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No one has all their needs met. That’s correct. You network with people near to you in terms of development and build together. Generally you will not be able to meet or network with people who are extremely wealthy or famous. And if you try to hack your way up the social ladder, you’ll generally not see much results. Some people may even exploit that desire. There are exceptions. One of my friends throws these crazy mastermind dinners with very successful people in Miami. I’ve been to one of these dinners, and I was easily the least objectively successful person there. But I still got to meet everyone, explain to people what I do and got some cool connections out of it. So sometimes you get can opportunities like that. But generally what I would recommend is to work on building something real and of value. That could be a skill, a business, a social media following, whatever. It’s a bit of a chicken-or-the-egg scenario, because obviously it can be challenging to do this if you have no connections or resources. So go slow. Eventually it starts to snowball. The more value you offer, the more people want to associate with you, the more opportunities you get, the more value you can bring. So network as much as you can. But also, build the foundation and work up from there over time. It might take years. But the more you build that snowball, the more momentum it gets.

@Kshantivadin Looks like a good general outline to me. One thing I’ll add is that building solid friendships requires Win/Win scenarios. It’s not enough that you just provide value to them or they just provide value to you. Both those configurations are unstable and won’t last long-tern. Really you need to both be adding value to each other. And value is of course very subject. Intimacy could be considered a form of value. Good conversation could be value. Business contacts could be value. Anything you care about is value. So I would define what needs you are looking to be fulfilled. And then when you meet people, look for ways they might meet one or more of your needs. It’s okay for one person to not be all things to you and not meet all your needs. They don’t need to be your best friend and your party buddy and your business partner and your lover and and and… Ticking just one box can potentially be enough. “This is the person I talk to when I have a bad day” or “this is the person I talk about consciousness with” or “this is the guy I party with”. Doing that takes the pressure off of people having to be perfect in order for them to be in your life. And it increases the optionality you have for meeting your needs. In my experience, the more each party values the needs being met, the stronger the friendship. It really just becomes obvious that you should spend time together. From there, maintaining your social circle is like being a gardner. If you just grow a bunch a plants but then don’t tend to them on a regular basis, they eventually die. That’s also your friendships. And some plants need more regular tending to than others. But the key is seeing these relationships are alive, evolving entities, rather than just static, fixed things.

Nothing is ultimately antithetical to spiritual development. We will continue to use the technology we have developed unconsciously for some time. Humanity is maturing. Tech like social media, robots, AI and VR are very new. We do not understand the full implications and Right Use of all our technology yet. That takes experience and will continue to evolve.

What specifically about what I said did you find extreme?

Yeah I’ve found the same. Obviously a good channel by definition is able to “get out of the way”. But in my experience it’s never 100%. Even to use a specific language already implies a certain distortion from the original vibrations. The way I’ve heard it described, it’s more like a third entity is created. Which is mix of the channel and that which is being channeled. I wouldn’t doubt that our urban environments are not the healthiest. Surely they affect us in a myriad of ways, some perhaps unconscious to us. But it seems a stretch to me to suggest they are a catalyst for homosexuality. If there is a link, I’m not seeing it.

Not a good look for Ra on this one. I’m pretty sure homosexuality is not caused by urban cities distorting our aura. Definitely calls into question what biases the channeler might have had.

I’d recommend by actually becoming a man of value. It’s not really a limiting belief if you’re say, a 20 year old kid with nothing to offer, that a model “10” likely won’t be interested in you. She probably won’t, and that’s how it should be. But you CAN develop yourself over the years to where you are bringing a ton of value to the table. And part of the value includes working on your inner confidence and self-esteem. That itself is value. But the tangibles don’t hurt either.

Interesting that you interpreted what I said as potentially extreme feminism. I would like to see the differences between men and women honored. I would also like to see the medicine and wisdom of the feminine brought online in the collective.

