aurum

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  1. There's more important factors to worry about in a relationship than whether the couple are introvert or extroverts. Handle the more essential parts and that other stuff will fall into place.
  2. As they say in the self-development community "the more personal the wound, the more universal the wound"
  3. Just keep sitting every day and practicing. You can't force it. In fact forcing it will have the exact opposite effect.
  4. I can relate to this 1000%. Around that same age, I found myself interested in all sorts of different areas of life and I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I was sure that if I just found that "one thing" then I'd be fine, but unlike everyone else I didn't seem to be able to do that. So advice to you is two fold: 1) You probably do have some interests that are more pronounced than others. Your job is to just keep following your heart and you'll naturally just keep cutting out the bullshit of things you REALLY don't like to do as you get older. 2) This was a life changer for me. Consider the possibility that maybe you aren't meant to have just "one thing" that you enjoy doing and that's it. One of the reasons I love entrepreneurship because it allows me to participate in a full range of different activities from reading, networking, logical modeling, public speaking, writing, sales, negotiating, etc. That's partially what makes a good entrepreneur. So instead of trying to fight it, embrace it because that may be your path as well.
  5. They are very different. In SDS, you don't allow yourself to move at ALL. In "Do-nothing", you would not resist the temptation to move if you had it. Rather you would just try and be aware of yourself while you are moving. "Do-nothing" therefore is a complete surrendering to whatever it is the mind/body wants to do. The benefits aren't different although I'd say SDS takes more willpower.
  6. Thank you. Honesty is one of the hardest things I've ever done. Good luck
  7. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. Really beautiful story that will inspire you.
  8. These are solid. I'll also add Elliot Hulse to the list.

  9. Should I Tell Her?

    aurum replied to Anton Rogachevski's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    You'd be authentic, but you'd be being authentic to a version of yourself that has been conditioned to believe you should freak out when your ex is talking to a guy on facebook. I'm not saying you're wrong for being jealous or that you shouldn't say something. But like @Donald said, be very conscious while it's happening. Otherwise, try doing the exact opposite. See if you can write down reasons why your ex should be talking to this person.
  10. @JevinRDo you have an example of a positive motivation? I didn't purchase Leo's Life Purpose course.
  11. Meditate Visualization/affirmations Sentence completion exercises Run my business Gym/diet Networking/socialization events

  12. Awareness Alone Is Curative Summary

    aurum replied to Juan Cruz Giusto's topic in Personal Development -- [Main]

    Appreciate the summary. This was a really interesting video by @Leo Gura. It's a perspective that I've never actually considered. I usually try to brute force change, and that works to some degree. I'm wondering if this could be the next step for me.
  13. If you mean the search for truth, the answer is obvious: truth is necessary for a self-actualized life. If you don't know the truth about how to run a business, how can you run a business? If you don't know the truth about how relationships work, how can you have a successful relationship? If you don't know the truth about yourself, how can you act in a way that benefits yourself? I could go on but I think you get it. We all need truth.
  14. Right here Meditation from an entrepreneurship perspective is awesome. It helps me deal with the stress of making decisions and dealing with the unknown. No matter what is happening, as long as I start my day off with my morning sit I always can come at it from the right mental head space. It makes me more charismatic because it increases my ability to be present with people. And meditation builds willpower and the strength to stick at menial tasks that you sometimes have to do when running a business. Just so awesome in every way.
  15. Definitely. Of course that probably only causes some people to want to follow him as a guru even more.
  16. Trusting a man to lead Wanting to feel a range of emotions Wanting to be influenced by their environment
  17. Ralston is missing the point about McKenna. Writing with dramatization and emotion is part of what makes good writing. That's what human beings respond to. Whether or not McKenna is actually enlightened is irrelevant to me. If someone points you in the right direction, that's all the matters.
  18. First off, don't resist it. If you hate someone, except it. Every emotion and every circumstance "should" exist...because it does. Who are you to say what should and shouldn't exist? Besides that, realize that hatred is basically a function of your RAS. Because this person affects you negatively in some way, you "hate" them. But if you can find a way that this person actually brings you value, your hate will disappear because we're selfish creatures. So try and shift your focus. What GOOD does this person bring to your life? Why should you love them? If you can't find anything, how about just the fact that they're a human being trying to do the best they can like everyone else? That's all anyone can do.
  19. I can tell you that being a grown up is much better than being a kid IF YOU KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING. You get to do what you want, when you want and (hopefully) have the resources to do so. The problem is that most people don't know or can't execute for whatever reason. So adult life actually becomes worse and they start longing for the days of "being a kid again". That's ridiculous.
  20. First off, you are not consuming 500 calories a day while also exercising. So your first challenge is to figure out what that number really is. Buy a scale if and measure all your food. Don't even let 50 calories go uncounted. Once you know how much you're actually eating, figure out your calorie expenditure (here is a good calculator http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/) and how much you need to be eating to be slightly above total calories in. This will allow you to cut fat and build muscle at the same time. Use MyFitnessPal app on your phone to keep track of everything. And then just do the work everyday.
  21. This article completely misses the point. You don't know if what you're passion about right now will last forever, so forget about ever following passion? WTF? If I think I have a passion for being a scientific researcher and follow that passion only to find that I'm more passionate about teaching, I didn't waste my time. I'm learned and I've grown, which is all anyone can do. Finding something you're truly passionate about is like trying to guess a number between 1 and 100 with someone giving you "warmer" or "colder" clues. You just have to keep experimenting. And it's natural for certain things to fall away and no longer excite you the way they used to. THAT MEANS YOU'RE GROWING.
  22. It depends on the person. Some random hater, I don't even give it a second thought or pay attention. If it's a girl I'm dating then respect is a must and I'd cut her out if I really felt like she didn't. A good friend I'd probably sit down and have a discussion with. In the end there will always be people who don't respect you. You shouldn't aim for respect, respect is a by-product of living the life you want and self-actualizing. Focus on growth and thriving instead of coping.
  23. The easiest way for me to get someone out of my head is to have passion for your own life. I'm so passionate about my business and self-actualization work that thoughts about other people don't even occur to me. It's not that they can't. They just won't because I know what's important.
  24. The first step to solving any problem is admitting you have a problem. As long as you deny its existance, no progress can be made. You don't have to like it. You don't have to live with it. But let's not kid ourselves, a fact is a fact.
  25. Yes this is on point. I didn't appreciate the whole "purity of intent" thing in till fairly recently. If you don't declare your sole mission as figuring out TRUTHFULLY just what the fuck is going on with all "this", it doesn't seem to happen. The ego is a shapeshifter and can manifest as just about anything. It can even manifest as someone who acts selfless and without ego. But as an illusion, the one thing ego can't be is True. So when you declare you're heading for truth and damn the consequences, that is the one thing the ego can't seem to survive. Declare sincere intent for finding out what is true. The "universe" will do the rest.