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There isn't really much of any attraction to "lose" if you haven't even been on a date yet. Maybe text her the night before saying you're excited for tomorrow, or start some sort of interesting conversation or share a story that you'll finish when you meet in person to keep their interest. The real killer is texting too much and burning them out before they even meet you. If they agreed to go on a date and plans are made to be somewhere, it's unlikely they'll cancel. I've been on probably 100+ dates by now over the years, I can't recall a single time a girl has cancelled a date on me. Perhaps I'm just lucky idk.

Keep in mind we are in the age of peak relativity and sensitivity. It's considered offensive to point out she isn't healthy nor beautiful for being overweight (minus her face). Culturally we have shifted into a space of enabling people to mutilate their bodies or ignore taking care of their health because it's seen as imposing to point out things that may be considered facts, like how she will probably have heart disease issues and become a burden on the medical system in her 40s, 50s and so on. I'm not saying we should berede her or that the culture is particularly flawed. We just don't have the same perception of health as we used to.

@Danioover9000 Sorry man I don't really have an answer. It's just a flaw of mine, I personally don't have an issue with piracy.

I wanted to get a gauge of people's experiences in life here. Now that I've been through a handle of relationships and have some data to reflect on, I've realized for me personally it's been WAY harder to be the one doing the dumping. When someone has broken up with me it has had an element of surprise to it, so while it hurts it feels a bit like an unlucky event that you just have to get through. Kind of like falling off your bike or getting in a small fender bender. You just pick yourself up, learn what you can and move on. Being the one doing the breaking up however I've noticed is much harder. You know that you are going to probably hurt the other person, and you have to carefully plan what you're going to say and how to soften the blow, as well as pick a time and location to anticipate and dread. You've also got to overcome the urge to go easy on them and say no if they start to bargain. The entire experience is just shit.

This is a really great point yeah. When I made the decision to let someone go it felt exactly like the right choice at the time, but your perception isn't the same over time so you come back to revisit it. While anytime I've been let go I haven't had a single inclination to try and get them back.

You can have continuous, multiple, repeated orgasms' as a guy. It just takes some body awareness and training of the pelvic/prostate muscles. It's not likely to happen on accident with stimulation from a partner, you'll probably have to masturbate on your own to find out how to do it. I've had 3-4 in a few minute span and it's amazing, it takes some control, I had to direct my girlfriend during the blowjob like a drill sergeant I don't know why you'd want to orgasm without finishing though, sounds kind of stupid and potentially painful/damaging to your body. It naturally wants to release that fluid for a reason.

I understand the point you are making, but it's hard to digest it seriously when you're conflating listening to music or watching a movie "illegally" to slavery and human trafficking. Everything has a moral grey area or relativity to it, and sometimes our laws don't reflect them all accurately. I know it's a rationalization but I'm not perfect. I have mostly been poor/lower class my entire life, so I'm not losing sleep over listening to music I haven't paid for.

If so many people are doing it, should it really be illegal? Most media content is stolen or copied to some degree. More than half of Youtube is just people redistributing content they didn't make.

It's kind of amusing sometimes how the truth is so offensive but so simple.

No clue. I haven't paid for media since like 2006 when I used to collect CD's lol. I've pirated probably $20,000 worth of material since then. Internet is a glorious thing.

Don't sell yourself short, you come off as the most chad motherfucker here.

LOL. Yea as if anyone but an Alpha can be charismatic. This is what I was talking about with the labels and concepts being nonsense, it's you who is confused, not me.

You'd be amazed the quality of girl you could get on charisma and social skill alone. You talk as if getting anything less than an "8" is an abject failure.

Are you talking marketing as in your appearance/status? Or marketing as in being able to sell yourself verbally? The first one doesn't really matter. You could be a celebrity, but if you have autistic social skills almost no women are going to put up with that. Unless of course they just want to take advantage of you materially.

