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I don’t deny that you’re attracted to more than looks. But the fact that you identify this way is likely the result of your “good-guy” programming. Just for now, I’d practice seeing yourself in a new way. If you were a selfish piece of shit who didn’t care about love, relationships, connection or anything like that, what kind of girls would you be physically into? Of course this is a hypothetical. But this question may help connect you to your more primal, “base” desires. Aside from what I mentioned above, you gotta feel your way into it. Attraction is a feeling, not a thought or a belief. I don’t “think” I’m attracted to someone, I literally feel attraction. So who makes you feel? When you go out and you see a girl walking by, do you get the feeling that you want to fuck her? Does your breathing change? Are you imagining all the things you might to with her? You need to BE a sexual person. It’s part of who you are. You can’t get in touch with that, maybe watch a little bit of porn before you go out. Not enough to masturbate, but just enough to put you in touch with your desires. That’s also a problem. You gotta get the real thing. You gotta see her, smell her, hear her, touch her. Maybe even taste her

I have mixed feelings about it myself. On the one hand, I definitely want that committed, deep relationship. On the other, that doesn’t necessarily require legal documents. On the other, other hand, those legal documents may actually help support the commitment. My guess is I’ll have to wait until I’m in the relationship to really decide.

Leo may be talking about pickup, but this is not a forum for redpill ideology. Careful what information you’re consuming.

Honestly I’m shocked any women still participate in this subforum at all. It’s very obviously male-biased. And I don’t think that’s a coincidence, as Leo’s teaching style tends to be pretty aggressive. There’s a lot of “bite” to it.

@Olly I think I’m immediately skeptical of anyone who claims to have the perfect diet. in all likely, what this person has really discovered is, at best, a diet that works extremely well for them, right now. At worst, they’re just delusional and have not even discovered that. That said, there do appear to be some overarching principles behind how nutrition works. And so it makes sense to study them. But there is never going to be the perfect diet. It will always be plug-and-play.

Best option is to keep an eye on it. Define for yourself some clear boundaries on how much is too much. Perhaps share them with her if you feel that’s appropriate, Then if the situation keeps escalating, you’ll know something is off. What the boundaries should be is hard to say and very subjective. Depends on your and her financial situation and what you want out of this relationship. So you may have to do some introspection and digging here.

I’ve always taken the “embrace the suck” approach. Basically I know if I’m out till 4AM, I’m probably not getting going until noon. Maybe 10am earliest. It isn’t ideal but I don’t really have a better solution. So I just take the L because usually going out is a higher priority for me than a perfect sleep schedule. However, if it’s messing you up that badly, you may want to consider ending your nights earlier. You can still do a decent amount of game from 10-2am in most cities, which isn’t too late. The downside is that if you’re in a city where things close at 5am, then your odds off pulling that night are going to go way down. Pulls usually happen very late in the night, when everyone is ready to go home. So you’d have to stick with getting numbers, which can be notoriously flakey and unreliable at night. Another option is to forget night game altogether and go all in on day game. But of course that also has tradeoffs. No perfect solutions here.

I mean my goals are likely not your goals. The tools I use are specific to what I’m looking to achieve. For instance, I’m looking to purchase a Shure SM58 stage mic. That’s literally only because I need a mic that will fit the clip I have for when I’m doing sound journeys. Most people would never need to buy it. The built in Notes app on the iPhone.

I’ve had group hookups and a lot of very near misses. In my experience it’s usually a snowball type of situation. You’ve got one girl you’re either hooking up or are friends with. And then somehow another girl gets added to the picture. It’s never something I’ve deliberately pursued. One thing just lead to another. But then you also have to capitalize and not let it slip, which I have.

You definitely don’t have to be “the most talented player”. Decent game and a good setup is sufficient.

@NightHawkBuzz you’re stuck in your head, that’s why. More mindfulness / meditation practice will help. There may also be trauma as well.

@Dryas fine line between foolishness and high integrity.

My goals are specific so most of my tools won’t apply. But I will say that I use the shit out of the Notes app on my phone. I must have written thousands on notes on that thing. Everything from to-do lists to song lyrics to business information. It’s just crazy convenient. Anytime I need to get something out of my head quickly, it goes in Notes

Sounds like she’s looking to settle down. I don’t like the position you’re in. If you settle down with her, my prediction is this goes badly. I’d suggest just moving on.

Maybe. If that’s what I think is appropriate to the context. It all depends on the situation. I’ve escalated within seconds of meeting a girl and I’ve escalated at a glacier, slow pace before. But no, you don’t need to grope a girl for her to get the message that you’re a man. Basic flirting and maybe some light touch is enough.

