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Oh my god, a women approached you and asked you out which is the equivalent of sighting a unicorn and here you are questioning the shit out of it lol. This is probably the only time in your entire life a woman will approach you and ask you out. Be happy man, go on the date and see what happens!

This all seems too volatile for you to make any serious commitments. I hope you keep your head on straight. Keep your plans with your career and moving. Honestly just have fun with her while you're still here, and be mindful about where your attachments are and pull them back a bit. Also don't let her get any more attached. This entire experience should be a temporary thing for you. Be ready to move on when the time comes, and be happy it happened. Be realistic. If she divorced once it's extremely likely she'd do it again (not saying you'll get married but you know what I mean). Loyal, trustworthy women don't look to upgrade after such a serious commitment. It's an obvious sign she does what is convenient for her without considering the consequences it has on others.

You could fall in love with the wrong person and waste a lot of time and emotions. Not to mention getting pregnant from said person. You don't really know if a person is right for you until after knowing each other for about a month and going on 3+ dates. If you have sex right away from "sleeping around" like I'm guessing the title is talking about here, you could bond right away to a guy that could be terrible for you, but you will be blind to it. Since women from my experience can't have sex without becoming extremely emotionally attached.

Well fuck there is your issue. You need to cut masturbation, like TODAY. You'll be able to orgasm with her, you just need to give your parts a break and build up excitement. She won't say anything because she doesn't want to hurt you, but this is a massive problem. Subconsciously she is going to process that as you not being attracted to her. It doesn't matter the words coming out of her mouth or yours, that is how she will feel inside. If it happens enough she will leave you.

@Tudo How often are you having orgasms? If you are doing it every day you will get chafed and have lower sensitivity. It's a muscle that can get strained just like any other part of your body. Give yourself gap days.

@Leo Gura It's because they are intimidated by him. They will froth at the mouth and clear their entire schedule to bring someone like him on, since he draws massive eyes due to his fame/infamy. But they won't dare challenge or upset him, because he is a cash cow of media attention. Money talks, as they say.

This thread aged well LOL. Kanye literally today - "I love Nazis." "I like Hitler." "Hitler did a lot of good." This timeline feels like a fucked up fever dream I feel bad for the guy. He obviously has mental issues but he has so much money and fame he can't realistically fix them in a meaningful way. His life is just a mess.

Hmmm this is kinda tough. I don't want to make it seem like it's your fault because it seems like the situation is complicated. However being in this in-between place of being together, but not really being together is your responsibility to take control of. You were too indecisive and now are in a bit of a pickle. That's what all your emotions are a signal of. So You have a choice now that you should have made earlier; > Either commit to her telling her you love her, and want to take things more seriously and be more committed. Which means she cannot be sleeping in the same apartment as her soon to be ex-husband. You won't allow it. > Break up with her and find someone who is a better match, and in a more stable place. It's your responsibility as a man to dictate the situation. You can't be doing this ambiguous dance for too long, because eventually one or both of you will get hurt. You need to create a vision and lead the relationship to the place where you want it to go. It sound harsh, but women don't really know what they want romantically. They almost need to be told what to do, albeit not always directly. This has been my experience with every single woman I've ever been with lol. Lead her or lose her. They are like a candle flame, a beautiful but fickle thing. It blows with the wind of emotions they feel. If you don't contain and protect it, a strong enough gust might blow it out and the relationship will die. All that said. In my opinion? You should break up with her so it's not on your mind. You are just enjoying the connection out of convenience before you move anyways, and you said it's a bad match long term. The fact the status of the relationship has also been left long enough and he is here, is giving her a lot of wiggle room to take advantage of the situation and double dip. I hate to say it but from my POV and the information you gave it's likely she will let him fuck her brains all over the apartment, because they haven't seen each other in so long they probably forget why they hated each other and divorced, and he travelled such a long way. This is basically kind of cheating on her part, but I've heard of this scenario a thousand times. She will rationalize it post-event that emotions just got heated and it just "happened" lol. So yeah dude. Claim her for yourself and tell her she isn't sleeping in the same apartment as him, or cut it off. She will either appreciate the pair of balls you're showing and she'll respect you and get it, or you'll do what is more logical and break up. You should probably focus on yourself for a while before moving anyways. Let me know how it goes and good luck!

Not with that attitude.

Women masturbate plenty too, it just doesn't become a problem for them like it does for men, because they know they can literally go out any given night of the week and bring some guy home if they feel like it. They just have to decide that they want sex. For guys on the other hand it's like doing a bunch of job interviews for positions you don't even know if you're qualified for.