@Knowledge Hoarder Even the Alpha/Beta stuff is just more nonsense labels and distractions. It all comes down to communication skills. You can have all the positive traits or any personality in the world. If you are a bad communicator you'll never convince a women to sleep with you or get into a relationship. You can be a skinny homeless "beta" and still get girls if you can communicate decently. It's the only skill that scales results regardless of everything else.

There is nothing special about religion, they are archaic mind viruses that naturally arose from evolution to keep simple minded people under control so birth rates and society remained relatively stable, and to keep us reverting to our natural animalistic and chaotic state (which is to simply rape the mates we desire and kill our competitors). It's no longer helpful in the modern pluralistic world. Unless you live in an underdeveloped stage blue or lower society, then it's probably still relevant and necessary yes. Of course you do. Stop lying to yourself.

lol you lost me.

Yea I realized from a young age that most porn really sucks and isn't very realistic. Even during the first time I ever watched porn at 11 years old, way before I ever had sex myself I had an intuition, "this can't really be what sex is like right?" The some years later I confirmed it for myself. While women are put on pedestals and the core thing that drives the sex industry, it's still essentially dominated by men and because it's a business it needs to make money. Most of the customers are low consciousness men, so the majority of the product is going to be tailored to what they want. Which is why most porn is male-centric, fake, and just unrealistic fantasies. It's a reflection of our misogynistic culture really. It's slowly starting to change in a healthier direction with consent being a bigger topic within the industry, but there is a long way to go. Personally I don't watch porn videos. I can't take it seriously because of how fake and unrealistic it is. It destroys the immersion. For the past 15 years I've basically only been using pictures. I just find galleries of models I like and then use my imagination. It also saves a ton of time. I'm not watching a 36 minute video with horrible acting and some poor girl pretending to orgasm .

2 things; - Men are like bears, they seem big and scary but they are just as scared of you (if not more) as you are of them I promise you. - Are you seeking their validation and attention, because you aren't able to validate yourself?

Who cares if you're deluded or become deluded. It's not a big deal, everyone is doing it in their own way anyways. As long as you're not actively hurting yourself or anybody, and the world isn't worse off because of you. Then what is there to worry about? "Delusion" doesn't even exist or that accurate a term in my opinion. There are just perspectives that are relative to other perspectives. Heck if you aren't becoming deluded here or there I don't think you're really trying. It's a symptom of attempting to make progress and change. It's ok to misstep (just don't fall off a cliff).

I've also struggled with this. Look, ultimately you've got to find a balance between being patient waiting for the exact thing you want to come along (or an approximation of it) vs enjoying life and taking what is right in front of you. Going too far in either one direction or the other won't leave you very satisfied. If you compromise (or abandon) your integrity too much you'll have plenty of sex and experiences, but most of it won't be that quality and you probably won't be fulfilled. On the other hand if you close yourself off with being too picky and maintaining high integrity, life will pass you by without waiting and you'll feel lonely. I suggest appreciating these and checking in with your intuition every so often to negotiate what you feel is best for you at each chapter of life you're in. At the start of last year I got into a relationship I knew wasn't going to work long term from the very moment it began, but it burned hot and bright for a few months and was quite enjoyable for both of us. Yea I had to sacrifice a bit of my integrity and rules to make it happen, but it was worthwhile and in the end I'm glad it happened. Life is short.

Yeah, it's called being a man on a dating app LOL.

There are really only two ages; Alive or Dead So no reason to feel insecure or panic. We're all in the same boat. It's completely irrational to be worry about age.

The man himself already said it^ but yeah. It's nice having his videos and work standing on it's own. Not everybody has to participate in the culture circus. The world is going to chug along regardless.

I'm not denying your experience. If it makes you feel tired or guilty or whatever else then that is how you feel, and I believe you. My point has been that your experiences are partly informed by your beliefs and attitudes towards something, which can be flawed or misinformed. You have to be open to those possibilities if you want to be able to change your relationship to things. The thing is nobody will be able to dictate exactly what is healthy for you, you'll have to discover that on your own. You will never be "sure" just by listening to others. You'll find clarity by gathering a bunch of experiences (healthy AND unhealthy) and then returning to a place of contemplation whereby you round yourself out.