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That is a very small percentage of why real victims are not believed. Most of it comes from victim-blaming and societal norms around assault. If you believe what you wrote, then you’d probably benefit from reading some history specifically on this question. It’s not a “girl who cried wolf” situation. Just punch exactly what you said above in ChatGPT and see what it says.

Stay the course people. I agree it didn't look great for Joe. But calls for him to step down are absurd. He is still the best option at this point.

I am attempting to help show you a different way of thinking about this. Which obviously didn't translate. Generalized anxiety about being falsely accused of something is real. I've experienced it before. So I empathize with that perspective. If that happens, something that can be helpful is to realize that you are still in control of your behavior. You can be a person of integrity in your relationships. You can be someone that people trust. You can learn to navigate emotionally charged social situations with greater ease. This empowers a person, rather than making you feel like they could be accused of something at any moment and that there's nothing they can do about it. Also, if someone doesn't want to be accused of something, just don't do that thing. I've never been accused of tax fraud because I've never committed tax fraud. Works very well. In addition, I've already pointed out we have legal ramifications for false accusations (defamation laws, lying under oath, burden of proof etc). And there are also non-legal, informal ramifications for false accusations in the form of social shaming, stigma etc. So it's not as if these things go unchecked. I don't know what the scientific research on this question says, but I've certainly heard many anecdotes of women hesitating to report genuine cases of assault for this very reason. Of course a false accusation is still possible. And that obviously is problematic if it happens. I do not support such behavior. But the fear around this issue needs to be kept in perspective. Ask yourself: what is the bigger danger in society right now? Is it women making false accusations about men? Or is it women not being believed and listened to in cases of genuine assault?

This is such an absurd “what if” scenario. As if women are intentionally out to get you. If it did happen, the way you handle that is just be reasonable and apologize. Explain calmly and with care that you did not do that. The consequences for both of you would probably be nothing because it’s not a serious situation. In a more serious legal situation, we have defamation and false accusation laws. You cannot just lie in court. I would be devastated. There would be nothing I could do about it. Which is part of the reason why it’s not a good idea to assault women. Negative consequences are important for shaping pro-social behavior. The best thing to do is just act with integrity in your relationships.

Great. So maybe you do happen to be in a position to strike out on your own. I don’t really know. What I know is that most people are not. Even for Owen’s audience, you would be in the minority. If you find that fulfilling, then you do you. Nothing I said is an attempt to preclude you from handling your own survival to a reasonable degree. You can work hard, provide value to society and enjoy the benefits of that. Including some freedom. But also, it’s not just that freedom has a cost. It’s that freedom is mostly a fantasy. You cannot free yourself from survival. If anyone thinks they’ve found a way to be free from survival, I’d urge you to look again. Of course there are relative degrees of freedom that are possible to obtain. But they’re not as relative as people would sell you on. Seeking too much freedom is a big trap. And much of Owen’s message encourages it. You don’t need to be rich to have that.

This is some "but what about us poor men?" bullshit. Of course false accusations are not okay. But there ARE already consequences for false accusations. Women already cannot just get away with saying whatever they want. The reason society is pushing to believe women more and defaulting to trusting them is because for so long they were not. We have a deep societal history of sexual assault, which was just swept under the rug. Women either said nothing about it due to fear, or because they knew no one would care / believe them. Now we are moving to correct that. That's part of modern feminism. And yes, it's going to get ugly for a small percentage of men who genuinely committed assault. That IS justice.

And how do people usually develop those skills? By getting a formal education and working in some career for a long time. Maybe even being an employee. But this is exactly what Owen is steering his audience away from because it's "not niche". Lol. Maybe if you are specifically interested in internet marketing you can learn it all online. But that's a strategy that will only work for a small number of people. Dude, there isn't anything special or niche about what you are doing. Internet marketing IS a deeply saturated industry that is highly competitive. Every idiot wants financial freedom. But you think you are unique and breaking the matrix or something. Many people in IM are making their money off of selling the IM dream to other wanna-be internet marketers. And so does everyone else. So that's not some unique advantage. Also, no supercomputer can download skills into your brain at this point. You are still going to have to work hard to develop at whatever you are trying to do. I'm not telling you to be a victim. I'm pointing out problems of Stage Orange kind of thinking. How about instead of entrenching yourself with insane amounts of wealth and then giving back crumbs to the plebs, we just create a more equal society? Maybe a better society would be one where no one has insane amounts of wealth. Maybe insane amounts of wealth itself is a trap. Think about that. Well if it's working for you then go for it. I'm just making my critiques. Do what you want.

