Roy
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Yea it's gotten better over time exponentially. From age 14-24ish it felt literally impossible to get a girlfriend, although I did have some success. In the past 2 years I've had over half of my total partners. It's really kind of funny. Young guys have it so rough, they are basically invisible to women LOL. Still though it feels really difficult to find the right person. I could easily settle but I'd know I'd hate myself and eventually resent them, so I have higher standards and struggle because of it.
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I can only speak for myself, but as a decent looking 29 year old guy with my life trending in a good direction - all I can say is dating is completely fucked these days. The amount of disrespect and social ineptitude I get from women on a consistent basis is insane. You can do everything right and still get screwed. You can't point it out to them either or they'll make you feel like an asshole. It takes an insane amount of work and luck to get a quality girlfriend. It's like trying to shoot an arrow through a keyhole.......... while you're on a boat in a storm in the ocean. I'm just gonna coast for a while and stop putting effort into it. The amount of juice you get for the squeeze honestly isn't worth it. You're right about spending most of your time focusing on yourself.
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I think the most annoying and pervasive problem these tech companies need to address is bots. Perhaps it's in their interest to have inflated numbers so they turn a blind eye, or maybe they don't know how to distinguish real users from bots, or even that they don't mind certain institutions or movements using bots if it aligns with their political or financial goals. It's just frustrating seeing a lot of clear disinformation and influence being spread around using bots. You go to any Youtube video and can spot them immediately, and I'm convinced 80% of the women on dating apps are bots lol. Which is kind of disgusting and unethical because they are using a collection of a real persons pictures without their consent.
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Assuming you have decently optimized the obvious things sleep, diet, and exercise like others mentioned; I would recommend going to the clinic and getting a blood test to look for iron or B12 deficiencies to make sure your levels are good. You can discuss the results with a doctor in a short appointment and what they mean. You may think you're eating properly because you feel ok and you're comfortable with it, but the issue is people are so used to their baseline homeostasis that they don't actually know what it's like to feel "good". So they never investigate deeper. Ultimately it could just mean you're busy and don't have a ton of energy. Sorry if it sounds dispassionate but a lot of people are tired all the time, life is exhausting haha. Maybe consider cutting and trimming the fat a bit in your life. Sometimes less = more.
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@Matt23 You still kickin on the island?
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I think we talked before I remember you mentioning you were from here! Campbell River I don't know much about or have an opinion, I've only been there once for a date with a girl that lived on a floating shack in the marina at Dockside Fish & Chips haha, it was a good time. You could say I "Made Waves". Also Elk Falls is fucking awesome I want to go back there. Amazing trails and the suspension bridge is cool. I'm originally from Muskoka Ontario. I'm in Duncan since I moved here. It's a decent enough place with lots of variety. It's a nice central location on the island for exploring. If I want to go to Vic or Nanaimo it's only 40ish minutes either way, and Duncan is built up enough everything I could possibly need to buy is here. My sister flames me for living here (even though she did for 7 years lmao), but I see no reason to pay an extra 40% to live in Victoria or Nanaimo for not much more benefit. It's overly populated and packed there and just nightmarishly busy for my temperament.
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I moved to a place that better aligned with my lifestyle and values (Vancouver Island). It's not pinpoint yet as I'll have to do some more research and keep living here to find the best spots, but I'm in a way better area than before. I'm more often meeting the kinds of women I like, rather than don't.
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Be who you want to be and find someone to match and compliment you. Stop trying to be someone that appealing and successful with all kinds of women, you try to please everyone and you'll please nobody.
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It might be hard at your age and financial situation, but getting your own place is really crucial. Not just for your sex life but having that independence in general is great and necessary for a good quality of life. Even having roommates can be as bad as being with your parents, you want to find a small place you can have to yourself so you can dictate everything about it and don't have to compromise your lifestyle too much. I'd say yeah sort that stuff first. Having a decent job, transportation, and place to live matter way more than game. Women are something you add into your life to compliment it, not the main course you are shaping everything for.
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It definitely helps separate you from the rest, so it's worth doing. The worst they can say is no. Online is awful, but in person it's very rare you'll catch them being rude or straight up ignoring you.
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As much as it will cost the Russia, they will likely win this war and claim a bunch of land. As the develop world isn't going to step in militarily to protect what is considered from their eyes an expendable post-soviet state. As Leo mentioned, Putin isn't long for this world. When he is gone the vacuum will leave a lot of room for chaos. I imagine the younger generation is going to make it difficult for the next appointed dictator to take his place. I also imagine the older brainwashed generation isn't too happy about all their husbands and sons that went off to die, or the stagnant economy. Whatever future has in store for Russia, it ain't pretty.