@StarStruck Why the fixation on the number? Do they instantly become less attractive if you see a 30 instead of a 29? If so it might be saying something about a flaw in your perspective on things you could look at. People age at different rates! As long as they are giving off the young energy and vibe you want, and take care of their bodies, what's the problem? I've been seeing this woman who I think is 47, I never asked. Literally twice the age of my last girlfriend Anyways she has super good energy, likes to do fun stuff, doesn't act her age at all. She also takes care of her body really well, actually hotter than most of the younger girls I've been with who just coast lol. It's not gonna be a very long term relationship, but that's not what I'm after right now. So what's the point in worrying about anything? See what I mean?

The issue with overcoming any habit is that humans are very forgetful, or rather our ego is and it will play games in order to hold onto the habit. What you need to do is create a reminder for yourself that serves as an inspiration and vision for your future. Something physical would be great, like a poster/message on your bedroom door. Or the screensaver on your phone. Let me know what you come up with

Kanye used to be a really good artist but he fell off his rocker. It's probably quite hard to have that level of success and attention and also have mental health problems. From what I understand he has been diagnosed bi-polar disorder. Even with all his wealth to insulate him he likely never had an environment to heal and recover properly from his issues. I imagine even the medical staff and people helping him treated him like some sort of spectacle. How could they be so heartless? A cursed way of living when you get that popular. I actually pity him.

Geographical luck, historical events, and some cultures are superior to others and produce better ideas for surviving and dominating. I think many people don't like the status quo, but aren't really in a position or have any meaningful power to change it. Democracy is kind of a joke and most people in "free" countries don't really know what they are voting for and how it affects other poor countries. They just want cheap gas and goods.

If you live in poverty and corruption with sparse opportunity and hope, going through the risk and danger of smuggling yourself for the chance of a better future is worth it. You or I would probably do the same. Even struggling in the lower class/poverty in North America (Canada/US), is a better quality of life than the majority of people on the planet. Think about that.

The economy doesn't care that they aren't educated or barely speak English. They are cheap labor which = good.

You've already done two weeks, that's quite impressive. Keep it going!

Literally nothing you can do. This is a downside of online. Things can spontaneously end for no reason with no explanation. The key is to be messaging so many girls it doesn't matter if one slips. You need to be thinking in volume, and online as a form of practice. I have no intentions of meeting the majority of people I talk to. You just gotta talk to a lot of people to find out what they like and how to interact.

Maybe not by the "idea" of sex, but once it's happened they love it even MORE than men in my experience. Getting skilled and good at sex was one of the best things I ever did for improving results my intimate life. If you can provide great sex to your woman it's like giving her crack/cocaine . She will fiend for it and overlook/forget most of your other flaws. Being able to make her cum and feel wanted will separate you from 9/10 of the other partners she's had, because chances are they didn't know how to get her off and just went through a shitty male-centric porn routine every time. The trick is how do you reliably convince the women you want to be with to have sex with you, without doing it too fast or aggressively. That selling part is much harder than actually driving the car.

Let's not speak ill of people who aren't here. It's distasteful.

You look like one of the side characters that dies right away in the Matrix when they first get chased by the agents in the mansion.

Assuming in this scenario I'm given a clock and I'll just spontaneously die when the timer is up, it would probably go something like this; > Panic and have an anxiety filled crisis for an hour or two. > Sober up from said crisis to immediately contact friends and family to tell them I love them, ask for forgiveness for any wrong doings, and wish them well. > Then I'd try and find the most attractive woman I could either at random or whoever is in my life at the time to plead the situation and convince them that it will be the most passionate quality sex they'll ever have in their life . > Not even cleaning up from the sex I'd go on a hunt for the best restaurant, fast food, or grocery store to splurge on my favorite food like an animal. > I'd then use the energy from said food to aggressively climb/hike the nearest mountain, or highest place around like a radio tower. > After reaching my final spot I'd sit down to watch the sunset, while reflecting on my life, making peace, and contemplating what I've learned and what this life meant. Also definitely listening to some of my favorite music, consciously ignoring the timer. I would prefer to die alone and face it without the distractions and comforts of others. Just me. Yup, in that order that is what I'd do!

This is an incredible quote. Should be printed, framed, and put on a wall in some important place!

I don't speak for other men, but personally I view and judge it completely separately; how a woman is as a person or their "general personality" vs how they are romantically/sexually, or as a partner. I'll paint an extreme example so the difference is clear; I could meet a a girl at a bar and start talking to her. Maybe we hit it off and spend a few hours learning about each other. I find out she is a great person, seems really nice. I can tell she treats people well, she loves animals, doesn't have any obvious red flags. Is a stand out person. However say she reveals later on, "Hey just so you know I am a fulltime sex worker, that's how I pay my bills and student loans." That immediately casts a different perspective for me. It doesn't take away any of the other stuff, I would still fully respect her as a person, but she would immediately be off limits to me as a partner. I would no longer respect her romantically. That is just my personal preference. My judgement is limited to my own preferences, I don't think this hypothetical girl should be restricted from doing whatever she pleases or perhaps needs to do to make ends meet. However there are social consequences to such behavior. Just like anything else.

Jesus Christ that is just as good as it is bad