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@yangmilun I would say the ones you listed are good. But keep in mind, being higher consciousness will not automatically stop you from participating in low consciousness systems. New systems are going to take time to develop.

Sure those sound good. And we could implement many others I'm sure. For instance, if we value beautiful art as a society, why isn't that somehow measured? Why not include that in the criteria of success? How about increase in community or family time? Or an increase in people expanding their consciousness? In other words, what do we really value? Like actually? Not some bullshit like GDP. That is meaningless. We need to determine what we really value and measure that. At the same time, we need to understand that any metric of success is still going to fall far short of encapsulating the success of a policy. We have to accept that some things just can't be quantified. And many of those things are what matter the most.

@NatureB Cannot wait to see UBI enacted in a place like NY. If it's successful, that's a game changer. Keep in mind we have to understand what it means for a policy like UBI to be successful. Criteria of success is huge. If we assume success of a UBI means that NY expands its economy, likely politicians will be disappointed and claim it "didn't work". But if we understand that the purpose of UBI is a disruption of wage slavery and people being forced to participate in exploitative systems, now we have a much different measure of success. And this might be more difficult to quantify. Can we quantify how much beautiful artwork might be produced because artists are no longer so strapped for cash? Can we quantify how valuable that is? How beautiful it is? We may make attempts, but ultimately we will have to see that the success of UBI will not be seen in many numbers. It will be in the difference of people's hearts. Of course, UBI is also not a panacea. That's another trap. But I do see it as one potential crucial piece of the puzzle.

@Renee_7777 We have to recognize that the lack of connection we may be experiencing is not just an isolated, individual problem. It's a collective, societal problem involving everyone all at once. Millions of people are feeling disconnected and that cannot be chalked up to individual dysfunction. That's a total system failure.

Well as long as you know . I'd recommend club promoter, bartender or photographer as a career choice. Don't get herpes.

Depends on how conscious the couple is. The more conscious they are, the more likely they are to genuinely care. Technically you're right. You could be a toxic, egotistical fuckboy and still get a girlfriend. But if your only reason not to be toxic is to get a girlfriend, that's quite a toxic point of view.

Interesting that this thread has evolved into more of a general discussion about how necessary social connection is. My perspective is that shadow forms of socializing do exist. But no amount of enlightenment is going to remove your need for social connection. And in fact, when we don't have our social needs met in a healthy way, that's when the shadow forms of socializing start to appear. However, we can view connection as a need that goes much deeper than just between humans. I can be connected to the trees. To the sky. To literally all of existence. It's not something just found between humans. So the next step for humanity is not only to heal our relationships with each other, but to heal our relationship with everything.

Assuming those actually are the "top girls" you should be looking to attract (they're not), the answer is yes and no. The absolute biggest reason why you will not date those girls is because you're not a part of her world. You don't go to the same events that she goes to. You don't shop where she shops. You don't have the same friends that she has. You probably don't even live in the same city she lives in. Really think about this. How often do you even meet a girl that looks like what you're talking about? The answer for most guys almost never. So even if you were super fit with super tight game and money and all this, unless you are a part of her world, it's highly unlikely it'll ever happen. This is why guys who are photographers can do really well with these kind of girls. Maybe they don't make the most money or anything like that, but they're in the world of modeling. And so they're meeting these girls constantly, especially the bigger their brand gets. So really it's more about being in the right place, the right environment and knowing the right people. And it's not that difficult to do. I was chasing these girls for a while living here in Miami and had some success. Once you've made the right connections it can happen really fast. It snowballs. This advice also applies to any kind of girl you're looking to attract. Not just models or whatever. If you're looking for spiritual yoga girls, are you a part of the world of a girl who lives like that? So really I find it's better to just be centered in your values. Because then you'll meet the right kind of girls who also resonate with what you resonate. Rather than trying to distort your values to what you think a girl might want.

@levani There's a book called The Charisma Myth that's decent. Just spend a lot more time in social situations, especially around people who you already consider charismatic. They'll rub off on you. And then also just do the inner work, e.g shadow work, trauma release, etc.

@Christdas Hilarious, but this is actually how it happens for a lot of pickup guys. This is how fuck boys are born. You take a guy who was used to be feeling burned and used and then they flip it around and treat girls like shit. Not saying it's healthy. It's just what I see happens.

