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The first struggle I can think of that would annoy me would be not having the same athleticism or strength I currently have. I would probably get tired and injured immediately.

The gap likely changes from being outrageous to still bad but showing a slight semblance of reasonableness.

Getting massive experience and carefully observing people and culture. I used to be a starry eyed naive liberal about this, not so much anymore. Reality turned out to be far different than what I expected and learned from people growing up.

There is no choice but to get better and improve your situation.

There is nothing responsible about sleeping with hundreds of people. That's an oxymoron. It's like saying "I always drive 30KM over the speed limit no matter what road I'm on, but I'm responsible because I service my car regularly and wear my seatbelt!"

If by "potential" you mean the fastest path to getting raped, getting steady child support income, and contracting HIV, then yes.

I didn't say they don't deserve happiness or love, it will just be harder to come by and maintain the more someone sleeps around. They will be more dismissive and less tolerant of working through issues in relationships because they know they can so easily jump to the next one. That kind of detachment has an inflection point where it can be healthy, but also toxic. Also guys will have a harder time loving her because of her past (if they find out), and also they would have to tolerate risk of disease, possible children she might have, etc. I don't think it's wrong to have a few partners a year, but if you are sleeping with new people every month or even couple weeks. You are engaging in poor behavior I think. Not to mention extreme risk of HIV and other STDs.

lol if she's already been with hundreds of dudes, it's over man. She belongs to the streets.

You see the thing is the overwhelming majority of men DON'T sleep around with lots of women, because they can't. Most men are extremely loyal and capable to bond because they know it's really difficult to land a decent partner let alone a great one. It's only a handful of men who are sleeping with dozens of women and making a ruckus. Men initiate divorce and end relationships at a significantly lower rate than women. Despite women's insatiable demand for commitment, they often behave in an opposite manner of their intentions. That's why people say, "Don't listen to what women say, watch what they do." From everything I've learned and from my own experiences, no it's not as damaging for men to be promiscuous. I'm guessing because of an influence from culture and biology. This isn't an argument for promiscuity either, I think people can experiment if they like but don't overdue it. Men and women are different and function in different ways in the world. We aren't equal (except under the law, and in a larger humanitarian sense). That's not a bug, that's a feature. It's kind of annoying seeing people keep stupidly pretending we are.

It's for many good reasons. You listed 4 of them below. It's also damages a woman's psychology to sleep with a lot of men, they have a harder time bonding properly in the future and it makes it more difficult for them to be good mothers. Kids without moms struggle hard. We don't exactly have to be toxic about it, but we shouldn't be encouraged women to be sexually liberal. Nothing good comes from it.

The energetic match 100%, it's the foundation. All the other factors can match, but eventually the relationship will crumble if you don't have this. If you aren't on the same wavelength forget about having a long term relationship. You don't need to be intellectual equals to have a successful relationship. You can satisfy all your intellectual needs on your own anyways, you don't need to drag her up to speed or to agree on things. Having your basic values line-up is important however. If they don't it's a ticking time bomb.

lol? Everyone that goes to the club is either drunk or high on a ton of different drugs. That's the whole point.

The majority of female profiles you see in online dating are bots.

Picture the friendzone as an island in the ocean of the relationship world. It's where most decent, honest men (and some creeps) are relegated to by women prior to them gaining experience and learning what is good for them. After having their time and their youth wasted getting ran through, cheated on, abused, and manipulated by dazzling wolves. Then when they finally gain wisdom they come back to the island to see it's all but deserted; all the self-respecting men have either starved to death, built a raft to escape, or already been picked up by other women looking to settle before they get too old. Women live in the moment of emotion whirlwind, and generally don't have the foresight to see what men will become from their character. They only judge them based on how they currently are, and if they get swept up enough in that whirlwind in that frame of time. That's why they will stay in a relationship with a scumbag for years, "I can fix him. I can change him." Hoping for that initial moment again. It's also why they overwhelmingly initiate divorce and end relationships, because they realize they made a mistake. Unfortunately in our culture it has worked out that men seem to gain value or time, and women lose it. I'm literally experiencing this in my own life in real time. I got rejected and friend-zoned at the rate of a machine gun firing as a young teenager by my equals, now that I'm aging and developing myself all those opportunities are opening up at an exponential rate and they are clawing for me, but I'm no longer interested in them as they are losing their looks and their maturity has stagnated because well, they simply had no incentive to develop themselves and could coast on other traits. It's like we are on different trains and I'm waving as we pass each other by. Ladies could have got on the right train at the first stop, but they didn't and I don't feel bad for them. You paid for your ticket, no refunds.

I disagree. I think stigmas and double standards exist because they are fundamental and necessary to balance our evolution sociologically and biologically. Which ones merit existence and to what degree is where the debate lies. The idea that men and women are equal, and every area of the playing field needs to be completely leveled with a scrupulous egalitarian laser is laughable at best and naïve at worst. Yes maybe under the law, and in the vague humanitarian sense. However we aren't actually the same and shouldn't be viewed or treated the same. We are literally different species with different brains and psychology, different physical attributes, and different survival agendas. I think we would be better off to raise consciousness and keen awareness of these differences so people can navigate through them, rather than try to smash them down or blissfully pretend they don't exist to placate our uncomfortable emotions. (This isn't an accusatory statement I'm making by the way, I'm pointing to something beyond what you wrote of course. We good .)

