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Your imagination is powerful and important. But we do meditation for a different reason. You see, your mind is imagining all the time. We silence the mind using meditation because that allows you to become a clear channel for God to speak through you and as you. The vessel, you, needs to be emptied. Otherwise your thoughts are just unconscious programming, trauma and coming from the fear-mind.

Yes you definitely can. But I would suggest your top priority to be developing your meditation habit. If you have to put the others on hold in order to make that work, fine. Your gains will survive. But otherwise you should be able to do both.

@mmKay I don't want to burst your enthusiasm but I don't see this as stage Green. Lots of people give money away, even when they're fully in stage Orange level consciousness. I don't know this guy at all, but from the little bit I saw it doesn't look like he has made the leap. Maybe I'm wrong but that's my initial impression.

@marinaaniram There's still plenty of value in studying the illusion. Your memories, for example, help you a great deal in navigating your practical life. It's just that your practical life isn't actually real. It's as real as a dream, which of course can feel very real when you're in it. So if you'd like to dream something pleasant, I'd recommend it.

@Value So what's the problem? Why is your girlfriend an obstacle to you traveling, being social and having fun? Unless you mean something else by wanting to "party" .

@eggopm3 It wouldn't say it implies it without more context. But I certainly wouldn't rule out the possibility. You guys are going to be alone together for a long period of time, so who knows. What do you want? Do you want to lose your virginity to this girl? What are you looking to get out of this experience?

I did one RSD bootcamp. While I did get a lot of practical experience that weekend, looking back I don't think it was worth it. The best thing I ever did for my game was get a group of committed friends who were also into game. And then just approach relentlessly, day after day, for months on end. I'm not saying there aren't benefits to getting a coach. Undoubtedly it has helped a lot of guys. It just wasn't my path. My path was me and a bunch of my friends all sucking and figuring it out together over time. Also, when you have friends who are good at game, then you have a real solid foundation to start building a big social circle. That's when game really goes into easy mode.

@Striving for more Even if the pandemic is a real reason not to approach, you still used that as an excuse. Why not just say hello and let her be the one to you that she's not comfortable talking to strangers? You didn't do that because you didn't want to. You were looking for an "out" not to approach.

@Yoshy After reading everything you've written, I think you'd be wise to at least challenge this belief system you've created. Your perspective on relationships and dating in general is very pessimistic and comes off as jaded to me. So if I were you, I'd question myself.

How else would you describe your true nature?

Just think about it. You do not just "randomly" want a lamborghini. There's a real payoff in your mind to having that. What is it? And be specific, don't just say "it's my ego". For instance, maybe having a lamvorghini would make you feel like a fucking boss. Maybe people would respect you more. Maybe people would see you as someone to admire and who was successful in life. Maybe it would mean financial security. Maybe you think you need it in order to attract those supermodels. Whatever your reason, find it. Those are just examples. Once you've found the reason you want those things, then maybe you can begin letting it go. But you have to understand why you don't want to let it go in the first place and resolve that.

@SamC A lot of people say it's a sign of a vibrational upgrade or download. So if you've been doing a lot of meditation / breathwork I wouldn't be surprised. I'd stick it out for now. If it becomes a problem then maybe see a doctor. But my sense is that you're fine, just ride it out.

I'd take another look inside. If you aren't forcing yourself, then why aren't those things already gone from your life? If you really had no resistance, they'd already be gone and we wouldn't be having this conversation. But they obviously give you something. There is some sort of benefit you're getting from living that lifestyle, which is why you're struggling to give it up. So just be honest. What good is coming from the nightclubs / lamborghinis etc? Even if it seems trivial.

That's an understandable conclusion to draw. And it's okay that you feel that way. I would ask yourself, "when is the first time I felt like something is wrong with me? And why?". See if you can trace it back to the source.

@SS10 You need to find out what benefit you get from procrastinating. How is it serving you?

@krockerman You just need to allow yourself to feel. The emotions are already there.

