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@Eren Eeager Guru needs to google Wim Hof method

The benefits are that you're actually taking a full breath. If you're just breathing from your chest, you're breathing is extremely shallow. And that is going to subconsciously trigger anxiety / fear/ fight or flight response. When your breathing is deep and full, just the opposite occurs. It signals to the subconscious that you are safe. And you enter into a parasympathetic state, which is associated with creativity, intuition, healing, etc. Try Wim Hof Method. I could never go very deep just doing shamanic breathing. But doing Wim Hof breathing, I've been able to do 45 minutes so far. Same effect as far as I can tell.

That's good. But I'd say it's more about the kind of content you're consuming on the internet in terms of your attention span. If you're reading an ebook, you're probably alright. If you're binge watching shock videos on youtube with jumpcuts every 10 seconds, yeah you might cause some damage. Meditation will help. But it's not a substitute for poor habits outside of it. No. Limiting belief for sure. Yes. So do that.

I wouldn't look at it this way at all. Think about it more like distortion. You already are unconditionally loving, generous, compassionate and all those things we seek doing spiritual work. That's who you are. But there's some distortions to actualizing that for most people. Distortions that comes from trauma, societal programming etc. And ultimately, it's just a game God is playing with itself. So no, you don't have to live with inherent selfishness because you are not inherently selfish. No one is inherently selfish. Our goal is to see that and actualize it.

@The Don Hate to say it, but if you're being awkward you're still anxious. The two go hand in hand. Likely what has happened is just that your anxiety has diminished. It's still somewhat there, but it's become more subtle. Which then makes you act it subtle weird ways. Just spend more time socializing with people and doing the spiritual work. Notice any habits or environmental factors that may be contributing to your anxiety. The awkwardness will continue to diminish over time as you become more in alignment. Right now, it's like you're an instrument that's playing out of time with the rest of the orchestra. So you gotta get back into the flow.

Love it. Dude gives no fucks. And that's exactly the attitude you need for improv. If you start getting in your head about it, it ain't gonna work. You just gotta let go, flow and trust. I really feel it's a spiritual experience.

@Fran11 I have left behind several friend groups myself. It's not easy but it can become necessary. The good news is that then you'll have created space for people who are more in alignment with your values to show up.

@Striving for more You start to attract them the more you believe in yourself . More practically, you have to look for them. Entrepreneur masterminds, meetups, charity events, etc. Get creative with it.

Seeing some good stuff here. My long term goal is to live in more harmony with nature. I want to wake up to fresh dew on the grass and go to sleep under a starry sky. I want to feel connected to the things I own and consume. And I want to do it with the people I love. More practically, that would mean homesteading with my family and / or starting an ecovillage. At the moment though, I have essentially none of the practical skills to make that work. Nor the necessary business infrastructure. So I think 2021 is going to be largely about me reskilling myself and continuing to redesign my business to reflect this goal. If that's all I did, it be a very successful year. That would set me up to actualize this vision by the time I'm in my mid 30s. I also have to find a wifey who is down for this

@Lyubov You definitely can. But often someone ends up trying to make the situation more than platonic, usually the guy. If you really want to have female friends as a guy, you gotta be okay with letting go of that.

I love this I play with the trees all the time.

@Peo I would like to see a move towards decriminalization at least. Criminalizing drugs has not proven effective at stopping people from doing them, its just made it more shady. And if someone is addicted to a drug like cocaine, that's a mental health issue. I find throwing people in prison for that absurd. Really the whole justice system needs to change.

@keenemind There's no easy answer here. It sounds like you can't yet afford to live on your own. So you're going to have to make this environment work for you while you simultaneously plan to get out. I would also stick up to your father. Assuming he's not going to throw you on the streets, let him know that this business is what you're doing and he needs to adjust himself accordingly as a loving father. Beyond that, continue your meditation practice. Get grounded in your truth every morning before you see your father.

@Meditationdude Stream of consciousness journaling is excellent. You can practice what Julia Cameron calls The Morning Pages. Basically you just write two-three pages of whatever comes to mind, no stopping.

@Beginner Mind I have intuitive abilities. What are you seeking a psychic for?

