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It's the most important thing in life, even more than money. You want to maximize your IQ as much as you can, in fact you should also steal the IQ points of other people as well.

It was obvious he should have never been taken seriously from the start, he is a whiny grifter with low integrity. You don't need to be able to read people that well to see it. He was also groomed by TYT, which is basically the McDonald's of left wing discourse.

Alright that's enough of this shit. If you want to fight for equality and racial justice that's completely great, but you need to do it in a way that brings more interesting topics that spark better discussion. All that's happened in this thread is you've gaslighted and accused anyone who slightly disagrees with you as racist, which immediately heats up the room and makes people want to troll you, which is what has happened here. I've seen close to zero productive engagement from anybody in this thread. What Joe Rogan said 9 years ago or whatever is bad, but it doesn't really matter anymore. This forum is of better use than to talk about cancel culture. If you want to hold him to account go on twitter or some other platform. I'm not going to hand out points to anyone, but I advise everyone to be a lot more careful and nuanced if you're going to talk about this topic.

Having peace of mind by realizing the relationship will likely end someday, so just enjoy the ride and stop overthinking it. It's because we are dishonest with ourselves and try to analyze/manipulate things to be "perfect" and last that gets us into trouble.

Just my personal experience I don't mean to scare you off, but back when I used played guitar a long time ago I found the learning/skill curse for acoustic is really steep at the start, which can be discouraging. So I would recommend looking to get a cheap electric guitar as well to help ease you into it. Electric is easier mechanically for your body I found so it helps for practice and building confidence. You'll get results fairly quickly with electric which feels great. I would say the best place to start is finding tabs/sheets for music that you like to listen to. Being able to replicate bits and pieces of your favorite band or songs is really fun

I don't think it's the message you're sending that is necessarily the issue, but the language and energy you're using to deliver it. When you communicate in such a rigid way you are going to divide people in a way that is counter-productive to your starting goal. Reflect on that.

I'm sorry you feel this way. After doing a browse through the Joe Rogan thread and this one though, do you not feel you are being a bit combative? Accusing others of being racist so casually will make them feel attacked and want to argue against whatever you have to say after that. This back and forth language makes it impossible to have a discussion about whether or not things like reperations or cancel culture are good things or not. I think that's where the disagreement is happening @Thestarguitarist14, you feel strongly one way and others do not. I think it's important to keep an open dialogue. If anybody is being explicitly racist we will act accordingly.

I'm sorry am I missing something, where is link to him saying it and what was the context? I just did a quick look but didn't see anything.

Because since "dumb" men can't rely on intelligence it usually means they get by in the world on strength, which you listed as good. Also a lot of "dumb" men can have a factor of being adorable and pure at heart because they see the world in a simple way.

It's not about her or getting her to do something different, it's about how you feel. Your focus needs to be in a place that is so elsewhere, that this kind of thing barely crosses your mind, and when it does it doesn't stay there for long.

I don't know all the details, but I think the gist of it is MrGirl knows about psychology (from schooling) and the ethical delicacies involved, and views Dr.K as disingenuously (intentionally or not) exploiting Reckful and possibly others to market his business. Which is a big no no for someone like MrGirl who seems radically honest, almost to a fault. I think he can see through others bullshit quite well, and it comes off as projection sometimes? When I called in on Sunday to him I knew he was going to say "get therapy" just as a disclaimer, which I understand. But I also didn't anticipate him doing a bit of a U-turn and giving his unfettered thoughts, instead of just going out his way to help. I liked it, but that kind of directness is unusual and can confuse or cause a lot of people to react. I imagine it's going to blow up in his face and get him cancelled sooner than later, unfortunately.

No it's not harassment, but it is rude. Right from the first 10 seconds it's physically cringe inducing. He is obviously not stupid though, and is just forcing things because he is on camera and wants to make content. If you talk to people (not just women) and get responses like this you don't mess around too much. Just politely move on.

It certainly makes things harder, but it's impossible. There are billions of people out there, everyone can find a match and to believe otherwise is delusional. Even if you don't have looks, or your looks are "bad". It just means you'll have work harder in areas like groom, dress, humor, charisma, etc. There are so many ways to skin a cat.

