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I think it's pretty benign. Everyone does it. I mean yeah it's not the greatest thing, but it's just a fun little social game people play. I think you're more angry at the people that you can tell take it way too seriously and use it as a way to objectify women.

Time heals all. You made the right choice, it just doesn't fully feel like it right now because there is still heartbreak. It will fade though. All you have to do right now is focus on what you have to do in the immediate future and put yourself in that.

1. The United States isn't really a "nation". It's a federation or "union" of independent states that function more or less like countries. Kind of like how the Soviet Union wasn't just Russia, but Russia + a bunch of other pre-existing nations. That's part of what makes the US so powerful, is these states have more autonomy to focus on what they need and not be bogged down by high authorities. Of course they don't always get this right and can be selfish in spite of the larger picture and interests of the union. 2. Is this really a question? Yea not having reproductive rights sucks, but imagine not having those + genital mutilation, forced marriages, no access to education, no access to certain recreational activities, no recourse to being assaulted or raped, living under constant physical threat, not being able to drive, being suppressed from expressing yourself and how you dress, etc. If Texas is the 1st layer of hell for women, Afghanistan is the 6th or 7th. Afghanistan is underdeveloped though as a nation, and hasn't been stable for literally hundreds of years. They've been under the boot of one imperial superpower after another, from the Mughals to the British to the Russians to the Americans. Things will only start to get better in that country once the Taliban gets sufficient time to implement their rule, and then it runs its course and the people get sick of it and want something better. This is evolution. It takes a long time and it sucks.

These are good things to do after you've already had sex a bunch of times, and been on a number of dates. This approach won't work on the first few dates in the attraction phase. you will get rejected by the majority of women. They want you to be mysterious, guarded, and play games with their head early on to get them interested. If you act super vulnerable and spill the beans and your feelings too early, they will make assumptions about you being needy or they'll be suspicious. How a man has to behave attracting a woman vs how they can behave after some sort of relationship is formed are two completely different things. Let's not pretend otherwise, it just confuses everyone. There is no such thing as high consciousness pick-up, at least not yet.

There are great perks to living with your parents, and lots of great perks living independently. Make a list of pros and cons for each and really contemplate what you want most.

The way through this is to completely own it and not care what your friend may or may not think.

No I don't analyze stuff like that too much. All that matters to me is chemistry and attraction. I guess I have a boyish charm

From what I know about art and how I feel when I'm creating it, is it feels like the universe is expressing itself and you are simply the host from which is flows through.

True. It's not that it doesn't happen where the woman is the older one, it's just not as common. My last few partners have been a handful of years older than me, idk what I'm doing to break the norm haha.

There are a handful of reasons, these are the ones I know of off the top of my head and it's all debatable. - Women generally are more mature than men, and people tend to bond best with others of the same maturity level. Hence why you see lots of relationships with the man being older than the other way around. - The older and more experienced you are the easier it is to manipulate, groom, and control someone younger and less experienced. I think this is true regardless of gender. - An older guy knows they have resources, experiences, etc. that they can use to massively outcompete younger men for those younger women. So why wouldn't they? An example that parodies this are sugar daddy relationships. It's a lot harder the other way around, because younger men don't have a lot to offer older women besides well, their youth, energy, excitement, adventure.

I used to have panic attacks but I've managed to cure them. Haven't had any for many years. What worked for me was realizing the experience simply isn't rational more or less, it's your body and mind running away with it's own conclusion (and that you must panic about it), and you are just along for the ride. However that doesn't have to be the case, and there are ways to get back in the drivers seat. There are things you can think and remind yourself to ease or stop the symptoms. Of course it will be hard in the moment but you must still give them a shot. - I am safe where I am. I am NOT in danger. - What do I really have to be worried about? - I am healthy. Alternatively you can get out of your head if you find it's not helping. Start to do something where you are getting into your body and relaxing. Go take a shower, go for a walk, relax with a pet. It doesn't matter what it is, just don't waste time and start doing something where you are actively using your body and not just thinking. It's part of the dwelling and the anxiety you feel about panic attacks that feed the cycle and make it worse. Breathing exercises are good but they also didn't work for me much either, don't be afraid to move on from one thing if you find it's not working and don't get angry if something doesn't help. My getting over them basically came with hindsight. I realized that the panic attacks weren't really "true" and didn't reflect anything that resonated with me. Now whenever I feel one coming on I just remind myself of that and they evaporate. Of course there may be a deeper reason why they manifest, and it may be obvious or not very clear what that is. You'll have to find that out but I suggest doing it from a calm place. Hope any of this helps.

Volunteer firefighter, go to local climbing gym. Simply doing things you enjoy that other people also enjoy creates community by default.

