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I really just think of life purpose as doing whatever the fuck you want to do when you strip away all the social conditioning bullshit. Maybe for you that's to build a huge business that puts 5 million in your bank account. I don't know. But whatever it is, just do it.

You can, you just may have to get more creative with your use of time. What are you willing to give up in order to maintain these habits?

I don't believe in "The One", I'm only believe in relationships that are good and relationships that suck. It's incredibly difficult to find someone of serious quality but there isn't any other way to do it but meet a bunch of people who aren't quality. There's no short cut here. Play the field and enjoy it as much as possible. Trust that you will find that quality partner eventually when the time is right. You won't even be expecting it.

It's definitely not a priority for me. But I'd also be lying if I said I didn't have a certain style. Style comes naturally from authentic expression of self.

Stronger life purpose. Meditation

If you've got time to consistently watch TV and play video games you aren't challenging yourself enough.

Book Name Radical Honesty by Dr. Brad Blanton Rating 9/10 One Line Summary You hate your life because you lie all the time Why it’s Awesome You are a liar. I am a liar. The human species as a whole is one giant cluster fuck of liars. And that’s why people are miserable. Brad Blanton is a fat Texan with a PhD who explains in Radical Honesty that lying is the source of all human stress. This is because we lie to protect our ego, or false mental self-image of ourselves. Yet this maintaining of a self-image causes separation between we actually are in reality and who we are pretending to be. In other words, when you pretend to be someone you’re not, it’s a shitty feeling. There’s no way around this, yet people so desire to maintain these self-images that they will continue lying even at drastic consequences to themselves and others. I’ll give you a practical example. Say your whole life you were a devout Catholic. But one day you begin discovering ideas that maybe the Catholic religion isn’t everything you thought it was. You now have two choices. One, you can renounce your faith. Everyone who once knew you as a devout Catholic will now know you’ve turn your back on your faith. Your family will at best be disappointed, at worst they will disown you. You will likely have to face all your friends since you likely have friends who are religious as well. You will have to tell your spouse that the religion in which you based your marriage and raised your kids you now believe is a sham. Or, you can lie. And I can assure you, most people will take the lie. Either they will lie to themselves by rationalizing why they choose to remain a Catholic or they will lie to everyone around them, telling them they still are a person of devout faith. It’s easy to see why either of these scenarios would cause immense amount of stress. Let’s the person chooses to lie to themselves. In that case, they would forever have to live with the cognitive dissonance and little voice in their head that says “you know this is bullshit” every time they acted on their faith. Or they would be forced to put on an act for people the rest of their life. Assuming you’re not a sociopath, this sounds like the definition of hell. And you’d be right. So maybe you’re saying at this point “well, I don’t do anything like that. I tell the truth all the time. I have no major secrets”. This is where it gets subtle. Maybe you don’t have anything major you’re hiding from the people you love, although I doubt it. But how often do you tell little white lies of omission, conveniently leaving out details? This is a brutal pill to swallow and an even tougher put into practice. As I’ve mentioned before, human beings primary motivating emotion is fear, and most people are simply too afraid to really tell the truth and be completely vulnerable. Blanton goes onto to explain that telling the truth comes in three stages. The first stage he refers to as “revealing the details”. This is when someone comes clean about major lies they’ve been holding from people. The second stage is when people are honestly speaking their mind at all time. Finally, Blanton gives you some practical steps for learning to tell the truth and examples from his client’s therapy sessions (did I mention Blanton is a therapist?). Why Does It Suck Blanton claims that telling the truth is the only way to achieve enlightenment. He certainly wouldn’t be the first person to claim to have found the “true path”. So his claims are probably exaggerated to say the least. Also, this book definitely could have been cut down to its more essentials. Towards the end he is mostly just repeating himself. The Wrap Up This book lives up to its name. It’s a hilarious, brutally honest account of human nature that is bound to make you squirm and feel shitty about yourself. Which is exactly what you need for self-development. I am not above any of this. I still lie all the time. I lie to the girls I fuck by putting on a front that I’m cooler than I actually am. I’m not honest with them about my past, including the fact that I study and practice pickup. I lie to my family by not telling them I resent them and don’t care to speak to them. Instead I just ignore them. I act like I care when I don’t. And finally, I lie to you, my readers. Often I think that my nature writing style and honest opinions won’t be good enough to gain and audience that I want and so I try too hard to make my writing “good”. I lie to you guys by pretending like I have all the answers when I write this reviews. In reality, I’m mostly just making these reviews and opinions up on the spot. The whole, “I’m an authority because I’m an entrepreneur” that I promote myself on this blog is a sham. I own some small time 3d printing business and do some freelance writing. I worry about paying my bills. You don’t have to listen to me. I’m not doing anything anyone else couldn’t. The truth is, I’m a gambling man. Yes, I want fame, recognition, money and women. If it all would just fall in my lap, I’d probably take it and not do a damn thing. Given though that this seems unlikely to happen, I lie to myself and pretend I care about offering value to other people. In reality, I’m mostly just hoping that by offering enough value it will come back to me. And so I gamble. Those are my honest thoughts for the day. Buy this book, read it and stop fucking lying.

