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I'm gonna pick a bit at this, just to challenge that your schedule may not be as rigid as you think. 8-10 = The assignments (if you can) I would move into your 2nd half of the day with your other studying time. It should only take about 30 mins to go through a couple emails and eat a small breakfast. 11-1 = You are walking leaving home and then coming back for a shower? Why not shower in the morning or before you leave? Also you could get a bicycle, it x4 faster than walking. Exercise + time saver. 5:30-7:30 is a long time for meditation and dinner. I would maybe cut your afternoon and studying in time in two, have half of it when you get home from work after a small 30 min break to meditate, 1 hr for dinner, then the rest of night for studying/assignments. 12-1 = I would meditate in this time to help you sleep better, instead of phone stuff. Just some ideas to optimize, not trying to be too critical

Great to have that goal. Is any of that time you're putting towards it excess though? Do you think you could you accomplish more if you had solid rest, so you could accomplish more when you are doing that work?

It sounds like you are putting a lot of extra pressure on yourself, why is that?

The typical narrative would advocate you need to get out and experience things because you are in your prime age for having the energy to do so, but I am going to challenge that narrative and say you are actually SO young that you have the time to exercise some patience and be strategic about things. Take 6,8,10,12 months to work your ass off and save money at home while you contemplate what you desire and plan your next move. You said you just came back, so unless your living situation is toxic and detrimental, what's the hurry to get up and leave already? Ultimately you are going to have to make your own decision, and will have to navigate through that. Just be sure to balance your pragmatism and intuition together. Good luck !

What's this doc called? I'm interested. For all his flaws, you can't take away that he is a very unique person. Personally I don't focus on his political takes or personal life at all, I just find him to be a great artist. I find myself binging his music at least once a year. 808's & Heartbreak is *chefs kiss*

As far as I've read you mentioned they were donations. Saying that it's a scam implies you were a victim and therefore not responsible for your actions. Care to elaborate?

I agree. Most places/forums on the internet are quite judgmental and not remotely as open minded. This place might be unpolished and not perfectly cut, but it's still a jewel in an ocean of coal.

I physically recoiled like I just ate a grapefruit when I read this

Well this explains a lot

All sex work does this to some degree, can you elaborate on the distinction between OnlyFans and other sex work? OnlyFans doesn't seem that corrupt to me, at least not anymore than any other kind of sex market. If anything it's at least safer for the providers because they aren't on the streets. They are just meeting a demand, even if it is an unhealthy and exploitative one, like alcohol or junk food.

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Of course they can. However it's also a part of the reality we live in where nature kind of magnetizes us towards fucking each other lol.

He was doing it for free for years, he only started to charge because he wanted to make it his full time job.

I messaged him over the phone yesterday, not impossible, but very likely he's never coming back. Would you?

I wanted to hold my tongue today, but I can't, it's fucking insufferable. I am extremely disheartened by some of the comments and negativity I've seen in this thread. To see this kind of treatment towards one of the largest, most positive cornerstones of this community is about as surprising as it is disappointing. I guess the meat brings out the wolves though. Perhaps my expectations of this place are too high.

Click on your name in the top right, then go to "account settings", it's in there.

Represent.

I will say my two cents on Nahm's coaching. He always told me exactly what I needed to hear, the x-factor being whether or not I was truly ready to digest it. It wasn't until some months or a year later went by in some cases, where I would contemplate again and have my mind fucking blown away.

This is not what I expected to wake up to.... Nahm is one of the wisest and purist people I've ever met, and has helped me more than I can repay. That exchange with Leo via PM looks a little odd, that he would insist on using such language when confronted about it. I've talked to him several times via zoom/phone, and his communication style there is very easy going, peaceful, and understandable. I'm not sure why the contrast between that style and the style of his text is the way it is, only he can answer that and I respect him not to make assumptions or false conclusions about that choice, whether deliberate or not. I do understand why it can be frustrating for newer people and those not familiar with him, not understanding what he is talking about sometimes. To explain or talk about spirituality and other esoteric concepts there seems to be an additional layer of language needed, which is not common in most mainstream cultures around the world. The problem is text is just inherently limiting, and it's easy to misinterpret a message, an emotional state, or someone's intention. We can all work on our communication, at the very least to hold it back from being destructive. Everyone has their way of bringing their perspective to the table. All I'll say on the matter is while somewhat cryptic, I believe Nahm's messages largely innocuous and of loving intent. In the future I hope there is a moment where these two bridges can be built together again.

If you are going to see her again, make sure you plan something fun. DO not bring up what happened unless she seriously presses you on it, even then just try to brush it off casually. Pretend you don't even remember. Don't give her a reason to feel anxious or self conscious, and she'll feel safe. You should be able to close with this frame. Good luck!

Low quality.

Oh definitely I had my phase as well but moved through it a while ago, I'm still subbed on YouTube but I'll be honest I don't even watch his videos anymore lol. I can't even remember the last one I watched, I think it was, "The Trap of the Toxic Life Purpose"? not sure. Whenever that came out around that time I stopped watching. I just like sticking around the forum for the community and because I love you guys

I also agree marriage is incredibly overrated and the cons outweigh the pros (for men), I don't need the gubberment to validate how committed I am to my partner.

Great! You'd be surprised. Don't let your presence in self-help communities give you rose-colored glasses. A lot of "normie" men are incredibly shallow. They just want to get their dick wet, first and foremost. I think you are misinterpreting my post too narrowly. I made it short and hip-fired because it was in response to a very simple thread. I don't think my theory is that dumb, let me explain. Of course (the majority) of guys don't want a girlfriend just for the physical/sex aspect, but it's a significant factor. Let's just be casual and make up some numbers and divide them evenly to illustrate what I meant to get at, but maybe didn't explain in that short post. There are usually a few groupings of vague reasons that a guy will want a girlfriend; - Pragmatic, Financial, Logistical (sharing resources, buying a home with someone, having someone to drive you around, take care of you when sick, etc.) - Friendship, Interpersonal, Emotional Support, Intimacy (having someone to do things with, cheerlead you in career, listen to your struggles, accept you in a deeper way than friends typically can) - Sex, Physical Pleasure, Family Creation (steady supply of sex which is a base need, the benefits of physical connection for stress relief, having someone to potentially create a baby with) I definitely missed some things but those are the basic groupings off the top of my head for what I think most guys think when they think of having a girlfriend/wife/partner. Now different guys will value different groups, but for the sake of simplicity let's say the average of all preferences makes each one an even 33%. So if a guy is getting 25% of those things met by himself, or whatever number, a significant number, through sex toys, porn, and so on. Don't you agree that will take away from the urgency or willpower to face their demon and do the work on their of social/relationship skills? That's kind of what I'm getting at, I hope you understand my POV from what I said here. The more things that help men avoid and distract them from their issue, the worse off they'll be. That's why sex toys getting better and better is kind of dangerous for them, because they become pseudo-replacements for the real thing. If you do some research there is an alarming problem in Japan with this. Their country is basically rotting from cripplingly low birth rates, a crisis of intimacy because of technological dependence, toxic culture of overworking etc. It's pretty messed up if you learn about it. They have such an unusually open post-liberal relationship with sex, you can see the consequences of moving past tradition too fast. It's a breeding ground for super-incels. I actually understand now why there is an obsession with Japanese culture now from incels and weebs online, and why their behaviors are barreling towards imitating them so much lol.

Look, it's bullshit and the game is rigged against guys. But when you do finally get the girl you will forget about all the sludge and barbed wire you had to crawl through to get there, trust me.