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Stop expecting women to ever give you closure or understanding, it's like trying to squeeze blood from a stone. Women (especially online) are being messaged by literally hundreds of guys in any given month, it's not worth her energy to invest the emotional responsibility to be honest with each one and explaining why she is saying no. It's much easier to just ghost or lie, unfortunately that's where our culture is at. I've only got a straight up answer like 3 times and one of them was because her aunt died a day before the 2nd date. That's how bad things have to be for you to get some kind of explanation. You just have to learn to not invest anything into the girl until you get physically intimate. The moment your lips touch is the moment you should start caring.
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Eye contact is the one of the best ways to know if a girl will be receptive to your advances or not. It gives it all away. They aren't quite as visual as men but they do decide some level of attraction from looks. If you give her a short calm stare and she coyly looks away smiling or smirking like you said, she will be receptive to an approach. If she keeps staring and doesn't have a resting bitch face, then it's on... My first lay in college was from this girl, we kept staring at each other from across the room at a party. I was standing beside my room and she walked by to use the washroom. When she came out she stood beside me so I gently grabbed her hand and asked her to come with me. Didn't even get each others name til the next day LOL.
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Our culture has become so warped and degraded from technology and toxic aspects of feminism (yes just because it's progressive doesn't mean there aren't downsides) that sadly something like pick-up is a necessary evil for a lot of guys. From what I've learned I've come to think of it like chemotherapy, it sucks in a lot of ways but sometimes it's the only option - and it CAN be effective. It is what it is. I hate to be one to generalize, but on this topic in particular I've observed the vast majority of women simply aren't aware there are actually two phases connecting with the other sex. The attraction phase and the relationship phase. How the man behaves in each of these phases are usually completely different and as if he is a separate person. If he doesn't learn the techniques or doesn't have the natural social aptitude to navigate the attraction phase there is ZERO chance for a relationship or intimacy. That's basically what pick-up is for, a brute force way to get better at the attraction phase. An amazing guy that would be a great partner could be right in front of your eyes, but if he fails at any point in the attraction phase he is fucked, he'll be put in the friend zone and never come out. While scumbags who have no intention of a deep relationship will swoop you off your feet because they know how to attract The thing is, most women don't even realize there are two separate phases because they don't have to do any of the work approaching. As a woman all you have to do is wear make up to look pretty and be somewhat physically fit and you'll have hundreds of men approaching that you just have to sort and pick your favorite ones from. Any decent looking woman reading this that's honest with themselves knows this. You don't have to do the attracting work, the expectation is on the man to take approach and initiate 100% of the time. If all men decided simotaneously not to make the first move anymore, the human race would go extinct lol. When women rarely do make the first move, they are usually so bad at it or it's too subtle for most guys to understand what's happening. Women don't know they are the gatekeepers for the relationship phase, and that's the only phase they know since they get to skip right to it from their POV. They are blissfully and innocently ignorant (or malicious) about the games they play and the hoops they make men jump through in the attraction phase that relationship to form, then unfortunately get hurt or confused when the guy turns out to not be suitable for something long term, or not the same person they were initially attracted to. Sadly women are attracted to and reward a lot of the wrong things, so here we are! For any women reading this once you become aware there are two phases and not just one it will be difficult for you to get burned by men again. It will cut the learning curve for finding the right guy by many years. (HINT he is probably in the friend zone where you left him ) Just as a side note from my personal experience as a guy. I'd say I'd pass as good looking (you judge), I'm athletic, I have hobbies, moderately successful, I'm ethical, I'm a firefighter/EMT, I'm sober, no red flags/anger problems, I've been called charming and calm. Yet in my 29 years alive guess how many women have explicitly expressed romantic intent to me where they made the first move BEFORE I did? I can literally count it on my one hand. Yet just to get to the success/experience level I'm at now I've had to initiate and make the first move with probably close to 1000 women at this point. I can't speak for other guys but I imagine they can resonate with this. It's the unique problem of being a man that women can't begin to comprehend, which is why something like pick-up seems so alien and absurd. Starting any romantic connection is something women don't even think about, because they don't have to do it. Opportunities just show up in front of them and they just have to decide to fall into it. It's the same reason men have a hard time sympathizing with the physical danger of assault and rape that women have to deal with. They are unique issues because while we are both human, we are different and not equal. This post ending up being quite long so I'll finish with the most important point and brutal truth; UNDERSTAND that if a guy is lazy and doesn't do the work to approach, initiate, and attract women he could literally go his ENTIRE life a virgin and nothing will happen for him. The stakes are that steep - which is why pick-up exists. It's filling the void because our culture is no longer fostering an environment where men can learn this naturally. I imagine Leo keeps talking and making this apart of his content because he went through his own journey with this and wants to share it.
