Roy

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  1. I mean 9/10 people will be "happy" if they are materially well off and don't have to worry about resources. However it doesn't mean you will be fulfilled or deeply satisfied. In fact all the money in the world can't guarantee happiness. Nothing (No thing) can. Existence is far too magical and elegant to be insulted by reducing it to any equation.
  2. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, everyone was one at some point. As you get older though it seems to lose it's appeal. When I was 16 sleeping with a virgin would have been the greatest thing ever, and was the goal then. Now that I'm older it's not exactly enticing, it just means they won't be good and also have no idea what they like or want. The "No hymen no diamond" thing and obsessive urge that Red Pill morons spread about only wanting to be with virgins is just a modern circling back to patriarchal sexist traditions of religions like Islam and Christianity. It's just a selfish preference that shames women and upholds a double standard that men should get off scot free to do whatever they want and women can't.
  3. As you get older you realize caring about age is the most irrational waste of energy ever. We are all going to age and die anyways. You really are only as young or old as you feel or choose to believe about yourself. Don't be like everyone else groupthinking, and missing out on life worrying about what you "can" or "can't" do because of a number on your birth certificate. Just do what you wanna do.
  4. You're feeling exactly how you oughta feel about it, but it's the authentic and healthy thing to do. The wrong thing would be to drag out hope and lead them on because you're too scared to reject them. Love hurts sometimes, like everything it has a cost.
  5. I've never really loved myself. In fact I've hated myself for as long as I can remember, it's taken me 29 years to learn that path is simply untenable though. So now I've got to go in the opposite direction of learning to love myself, since there is really no other choice. I'll save this page as a resource for myself on this journey, thank you @Ethan1.
  6. That happens when a girl is nervous and their body is reacting to that nervousness. Even if she can logically say to you in English "everything is fine", it's not. You need to both get in a more relaxed state, and have plenty of foreplay. She says she doesn't like fingering? Honestly too bad, you need to tell her she needs to be fingered anyways so you're starting her with something small. Instead of going straight to sex. My ex had this happen to her as well. We had sex probably hundreds of times, but I remember 2-3 occasions where her lady parts "locked up" like what you're describing where she was so tight it was actually painful for me too, not just her. So we stopped and tried another day. Don't freak out about it, just be patient and try again later.
  7. Emotionally compromised woman who sells her body for money to literally millions of people somehow ended up in a complicated abusive relationship? Colour me shocked.
  8. I'm gonna start my own overblown pseudo-intellectual trend called NoBreathe, to share the many intricate benefits to health from holding your breathe and denying your body oxygen. In fact, if you hold it indefinitely you can cure all diseases and ailments, permanently! Just teasing btw.
  9. This will probably require some deeper work to find out what the problem is, but for now you need a quick fix so get some Viagra or something if you can. Don't think of it as anything wrong with you, it happens to every guy at one point or another in their life. Sometimes the little solider just doesn't salute. Next time you're with her make sure you clear a lot of time to have sex. Have a chill night, watch a movie and cuddle. Maybe give each other massages as that will help you both relax and undo any tension you have in your body. Give it some more time and be patient, but if it's not happening after like 3 or 4 more dates consider you might not be as attracted to her as you thought and might need to find a different girl. You shouldn't have to force anything.
  10. I don't know if fits within their goals contexts, but I am working towards and training to become a Wildland Firefighter certified in the province of British Columbia. So I can at least feel like I'm doing something personally to prevent further damage and help restore the environment to a better state in the face of inevitable negative climate changes.
  11. Saw this band in Victoria in May, they exceeded all expectations. Best $140 I ever spent, front row seat.
  12. Our economic systems are pyramid schemes built on exploitation with black holes at the bottom and top. If you don't have a lot of money you ironically have to pay more for not having a lot, and if you have a lot of money you get more simply for having it. Then there is everyone else in the middle desperately trying to avoid the bottom and standing on each other to get to the top. It's up to us to figure out how to reform the system in a conscious manner.
  13. @The0Self Fucking multiple girls at a time and having a "rotation" of different people in the same week is kind of an unethical thing to do, especially if they are recurring women and not one offs from a bar. If you don't know why it's unethical consider the fact you need to consciously hide what you're doing from each woman, as if any of them found out or you honestly told them they were just a name on a wheel, you'd get slapped in the face and probably make them cry. Not to mention how insanely reckless that is with diseases. You could pick something up not knowing and spread it much faster than you can get tested. Condoms aren't even good protection. If your goal is to just purely have fun or cover up some insecurity by upping your body count go ahead. Just consider how much you're gambling with other peoples health and emotions.
  14. Depends on how often you want to be going out with girls? I wouldn't spend more than between $15-40 on a first date including travel costs. Typically though you want to be creative and find stuff you can do for free so if they don't want to see you again it doesn't hurt your wallet. At least 75% of the girls you meet won't want to see you for a 2nd date, so be prepared for that. I was spending around $150-300 a month last year in the summer when I was hardcore dating. Meeting 2-6 girls per month. It adds up quick so make sure you have some expendable income.
