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@Pavement the last girlfriend I had not only knew I did pickup, she met many of the guys I did it with and saw it in action. In reality, the lines between “pickup” and “guys going out to get laid” are getting very blurry. Pickup used to be this weird thing where only the most socially awkward dudes with leather boots and very gimmicky game did it. Now with the emphasis on “natural game”, its morphed into being more normal. Guys with regular level social skills have gotten into it. And I think that’s how she saw it. Just a bunch of dudes trying to get laid.

There’s definitely some stage Orange mixing here with spirituality. These luxury retreats are big business and undoubtably bring in a lot of rich western tourists. Honestly though, if that’s what it takes for a stage Orange to people to experience the medicine, then who cares. Let them spend their money. Maybe it will actually help support the local economy in some of these poorer countries.

@kras do you plan on growing your subscribers and making your work public? If so, that shame of the people closest to you seeing your content is something you’ll have to work through. If you just want to keep it private, that’s fine as well. But I wouldn’t try to grow your channel and hide it as well. That’s sending mixed signals to the universe. It shows your whole being is not in alignment with this decision, hence the shame coming to the surface.

@Austin Actualizing I find the Wim Hof method is ridiculously effective for combating stress and resetting me. Works every time. Long term, restoring functional breathing patterns is a big piece that people miss. You want to be around 6-10 breaths a minute. Most people are 15-20.

It’s reasonable in the sense that people generally date people who are around their same stage of the spiral. Hard to really say. My guess is that if two people are truly yellow / turquoise, the universe will likely bring them to together in a rather unique and / or organic way. It probably won’t fit nicely into an obvious script, although nothing can be ruled out. It be interesting to interview yellow / turquoise and see what the early stages were like for them. More about intimacy and using sex as a tool for merging with the divine than merely getting off. More mystical things like energy orgasms also enter the arena, which would be dismissed by pure materialists. More honest communication and a willingness to work through your shadows together. More solution oriented, less accusational. More intimacy and Win/Win dynamics, less exploitation.

A revolution works well if you have a singular corrupt person that needs to be removed. In the case of the US and basically all modern-nation states, things are way more complex than that. So a revolution becomes a way, way too simple of a solution. Some do. But many do not. The US has a culture of strong national pride. This nationalism has allowed us to unify as a country and enhance our survival, but at the long-term cost of low introspection. Many Americans are not very open to critiques of America, regardless of their legitimacy. This is the whole battle between the left and the right. The left, being more conscious, wants to move beyond nationalism and is more open to genuine self-reflection. They see critiquing America as actually helping to make it better. But the right is less conscious and more interested in preserving nationalism and the narratives that enhanced our survival. Thus, they see the left as “hating” America, but that’s just the ego’s reaction to its survival being threatened.

I eat liver pretty regularly. It’s nutrient dense and tastes pretty good if you know how to cook it right. If it’s giving me heavy metal poisoning, I’m currently unaware of it. To @Michael569’s point about the shit show that is animal agriculture, it’s highly important if you’re eating liver to source it from the highest quality farms you can find. Pay extra if you have to. And really, we should all be sourcing our food from the highest quality sources available no matter what we are eating. That holds true for vegetables, fruits, muscle meat, organs, fish, water, nuts, grains, whatever. The reality is our food system is deeply intertwined in issues of social justice and environmentalism. So if we are not including these issues in our individual choices, we are not taking responsibility for our collective well-being. Our choice power as individuals is limited by system constraints but it still matters.

The muse is interesting to me. I like the idea of getting instant feedback as it seems that would train your mind better. A lot of times you can just get lost in monkey mind for almost an entire meditation session. But at least with the feedback you would be aware of that, versus thinking you did a successful sit. At the same time, it seems like there’s value to being able to recognize when you’re in monkey mind or not. And that’s a skill you need to develop 24/7, not just the hour you’re sitting. So perhaps there’s a disservice there of you not tuning into your own signals as much and relying on external feedback. @Endangered-EGO what would you say your experience has been related to this?

These “where’s the video???” posts need to stop. Mods, can we start locking or issuing warnings for these? Don’t pester Leo. He needs to put out videos on his schedule, not rush them out just for us. That will increase the quality of the videos, which will be good for all of us. In the meantime, the man has put out hundreds of videos already and given you several hundred books to read on his booklist. You have enough to already keep you busy for decades. I’m personally still getting caught up on videos he released over a year ago.

@GroovyGuru A lot of people are isolated right now. No real magic formula I know, you’re just going to have to be proactive about it. What’s stopping you from doing some cold approach? Or reaching out to old friends? Or attending local events?

Yeah it’s complicated. How “conscious” you do pickup will depend on your level of consciousness. I know a lot of guys that did pickup from a very low consciousness place. The personal growth was marginal. They basically just drank and partied like any other guy, but also read some theory. But you could also use pickup as leverage to really grow yourself. And I did see that as well, although it was more rare. So pickup will be as low or high consciousness as you make it. If you want it to be high consciousness, you need to be clear about that and not compromise. For instance, I would never drink when I did cold approach because I saw that as affecting my goal of becoming more socially confident and building my skillset. I would do my best to be as honest and upfront with the girl as possible. And I made sure that I continued doing spiritual work so as to not lose my head. I would set similar rules for yourself based on what you feel is important.

Yeah I suspect there’s something to that. I ate almost entirely garbage during the early years of my life. It did affect me but I still had no major health problems. Just minor things. As I did more consciousness work though, it felt like certain foods and substances become unbearable to me. It’s like low consciousness can only run on low consciousness fuel, and higher consciousness can only run on higher consciousness fuel.

