respect, otherwise you wouldn't be rationalizing that cheating could save the relationship. To respect yourself means that you don't willingly violate your own integrity. If he is busy you could suggest or hint to him you want to spend more time together to build that intimacy and tension up so you can cum and get that release. Why not plan a holiday somewhere private? Or set up a weekly date night so he can't fill it up with work?

Yes. - Cheating on him is a terrible thing to do, for yourself and definitely for him. You don't want to carry that with you, and you don't want to leave that with him if he found out. - You don't break up with him because of his size either. That will absolutely crush his self-esteem for many years, and is humiliating. - You also don't suggest to open the relationship or guilt him into being a cuck. That's also humiliating and will have him questioning himself for the remainder of the relationship. You don't really have any of those as options if you have any respect for yourself, him, or the relationship, so don't be a coward and do any of the above. If you really love him what you CAN do is explore other options, and you don't even have to bring them up in a way that says "hey I'm not satisfied". What Leo said is good. Bring toys into the bedroom, learn about different positions, do more foreplay, have slower more intimate sex, have sex more frequently so he lasts longer. He will WANT to get better and learn if you show him. There are a lot of possibilities to remedy this, you don't have to jump to the worst options that will leave him hurt.

The fear is usually prior, once you're actually doing you'll realize it was never really there.

Sounds like you already know the answer , you're just seeking a little more validation on it. You're exactly right! You just need to socialize with them more, maybe download some dating apps just to practice talking to them (you don't have to ask to meet them if you don't want). When you're out in public, try to talk to women of all ages, doesn't matter if it's sexual or not. Just interact. Reflect on any avoidant behaviors you have to get away or escape females, and make an effort to stamp those behaviors out. Trust that, that feeling of "separation" will wither away as you get more experience. Believe me it will. You don't need to be scared of women either, they don't bite............. well except for a few haha.

So you were into her and just made the mistake of not acting on it when you wanted? If you hang out again your only real shot to make things work is to lay it out on the floor early in your meet about what happened, "hey I was hesitant because we are both co-workers and I wasn't sure about what I wanted, but I'm willing to put that behind because I know I want you." Something along those lines. Be raw, direct, and emotional with her. OR you could absorb this lesson and move onto the next girl, because the sting of her rejecting you again to what I said above might be unnecessary. If it were me though I would just take the lesson and move on in life. This could be an excellent opportunity to detach.

This was just a communication mismatch. Taking you at what you've said, what happened was; - She was into you and made the first move (giving her number) - You didn't reciprocate intimate interest, you flirt a little but don't make advancements or kiss her, stayed professional - This puts in her mind you aren't into her in that way, she is ok with that and just wants a friend anyways - Then when you hang out again you push like you ARE into her in that way and don't want her as just a friend Basically she gave you an opportunity early, but you didn't take it. You waited too long to make a move which confused her and turned her off from the possibility. She is very likely lying when she said "I'm not looking for a relationship right now", she actually was, but you didn't take the chance fast enough, ie masculine decisiveness. That's fine if you didn't really want her or were confused, but you need to communicate that to her. I can't actually tell from your story though, did you want a relationship with her above friends @Anon212? Or just to friends with benefits? The way you eliminate neediness is by being disciplined to being in a "mode". Either you are looking for a relationship actively, or you aren't. Then you communicate that explicitly with them at some point. Don't do this inbetween shit where you aren't sure because it leads to stuff like this.