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If your social media presence is good and conveys the right qualities, yes. Otherwise you’re better off not having one at all.

Kimmel has been a consistent critic of Trump for a long time now. Not surprised.

You're free to try it your way. I think those who do will be disappointed in the results.

That is highly atypical.

Because having a strong a social circle is highly attractive for women. Especially if you appear to be a leader and people really respect you. You can get away without it. But you’re making things way harder on yourself. For a long-term relationship, it should feel like she is entering your world that you’ve set up. You’ve got friends, family, a good career, a philosophy on life and activities you enjoy. Or if you don’t have those things, then you’re actively working towards them.

Came close to marrying a woman I met through cold approach. A lot of the guys I was going out with at the time also found a long-term partner. It's definitely possible, but it took me a lot of approaches and social circle building. Getting laid is not enough. You can have surprisingly weak chemistry with a woman and still get laid. Quality relationships require more.

That changes things a lot. She would not be doing that unless there was at least still some interest on her end to continue things. Just build a little bit of rapport and then shoot your shot.

I'd say it's unlikely to go anywhere, but it's also pretty low risk. You could take a shot through IG. I'd probably start with commenting on her stories if she posts those, just to get some familiarity going again.

Be careful you don't dream yourself as a misogynist.

It's possible from the perspective of infinite consciousness. But pragmatically you wouldn't know how to do that. The dream just dreams. The ego is not in control.

@MoonLanding Yup. You are dreaming your girlfriend and all her ex boyfriends. You don’t remember doing it because you’re doing it right now! The dream is always in the present. Any past you are thinking of is being imagined right now.

This ^^^. Calling is underrated. Text is too easy to ignore.

I agree, you don't need to take a heavy hand at actively filtering for compliance. I'm not suggesting that. Just be your best self, lead and escalate. The filtering will happen naturally.

Meanwhile, here in America we elect our Bolsonaro president again

And even in this story, her asking to makeout could be seen as misleading. You might think "if she wants to buy me a shot and makeout, clearly we are going home together". But that's not what happened, and there's a good chance she wasn't serious about going any further. Strong interest can easily be fool's gold. Much better than flashy results is just consistent compliance. That's the true determinant.

If he survives, I will be shocked. That was a clean neck shot. The article made it sound like the bullet just nicked his neck.

I expect the frequency of events like this to increase.

You're getting hung up on a negative connotation around the word "compliance". What I mean by compliance is just anytime she agrees to do something you ask. If you ask for her phone number and she gives it, that's compliance. If you invite her on a date and she shows up, that's compliance. Compliance also applies to all relationships. If your doctor's office texts you that it's time for your annual physical and you make an appointment, that's compliance. Entering your password into a website is compliance. So is paying for something at a store. Compliance not imply people are your slaves or pets. Why does compliance matter with women? Because if you're a man, you're likely playing the masculine role of leadership in the relationship. It's your job to escalate and move the interaction forward. This is what she wants from you. But you can't lead someone who isn't willing to follow your lead. It's her job to tell you either explicitly or implicitly "yes, no, maybe." Hence, compliance. Funny enough, I've been with women who seemingly were fairly neutral towards me. But they were the ones who showed up on a date, texted me back, etc. Whereas sometimes women who show the most initial interest actually end up being the flakes. It can be very counter-intuitive to what you'd expect.

Are you shit testing me

The problem is giving you their number doesn't necessarily mean anything. Women will just give out their contact info without any genuine interest in meeting up. Ideally, you setup a meetup before you even get their contact info.

I can see you being that for younger women.

Everyone is inevitably influenced by their relationships to some degree.

The part about women not having proper role models for truth really hit me. I dated a woman like that. She was deeply ungrounded and suffered a lot behind the scenes. I cared for her by introducing her to actualized.org, showing her my ways of thinking, etc. But it's not clear whether or not it really helped. I wish I could have done more for her.

You will lose the vast majority of girls with that approach.

@Nito Good job on doing the approach on an attractive girl. That's already a big W. It's also good that you have a bit of a cocky, assumptive frame. Some things I would consider: Your response to her saying "maybe" was not great. She gave you a vague, noncommittal answer and you pushed for investment. Big mistake. Also, the problem with just leaving the ball in her court is that there's about a zero percent chance she will reach out to you. That will not happen unless she is already very into you. So yeah, you're filtering the girl for compliance. But you're filtering her in a way that is almost never going to lead to success. So it's not an intelligent way of filtering. It would be like if you said "I don't want to cold approach women because if she was interested, she would open me!" -> yeah okay, but that's never going to happen. Personally, I would shift away from the meetup at this point and build more rapport / value with her. You asked for compliance and she didn't give it, so now you've got to back off and get her invested before you ask for more again.