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@MrBON You're stuck in the Soulmate Trap my friend. This is where the ego tells you that "I just love them and no one else!", which allows you to avoid connecting with anyone else. Don't get me wrong, I believe in soulmates. And getting rejected sucks. But the love you are seeking is inside you. You're trying to get more light by turning off the lights. Instead, what you should be doing is shining as brightly as possible. Don't believe the lie you're telling yourself that there aren't other women out there you can connect with.

@lukasferre Yeah I can relate to this dilemma. I haven't found any easy answers here. But I can say that you want to get to a point where you really want the commitment. It can't feel like a cage anymore, it's got to feel like you're really consciously choosing this. You're excited about the idea of just seeing her, even if you're physically attracted to other women. How you get there depends on you. You might have to mess around with other girls until it clicks that you want something deeper. Or, maybe you realize you just want to be single forever.

@somegirl I’m going to echo what some other users have said. My guess is you had some bad sexual experiences and you maybe don’t even realize it. I could be wrong, but that’s the feeling I’m getting. I’m saying this because most women I’ve met don’t walk away from truly amazing, soul expanding, beautiful sexual experiences feeling “meh” about it. Usually that happens because the sex was meh. Or worse.

Depends. There’s many, many techniques for changing beliefs. If you feel like you’ve got beliefs that aren’t in alignment with where you want to go, usually I would do some introspection to find out what they are first. From there you can work on reprogramming. Sometimes that isn’t even necessary though. For instance, if you do bodywork or energy healing, you can clear subconscious beliefs without necessarily knowing what the belief was.

It's not true at all. Fame is not a one to one relationship with how hard you work. There are many other factors at play. Most important thing to consider with any goal is to be fully in alignment with it. No subconscious beliefs pulling you in different directions.

-Instantaneous physical / emotional healing -Spiritual entities -Psychic abilities -Breatharianism -Reality is consciousness -God

I would work this backwards. Instead of asking "what job is going to provide great security?", I'd ask "what do I like doing?" and then turn that into something that can financially support you.

I'd say anything that is making you a more loving person is the right direction.

I don't believe so. Modern porn is highly unnatural. Conscious masturbation may have its benefits. No, age has nothing to do with it. Of course you like it, it's a huge dopamine rush. You've got to separate that from a true feeling of fulfillment. The only real way I've found to beat porn and unhealthy masturbation is to replace it with something healthier. Sure, you can try to stuff the energy down with willpower. But you're going to be miserable and will eventually fail. Instead, you've got to channel the energy. Get lots of physical movement in. Have a creative pursuit, whether that's in work, your art or whatever. Ground yourself in nature. Learn how to move the energy with your intentions. And most importantly, get an actual girlfriend.

@Psychonaut Maybe the joy of a relationship doesn't come from what you get, but from what you choose consciously to put into it.

@No Self Yes because social media companies are for-profit enterprises. And as long as profit dictates gluing people to their screen as long as possible, we will keep seeing these distortions. And up the chain of for-profit enterprises, we could look at how our economic system demands continual growth in order to function. We could look at how capitalism creates monopolies like Facebook via competition. So let's not even just blame Zuckerberg. Zuckerberg is not evil, he is largely just responding to systemic incentives, along with every other CEO. Sure if he was more conscious he might stop, but he is not even incentivized to be more conscious. He is incentivized to look the other way.

@I Journey I wouldn't quit if you really have no direction moving forward. I would suggest doing some serious introspection as far as your life purpose and what you're interested in. At least get a general direction going. Then, you can start making some plans. If you need help figuring out your LP, there's always Leo's course. You can also use the questions from this video to help introspect:

@shubhankar You're in a rut my friend. How do you think you can break the momentum you've got going on?

