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I came to this realization some time ago, I don't even watch the videos or am able to find the utility of this stuff anymore. My mental health has become so damaged it will likely be years before I'm even in the position to digest any Actualized or personal development stuff again. That is if I even survive that long.

Sorry, discussion that promotes pointless stereotyping isn't suitable for the forum.

It's a lot easier to get sex/relationships for women, it's just finding the right partner that's the problem. Imagine being a good looking girl, you have hundreds of guys approaching you, and somehow you have to figure out which ones are worth the time and which aren't.

Try to get through your ailment/illness taking as minimal anti-biotics as you can. They are bad for your long term health as your body builds a resistance to them, and it can come back to haunt you when you get old and have to take them again. As for getting your microbiome back that will happen naturally. Eat healthy, sleep well.

This is why I appreciate Leo limiting his engagement with his audience to just recorded videos and forum discussion. Opening things up to real life encounters (especially frequent ones) is like opening up a can of worms to a whole list of potentially messy and dangerous situations. A lot of people that get drawn into spiritual communities are vulnerable, unstable, and frankly (sorry to sound harsh) bat shit crazy. Gathering them all in one place for extended periods of time is a risky approach, and if it's a full blown living situation that's just so irresponsible it's bordering on insane. At least to me. Meetings, retreats, and events should be limited to a few times a year for short durations that last a few days or a week. They are just so ripe for abuse, drama, and a place for cults to fester and grow. Community is important but it can easily turn into a dependency, and it disposes some level of responsibility. From what I understand being with others too much kind of distracts from the "spirit" of spirituality, which is to seek out insight and develop as an individual. Just my two pennies.

Leave her and find someone else dude. You deserve to be happy, there are so many potential relationships out there for you where you can fall in love all over again and get everything you want. What are you going to do, stay in this trash relationship where you're constant in pain and doubting things? Where she has already cheated and said she never really loved you? THIS is your biggest problem here. You lack imagination and have tunnel vision blinding you to everything else out there. You need to free yourself from these binds. You are 29. This is the prime age to get back out there.

This seems kind of unusual if you are young, eat well, and take care of your body. I don't want this to sound offensive but have you considered you've lost some attraction to your girlfriend, and you just haven't admitted it? Are there any issues in your relationship?

If he is a great guy and treating you well, I would suggest taking the initiative and making a move next time like kissing him or having a more intimate date. It might make the relationship flourish and he'll open up to you more and it might garner some attraction within you. It can be really hard to read women sometimes, you might be sending out confusing signals and/or his temperament might be that he doesn't want to be too aggressive or forward out of risk of making a mistake or offending you. Whereas toxic or very masculine guys won't hesitate with this because they either don't care or are unaware. As general advice though I'd say if you aren't that attracted to someone early on it's better to just move on and find someone you are attracted to.

Go get your own nookie dude.

Free speech.

Realize that nothing lasts. This is all just temporary, so enjoy the ride.

Yea there is no way the people there don't look exactly like the fedora tipping neckbeard meme, except they seem a lot more bitter.

Alcohol is probably the best substance to micro-dose for interacting with women. It's called liquid courage for a reason

I don't blame you, the entire system is fucked. It feels like the anti-thesis of the human spirit. People scratch and claw and work themselves to death to reach the "dream" of passive income/retirement which just = standing on/oppressing those less fortunate than you. It's just modern civilized slavery. It's not really feasible to change or break the system because most are too hopelessly brainwashed into maintaining it, there is too much resistance. Your only option is to participate as little as possible while in it, or relocate somewhere where you won't feel it's effects as much. That's getting increasingly harder and harder though. Human population is out of control and infecting everything. Even where I live on Vancouver Island which is supposed to be a bastion of hippy living, sustainability, and environmentalism things are getting bad. All of those things are getting pushed out socially or priced out by the machine of capitalism. I live in one of the most affordable towns on the island and homelessness is rampant. You can't drive 5 minutes without seeing people pushing shopping carts around, and nobody gives a fuck it's just accepted as "normal".

If she brought it up you should neg/tease her, set a strong frame. When women do this you have to one up them and demonstrate competence/wit. Of course this is all context dependent, there is no one size fits all response. As a general rule I would double down on how you're feeling and what your intentions are. Don't cow tow or try to please women by just going along and morphing to whatever you think will make them happy, that's an attraction killer. Idk if any of this is helpful it's hard to give an answers without specifics.

Crypto is just a meme and a fad driven by the social hysteria of our stupid materialistic culture. After 5 years I have yet to see an actual explanation of it's real world utility without people jerking off over some convoluted circular reasoning. I'm not pro or anti crypto btw, people can do whatever they want with it. I'm just enjoying laughing at the whole thing. Humans are hilarious.

As a rule lighting stuff on fire and inhaling the smoke byproduct generally isn't healthy no lmao.

I usually have a rule about distance if it's too far, but I made an exception for a girl last year because she seemed really interesting. She lived in Vancouver (city), while I lived on Vancouver Island. It felt novel because each time we saw each other it was an entire trip with lots of anticipation and excitement, but I had to cut things off because yeah it just wasn't sustainable. Hundreds of dollars to see each other each time and the idea of one of us relocating completely wasn't realistic. A shame. I haven't hit it off or had personalities blend with anybody as well as I did with her. You can't win them all sadly.

I think your problem is more fundamental than getting a girlfriend (whether they are hot or not). Forget the relationship/sex stuff for now and work on getting help for your mental health. Don't put the cart before the horse, or you'll just waste a lot of time.

You'd probably agree those thoughts are problematic. Focus on how to be in a place you can get rid of those thoughts, or they don't show up in the first place. Most people in relationships aren't dwelling on how the relationship isn't perfect or how they could do better or worse. They are just enjoying it.

What about you though. Why wouldn't you feel those things too?

Kind of a stupid ass thing to be worrying about. Everybody is helplessly born into the body they have, so it's not worth wasting energy feeling sorry for how you look, or judging/feeling envious of others for their bodies. You can still groom yourself and exercise/eat well to influence your physical "hotness" as well, so it's not completely out of your control. That's where your energy should go. Why is being hot so important to you? Yeah it's nice, but it doesn't matter THAT much. There are plenty of hot people that are garbage human beings, so what does it matter how hot they are if you wouldn't want to spend time around them? See how easily the value you're putting in it breaks down?

You need to break up with him, like cut it cold. That's the mature thing to do that will save you both future pain and time. Share how you feel and your uncertainties, and accept the possibility you might come off as an asshole while doing it. Being with someone you aren't attracted to is a waste of your time and theirs, and it's insulting too. Like how deep are you going to go into this relationship until you are confronted in some moment and have to look into his eyes and say you never really felt that much for him? That kind of thing can be devastating and completely avoidable if you just bite the bullet now. This isn't an arranged marriage. You aren't obligated to stick around for years to stoke a fire and build a relationship from ground zero attraction. What you need is to be actively dating and screening for guys that make you go head over heels, and discard the rest (nicely). If you aren't sure that you like them or want to be with them by date 2 or 3 you simply need to move on.

China's influence will grow for sure but there isn't much of a chance for this at all. I'm sure some people will adopt it for economic reasons but China isn't going to have the kind of impact Great Britain or the US had on the rest of the world in terms of domination. China is far too isolationist and xenophobic to spread around that kind of cultural/soft power. I was generally bullish on China's future of becoming a superpower but the more I learn the less bullish I am. They have some REAL problems to deal with soon. Their demographics are going to cause apocalyptic strain and they don't take in nearly enough immigrants to compensate.