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That's exactly it. Man the internet has completely destroyed our charitability towards each other. I want to be optimistic, but at this point I'm not convinced it's invention has been a net positive for humanity, looking at how divided and deluded with misinformation we are these days. Every single god damn person is subject to a personality cult. People are so addicted to reactionary thinking that either you're a bootlicking simp for X person, OR you think they're the next Hitler maliciously scheming to overthrow your personal beloved system so they can kneel on your neck. Jordan Peterson is just a guy, Joe Rogan is just a guy, Leo is just a guy, Donald Trump is just a guy, they are all just people, we are all just people with different thoughts and experiences trying to make sense of, and do things in this world. Everyone acts like someone pissed in their cheerios. Maybe it's just because I was a kid, but I remember growing up when the internet was on it's rise and being absolutely amazed at what it means and all the possibilities. Fast forward to now and it's like, this is it? This steaming pile of shit is really it? It's probably just my jaded perspective, but something feels seriously fucked up.

Perhaps it's just my personality to react this way. I know we're pro-psychedelics here but jesus christ. He may as well be asking, "Hey guys is it a good idea to run a chainsaw and carry it with me while I try to walk across this tightrope?" lol

Taking hard-core exploratory drugs, while trying to start a business sounds like a stupid fucking collision of priorities, to put it plainly.

Need a little more to your post. Locking for lack of substance.

Isn't the concept of what is "necessary" or "efficient" completely irrelevant, since reality is simotaneously all energy/content and pure nothingness at the same time? The difference between doing extra to do the fooling and not doesn't really matter because God doesn't have to pay a cost to itself. He is the merchant and the customer. I guess you just have to use the terms to explain things right? Since language is limited.

Don't worry about being one stage or the other, else you'll get pigeonholed into a way of viewing yourself and about how you're "supposed" to act. I can't be doing this because I want to be green one day, or I should be doing this because that's what green does. Our lives and personalities are far more dynamic than that. You have be authentic and follow your intuition, as well as maintain a sense of pragmatism about your life. Use spiral dynamics as a sort of catalog to balance yourself out and become a well rounded person. Analyze the healthy traits at each stage that are missing for you, and work on those slowly. As well as being honest about the toxic traits in you and eliminating them. Also don't fall in the trap of archetyping each stage. Mastering Orange doesn't just mean "having a bunch of sex until you get bored/building a ruthless capitalist business". There is obviously more than one way to skin a cat.

I've gotten good results with online dating, but along with the conveniences of it comes a lot of frustration. You'll run into a lot of dysfunctional people who will waste your time, I guess it's experience though. Overall just don't set your expectations very high, and don't use online dating as your only strategy. As a man, I'll save you some time and advise you Bumble is the ONLY one worth using, just focus exclusively on that. All the other apps are dumpster fires and a waste of energy.

To be truly happy is to simply choose to be happy regardless and in spite of all external conditions, whether you are a janitor or your family is getting raped and killed by warlords in some jungle. We live in a materialist culture, so obviously are brains are wired to assume a correlation with external success and happiness. As if they run parallel to each other. This is a falsehood however. It's not a coincidence that there are people who deliberately live in caves in literal filth, who are extraordinarily conscious and happy.

Got my 3rd dose of Pfizer recently, zero symptoms besides sore bicep for a day. I've had like 30+ vaccines and immunization shots over my life from working in various healthcare capacities, so I'm used to them by now. At this point I'm practically Übermensch I'm surprised to hear of so many reactions to the vaccine. I've personally never had any reactions to any shot, Covid or otherwise. I guess I'm just very lucky or healthy.

It's OK to have priorities and things you want to focus on more than others, but I would argue it's unwise to completely neglect an aspect of life, for really any significant length of time. Most things will only get more difficult as you get older as you need to "catch up". A deficient pillar can cause the rest of your house to be unstable, no matter how great all the others seem. Wisdom is balance.

It's fine to share experiences but this post needs a bit more substance dude.

I used to be "against" Islam to some capacity when I was younger, but that's because I was ignorant, disconnected emotionally, and consumed too much fear porn. Now I'm more realistic and indifferent towards it like most worldviews. I've gotten to a Yellow level of no longer being triggered by any particular perspectives or ideas. Of course like any other major religion/cult it has it's issues, some of them systemic and inherit. But in the end the evolution and growth of such a large entity is a slow, messy, and difficult process. It's change and direction will be up to those within Islam, not without.

It's your job as the guy to be assertive with a woman and make intentions clear. You either come onto her because you want her, or you don't and tell her early on you're just looking for a friend. They probably felt you wasted their time because you didn't make it clear to them early enough, so they might have thought you were just too shy to show intent that quick, so they kept giving you time to make a move confused to why you haven't. Good communication is clear communication.

Maybe she was a virgin, but how were you supposed to know that? I wouldn't blame yourself for her response and wanting for you to leave. She was just extremely embarrassed, shut down, and didn't want to deal with the situation. The only thing it sounds like you did wrong was asking her "why" she was being the way she was, which implies there is something wrong with the way she is feeling. Even if you didn't intend to do that, that's how it comes off. That probably confirmed her decision to ask you to leave. The proper response to have made her feel safe and given you a chance to let you stay would have been to; - Give her some physical and emotional space (shut up for a minute lol) - Let her know it's okay to be embarrassed, assure her you aren't judging her in any way - Let her feel and express what she's feeling, don't question it - Take charge of the situation and let her know you're there to help if she needs it (cleaning up/just listening) Ultimately though if she wanted you to leave, you have to go. With this situation I would do the "nice guy" thing and send her a text sooner than later. Let her know what happened isn't a big deal to you, you've already forgot about it, and would like the chance to see her again. If she wants to erase the whole thing from her mind though and not see you, I wouldn't hate yourself for it and just move on.