@charlie cho Assuming his diet really is that garbage, it could be a variety of things he has going for him. Perhaps good genetics or placebo. Certainly low chronic stress helps. The mistake would be to assume that Buffet is healthy because of the way he eats. When in reality he is likely healthy in spite of the way he eats. We also don’t really know exactly how healthy he is. Health is holistic and can be tough to measure. He could have premature bone loss, periodontal disease, bad circulation, bad gut health etc which are not always so obvious when just looking at someone. At the very least we know he wears prescription eyeglasses, so that’s one indicator of poor health.

@Husseinisdoingfine They’re both right to a degree. Society creates and influences man. Man creates and influences society. Both at the same time. Man = society.

@Bogdan Yeah I can relate to this. I’m also a musician but have this big passion for holistic health. Health and helping people to awaken is really more my LP, so I’m still unsure of how music fits into the picture. Could just be a hobby. Could be something more. Remains to be seen for me. I can’t really tell your what you should do. I’d say just follow your excitement. If strength and conditioning and PT seems more your lane, go for it. At the same time, keep an eye out for shiny object syndrome and lack of commitment. It can be tempting to get excited about all sorts of things and then not follow through. I’ve definitely been there.

@K Ghoul Your shadow is popping up to say hello. What is this actually about?

@patricknotstar Who are you trying to convince here? No one with any nuanced thought ever denied looks play some role in life.

@soos_mite_ah good basic primer on attachment styles

That’s a good number if your approaches are strong and result in actual conversations. In fact if your approaches are quality, you could get away with less than that and still see big improvement. If you’re counting just saying “Hi” to a girl as one of those 1000 though, that’s not enough. You could do 100 “Hi” approaches in a single night. Quality over quantity. Don’t get too hung up on the numbers. The goal is not to hit your numbers, the goal is to become natural with women. So if you’re “hitting your numbers” but not improving, you missed the whole point. The numbers are just one metric of feedback of many metrics. You’re much better off doing 3 solid, full intent approaches than 30 half-assed ones. That means getting her attention. That means not bailing out immediately if things don’t seem to be working out. And that means following through on your intent on why you approached her, e.g get her Instagram, set up a date etc. You may not succeed, but don’t just have a good interaction and then leave.

I’d start with the 9 hours series Leo just shot on this topic. That be a good start. The reality is you’re going to have to invest 10s to maybe 100s of hours learning the theory. Then you’re going to have to invest 100 - 1000+ hours actually going out talking to girls to internalize the theory. And then you’re going to have to invest another 1000+ hours doing inner game work to make it really stick and become natural. Still wanna do it?

@The0Self Good basic guide. I’ll add that if you’re a newbie, you’ll mostly want to skip learning proper technique and jump right into lifting heavy weight. That’s because you haven’t thrown out your back trying to PR your deadlift yet. At bare minimum, search Youtube to see how to properly perform the lifts. Ideally though, you have a trained professional who can watch you and give you feedback. You might be doing it 95% correct, but that 5% will fuck you up.

No. I’m not saying you “can’t” get laid a lot, as if it were to bend the laws of physics. I’m saying that guys who are healthy usually don’t have the insecurity that would drive them to do so. You would need to be a neurotic fuck to keep pushing your lay count past a certain point. Especially when it’s just casual and without emotions or attachments. And that number will be subjective depending on the guy. For some, they might still sleep with a lot of women. For others, it might be very few. But there’s an “enough” point that goes off in healthy psyches eventually. Even a guy like Dan Bilzerian, who I mentioned earlier, has hit this wall. He talks about it in interviews. It just took him about 1000+ women to get there. It’s literally everything Leo talks about on his channel. Just do the practices he recommends and you’ll be fine.

I can answer your question, but truthfully this is not how I think about relationships or my life. This is a “there’s a giant fire in my kitchen, how do I put it out???” kind of question. I’m interested in not having fires. The way you do that is by being proactive and way out ahead of something like this happening. It’s like if someone gets a disease after 30 years of horrible diet, lack of exercise, poor sleep. NOW they want a cure. But the cure was not living an unhealthy lifestyle for 30 years. So to your question, if she cheats, the first thing I’m asking is why did she cheat? And why am I in a marriage with a cheater in the first place? Sure, maybe it couldn’t be helped and it’s not your fault. But assuming it hasn’t happen yet, how can I swing things in my favor so that my future relationship is healthy? Maybe learn game. Maybe invest in your financial future. Maybe develop a strong sense of boundaries that weeds out people of low integrity. Maybe learn non-violent communication so you can work these issues out by talking them through before they explode. Once you’ve been proactive and taken responsibility, if you’ve still got a fire on your hands, then we can talk about how to put it out. But my mind in general just doesn’t go there. I don’t think about random potential catastrophic scenarios in the future and how I might mitigate them.

Yeah it’s the truth. There’s this lie sold by pickup teachers that by being “healthy” is how you’ll get laid the most. But you won’t. No guy is going to compete with Dan Bilzerian because of their “self-esteem”. A guy like that has dedicated his whole life to optimizing the most casual sex possible. So why would you want to compete? In fact, if you choose the healthy route, there’s a chance you’ll say “fuck this pickup shit” and just settle down with one girl for the rest of your life. People who are actually secure don’t need to just keep increasing their lay count indefinitely. Have whatever experiences you want, but at some point you should get over it.

@Anon212 Of course, because when you’re just talking to guys and okay-looking girls, you have no agenda. But as soon as a girl is hot, you get an agenda and your mind goes into creep mode. One way you can beat this is by becoming a delusional narcissist who sees themselves as superior to the girl. This actually will work, but I don’t recommend it for obvious reasons. The second way is you can build real confidence, self-esteem and learn to stop seeing women purely as sexual objects for you to conquer. This is actually harder and will likely take far longer. It requires serious personal growth. You likely will even get laid less if you choose this path. But the upside is you will actually be a healthy, happy human being.