Yes and no. At lower level of development, guilt/fear/shame are indeed power tools of the Social Matrix to influence and control behavior. They do create order in society to a certain extent. And awakening does require letting go of a lot of traditional morality, which is socially constructed and relative. However, at a higher level of development, what keeps a person from being a "devil" is not fear/shame/guilt. It's consciousness. It's an awareness of Oneness and of Love. If you were woke enough to accept that you were the only conscious entity in existence, there would be so much Love pouring out of you that devilry would be essentially nonexistent in your behavior. It would not even be a consideration. Of course you would still have to survive as a human, which requires a certain amount of selfishness. But that’s not really the devilry we are mostly concerned with. That's the power of moving up the vibrational scale. You enter a new world with new rules. Notice that all the greatest mystics / saints / sages were revered for their Love, not devilry. You cannot know Truth and be a devil.

@Someone here you definitely don’t need to do raw eggs and milk. The main idea is just to have protein and a little bit of carbs post-workout to give yourself a insulin spike. But really, this is mostly stuff that only matters if you’re an athlete or bodybuilder. If you’re just trying to be healthy, get your protein in whenever is convenient for you. Just don’t eat right before working out for digestion reasons.

@Jon_Bundesen I would go to the parties. If you’re not old enough to get into the club, you’re probably not old enough to be taking pickup so seriously. Just get basic socialization experience. Learn how to make friends. Learn how to manage a social circle. Dating at your age is all about your friend group, and that doesn’t change much when you get older. If you do this, you will have a huge advantage by the time you’re old enough to go to clubs. Pickup is mostly for guys who have had a deficit of social experience growing up.

@alhhany because leadership positions have historically been for men to hold. Things are fortunately changing. We are going to see more and more female spiritual leaders in this generation than any other. It’s already happening.

@integration journey That’s the good stuff. As far as integration, I like gentle meditation or just taking walks outside in nature. Journaling or talking to a trusted mentor can help as well. Basically, any activity where you are relaxed and your mind is free to wander and churn on everything you just experienced.

That’s good. It sounds like you were carrying that hurt for a while. And now maybe this has helped you let go of some of it. He probably does feel bad, but I would not assume that means he will behave any different if you meet up. Most fuckboys don’t think of themselves as hurting women. They think of themselves as good guys. But it benefits them to not see negative consequences for their actions. So he may feel some remorse. He is probably not a sociopath. But whether or not his behavior has changed is very different.

Thank you. I’d definitely like to see other forms of love normalized beyond strict monogamy. Collectively there will be resistance, but the good news is that those seeking out alternative relationship structures don’t have to wait. Any couple can choose to define and redefine their relationship in a way that suits them. Just don’t expect other people to “get it”.

Long video, I’ll have to watch it another time. But I’ve definitely been interested in these kind of topics for a long time. It seems to me more of a question “when” rather than “if” we’ll make a shift to a more Green type of economy. What that looks like, I still don’t exactly know. Probably UBI and a reformation of the monetary system at least. But undoubtedly, this economy will represent all the values that Green holds: sharing, equality, inner peace > material goods, “less is more”, return to nature, humanism, compassion, harmony, etc. It will also have the shadows of stage Green, which will eventually become obvious and push us into Yellow. But we are still a long way from that point. An extremely valuable book on this subject is Sacred Economics by Charles Eisenstein. He integrates ideas from degrowth scholars, indigenous wisdom, Keynes, Silvio Gesell, Georgism and many others. It maybe gets a bit idealistic at times, but I’ve found it to be one of those life-changing books.

Yeah this is the key. Neither repressed masculine or feminine is the answer. If we zoom in, at times we may need more of one energy than the other. But from a larger perspective, both play an essential role.