@Arcangelo Wow. First off, don't blame yourself for your dad's behavior. At the end of the day, it's just a grill. If he got that angry, there is something much deeper going on in his life, likely related to trauma / personal issues. I don't see any reasonable excuse for his actions. Second, it sounds like you're not financially ready to move out. I could be wrong, maybe you're moving up the latter at McDs, but last time I checked they don't pay enough to be independent. My guess is you're going to have to keep working towards financial independence before you can realistically leave. In the mean time, have you talked to your dad about this? Unless you think he'd kick you out, I'd tell him how you feel. Express that you while you understand the importance of cleaning the grill, you aren't okay with how he acted. Don't let him bully you.

@Onecirrus I'll add reinstating all or at least some of the environmental regulations he rolled back.

@Rigel Looks good to me. Good luck! Be sure to update us.

@Just Do Nothing Well porn is usually extremely toxic. More and more people are realizing that. But you also don't want to be in resistance to porn. Where do you feel you stand?

Yeah it's a great point. The excesses of stage Orange are real. Planned obsolescence, landfills as big as cities, hyper consumerism. These are real phenomena that Green is conscious of and is pushing against. I think it's healthy to go through that phase. However, I also think you're right in saying that just trying to minimize your impact and consume as few resources as possible is ultimately not the solution. It's an overreaction to Orange. Charles Eisenstein talks a lot about this. We shouldn't seek to have no impact, we should seek a positive impact. Human beings are as essential to the earth's ecosystem as the bees, the trees, the apex predators, the fungi or anything else. None of these species have no impact or don't consume resources. We've just got to collectively find that proper role. That's why I've been so stoked on things like regenerative agriculture. It's not about just reducing the harm of human impact, it's actually about leaving that land better than you found it.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for saving the trees. And I can imagine situations where putting your life on the line would be the right thing. But if that’s your only strategy, I don’t see that as getting to the root of the problem. These problems are complex and systemic. You sabotage a bulldozer from killing a tree, but you’ve left the systems and beliefs in place that allowed that to happen. You may have even made the situation worse by enforcing an “us vs them” dynamic between environmentalists and industrialists. They are right that there is bias we have towards humans over other forms of life. I just think a different approach would be more effective. Regardless, it’s an interesting point of view. And I appreciate people who are out on the front lines like that.

@tuckerwphotography No, I think you've rightly identified one of the shadows of Green level consciousness. Lately, I've been fond of saying that we need a lot less people trying to save the world and a lot more people who are just willing to sit and appreciate a sunset. All that stress is not productive. It's leftover stage Orange. I think we need to recognize that this is a revolution like one we've never had. It's a revolution of inner peace, cooperation and harmony. If we can't find that place internally, despite everything going on, we're not going to manifest a society that reflects it. Of course, some action is necessary and some things will need to be done. But if you're in anxiety and out of alignment, you're not helping anyone. Your action will mostly be counterproductive.

This is the most important factor to figure out. There's tons of different styles and they can all work. It all depends on you. How do you want to express yourself? What kind of person are you? What do you feel is authentic? Then choose your clothes accordingly.

The doublethink is so blatant. I suppose I should be used to it by now but it still amazes me.

I don’t buy it. I do believe that. I’m saying this as someone who had all these same beliefs at one point. They did help me for a while and there is some truth there. But eventually I had to let go of them. You’ll probably have to do the same when you’re ready. And that’s fine.

Brother I understand the points you’re making. They’re very similar to what you’d find in the Red Pill / MGTOW crowd. If those beliefs are serving you, go for it. But there’s a lot of bitterness and pain that is coming up here. Be conscious of it.

He certainly could use this time for studying. But the stock market is a morally questionable place to invest. There may be certain companies that are alright, but many companies are highly unconscious and you are contributing to that by investing in them. The crypto market is also highly speculative and is little more than gambling. You can make money in it, but I don't find it a conscious form of investing at all. Regardless, assuming the stock market has a good year and doesn't collapse, you're looking at best 8-12% annual return. At 1k invested, that's about $100 a year, or about less than $10 a month. You're not making any extra cash at that rate.