He's literally dedicated his entire life's work and put his skin in the game and life on the line to attempt to find truth. Then when he has a moment of frustration all of a sudden it's completely unwarranted, he has to perfectly audit everything he says or people will whine. Even in the midst of having a seemingly rude outburst, any honest person can see he is trying to help and provide guidance. People think their feelings are at the center of the universe though "I want access to the core of truth of reality, but I also have to be perfectly comfortable during the entire process." No you selfish fuck, your entire being/ego/feelings are completely irrelevant. In fact they ARE the problem and an obstacle in the way of progress.

Our society is degenerating #whatsnew?

Virgin shaming didn't cause the Incel phenomena. Technology, culture, and feminism did. If anything I'd argue bullying people for being virgins is a net good thing, because it gives people negative reinforcement and encouragement to do something about it. Inceldom is the acceptance that you are somehow powerless and doomed, which of course is complete nonsense and bullshit. When I was in school the people virgin shaming was just boys being boys and teasing each other, but in the end they would try and help you get laid because they understand how big a rite of passage it is. Now the most extreme virgins have shot themselves in the foot by isolating themselves from everything and not accepting any help at all. Is having sex the end all be all of life? Of course not, but I'd say it's much better to make it happen at a young age, because that part of your life only gets exponentially harder as you age. Getting laid is not a problem at all when you're young and forced to be in school/college, surrounded by hundreds of female acquaintances. Once you are out of school though you are responsible for generating nearly 100% of your encounters, which of course most people are too lazy to create for themselves.

What else do you do besides work? What kind of hobbies and interests do you have that are fun and give you fulfillment? A big part of what it takes to attract women is to have passions and things that make you an interesting person, of course you shouldn't be doing those things JUST to attract a woman. You won't be able to enjoy them fully and once you get the woman it will probably be exposed you were putting on a show and she'll resent that, and you'll resent yourself. Also you should lean into your quirks and natural style a bit, don't be afraid of that. In fact being secure with yourself being kind of a sensitive nerd for example is more attractive than desperately attempting to be some uber macho dude that you are clearly NOT. Women can't stand try hards/fakes, any good woman worth being with won't be fooled and can sniff that stuff out in an instant. I would research into how to emotionally ground yourself and be more comfortable in your own skin and being alone. If it's causing such turmoil that it's make you depressed, unhappy, and even suicidal that's a BIG clue that it needs to be your top priority. That will help you more than any dating strategy at the moment. I'd recommend talking to a therapist for at least a couple sessions to give you a strong direction of what you need to address, and learn some patience. Keep working hard and use your position to practice talking to different women every day without any expectations. Confidence comes with experience.

It's not an overreaction. Even if it's just the 1st date, it's still a social contract between two individuals. Assuming he initiated and asked her to go out, she agreed to it under the premise that, "yes I will come spend an arranged time at a particular place with YOU and we will participate in something TOGETHER." That's literally what a date is. Her being receptive and flirting with another guy, while already on a date with a guy is disrespecting that social contract. What she should have done is ignored the other guy, or told him to go away because she was busy. Unless OP is holding back information that it was just a vague impromptu meet where they happened to run into each other, there really is no excuse for her behavior. But sure, I guess because she is really pretty she should be able to get away with behavior that would otherwise be considered sickening coming from the rest of us. They should have "gracefully competed" over her like monkeys, I hope neither of them slips on a banana while doing their mating dance

It's an inspirational funny quote from one of my favorite games of all time - Red Faction: Guerilla It's a reminder to relax and have a "why not?" attitude towards life.

I am just one example, I wouldn't rest your laurels on it. It could just mean the test is bullshit, which it probably is. Even so it's not like it matters or is worth arguing about. As long as you are doing your best not to hurt people or treat them badly you are ahead of a LOT of people, including those who righteously accuse others who are mostly just projecting to deflect from their own lack of action. In this day and age everything is considered racist and sexist, to the point where it's not even worth hearing peoples complaints because it's the boy who cried wolf. It's what you get when you mix a materially comfortable narcissistic society where we have no real problems, with technology and the ability for everyone to platform every little complaint they have.

I would rather date a 6 or 7 that's mature enough not to do that shit, than an 8 or 9 that wants the attention and gets a kick out of behavior like that. The reason women do those fucking games is because there are too many dumb men willing to play, tripping over each other for a chance to get in-between her legs. Guys should be principled and have self-respect like you showed here, good on you. Let someone else deal with the headache of being with her. Most men are so blinded by pussy they'll put up with so much shit lol, rise above it and be a transcendent man. Just because they are nice to look at, doesn't mean they get to treat you poorly. They don't get to get away with that, looks shouldn't be that valuable and they'll fade anyways. While integrity usually lasts a lifetime. They aren't even a guarantee they'll be good in bed either, maybe she is a starfish.

Make a career that directly impacts their lives then, that's what makes a real difference. Politics is a waste of time and not a guarantee for anything. You know what is a guarantee? Volunteering at a soup kitchen, you could literally go tomorrow and make an immediate difference in someone's live. Don't listen to people who just talk talk talk talk and yap yap yap. Be a doer.

This. Stop sharing this kind of stuff with other people, and stop caring what your friends, family, or partners think of it. It's literally in the name - personal - development. This is a domain of independence. Society is irrelevant.