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My guess is Trump realizes Mamdani is popular right now. And considering they just got crushed on affordability during the last election, he wants to cash in on that. Trump will suck up to anyone who he thinks will increase his power. It's also possible that Mamdani charmed him because Trump is easy to manipulate. I doubt their goodwill holds long.

There's nothing you're saying I really disagree with. I think minimizing male sexual frustration is wise from a societal POV. And yes, historically society has had mechanisms in place that helped with that. But if you want to understand why people can be so apathetic, it's because of how male biological sorting works. Fair or unfair, some percentage of men are considered collateral damage. So if you don't want to be collateral damage, you have to take responsibility and compete. Otherwise you will get sorted by default. Competition is not strictly "dog eat dog". Competition always includes cooperation, alliances, bonding etc. Which means playing by certain rules.

If you are a man, society does not really care if some small percentage of men are sexually frustrated. You are in a biological sorting competition to see who is most genetically worthwhile of procreating. Some men will lose that competition and be sexually frustrated. Not saying that is right or wrong. Just saying that’s why people have the attitude they do.

Whether or not he's Tier 1 or Tier 2, his philosophy is poor. The quality of your philosophy is what really counts.

Not bad, nothing he said I disagree with per se. But there’s a lot more that could be added.

Because much of modern conventional wisdom is focused on deconstructing rigid, traditional gender roles from the past. It is a collective stage of development. I’m pointing you towards a deeper synthesis of both.

@Emerald I wonder what the version of you without this adaption would look like.

There is no contradiction. Development and “knowing better” is always relative. Feminists have a certain understanding of the world that is more developed than others, but still has room for growth. They still have ignorance.

I mean that when you are genuinely growing, you will adopt certain beliefs and behaviors that genuinely support your development at the time. Only for you burn out and discover the limitations of said beliefs / behaviors later, when you are ready to move on. Feminists are not “tricking” women. Tricking implies that they know better. They do not. What’s actually happening is that feminists are at a certain stage of development. And as such, they will advocate for the beliefs and behaviors that support that stage. That’s all. No trickery needed. Think ignorance, not malice.

It’s not trickery, it’s development. Development involves taking things too far.

Notice what makes you feel open, safe and soft. Follow that. Femininity doesn't come from control, it blossoms in the surrender of it.

@Judy2 I think you're not dysfunctional at all. I think you're sensing your femininity, but you haven't fully embraced it yet. In my experience, femininity doesn't truly unlock until it meets proper masculine containment. That's when it really comes alive.

You should not talk to men and women you are romantically interested in the same. There is a very distinct form of communication that happens with women. Don't think "I need to be more feminine". Think "I need to communicate as a man to a woman". It's masculine / feminine energy interacting. If you just go up and have a bunch of logical man-talk with a woman, of course that won't work. You're treating her like a man, when you should be treating her like a woman.

Women are not just in their masculine in the workplace. The vast majority struggle with their femininity throughout their whole day. It doesn’t just turn on or off. Some may be able to compartmentalize, but even compartmentalization is mostly compensation.

Good news is that you understand the problem. Now you just need action and to put yourself through the fire. You got this, go for it.

Women are often not in their feminine. Especially in the modern world. You probably just caught a taste of one that was. Femininity is an orientation, a way of being.

I think you're trying to describe femininity. That is obviously desirable.

@Tudo 100% cold approach. If you're shy, that's even better. Cold approach will ruthlessly punish any unintegrated shyness or passivity patterns you have. Which is actually what you want. I would also combine cold approach with leaning into the built-in social circle you have in med school. If you want a serious girlfriend, she is likely going to want you to have some sort of social circle. So even if the girls in your school have boyfriends, they can still be your friends and just be people you go out with. They can also introduce you to whatever single friends they might have. And it will just be good for increasing your overall social skills.

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Every accusation is a confession

Yup that's it. I'll add that "convincing" people usually involves logical debate. But logic isn't how she's judging you, she's judging you by feeling your frame. Additionally, logical debate sets a platonic "we're equals" frame. You're no longer a man or a woman interacting.

You'll never get it out of me

It was a good point. My point though is that you don't have to do that to maintain frame. Frame control is more about you staying aligned with truth than convincing her of truth.

It’s not necessary to bash women over the head with truth to assert your frame. The correct orientation is that she feels the solidity of your frame. Then her psyche surrenders in response.

Good, that tells you’re not interested in being some narcissist. But consider the following: 1) Frame control doesn’t mean you have to be rigid all the time or can’t change your mind 2) Truth is actually possible to grasp 3) Your self-doubt and fear could also be self-deception