Well the easiest thing to say is there are literally billions of women, so you don't need to worry about low supply lol. The next thing I'd say is while physical attraction is nice and what draws you as the first thing you see, it's not as important as them having a good personality, being developed, and their specific chemistry with you. Once you start fucking and getting into relationships with these hot women, or most women for that matter, you'll find out why. If you're with them long enough their looks will fade from age, or you'll start to lose satisfaction with how hot they are since now you "have" them, and now you want to try something else, or chase the next best thing for the challenge. It doesn't matter if she's a bombshell if she ends up being a total headache and you don't really want to spend time together. I'd much rather have a 7/10 that has all the personality traits I want, than a 9/10 that I couldn't spend a weekend in a cabin with. It sounds like you're a bit inexperienced so your mindset it a bit shallow right now only focusing on the obvious stuff that catches your eye. That's ok, but you need to get yourself out there. Once you start to build a history to learn from it will change your perspective. No amount of theorizing or other people like me talking to you is going to change this at a fundamental level.

From what I understand about narcissism, is that a legitimate narcissist wouldn't even entertain the idea to reflect that they are one. If they did, it would be a fleeting thought at most.

Why don't you just make it? It's all you anyways hehe.

He can correct if I'm wrong, but my understanding is that (for him) any relationship you start after sleeping with someone could technically be called a ONS, if you are completely detached and don't have any expectations of outcome. So whether the girl calls you back or not doesn't change what you would label the initial hookup. I think he's projecting his own preference when he says "all girls", because it leaves out the fact that some sort of relationship can easily form before you even have sex. For ex both people can agree to have a handful of dates and intentionally put off sex for a while even if they both want to do it. To each their own though.

I get what you mean here, but I think you need to swap your language. The cultural connotation of the phrase "One night stand", implies you're intentionally going to cut contact, or put in little to no effort to communicate again.

That's not true. I think @K Ghoul's top love languages just might be Receiving Gifts, and Words of Affirmation <3

Bro even if it's factually true just choose not to believe it. Don't listen to or base your life off of statistics or numbers. Nobody ever got anywhere in life based off the "facts". They get somewhere in spite of them and telling whatever else is in the way to go fuck itself.

As toxic as gun culture is in North America, the vast majority of people here don't own guns. It's mostly just a very annoying and vocal minority.

It sounds like you already know what is good for yourself and what to do, and you're just looking for affirmation. It's these kind of crucial moments in life where we should have the strength to follow our intuition and carry though with a decision to it's end. Cutting them out completely (in every material way like you're describing) would basically be the final nail in the coffin for you to heal. That is if you've considered all the good/bad reasons it would be a wise move, which it seems you have. Sometimes there is nothing worth correcting or any amends that need to be made, and it's best to just let go. After you take this final step you can truly move forward. It can feel sad and stir up other emotions, but it's the price you pay and eventually those feelings will fade and you'll have developed. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

A big realization that helped me get over the final hump was learning about what the ego is, and why people (egos) behave the way they do. It's really hard to take things so personally when you realize most people in the world are just NPCs acting reactively and have such simple, crude motivations. Now whenever I'm reminded of a bully from a long time ago, I actually pity them. They didn't know any better.

If you think North American cities are quiet, spacious, and free of pollution, have you got another thing coming lol. Most cities in the US/Canada are depressing, ill-placed, neon-lit slabs of concrete that are an affront the beauty of this Earth. Uncharitable spaces for pedestrians, inefficient roads, completely uninspired architecture. Ugh. I've driven across this entire continent, and I found most cities are like when you're exploring a hot woman's body for the first time, and you come across an unsightly mole or a scab.

To sum it up with various points without a lot of detail; - Asia has better agricultural practices and/or land for it, civilization has been in Asia much longer (like thousands of years) so economic systems have had longer time to develop. Food = Stability. - South America and Africa (and NA) were exploited the worst by colonization. Slavery was pervasive, ethnic genocides happened. Asia was colonized as well but the Asian people had far higher degrees of autonomy under European rule, similar to the Middle East. - Particularly the "Scramble for Africa" in the 1800's was incredibly destabilizing. The continent was ruthlessly carved up and the societies there were exploited for the purpose of exporting raw materials back to Europe that they didn't have or didn't want to do on their own. The post colonial time has been Africa playing catch up from having their development stunted. A lot of the nations in Africa aren't even real nations based on ethnic groupings or geographical borders, they are just arbitrary lines set up from former powers. - There also seems to be some kind of difference in value systems between cultures of Hispanic (Spain/Portugal) vs Northern European (Britain/France/Netherlands) former colonizers (Protestant vs Catholic) and their belief systems that has had an impact on levels of corruption and economic development when you compare North America vs Central/South America. I don't know exactly what the answer is here because I'm not educated enough, but I also don't think it's a coincidence either. - Asian cultures generally seem to be deeply collectivist too in comparison which makes a difference. It's a really complicated topic and there are many historical factors that spill into why things are the way they are today. The only judgement I can feel safe making is that when there is economic and political stability there is a trend of people being less likely to commit crime as there no reason to. When you don't have to worry about where your next meal is coming from, having some sort of work, or worrying about your government collapsing to corruption, you don't need to commit crime to get ahead in life. Basic needs met = no crime.