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Green tea is a godsend while not in an extreme calorie deficit. Suppresses your appetite.

@Leo Gura That's some truth right there

@Space Is downplaying some of the difficulties involved with cold approach nowadays. However, they are not promoting a fantasy. This shit works, and works well. You just cannot see that from your paradigm.

Therapist. See a therapist. They quantum leap your process if the right therapist is chosen. Also, read the first chapter of "Seven Habits of Highly effective people". - Power one line sentence there: "Make and keep small commitments". Develop integrity, but for small tasks. Small being subjective to you i.e. you feeling you cannot brush your teeth, and you often do not. Write in a planner "Touch toothbrush/ brush for 5 seconds". Its not a trick, literally do what you said you would do in your planner. Nothing more. Keep doing that for various things i.e. cannot study, then study for "1 min". And again don't do more. Tick things off, and inevitably you'll develop more self-trust, and confidence that when you commit to something that you'll do it. It gives you a level of hope for the future, and inevitably what you'll perceive as small will increase. Its not sexy, but it works. It is similar to the therapeutic method of "behavioural activation". It won't solve everything, not close. But relative to being without the method it is incredible. There's a lot of airy-fairy advice on depression, or things like meditation are recommended. But if you don't have the motivation for meditation then you won't meditate. Build the foundation through building your integrity.

Often the issue with identifying toxic masculinity is the same as the issue with identifying racist talking points. The issue is Dog Whistling. Toxic masculinity is often dog whistled such that it is covert, rather than overt. For example, rather than "its wrong for men to cry", a commentator will say "the perpetrator cried like a little girl". Upon being asked whether they think it is wrong for men to cry that same commentator, conscious of the social unacceptability of saying its wrong for men to cry, will say it is okay for men to do so. However, the subtext of the crying being an activity that only little girls do has already been heard, and accepted by the audience. Contemplate upon this while consuming media, and look out for when dog whistling occurs, and it is likely you will quickly become aware of its use.