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Because transgenderism is actually tenable but transracialism is mental insanity and mostly people just trolling. The only argument I've seen that makes sense for it is if someone "culturally" feels like they are another race, but race and culture don't correlate with each other perfectly. People will adopt the culture they are born in even if their skin colour is an extreme minority.

Both those countries conquered a lot of land and peoples over their history to be the size they are now, and to control it they had to take more of an iron fist approach. They couldn't exactly afford to maintain their countries by giving their own people a lot of freedoms, and allowing every ethnicity feeing it has it's own sense of autonomy, or those countries would fracture with separatist movements and those in power would lose their power (which of course those with power hate). Meanwhile historically nations like France and Britain, and even the US have done extremely well and had the luxury of giving freedom of speech because they are quite ethically homogenous, though sometimes they achieved that through brutal means. A lot of Russians and Chinese I'm sure in this day and age with the internet are aware of how shit a hand they've been dealt when they look at the rest of the world, but it's not exactly easy to change things with such oppressive governments. And it's not exactly easy to just pack up and leave either.

Oh I'm not dismissing it, there are some very real problems going on. It's just to bring it up as analogous to fascism is well, insane.

You know my great grandpa on my moms side fought for the Nazis, he was a pilot in the Luftwaffe. I also have blond hair and blue eyes......... oh god it's all coming together! I'm a fascist NAZI! I just looked over at my drapes, giant swastikas everywhere! HELP !

So am I a denialist or am I phobic? Because I can't be both at the same time, are you aware of how non-sensical this is?

Jesus Christ. If you can't even realize the distinction between social dynamics vs what people internally believe then you are too uneducated to even be discussing the topic. You just want to get off on being morally superior. I can't be bothered indulging as it's boring as fuck, so I'm dipping. Peace.

No, transphobic would be deliberately misgendering someone, which I don't do. Or actively protesting or voting against their rights, which I don't do. In fact I've only ever voted for the most socially progressive party in my country (NDP). Nice try though! That's what is happening as much as people may hate to admit it. It's also a good thing btw, peace is better than no peace. There are even trans people (the ones without disphoria) who THEMSELVES don't believe or admit they are actually the opposite sex gender. They deliberately make the changes and want to be referred to as "trans" because they want acknowledgement of the accomplishment of having done the work to make the transition from one > to the other. There isn't even a full consensus amount progressives about this. The condescension and gaslighting ain't coming from me. So you can either engage logically with the points I made, or continually call me a transphobe for not believing what you do. Up to you guys.

@bejapuskas If you aren't intelligent or nuanced enough to parse my position vs actual transphobia, you are completely lost and this conversation is over.

What is yours?

I'm not sure why @Arcangelo is getting points but @Christoph Werner wouldn't when they essentially said the same thing..... I don't think either of them should get points as it's not explicitly bigoted although Arc can be provocative and stubborn sometimes. Anyways I think the problem is people are getting mixed up about sex/gender and their relation, and also because progressives are pushing so aggressively for inclusion we are expected to not only just call transwomen "women", but actually believe they are fully women. Which of course is a rather new and radical thing, and can even be offensive to some as it runs counter to their traditional frame of reality, that most billions of people are operating under by the way encase you forgot. For the sake of social cohesion it makes sense to refer to them as women (or men/non-binary etc.) if they ask, but no amount of gaslighting or shaming is going to force people to change what they believe to be the case. What someone believes is a woman can vary heavily from case to case. In my personal opinion, a woman is a human that can give birth (as well as other traits). If you can't grow a birth a baby you simply do not meet my personal definition. That's the most important criteria to me, others are more subjective. They are "women" in so far as how much they pass for a women by the standards that people set out for it, but the whole phrase "transwomen are women" is already a flawed and nonsensical on it's face, although I think most understand the spirit of it trying to be a slogan that promotes inclusivity. By saying "transwomen" you are already by definition using language to refer to something distinct and seperate from "women", the meaning of which would be someone who was a man before, and we are to understand they are transitioning/transexual. Different words have different meanings, they both can't mean the same thing and we can't just rape peoples mind with relative concepts constantly and expect everyone to understand. You can't have your cake and eat it too, so to speak. They aren't the same thing, we are only pretending they are because society will run better if we do. Which is a good thing, and I support it fully. I hate that I even have to use this defense but I'm sure some people reading this might make some assumptions about me from this post - I have trans friends. I treat them with respect and call them whatever they ask and give them whatever emotional support they need. I've never misgendered on purpose and would never think too, because I'm not an asshole (or at least I like to think so). However no amount of bullying or social ostracization is going to make me literally believe a transwoman is an actual woman, as I imagine it won't change most peoples minds. I'm sorry if that offends you but it's just the case. We are going to need a new strategy to talk about this stuff, because as it stands the progressive modus operandi of cramming things down peoples throats and expecting them to swallow it is a pretty trash strategy, especially when it goes against their very basic sense making apparatus.