  15. It's generally not a good idea to push for first date sex anyways. It's kind of disrespectful to the woman, and can sub-communicate a couple things; - You are just looking for a hole to fuck, don't care to spend time to know them that well if at all (fuckboy) - You are desperate/impatient, looking to close as fast as possible, pushy - Saying you want to go to their place or invite them to your place is basically saying, "I want us to have sex when we go to this place with a bed where we are alone". So when you give them another answer like, "I don't expect to have sex if we are in this place" you are giving a contradictory answer that leaves them guessing whether you're being truthful or not. That can come off as manipulative even if your intentions aren't. Once you have sex the dynamic changes on a dime - women get more attached and expect a heavier investment. Yet the guy may not be interested, and you still don't really know each other all that well if it's only the first date and a few couple hours. You've got little idea if you're a great match chemistry wise or can work logistically. You may both lose interest after a couple visits and she'll feel used. It's just better for everyone as a general rule to wait until after the 1st date for anything besides kissing. It's not like you have to wait longer than a week or two anyways, that's nothing. Not saying it should be forbidden, I mean I've had first date sex before too. If the sparks are flying everywhere then go for it. Personally I've just found it way better to wait until the 2nd meet up. I've actually rejected some girls who wanted to fuck right away, and it made them invested to meet up again. It should be kind of obvious to both parties what the plan is anyways. Are you looking to form a long term relationship or just have some fun for a short while? You better have a decent answer and be near same page cause women will get pissed if you are just being intentionally vague to use them. You've got to pick a direction and lead where things are gonna go.
  16. Is this a first date or a few dates in? You never want to suggest going to either persons place on the first date, it's too forward and plants the idea that you just want to have sex ASAP and don't really care about getting to know them. It's a good way to instantly destroy your chances with a woman. It only works if it's obvious to both of you it's just a hookup.
  17. Fret not about what other people may do, focus on what you can do to help.
  18. Even as a hardcore introvert who would rather be done with everything and float in a spacesuit in the void for eternity............,................... I have to admit life without other people is pretty shit.
  19. You need to satisfy your sexuality in a healthy reliable way, like getting a girlfriend or a fuck buddy. If you don't address it in a sustainable way your urges are going to go rampant, and you'll crave more and more taboo kinks to please yourself. It can spiral out of control, like a drug dependency. I'd consider consulting a sex therapist for a few sessions, they will be able to uncover anything you feel is off.
  20. @puporing is a good choice for mod she is good people +1
  21. @Leo Gura I am having a hard time seeing that. Why not just bury some hatchets and be more friendly towards the West/NATO so they can benefit from trade deals and stability? The people that lived through the Cold War are starting to die, and the rivalry is more of a memory. Hell it's not even the Soviet Union anymore, the countries that broke off don't even like Russia either. It makes me think of this meme. Putin - "I wanted to restore mother Russia to former glory and much power.... by starting a war that will impose crippling economic sanctions and make all your lives worse." Russian Pleb - "Good job."
  22. It's completely rational, because Russia is going to win and make territorial gains in this war. The rest of the world doesn't want to step in and escalate things, and he has Europe by the balls cutting off their gas supply for the winter. He will sacrifice whatever he thinks is necessary. He doesn't give shit how many Russians have to die lol. We can slice it however we want and count the losses, but if Putin comes out of this personally more wealthy, secure, popular, and can solidify his political control even tighter for the rest of his life before he goes senile, then that's a win in his book. Everything is expendable when you are uncontrollably selfish and power hungry. He will cast Russia's future and prosperity for the next 100 years into a bottomless pit if it means 15 more years of superyachts, women, mansions, and dominance within the country for him.
  23. @Carl-Richard At least you remember most of your night, so the brain damage couldn't have been THAT bad I blacked out during my 18th birthday party, the last thing I remember was standing with my friend smoking a cigar on his deck. I woke up the next day in my friends spare bedroom. Zero recollection of how I got there. Apparently I was functioning and fine the entire night, I never puked or passed out and we walked home together up the hill. I was hoping to hook up with a girl I liked there and get some nookie since it was my birthday, I asked him if we ever did anything and he said nothing happened. Disappointing LOL. Also the fact I missed like 70% of my 18th birthday because my brain stopped having a functioning memory. The only other experience I've had like that was when I had knee surgery and they knocked me out. One second I am on the table getting put to sleep, the next moment I wake up in the bed feeling like shit. 14 hours passed and it felt like 10 seconds for me, shattered concept of time.
  24. Smoking cigarettes/vape, don't do that. Absolutely terrible for you. If you want to smoke weed or get drunk once in a while go for it. It will loosen you up and you'll have a lot of fun. Alcohol is one of the best social lubricants there is, there is a reason they call it "liquid courage" I was quite shy when I was younger and alcohol gave me the guts to get a lot more kisses than I would have gotten otherwise. Some of my best memories as a teen were getting messed up with my friends, exploring the neighborhood at night and trying to hook each other up with girls. Those kinds of social experiences are special and crucial. If you are a hermit during those years it will fuck you in the ass later on, you could turn into one of those incels. You just have to be wise to know your own limits and pace yourself properly. Do it only every couple weekends or on special occasions, not chronically abusing substances every single friday/saturday night like a lot of people do. Despite your brain still developing at a young age, it's actually quite resilient. It would take a LOT of repeated use to stunt your growth. I know plenty of people that used pot nearly every single day as teenagers and still turned out successful competent people. Permit yourself to have fun but follow your intuition.
  25. No lol.... and yes. The thing I don't like about "pick-up" is we know the topic is a separate deliberate thing that men do, compared to the more natural unconscious interactions that happen. Would you say the average guys that get in relationships and ask women out with no knowledge of the study or culture of pick-up, are practicing it? If we don't differentiate or have a colloquial word then the whole concept seems kind of meaningless. It's just interacting with women with extra steps.