@73809 You want to start with observing your thoughts. That's because at this point, your thoughts are deeply unconscious and automatic. So you have to bring awareness to that. Eventually, your mind will start to silence. You'll think a lot less and when you do think, it will feel more intentional.

No it wasn't. I've had panic attacks like this several times. Didn't start until I started doing spiritual work. Take some time to relax. Start the work when you're ready again.

Yeah that sounds excellent. There are smart villages, regen villages, ecovillages, transition towns, intentional communities and probably many others. A lot of crossover between them. My understanding is that this individualistic way of living arose simultaneously with our current economic / financial system. The very basis of capitalism is that we are individual economic agents. You have your own bank account, your own career, your own bills, your own private property, etc. Sometimes these individuals team up, as in the case of a business, but at the end of the day your well being is largely still separate from others. My co-worker can get fired while at the same time I get a raise. You can fail to pay your rent while your next door neighbor is thriving. I find this to be highly unnatural. In a tribal situation, the difference between your well being and the rest of the tribe is essentially non-existent. This excessive individualism born from stage orange is destructive. And it also reflects a lower level of consciousness where we can even believe that individualism is possible. What this means for the future of the cities / suburbs model, I don't know. But we are already seeing people flee the cities in big numbers right now. My thinking is that "small" and "local" is going to become the new normal, while at the same time integrating some of the good that has come from globalization.

@SamC There's probably a way to fuse both of them, you're gonna have to get creative. Or you can just keep music more as a hobby and less as a career. Have you done a lot of public speaking? How did you come to the conclusion that public speaking was your LP?

@ColeMC01 There's a certain amount of truth in what you're saying. But I would add a lot more nuance to it. The problem "nice guys" typically have is that they're not in their power. But that doesn't mean the other extreme of toxic masculinity is any better. I wouldn't focus on trying to be either an asshole or nice. Don't "try" to be anything. You need to find what is you and own it.

Follow your interests. If "finding your purpose" seems too daunting, and it definitely can be, just pay attention to what feels genuinely good. The good news is that while your job might be soul sucking, you'll be able to use that money to fund whatever your next project is. That's a big deal.

@LordFall I'm with you on this. I absolutely loved the community feel in college of living amongst everyone you knew. It seems so strange to me that as soon as we become adults we immediately isolate ourselves into own boxes. Of course, people should live whatever lifestyle brings them the most happiness. But I do question that if it wasn't a societal norm, how many people would really choose that life? This is also why I'm so interested in ecovillages these days. Beyond the environmental benefits, there seems to be immense social and community benefits to that lifestyle. You might also want to look into ecovillages. There isn't a whole lot of traveling together but you would be living and working together.

@BornToBoil Some of the conclusions you’ve come to aren’t wrong. But just because they’re not wrong doesn’t mean they’re not an excuse. Yes, I find it absurd that pickup needs to exist. In a more conscious society it wouldn’t. And yes, a lot of it is compensation for insecurities. And yes, you should continue to do the inner work. But that’s all stories. None of that changes the fact that right here, right now, you are obviously not experiencing the dating life you want. And so you’ve got to play with where you are at. Unless you have a better plan on how to change your situation, I’d approach a minimum of 100 girls before you dismiss pickup. You don’t have to have sex with them if you really don’t want to. But at least know you CAN do it before you criticize it.

@Porphyry Fedotov Sounds like things were friendly, but she’s not exactly seeing you as a boyfriend. More like just a friend. To be sure, there’s nothing wrong with having strictly female friends or taking things slow. In fact I’d highly recommend it. But if your case: 1) you don’t want to be her friend 2) she is your friend because you’re too nervous or unsure of how to make it anything else. And that’s fine too. Almost every guy I know has experienced that at some point, including myself. But beware that is what’s happening. More important than salvaging this particular relationship is that you internalize the lessons. What could you have done differently? Why didn’t you do that originally? What specific fears are showing up here? How are these fears benefitting you?

@Javfly33 You’re feeling this way because you’re being shown something you feel you really want, but also feel you can’t have. That triggers feelings of powerlessness, inadequacy and shame. And then you know you should approach her, but you’re not, which then causes you to beat yourself up for not doing it. To answer your question, no it doesn’t have to be like this. It’s very possible to develop your dating skills and resolve these emotions.