I'm sure one day there will be a genocide in India, or China, and other parts of the world. Unfortunately, historically things seem to reach a boiling point, and for one reason or another current systems will break down to be replaced by new ones in order to reach an equilibrium. The populations we are hosting simply aren't sustainable and the floor is going to fall out from under us, and those who are least deserving will be the ones getting punished. To think the future is going to be just peaches is vacantly naïve. Religious division goes back through time, but the symptoms of it are only getting exacerbated by overcrowding. It doesn't take an an expert to figure out when you cram billions of people (homogenous or not) in a relatively small area, things are going to go sour eventually.

That puts thing into perspective pretty well

Censorship is bad, mmkay?

lol two peas in a pot. They must both be slightly desperate and decided to settle. Yes people can make things technically "work", but it's like building a house with the wrong material or construction methods. Clock is ticking.

Yeah, it seems like it's the kind of logic that will actually backfire for the people that need the most help. The more you suppress the urge, the more likely it will come back to bite you in the ass. If one is frustrated with their results with women, and they quit jerking off to give them energy or motivation to get better with them, > They'll either try and still suck with women which will make them MORE frustrated because now it's the self-hate from not getting results + they can't cum either. > Or it might push them into potentially viewing women as objects and a means to an end because they'll be chasing women as a way to sexually release, not with genuine intent to treat them as people. They could also get better and it could help, but only for a handful of people. I'm not totally against it I think No Fap is worth trying. It's just kind of like the nicotine patch in my point of view, it's like a band-aid to a much deeper problem. The kinds of guys I see who get into No Fap need work on their crippling self-esteem and socialization issues, whether they jerk off or not is kind of an independent variable that's not that important.

How malleable or weak does ones personality have to be to get affected by whether they jerk off or not lol. Am I missing something, is this actually a problem for people?

Just jerk off, don't hate yourself for it, and get back to whatever it is you want to do.

It's the best thing to do because you maintain your self-respect and self-esteem, and there are consequences for the cheaters actions. Which will hopefully cause them to reflect on their behavior and do better next time. Cheaters are like children. When children do something stupid or something they shouldn't do, you punish them to teach them a valuable life lesson. It doesn't matter if they are sorry about it or not. They won't learn the lesson if you don't punish them. If you stay with them you are just sacrificing your own integrity and enabling them to violate it as well as their own. I say this as a highly empathetic person. I'm just not so reckless with my empathy that I let it hurt me or others.

I'm with @Leo Gura on this and hold the same rule for my own relationships. However the only time (in my opinion) it is ever acceptable to give a cheater a second chance is if it's a marriage where kids are involved. Then you should try to make things work for their sake. Otherwise, cya wouldn't wanna be ya!

I find Spiral Dynamics isn't nearly as effective as a model for individuals as it is for larger collectives but regardless. Nobody is actually fully one stage or the other, an individual is a dynamic mix of the healthy/unhealthy aspects of various stages, that they have either integrated or not. If you are born into a Green culture and raised with Green values from a young age, without much exposure to the lower stages, there is potential you could have missed out on a proper integration of them. To provide a stark example, yes Green is overall higher than Orange or Blue, yet there are tons of young Green liberal college students or hippies that can't even hold a job and depend on other people to survive. They ARE Green in a general sense, but only a hollow husk of it - A suit they've stepped into either because they were born into it or because it's who they idealize themselves to be. Spiral Dynamics isn't linear. Hell it even says it in the name, "dynamic". What happened with your friends is they probably weren't as developed cognitively or value wise as they seemed, and something they were exposed to triggered them to forced them to regress back into a level their psyche was more comfortable operating. It's a form of ego backlash. The cart is usually ahead of the horse for most people.

The blame and responsibility rests entirely on the mother and the biological father. The guy is a total victim. He's already put in 6 years of work and love more than he should have. He served his time for a crime he didn't even commit. From my point of view he has every moral and legal right to walk away and never look back. I hope there is crowdfunding for any legal fees and for him to get his life started again.

It's not a great situation, but their dad is probably alive somewhere available to help, and they still have a mother. It's not like they are orphans or homeless.