You're missing the point to having a life purpose. Life purpose should be something that gives you energy, not something that is a drain.

Emotions are always a good guide. Your intuition knows what is right or wrong for you

Threesomes dude. Find a girl who is down to bring new girls into the bedroom with you. Frame it as a couple activity you will be doing together. The new girl is just a "toy" for you and her. If you can't do that, consider an open relationship. Those can be tough to pull off though without blowing up. You need some serious game.

There's more important factors to worry about in a relationship than whether the couple are introvert or extroverts. Handle the more essential parts and that other stuff will fall into place.

As they say in the self-development community "the more personal the wound, the more universal the wound"

Just keep sitting every day and practicing. You can't force it. In fact forcing it will have the exact opposite effect.

I can relate to this 1000%. Around that same age, I found myself interested in all sorts of different areas of life and I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I was sure that if I just found that "one thing" then I'd be fine, but unlike everyone else I didn't seem to be able to do that. So advice to you is two fold: 1) You probably do have some interests that are more pronounced than others. Your job is to just keep following your heart and you'll naturally just keep cutting out the bullshit of things you REALLY don't like to do as you get older. 2) This was a life changer for me. Consider the possibility that maybe you aren't meant to have just "one thing" that you enjoy doing and that's it. One of the reasons I love entrepreneurship because it allows me to participate in a full range of different activities from reading, networking, logical modeling, public speaking, writing, sales, negotiating, etc. That's partially what makes a good entrepreneur. So instead of trying to fight it, embrace it because that may be your path as well.

They are very different. In SDS, you don't allow yourself to move at ALL. In "Do-nothing", you would not resist the temptation to move if you had it. Rather you would just try and be aware of yourself while you are moving. "Do-nothing" therefore is a complete surrendering to whatever it is the mind/body wants to do. The benefits aren't different although I'd say SDS takes more willpower.

Thank you. Honesty is one of the hardest things I've ever done. Good luck

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. Really beautiful story that will inspire you.

These are solid. I'll also add Elliot Hulse to the list.

You'd be authentic, but you'd be being authentic to a version of yourself that has been conditioned to believe you should freak out when your ex is talking to a guy on facebook. I'm not saying you're wrong for being jealous or that you shouldn't say something. But like @Donald said, be very conscious while it's happening. Otherwise, try doing the exact opposite. See if you can write down reasons why your ex should be talking to this person.

@JevinRDo you have an example of a positive motivation? I didn't purchase Leo's Life Purpose course.

Meditate Visualization/affirmations Sentence completion exercises Run my business Gym/diet Networking/socialization events

Appreciate the summary. This was a really interesting video by @Leo Gura. It's a perspective that I've never actually considered. I usually try to brute force change, and that works to some degree. I'm wondering if this could be the next step for me.

If you mean the search for truth, the answer is obvious: truth is necessary for a self-actualized life. If you don't know the truth about how to run a business, how can you run a business? If you don't know the truth about how relationships work, how can you have a successful relationship? If you don't know the truth about yourself, how can you act in a way that benefits yourself? I could go on but I think you get it. We all need truth.

Right here Meditation from an entrepreneurship perspective is awesome. It helps me deal with the stress of making decisions and dealing with the unknown. No matter what is happening, as long as I start my day off with my morning sit I always can come at it from the right mental head space. It makes me more charismatic because it increases my ability to be present with people. And meditation builds willpower and the strength to stick at menial tasks that you sometimes have to do when running a business. Just so awesome in every way.

Definitely. Of course that probably only causes some people to want to follow him as a guru even more.