Of course. Strict monogamy is a strategy that humans adapted a long time ago. And for a variety of reasons, it worked. But now a lot of people are questioning whether this strategy still has merit. There’s a great new book called Open Monogamy by Dr. Tammy Nelson that I’ve been reading. One of the things she argues for is that couples need to find their place on the “monogamy continuum”. In other words, how much monogamy is right for your relationship? That could mean anything from an open relationship to “you can’t even look at other people”. The point is that the relationship structure should exist to serve the relationship. And any structure that accomplishes this, assuming it’s among consenting adults, is worth considering. Obvious potential shadows of non-monogamy include fear of intimacy, commitment phobia, appeasement of one partner, addiction to novelty, etc. Potential shadows of strict monogamy include just going along with the grain of society, restriction, denial of sexual urges, getting stuck in a routine, etc. There are also collective issues to concern ourselves with. For instance, does it benefit society as a whole for people to be strictly monogamous? All this should factor into a holistic, conscious decision made with your partner.

@Tudo unless you’re really getting great results online, I would definitely continue going out at night. A month is not nearly long enough to see where this can lead you. Perhaps make adjustments as far as venues, wings, logistics etc. Ideally you could do both. Go out at night, and spend maybe 30 minutes a day working on your profile, swiping girls and sending messages. If you have a really good profile it can pay off.

Correct. Assuming they are used responsibly and not abused or misinterpreted, psychedelics show you truth. Truth can only add to your alignment. Alignment can only add to you getting what you want. The only caveat here is that you may be surprised what it is you actually want. If we’ve been looking at the world through a lens of wounding and fear, then seeing truth can change our priorities. But that will still be a choice you make when ready. No one can force you into that, not even yourself.

I get it. You don't want to skip steps and maybe miss some important things at the lower stages. What I'm saying is that it's ultimately a baseless fear. More alignment with yourself can only bring in more things that you are actually wanting. In practice, I've never seen anyone grow too fast. I've seen people act like they're more grown than they are. But actually growing up happens exactly as fast as it should. You can spiritually bypass and pretend you don't want what you want. But that's just more mis-alignment. If that's the truth, what psychedelics should reveal to you is that you've been spiritually bypassing your needs. And that you need to go handle that. Of course, none of this is to say you have to do psychedelics. Psychedelics may or may not be right for you right now, I don't know. The point is that it's only from truth that we can really make good decisions. Bullshit yourself if you want, but it's going to cost you.

@Bob Seeker Psychedelics will help with becoming an emotionally and spiritually healthy attractive man. They will help you see that life is your creation. They will help break patterns that were limiting you. They will help with opening your heart to intimacy, romance and healthier relationships. All of which can certainly lead to success with dating. It is extremely unlikely psychedelics will help you become some sort of pua master. Not because you couldn’t per say, but because it likely won’t be of much interest to you at that point. You’ll crave depth and quality, not just quantity. Being a pua master does not equal being a healthy, attractive man. It is quite possible to be very good at pua and have very little consciousness. In fact, in some cases you could argue low consciousnesses helps you. The good news though is that psychedelics do not “destroy ambition”. Such a thing is not possible nor healthy to desire. What they do is simply reveal what you actually want. When that happens, old delusional things you wanted may, or may not, fall away. Either way, it’s only a byproduct of awareness. So you don’t have to worry about psychedelics ultimately ruining your fun or getting rid of something you want.

Found Leo’s content in 2015. Since then I feel like I’ve outgrown a lot of teachers. But Leo’s content has had depth and staying power. It continues to evolve right alongside me. He has helped me understand Love, truth, God, religion, psychedelics, science, rationality, politics and so much more. He has given me practical tools to change my psyche. He has helped me raise my standards and create a big picture vision for my life. And this community he started has been a safe haven for me to explore these ideas with others. Did Leo have to do any of this? Not really. I’m sure he could have made enough money to survive some other way. But he chose to create all this anyway. And most of us have never paid him a dollar.

I’d consider some basic meditation if you don’t already. Maybe just a few minutes a day. That can create a healthy foundation for you to build off of.

ENFJ https://www.16personalities.com/enfj-personality It's interesting to see how my results on this test have changed over the years. As an angsty teen, I'd get INTJ. Then I started getting ENTJ as I grew up and started doing spiritual work. Now apparently it's ENFJ. Which I've been getting for like the past two years. I'm curious who else has had a similar experience.