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Investing, stock trading, and trying to create passive income are nearly impossible to do successfully unless you are already established financially with a lot of capitol. It's alluring but it's a soul sucking grind with no guarantee of success. It's more likely you'll dig yourself a hole you can't get out of. What you should be doing is looking at schooling to get a skill that pays decent and isn't easily replaceable, and a solid bump above minimum wage. Trucking and machine jobs that need licenses are good because they are cheapish (sub $1000) to get and can get you good jobs. Just finding low energy work like driving and other things to make extra cash will get you ahead. Most online businesses are just scams and scalping, it's fools gold. You're gonna have to work hard no matter what.
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I highly doubt she is going to categorize you so harshly based off simply picking her up. Her impression of you will be up to how your time is together. If she is almost a 10/10 then it's probably worth figuring out how to secure meeting her again as fast as you can, if that means driving then so be it!
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Roy replied to Razard86's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Gaslighting doesn't exist - it's just a catchy buzzword that caught on in our culture, typically used by those with a victim mindset who were left confused or frustrated from an interaction and look to deflect from questioning or taking emotional responsibility for the situation by levying assumptions of maliciousness onto the other party member. Of course manipulation exists and it happens, whether it's intentional and/or subtle or not. However this doesn't justify the recipient to completely dodge how they are present in the equation and not just a helpless mannequin. Even if you are on the defense and suffering from the situation, and have some reason to believe you are being manipulated. The idea of gaslighting just gives immature people a cover from recognizing their own faults. Almost every time I've seen it used it's people refusing to learn or improve the situation for themselves, the opposite of the personal development mindset. Reminds me of my ex and I. We had a really healthy relationship that was open and honest, however I remember on one occasion she accused me of gaslighting her about something. I was taken aback by it and wasn't sure how to react. I asked her if we could lay everything out on the table, I wanted to know her account and feelings about things, and what we could do to remedy it. No matter what approach I took to understand or pry her perspective, it didn't matter. She already preemptively decided how she felt and ANY move on my part was just "further gaslighting", including accepting how she felt . All there was left to do was laugh. I was losing at a game I wasn't even playing lol. Makes me think of this meme; -
I'm sorry to hear that, try to stoke some optimism in having a gap year though! This is a great opportunity to work to save resources for the future, travel, and enjoy yourself! During this time you can discover different things you might want to do or NOT want to do. Who knows you may even find out you don't want to go to school again, or find another course you're more interested in. Living at home isn't all that bad, assuming she doesn't make you pay for a bunch of stuff. Getting a fulltime job would be amazing. You could save thousands a month and bank that money for your own car and other stuff to move you ahead in life. I remember at the time I felt like taking a gap year would make me a "loser", but in hindsight I'm kicking myself for not doing it.
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Isn't it kind of obvious Mr.Girl is a narcissist? I mean I love the guy and he's probably my favorite internet personality but I was able to spot that shit from the first couple videos lol. He just has a certain charm and skill with manipulating peoples impression of him that he is able to hide it quite well. I don't think it's a damning label in the end. It takes a certain level of narcissism to be a streamer/youtuber and if you didn't have those tendencies you will develop them spending any time on the internet. The environment encourages it.
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MrGirl being erased from youtube and twitch while so many spineless morons run free is beyond my understanding and makes me doubt there is justice in the world.
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Cinematically this film was cool, the fighting scenes were brutal and well made. Makes me want to play Battlefield 1 again! But yeah the movie was boring and had no story or interesting character development. Just felt like a random bunch of scenes about WW1 put together. 1917 was worth watching, this isn't. IMO.
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I'm balancing out the forces in the universe by deliberately having sex/masturbating/cumming every single day in November out of spite LOL I didn't even want to last night I was almost asleep then I remembered I had to do it. I chafed a bit but got the job done.
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Who has time to watch Lord of the Rings length internet drama lmao. Unless they are having an in depth discussion about something important or interesting besides their relationship.
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Yes it feels like even though technology has skyrocketed ahead relative to the past 200 years, culturally we are still very much in the dark ages. Even in the developed world, the average person is quite bigoted and limited in the mind.