Theoretically nothing. You could run a quality internet marketing firm. But in practice it tends to be much different. I listed those examples because they are ways of making money that attract a lot of scammy, desperate, badly unqualified people. And when you're young, broke and have no skills / credentials, they are highly enticing. Which is exactly Owen's audience. Classic trap.

Rose-colored glasses, my friend. His anti-mainstream bias is obvious. And it will influence his followers, for better or for worse. I'm not critiquing is talk for not being technical. You can have a legitamite seminar that focuses just on mindset and strategy. I'm critiquing his talk because of how it disparages a more traditional path. Too much of this non-traditional, anti-mainstream mindset is not at all good for you. You are not that smart. The majority of your life should be based on a more traditional path, with a small percentage of non-traditional to keep things progressing and not stagnating. Also, it's obvious that his talks mostly cater to a Stage Orange value system. At some point people who follow him need to mature and outgrow this. You do not need a mansion in LA and two million dollars in leather jackets. You are fueling inequality and dragging down society for your own selfish gain.

Yes that could be a good option. People need a foundation. And a strong formal education + career is a great place to start. It’s worse than that. What business are people possibly going to start in their early 20’s (Owen’s audience) when they have no skills, no capital and no knowledge? You’re not going to be launching some innovative startup or product. You don’t have good business ideas because you don’t understand how anything works. You don’t know what is missing in the marketplace or how you would realistically solve that problem even if you did. All that will happen is people will get sucked into some type of Andrew Tate / internet marketing / coaching / alternative health / crypto / daytrading nonsense. There are endless such trash ways you can attempt to earn money. And speaking of Andrew Tate, Owen’s portrayal of him in this video as “just wanting people to think” is egregious. Tate himself is deeply delusional, under massive amounts of group think and potentially dark triad. He cannot help people because he cannot even help himself.

@Butters @VictorB02 It got through some of it. It's not bad advice for people who are interested in a non-traditional path, but I think he disparages a more traditional path too much. For instance, he gave the example of how he could have become a lawyer or professor, but he would have been capped at $120k a year. That is probably the average. But it's not like you can't niche yourself in these professions either. Or pivot to making more money on the business side of things, e.g opening your own law firm. Also, at least as a lawyer or professor, you'd actually have some real skills and credentials. The alternative is what? Become rich with no skills, no credentials? That's probably where most of Owen's audience is starting from. Good luck with that.

That’s all perfectly fine. When I said leave it to the professionals, I was referring to her actual medical care.

@BlueOak just leave it to the professionals for now. Best thing you can personally do is just be there to support her emotionally.

Often we do shun such people. That's a big part of why shame, ridicule and cancel culture exist. Professor Dave's takedown video of Terrence Howard is a good example of this. However, it's not that simple. The reality is that people will always disagree and have different perspectives. How are we to conclusively determine which perspective is the right one? One person says they are right, and someone else says they are right. Now what? Even in a court of law or in some rigorous scientific context, anything can be disagreed with if someone so chooses. "Bad" logic can never be 100% conclusively proven. If you just try to silence people that you disagree with, someone will eventually silence you back when they disagree. And you won't like it. Thus, we allow for some degree of free speech. Some amount of "bad" opinion must be allowed. How much dissenting opinion we extend grace towards usually depends on the severity of the context, e.g free speech during Covid being more highly restricted. But it is a continuous balancing act and people will always disagree on what should and shouldn't be allowed.