@bliss54 Well "living with people" is not the same question as "living with your parents". I actually think living close to your parents could be really nice. The problem is, most people have dysfunctional families and all sorts of trauma from growing up. And society is not really set up for that. It's set up mostly for you to get a wife and then get a house / apartment to raise your kids. For you, it sounds like some independence from your parents would be a good thing. What do you like to do? How do you want to spend your life?

It sounds like you're trying to "force" yourself to spiritual. That won't work. Force is just implies more resistance and fragmentation. You want to get your whole being in alignment. Okay, so you want a lamborghini. So what? What's wrong with that? Why is that bad? I had a phase where I was into everything you just listed as well. What if you allowed yourself to have those things?

@xxxx In my Theta Healing training, we were taught how to do future readings for clients. I've also had several readings done for me and the results have been very interesting. My belief is that we can see the future. However, it's not as solid as you might imagine. When I do a future reading, I'm just seeing a possible outcome for the client. That outcome can be changed. So there is value to it but it's not set in stone. Tarot and crystal gazing comes to mind. However, these are just tools to tap into your intuition and aren't actually necessary. The way I personally do it is just ask.

@kras Just do it. It'll be a good learning experience regardless of the outcome. Take a long-term, growth mindset when it comes to dating.

@Moon It's a really good question, one I've thought about quite a bit. As a society as a whole, we're coming out of a Blue level of consciousness where sexuality tends to be repressed. Don't talk about, don't flaunt it, don't even think about it. And so I think it's good that people have released a lot of shame around casual sex. That being said, just releasing shame around something does not necessarily make it a healthy choice. I might have no shame around constantly eating fast food, but my body won't be so happy about that. Casual sex can also turn into a coping mechanism for deeper emotional / existential wounds. So we want to eventually get beyond shame and coping to ask ourselves, what do we really want? Is casual sex really what we want? Or do we want something deeper? Do we want to just get off? Or do we want to feel connection and intimacy with that person? And I don't think there's any wrong answers here. Maybe you've just got out of a long relationship and you're not ready for something deep. Or maybe you're tired of shallow experiences and want that connection. We all have different phases of life. So rather than worrying about what's healthy, I'd focus on what makes us happy.

@seeking_brilliance Oh that's beautiful. I will look out for this.

@Alotofquestions Focus on health and strengthening your immune system. Whether it's Covid or a dangerous vaccine you are worried about, don't forget your own power.

@Danioover9000 I can see that being a necessary stepping stone for society. I'd like us to get to a point where self-defense no longer needs to be taught though. Perhaps that's naive but I believe it's possible. How? By solving violence at the root level. People do not just attack or bully other people. If that was the case, that some humans are just crazy animals you have to defend against, then maybe self-defense would be justified. But I don't believe that. I believe violence is the result of trauma and lower spiritual consciousness. If you heal that, then what do you need self-defense for? In Conversations With God, God talks about how violence does not exist in highly evolved societies. And that beings in this society would not defend themselves if they were truly attacked. They don't perceive death or damage as real. Of course, we could say we don't live in such a world. But perhaps the only reason we don't is because we believe we can't. We believe we must defend ourselves, so we create a self-fulfilling prophecy where that becomes true. It's a good question to ask though. I don't think there's any easy answers. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

@Strangeloop If the thought that calmed you down was about being straight rather than gay, then I think it’s pretty obvious what happened. You have a shadow around homosexuality. It doesn’t mean you actually are gay. But see if you can observe all the shame that comes up at the thought that you might be. I never knew I had this shadow until I did psychedelics. I was started feeling a deep sense of love while talking to another guy I was friends with. And it freaked me out BIG. Like wtf, I’m not supposed to feel this way about other men. What does this mean? It made me realize just how much shame there was around this idea for me. I actually feel it’s a common shadow for guys to have too. So much of our identity gets wrapped up in trying to be masculine and good with women that the thought of being gay is really terrifying. Aubrey Marcus once mentioned on a podcast that he wants to make out with a guy just to prove that it’s not a big deal and the world didn’t explode. Sounds funny but I think he has a point. Like who gives a shit who you are attracted to, really.