I get that and have been there. Obviously just getting friend-zoned isn’t good either. When I say I’d rather not touch her, that wouldn’t mean I wouldn’t be flirting or man to women. I would just purposefully not escalate. What I’m saying is not good advice for new guys because most new guys are way to scared to escalate. Therefore they need to remove every possible excuse not to do if. But once you’re comfortable with doing it, you actually can be smart about when to escalate and when not to. It becomes less of a rule. Levels to this shit. You’d be surprised. I felt the same way when I started getting into game. Most of my life girls tended to put me in more of the “nice guy” box. It was a bizarre thing to suddenly start getting the opposite reaction and have girls think you were only using them for sex. Remember that a) she doesn’t know your past, she only knows what she has seen of you and b) girls have a lot of both social and biological conditioning related to sex that encourages them to be selective. So it could just be in her head. But it’s what’s in her head that counts. She might not expect it consciously but she knows she got drunk and made out with you last time. And she has to save face on that. Girls do not want to come off as easy or being used. It’s very bad for them. Yeah her defenses are up. So you’re playing catch up. Keep it low pressure. Don’t make her feel slutty or judged for hooking up with you before.

Up until this point, I was like “alright so far so good…” This was the big miss. Expecting a girl to show up for a date a WEEK later? No way. Not unless she’s seriously into you. And makeout does not count as being seriously into you, that means very little. You either had to keep up the texting during that week or at minimum confirm the date before you go. Yeah not surprising at all. Don’t escalate on girls unless you’re planning on going all the way that night. I’d generally rather go on a date and not touch her at all then go half way. The problem once you go half way is that now she’s in her head about it. Now she’s thinking about your next meet up and if you’re going to expect sex. If she goes on the date now, it’s like she is agreeing to have sex, which her subsconscious will likely not let her do unless she’s very sexually free. So she unconsciously plays this game where she’ll act like she’s not interested in sex. This makes her feel better about the meetup and takes the pressure off for her. Play it cool, get the meetup and then escalate anyway. Don’t fall into her frame. You’re the man and you’re clear in what you want. If she doesn’t want that, fine. She doesn’t have to. Let her go then. But you don’t waver either.

What more of an explanation are you looking for? The post on his blog was clear. Some people aren’t ready for deeper spiritual insights.

Could also have be unrelated to your diet. Maybe a stomach flu. Are you vaxxed against covid? Apparently people have reported gastrointestinal symptoms for omicron.

Yeah you pretty much nailed it. If you’ve been doing this work for a while, the “solipsism” aspect of this work likely doesn’t bother you much anymore. But that’s only IF you’ve already gone deep. It can be quite a mindfuck in the beginning. So even if we know that it’s all good, somebody else just hearing about it might freak out. So you gotta handle with care. YT has been a blessing and a curse for non-duality. A blessing because finally these ideas are getting to more people than ever. And a curse because finally these ideas are getting to more people than ever. It’s not a coincidence that the old mystery schools and occult teachers made you jump through major hoops before you got the good stuff. It seems secretive and elitist, but there’s also some wisdom there. In the future, we may have to go back to there being stricter about people’s qualifications. The pendulum may have swung too far.

@slicketygiggedy yeah people have become brainwashed into thinking meat is unhealthy and plants are healthy. It’s just way too simplistic of an analysis. I definitely believe carnivore could help people short term. It’s also an elimination diet, so you could use it strategically to determine food intolerances / allergies. Long term, I’m not sold on strict carnivore. Much like there is dogma around veganism, carnivore has its own dogma. For instance, why would you constantly want to be in a ketogenic state? Unless you’re looking to lose weight or obtain some sort of specific health outcome, long-term non-cycled keto makes no sense. And gluconeogenesis isn’t going to save you. People on carnivore basically don’t get insulin spikes. There’s also concerned about being low in nutrients like vitamin C and fiber. Carnivores go through large hoops to explain why you (maybe) don’t need these. But why even risk that if you can handle other foods? Just eat a god damn banana. Point being, Ben Franklin should have included dogma on his list of certainties in life. Looking forward to the day when we realize all this debate around diet was nonsense and we just become breatharians.

Where are you meeting these girls, Seeking Arrangements? If this actually is happening to you on a regular basis, then you need to mix up your earlier approach. Don’t wait until the date to show her that you’re not boring. And you can actually spend money on women before you sleep with them, but it needs to be done in the right way. For instance, you could buy a boat and then invite girls to come party on it. That be like a Dan Bilzerian type of move. Technically you’d be spending cash to help you get laid, but it’s not overtly paying for sex.

Why doesn’t it matter?

Who? A survival expert selling a book? That’s not going it solo. If you even have a river to get water from, you are so highly dependent that it’s nonsensical to even consider yourself an individual. To even have a river requires billions of pieces working in balance. And let’s forget about nature as you could imagine a hypothetical where nature was still largely intact but humanity was wiped out. Unlikely because of how interconnected we are, but let’s go there. Consider then that humans as individuals did not win in the game of evolution. Only tribes did. Humans as individuals are pretty fucking worthless in terms of surviving. Hence why almost everything we do revolves around being social.

@AlwaysJoggin But do you actually want to study what you’re studying? Studying purely for the sake of studying doesn’t make much sense and feels neurotic to me. If you have something you deeply want to study, but keep procrastinating or otherwise avoiding on, then that’s different. In which case it’s time to look at the patterns which are holding you in resistance to studying.