@Scholar I agree it gets dysfunctional at times. I would to see more examples of non-violent communication between people on here. Especially when it comes to these polarizing topics. At the same time, you'll be hard pressed to find any community that doesn't suffer from the same problems at times. We're not very good at relationships yet.

@GroovyGuru Most people invested in crypto are engaging in glorified gambling. They have very little to no interest in the social impact of their investing, they are just trying to beat the market. That said, I see crypto as having the potential to disrupt the current economic system. Anything that messes with the money supply is a big deal.

@SamC I find Sadgurhu ignorant on a lot of subjects. This is one of them. Yes, Ayahuasca isn't the end all. But he dismisses it as if it's just a waste of time, minus maybe some digestive cleansing and emotional relief. Tell that to the thousands or maybe even millions of people's lives who have changed from taking aya. Tell that to the people who have cured their cancer. Tell that to the tribes and shamans that have been using aya since their inception to heal people and connect with Spirit. If psychedelics aren't your path, fine. And certainly being able to achieve non-dual awareness while sober is critical. But I find his position lacking.

Money is the main tool that has allowed society to grow to the level that it has, for better or for worse. Prior to money, exchanges would typically only occur between people who had a deep level of relationship. But as a universal value, money allows for transactional, anonymous exchanges between people who have no relationship. This is what allows something like a large city to exist, where many people don't know each other. As long as you have money, you can get what you need from a complete stranger. One of the downsides of this is that people now lack strong relationships. As the realm of money grows, more and more aspects of human experience that were previously based on relationship become transactional. My sense is that we're heading for an integration. It's highly unlikely that we will be getting rid of money anytime soon as a tool, but it is going to decrease in importance. More and more human experience will be moved back into the realm of mutual aid / gift. This is what is necessary for a Stage Green society to emerge based on community and relationship.

It's definitely okay to do that. Just be genuine about it. She may not be willing to answer you though. Or she may simply lack the self-awareness to know why she really cut contact with you, beyond what she is telling herself.

What is it specifically that you feel makes you angry?

Yeah you got it. Almost everything in nature is interdependent. The benefit of independence is that you don't have to rely on anyone and no one relies on you. But ironically, the cost is exactly the same. Do you really want to rely on yourself? And of course most people in western culture would say "yes!". But this is just a product of our particular culture. No wonder people are so fearful and constantly feel like they have to fight to survive. They are trying to rely on themselves instead of seeing support all around them. And then that of course becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Cultures that believe in independence end up destroying relationships and community.

They're not a joke. Life is relationships. You have a relationship to your food, to objects you own, to your friends, family etc. The problem, for various reasons, is that we're not very good at them. Everyone wants to be independent. But independence has a price.

Bruh It's good that you're taking personal responsibility for you life. I'm sure your job does benefit you. But you really need to take a deeper look into how capitalism works and not just swallow the neoliberal kool-aid.

@LearningPodo I was in a frat in college. As bizarre as it sounds, I actually do think it benefitted my growth. Yes there was lots of lower consciousness activities like drinking, partying, etc. But it helped me gain a lot of the social skills I have today. Made me a lot more comfortable in those kind of situations. It also gave me a sense of community. A sort of “home” I could also return to. So while there are a lot of critiques you could make of fraternities, the reality is I don’t think I was ready to learn those unless until I experienced it. Sounds like you might be the same. It’s a shame because fraternities could play an important role in growing up for guys. But they’re just so enmeshed in a toxic culture that it becomes almost impossible.

I’m not sure what your point is? I’m not saying I’m above the effects of celeb worship. I fall into it sometimes. My point is just that the more conscious you become, the less that halo effect will be noticeable.

@Justin Michael It's because of the perceived value that a celebrity has. It basically plays into every cognitive bias there is (social proof, scarcity, authority). Subconsciously it feels like they are different from other people. Of course this is not true. A celebrity is just a person, and often that perceived value is totally manufactured. But for a mind with a low level of consciousness, you'll place them above others. I've found that the more you do spiritual work, the less you get caught up in celebrity worship.

It can be tricky. The difference can be subtle at times. But keep in mind, it's not like your angels won't communicate to you with thoughts. I've just found that it has a bit of a different feel to it.

@StudentOfLeove 30 hours is not that long to go without asleep. So it sounds like your visuals were more for a different reason than lack of sleep per say.

@Hello from Russia Yup. Cause and effect is impossible to really determine. We just chunk down infinite connectedness to make sense of the world.