You can, but you don't need to express sexual intent to ask someone on a date. Women aren't stupid, they know if you're asking them out to go do something one-on-one what your intent is lol. When you're ON that date is when you'll better chances and more opportunities to express sexual intent. Let's just say it's more suiting to show it after you're on a walk together in a park, rather than in a line at a grocery store.

I wouldn't and personally never use the word "date". It comes off as kind of sterile and mechanical, which girls don't seem to like. There is something about it that is too formal, where early on you want to keep things casual and leave a bit of mystery in her mind (does he want to date me and go places with me?!). Of course you both know what is going on, but it's leaving the language implicit and unspoken that helps build attraction. Saying, "will you go on a date with me?" is more direct and puts more pressure on them, which can lead them to say no. I usually say something like, "You seem like a lot of fun, we should go for a hike/get a bite to eat sometime." Occasionally they respond back "Are you asking me on a date?", where you can reply playfully or tease them > "I guess I am, you caught me!" I wouldn't just assume you can ask. I mean you can technically ask anyone out, but if you don't have a small conversation to learn each others names first and at least make her smile or laugh before asking you're gonna get rejected a lot. If you don't do those first most girls will think, "Oh this guy just wants to fuck me, he doesn't really want to know me." Build up some sort of connection.

I stumbled across this channel again after forgetting about it for 5 or 6 years; https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwUizOU8pPWXdXNniXypQEQ I recall back then laughing and enjoyed some funny harmless skits he made poking fun at vegans, hippies, etc, what have you. Not a big deal. Now it seems he's amassed quite a large following and the format has basically tripled down on that formula. Like many other online personas, it's all very conveniently predictable what they are going to say, who they are for/opposed to, and so on. You go to them to get a certain hit of whatever narrative you like, without any anticipation of meaningful challenge or reflection. Just to sum it up - with this guy it's just everything anti-Liberal. If it goes against them explicitly or even mildly, he's supporting it. If it's something for them..... well take a wild guess. Essentially he's pinned himself completely in Stage Orange. I'm guessing because of a combination of him actually believing what he says, and the fact it's obviously lucrative for his survival to keep doing so. I would probably bet both my kidneys he'll die on this hill to, and won't be much different another 5 years from now. Regardless I'm not just pointing it out to make fun of him or shame it. That's not very interesting to me. The point is it got me reflecting quite a bit. Who was I 5 years ago? Do I still value all the same things? How have I changed? And am I still the same person? At the risk of not sounding humble, I'm glad the answer is NO I'm not the same. In a lot of ways I still feel the same, but my values and worldview have also gone through a metamorphosis of sorts. Different enough that I couldn't have even remotely predicted back then, who I would be now. It's either been for better or worse, by my intuition says it's been a good thing. It makes me feel grateful I came across this work, and for my own muse pushing me towards the idea that it is really important to be constantly challenging and developing yourself. I remember being a lot like this guy back then, dabbling in a lot of the same ideas. Not that it's a bad thing to entertain certain ideas. My point here is more that I consider myself lucky I didn't settle in to those ideas and get stuck, locked in a paradigm. With no real sight of where to get out. Looking back there are times when I was quite close. Ultimately with this thread I wanted to ask everyone; How different are YOU from yourself 5 years ago? What fundamental change have you noticed? Are your values the same? So yea, watch out for paradigm lock! Zoom out eagle eye on your life now and then and see where you're at. To actualize is to always be constantly evolving and shedding versions of yourself like reptile skin, even when it's uncomfortable.

I just got my 3rd shot. I feel fine. The only thing is some old lady had to poke me in the arm with a needle, what gives?!

Huh, interesting. I do set intentions of what I'm looking for, but I don't hang on to any expectations. I've found that if I just "go with the flow" and don't lead them with an explicit conversation at some point they'll just get pissed off. My last few long term ex's told me it was very refreshing I told them what I wanted after a few dates. Then this girl last year I slept with on the first date got really mad when I went with the vibes she was sending of hooking up, but it was obvious it wasn't going to work out as something serious so idk what she was expecting. This stuff is complicated

Out of curiosity, how often are you picking up women just for fun vs looking for a relationship of some capacity? Is it one or the other for you, or some sort of mix? I found going out to clubs and picking up girls/having one night stands was fun for some months, but quickly became uninteresting and unfulfilling.

I agree.

True, but the US and other countries didn't antagonize or start either World War. There is something uniquely twisted about the German psyche/culture.

Well Germany basically leads the EU, and given their history I don't think Germany should ever be allowed to have a standing army again. So that'll be a hard no from me chief lol.

After all the personal development stuff I've read, heard, and seen - it feels like the core message of it is to not take your life for granted. Most people find a comfortable place for themselves and coast through their entire lives, until they die. Look, you don't need to become the next Steve Jobs. Realize it's ultimately only you who sets expectations and goals for yourself. Nobody else. Stop listening to what everyone else is telling you and find out what you really want. I've always wanted to use this quote because it's vulgar but true at the same time lol; "You see there's leaders, and there's followers. But I'd rather be a dick than a swallower." - Kanye