aurum

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  1. First off, don't resist it. If you hate someone, except it. Every emotion and every circumstance "should" exist...because it does. Who are you to say what should and shouldn't exist? Besides that, realize that hatred is basically a function of your RAS. Because this person affects you negatively in some way, you "hate" them. But if you can find a way that this person actually brings you value, your hate will disappear because we're selfish creatures. So try and shift your focus. What GOOD does this person bring to your life? Why should you love them? If you can't find anything, how about just the fact that they're a human being trying to do the best they can like everyone else? That's all anyone can do.
  2. I can tell you that being a grown up is much better than being a kid IF YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING. You get to do what you want, when you want and (hopefully) have the resources to do so. The problem is that most people don't know or can't execute for whatever reason. So adult life actually becomes worse and they start longing for the days of "being a kid again". That's ridiculous.
  3. First off, you are not consuming 500 calories a day while also exercising. So your first challenge is to figure out what that number really is. Buy a scale if and measure all your food. Don't even let 50 calories go uncounted. Once you know how much you're actually eating, figure out your calorie expenditure (here is a good calculator http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/) and how much you need to be eating to be slightly above total calories in. This will allow you to cut fat and build muscle at the same time. Use MyFitnessPal app on your phone to keep track of everything. And then just do the work everyday.
  4. This article completely misses the point. You don't know if what you're passion about right now will last forever, so forget about ever following passion? WTF? If I think I have a passion for being a scientific researcher and follow that passion only to find that I'm more passionate about teaching, I didn't waste my time. I'm learned and I've grown, which is all anyone can do. Finding something you're truly passionate about is like trying to guess a number between 1 and 100 with someone giving you "warmer" or "colder" clues. You just have to keep experimenting. And it's natural for certain things to fall away and no longer excite you the way they used to. THAT MEANS YOU'RE GROWING.
  5. It depends on the person. Some random hater, I don't even give it a second thought or pay attention. If it's a girl I'm dating then respect is a must and I'd cut her out if I really felt like she didn't. A good friend I'd probably sit down and have a discussion with. In the end there will always be people who don't respect you. You shouldn't aim for respect, respect is a by-product of living the life you want and self-actualizing. Focus on growth and thriving instead of coping.
  6. The easiest way for me to get someone out of my head is to have passion for your own life. I'm so passionate about my business and self-actualization work that thoughts about other people don't even occur to me. It's not that they can't. They just won't because I know what's important.
  7. The first step to solving any problem is admitting you have a problem. As long as you deny its existance, no progress can be made. You don't have to like it. You don't have to live with it. But let's not kid ourselves, a fact is a fact.
  8. Yes this is on point. I didn't appreciate the whole "purity of intent" thing in till fairly recently. If you don't declare your sole mission as figuring out TRUTHFULLY just what the fuck is going on with all "this", it doesn't seem to happen. The ego is a shapeshifter and can manifest as just about anything. It can even manifest as someone who acts selfless and without ego. But as an illusion, the one thing ego can't be is True. So when you declare you're heading for truth and damn the consequences, that is the one thing the ego can't seem to survive. Declare sincere intent for finding out what is true. The "universe" will do the rest.
  9. I wouldn't be surprised if Eckhart Tolle is enlightened. But I think his teachings are mostly just about becoming conscious of your unconsciousness, i.e beginning of the breaking of identification with thoughts and emotions. Not full enlightenment. Only the early stages.
  10. For whatever it's worth, I agree with Pinocchio. I don't think Shinzen is enlightened. Why? I don't really know. Call it baseless intuition if you want but something just seems off about him. Maybe I'll have a better answer when I'm further on the path.
  11. Why not?
  12. Yes reading Damnedest has a tendency to do that to people. Honestly as much as I love McKenna, he isn't the final authority on enlightenment. Personally I enjoy meditation and so I do meditative hua tou along with spiritual autolysis because it feels "right" for now. That's really all you can do. Don't get caught in thinking it has to be any one way.
  13. The next step is always the same: is that true?
  14. You're saying, "what if this thing I think I am when I become enlightened is just another mirage?" But the whole point of enlightenment is that you don't think you're anything. Anything you can think of is just a concept and so the moment you try to define it, you've lost it. You're no longer operating on the level of "belief". If this seems absurd, it's because it is. Therefore the only real answer can be "find out for yourself". Keep questioning everything.
  15. @Ayla Well this was rather pointless then wasn't it?
  16. @Ayla Who am I talking to?
  17. Enlightenment is draining and exhilarating. I'm so focused on my own experience honestly I can't imagine caring about other people
  18. It depends on your school of thought but I can't see it happening without a fairly long process. Think of how strong the ego's hold is on humanity. Cutting those chains it going to take some serious effort. I highly question anyone who says it took them less than a couple years.
  19. It's an oversimplification IMO about enlightenment. But it does point to a certain truth that essentially enlightenment is your natural state, if only you could stop seeking.
  20. Great analogy. In fact he almost dies to save something that, from a different perspective, is completely trivial. Just goes to show how warped one's perception might be at any given time.
  21. Yes this really cannot be understated because it's easy for the ego to dismiss this as trivial philosophizing. So let's hammer it home. NO belief is TRUE. All the ancient world religions. All the greatest scientific theories. All ethical and moral codes about right and wrong. All beliefs about who you are and everything you EVER thought... False. All bullshit. Including what you're reading right now. Some questions everyone should ask themselves then (including me): 1) Why do you believe your beliefs to be true 2) Does truth exist and if so what is it? 3) What would happen if we stopped believing EVERY belief that we have? What if we could unlearn everything?
  22. No problem
  23. Sounds like you may be coming into what Jed calls Human Adulthood.
  24. This definitely seems like a good start. But the way I see it there's more to SA. Okay, so you're inauthentic. You're a lying, selfish, delusional person like everyone else and that hurts. It hurts to see that everything is ultimately pointless and that life has no meaning. But that isn't enlightenment. That's more ego, more self-image, more opinions. Only the form has really changed. So what if you're selfish and inauthentic. Is that "bad"? "Bad" and "good" is just more duality, more illusion. Why do you even care about that if everything is meaningless and only awareness exists? Why do you care if other people are inauthentic? It isn't even bad to think that something is bad. Hence not even ego is bad, just false. SA will help you dig deeper. There are more assumptions at play here and as far as I see SA is the process which you find them and hopefully see through them.
  25. I'm familiar with Adyashanti but not this technique. Could you give a brief description?