I agree. All the sex I've had without romance is basically just masturbating using another persons body. Casual sex is highly overrated, even when it's good.

Drinks lots of water before you have sex, if you feel like you have to pee it will be a lot harder to orgasm. This trick has made me last an hour of funkytime!

Don't you live in India? Isn't the air pollution in some cities so bad breathing the air is like smoking cigarettes anyways? You should probably quit the vape if you can too my man. Lung damage takes literal years off your life.

That's their job to sell that idea. They aren't going to get people to click on their videos being objective and truthful. Nobody listens to the wisest and most objective people, because most people are too stupid and ideological to accept any reality beyond their own scope. For example people LOVE scientists when they make smartphones and medicine and other gadgets, but when those scientists point out we've been running an out of control experiment and cooking the planet for 200 years they say, "shut the fuck up nerd, go make my computer run faster." Stop listening to other people and think yourself. You're probably way smarter than you give yourself credit for.

It gets worse everytime I read it. This stuff it unacceptable. I hope this is just a troll post because if this is actually happening to you you need to get her out of your life ASAP. None of this happens in a normal functional relationship. Go find one because this ain't it.

You should have said "we never were". Anyways, this sounds like she is abusing the relationship. I'm guessing the situation might be even worse than what you're willing to share. I would break up with her. When people play games with you like this don't put up with it - ever.

The truth is you have no control over what they may or may not do, but you do have control over how you perceive that vulnerability. The more open and trusting you are of your partner, the more they will appreciate you and won't want to abuse that trust. It's counter-intuitive. You will gain the most strength by completely letting go and opening up to the possibility something will go wrong.

What are you doing where you're seeing guys kiss and have sex with each other enough that it's a problem for you lol?

I don't see why you'd have to tell them, but if the topic came up I'm sure they'd appreciate the honesty. It's not something that's worth much energy worrying about, just deal with it if it comes up in whatever way you need to. There is a first time for everything right? I didn't tell the first girl I was with I was a virgin, and I got the sense she didn't care either way. I just pretended I knew what I was doing and had a good time

probably some sort of maintenance, not a big deal

Either she committed some sort of crime(s) and it's interesting, or it's not. I don't want to watch an entire documentary just to find out "Teal Swan is a mean bitch to her employees and peers like Ellen Degenerates."

What did she do? Is she running an abusive sex cult on some rural Indiana farm, is she scamming people of thousands of dollars for fake courses?

Being good at texting isn't that important other than it helps you secure dates. On the other hand though if you are terrible at texting and really dry/boring than it can hurt your chances, as you won't even got an opportunity for a date in the online dating world.

1. Don't have sex with anybody you don't want to. 2. Don't overanalyze about things having to be perfect, whether it's an experience or the girl you're with.

Yes it's critical to spend time getting to know different kinds of people and finding out which personalities/lifestyles you are most/least compatible with, it also helps you get to know yourself more. You might have one relationship that lasts a year or a few and seems good, but it will end and the next thing might be 10x better (or worse). Getting experience is key. You don't want to end like most people who are in shit relationships. People wonder why marriages collapse so often, despite all the hype around the commitment and spending tens of thousands of dollars to show how big of a deal it is. It's because people get lazy and settle with the first person they find, then they find out a few years down the road it was the wrong person but they had no idea because they didn't gain any experience before making such a massive investment like marriage. Don't be like most people.