We’re now going in circles with this conversation. To reclarify my original position, I am not denying your personal experience with yoga. Yes, mystical experiences are possible to some degree with yoga. But I am thinking from a broader population perspective and of yoga as a whole. From this perspective, I do not believe you have addressed the specific critiques I have outlined. I do not see restating that yoga works for you and your personal experience as a sufficient answer.

Every asana? For which schools? Are we talking traditional Hatha? Vinyasa? Ashtanga? Iyengar? Bikram? Yin? Power? Kundalini? Kriya? Jivamukti? Sivananda? The list goes on, with new schools popping up all the time and the older ones evolving. They are different and present many different asanas, with proponents claiming similar results. So which ones are the perfect ones? I know that anyone can invent a pose and claim anything they want about it. I know that many such claims made by yogis can be exaggerated, misleading, unsupported by scientific research or just completely false altogether. If yoga is a science, then let’s do science. That means you should be able to make predictable, replicable claims and have your feet held to the fire for the accuracy of those claims. Such as what? I don’t know what specific effects or what asanas you are speaking of.

I’d argue Trump’s social media presence is worse than in 2016 and 2020. He has invested a lot in Truth Social, which is fringe and not taken seriously by anyone outside of the MAGA faithful. No one is denying the possibility of a Trump win. Anyone who cares about politics is taking this very seriously. I am critiquing your post because of the certainty you came out of the gate with. Your post is literally entitled “Trump is going to win the election”. Then you preceded to warn us like it is a foregone conclusion. You do not know this.

“Last time” was technically 2020. And he lost. I’m not saying it’s not possible or that it won’t be close or that people shouldn’t take it seriously. But I think you’ve taken it too far if you are so sure trump will win. It’s easy to get a distorted picture of things by paying attention to social media. But the big picture facts remain: Biden is the incumbent, he has done a good (enough) job for most people to not grab their pitchforks, and trump has done nothing but perpetually get arrested and push away moderates since the last time he lost.

It sounds like you’ve had it for a long time then. What is your plan at this point?

That was my interpretation. He mentioned how in his house, family members are allowed punch each other in the gut at anytime to test for core engagement. That includes just walking by each other in the hallway. There might be good stuff in that book, but that part was too much for me. A good example I think of someone taking their own theories too strongly.

Correct. Although I’m not personally a fan of the Supple Leopard. I closed the book as soon as I read that he wants you to keep your core muscles engaged 24/7. But if it works for people, I suppose go for it.

So there’s a lot to unpack here. Going to do my best to break it down without crossing into giving medical advice. First, if you are not having pain and have always had this pelvic tilt, then it’s probably a low priority outcome to work on. I would be more concerned if you had pain and if it was a recent development, e.g noticing postural change after a car accident or slipping and falling. You also have to be careful about assuming that just because you have a minor postural imbalance, that you MUST have stored emotional trauma that needs to be released. This is not necessarily the case. Some people are just born with a certain kind of posture and it means nothing in terms of trauma. Or there may just be some neuromuscular / fascial dysfunction that needs to be addressed. And if you do in fact have trauma, then your best course of action is probably to seek professional help. What helped me with my trauma was years of therapy, difficult conversations with loved ones, introspection and mindfulness. None of this is to say that posture is irrelevant. If you still want to work on your posterior pelvic tilt, you can. But changing chronic posture can be very challenging. Especially on your own without professional help from someone like a chiropractor or physical therapist. So I’d consider if going after that is really the best use of your time considering your goals are healing emotional trauma / energy / libido.

Anterior pelvic tilt indicates a pelvic rotated forward, not backward. OP implied he has posterior pelvic tilt. I would not do this. Just random stretching is likely to accomplish nothing and will be a massive waste of time.

Is it causing you pain? Any symptoms at all? If all you have is a minor posterior pelvic tilt with no symptoms, it's not the end of the world. You may not need to do anything about it at all. Everyone has slight imbalances.

Omg Dave Asprey. He posted a whole video on urine therapy the other day. I’m sure he knows some things, but he’s so ideologically contrarian at times it’s cringe.