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Right, it's a tradeoff. The shadow is that the same impulse to maintain harmony is what causes truth to get swept under the rug. Women are not just sharing truth with more tact. It's a more social way of sense-making, based on consensus and prioritizing group well-being. In that sense, it's more collectivist. Like a hive-mind. This might work if collective sense-making favored truth. But often it doesn't. Group sense-making almost always prioritizes survival of the group. So truth will get sacrificed in these scenarios. Autonomy of mind generally favors men. Men are often rewarded for breaking from the herd for the purposes of innovation, standing out and taking risks. And someone who is not as sensitive to the lasers and attached to connection is much more suited for cutting through group-think and delusion. But of course this also can come at the cost of rupturing social cohesion and connection. Women’s truth mode: high-resolution sensitivity to emotional systems, but often pressured to suppress disruptive insight for social survival. Men’s truth mode: lower sensitivity to emotional costs, enabling more autonomous sense-making and blunt truth-telling, but may lack the nuance to deliver that truth with sensitivity.

That's that Bonnie Blue awakening.

There is more to awakening than ruining your cosmic cosplay.

The ultimate test from God

Folded quick as hell on that one

Yes, that's true. Folding is inevitable. There's no shame in it.

You can still choose Absolute Truth but then live a human life. It's not strictly an either / or choice.

Why are you against addition of inputs? These inputs can be helpful beyond just "compensation". Especially if you don't have top-tier genetics. You seem to keep thinking you can solve all health problems by living like ancient people.

But that also doesn't mean men and women have the same orientation towards truth. Survival has created various incentives and tradeoffs around truth.

Survival / effectiveness often requires both fantasy and truth. You could look at it from either perspective.

You'd have to actually commit to her in a romantic fashion. Do you want that?

Be careful though, because vibes can be misleading. These people are often delusional and not always as good as they seem.

SD Green music is really good for this:

@Rishabh R change is disruptive. You often don't appreciate how difficult integrating change is until you've done it. If some ways, you can be better off just being conservative and not trying to change your life too much.

That's a good answer. You're doing some serious sense-making.

Do you understand why ethnocentrism / nationalism is important? That's the real test of your integration.

Tolerance: your beliefs are wrong, but I still accept you. Here's a hug Integration: I understand where your beliefs are right and wrong

Right, because Yellow should have integrated both sides already. Yellow would understand what the KKK gets right, why it exists and integrate that into its perspective.. Yellow would be deeper than that. What you're describing is more tolerance / acceptance. That's not the same as integrating their perspective. I'd say that's a safety / personal boundary situation. You don't need to tolerate toxicity in your life. You can disengage from such people if you need to.

We learned nothing apparently:

@Santiago Ram bro if you're gay, you don't need to pick up women. You could try just making friends with them if that pushes your comfort zone.

It's different because the Yellow perspective is more meta and integrated. At Green, you're triggered by the KKK because they go against your values (multiculturalism, tolerance, etc). At Yellow, you're more so triggered by the entire game of politics being played. So you might be triggered by the KKK and multiculturalists fighting, not just the individual sides. Yellow begins to step away from taking sides as much. You're less in the culture war and more of an observer, integrating all the various sides and perspectives.

It would also be unfair to place that responsibility solely on her shoulders. She is going to feed off of you. You need to do your part.

I’ve been reflecting on why some guys get stuck in blackpill thinking and why it feels so alien to me. In doing so, I’ve realized I had a lot more advantages in dating than I ever thought. For most of my life, dating just felt normal. It was assumed. I was plugged into an invisible social pipeline that gave me chances to learn, fail, and keep going, even when I didn’t recognize it at the time. As early as sixth grade, my friends and I were daring each other to talk to girls at middle school dances. I still remember the look on her face when I took my first real "rejection". It hurt like hell. But the social pipeline helped keep things moving. It normalized the experience. Over time, things turned from... middle school dances and hiding first kisses... to high school sweethearts and proms... to college parties and fraternity formals... to nightclubs and summer flings in Miami. That was reality for me. I didn’t even hear about the "pills" until I was near the end of college. By then, I’d already lived through a dozen emotional arcs. Some good, some bad, some confusing, some transformative. But for many blackpill guys, those chapters never started. You had little or none of the experiences I just described. You feel left out, like no woman wants you, and life just isn’t fair. And truthfully, you’re not wrong. Is it fair that I had these experiences and you didn’t? That others seem to get what you want while you watch from the sidelines? Not particularly. But that’s how it played out. My goal now is to be more empathetic and to notice how my own upbringing shapes the way I see all of this. I don’t think the blackpill is crazy. It’s built on a set of experiences I didn’t live. But if I could offer you one thing, it wouldn’t be advice. It’d be a night out. A chance to see what’s possible. No guarantees. Just something to test the story you’ve been told.

It's very context dependent. Someone like Jocko is a bad example because he is a serious person who thrives in serious environments. That's his niche. Expecting Jocko to thrive in a nightclub, where it's about cutting loose and having fun, is not that realistic. He might be able to do it but it's not going to be his strength. A lot of "game" is about understanding what environment you thrive in and setting things up in your favor. The only reason nightclubs are recommended is because of volume. If you're going out to deliberately approach women, you just need a lot of them in one area to make it worth the time investment. Also, there's more of a chance for casual encounters because people are feeling loose and partying. It's not because nightclubs will automatically play into the strengths of your personality.

Don't chase happiness. Chase your development, potential and truth-seeking.