aurum

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  1. Todd is good. He is more technical than other people but it's effective. Tyler is my favorite because I relate a lot with his mindset towards things. But he's more of a spiritual teacher than a pickup teacher for me at this point. The only guy I really learn "game" off of at this point is Luke. He is more results oriented than the other guys, which I think turns a lot of people off.
  2. It’s only hypocritical if you look at it from a surface level and out of context. If you have a life purpose like she does that requires money to operate, than you’re being selfish by not making money. Now you could argue that she should be able to do it without money. But we live in a captialistic society where money is an incredibely useful tool. Why limit yourself? One more thing on this: people who complain that spiritual teachers charge for their services are in a scarcity mindset. Let’s break this down. You have a teacher that is providing massive value to you, often for free. And you don’t think you should give anything in return? You should WANT to pay them. It’s like when I see people bitch about Leo charging $35 for his booklist. How entitled can you get? This guy spent hours and hours putting that thing together to help you. Even if you never use the booklist, you should want to buy it simply as a way of saying “thank you”. I contriubute to people Patreons all the time if I like their work and I feel like it has helped me. I’m happy to do it. You also see this with rich people when they go out to dinner. When the bill comes, 10/10 times they will FIGHT to be the one to pay it. From a poverty / scarcity mindset, this makes no sense. Because the whole point of a poverty mindset is to converse resources. And yet, they are the one’s who are rich. And the guy who thinks he is winning by not paying is always broke. It’s a fear that you won’t have enough. It’s a fear that you don’t have the ability to get it back. And it’s a lie.
  3. @Ingit The map is not the territory. You would have no idea who Teal Swan is if she didn't charge for her services. Those workshops and YouTube videos don't pay for themselves. Read a book called Give And Take by Adam Grant.
  4. Because if you don't, you'll just stagnate and get comfortable. That will lead to a lot of pain. You're not even alive, you're just a body that continues to survive.
  5. I understand your concern. My goal in writing that was to help encourage MM1988 to be more deliberate in his intentions. To be proactive rather than reactive. And so that he can ultimately create Win/Win situations with girls, rather than Lose/Win. You could say that he should just "have a genuine conversation", but from my perspective that's not helpful advice in this context. This user has had continual problems with girls for a long time, so to tell him to just be genuine isn't useful. He needs actual feedback on his behavior.
  6. @BarkingTurtle I would try NoFap for starters. Different yoga poses for opening your sacral and root chakra might help as well.
  7. @LeoBacca It's only a waste of time if you make it a waste of time. I have many friends who are doing pickup that I would say are wasting their time. They just get drunk, go out to the bars and maybe fuck some girl. Their lives aren't really going anywhere. They're not really on any sort of path of mastery or life purpose. But you don't have to be like that. You can choose to make pickup part of your personal development. Yes, pickup will get you laid and get you experience with women. If you don't have that down, that's important to handle. But it can also teach you things about letting go, being processed oriented, being proactive, how to handle rejection etc etc. So it's up to you. Pickup is a tool, it's your intention of how you're going to use that tool that makes all the difference. No, it's not what you're doing to girls. At least it shouldn't be. Basically what you're saying is that you feel like you're taking value from girls when you approach them. And that's potentially true...if you suck at doing pickup. When you're actually good at pickup, it's the exact opposite. You coming up and talking to them will make their night. They will love you. I definitely agree that there are relationship specific skills that need to be developed. But you most definitely can improve your relationship by doing pickup. Because pickup will teach you about charisma and female psychology in general, which is invaluable even in a relationship.
  8. Not necessarily at all. Depending on the context, that actually could be a major sign you're doing something right. She trusts you and / or is qualifying herself to you. Some girls are also just more open than others. The way I would gauge it would be if she was dropping other indicators of interest. For instance, if I've been teasing her, making her laugh and getting her to chase, than her opening up is usually really good. But if you've had boring generic small talk for three minutes and she starts having a therapy session, than yeah, she's probably just unloading. Control the frame ahead of time. Don't give her the power to decide what kind of conversation it's going to be, you decide. If you want it to be sexual, be sexual. If you want it to be fun, be fun. If you want it to be friendly and boring, be friendly and boring. It's really just up to you.
  9. @Peter12 I know you're young, but the real answer is don't end up in this situation in the first place. You already drove your car off a cliff, and now you want to know how to reverse your car in the air before it crashes. Just don't drive off a cliff. In this case, that means you don't want to end up in a situation where she's basically friendzoned you and it feels like you're trying to claw your way out. No good. Instead, you should be somewhat flirty with every girl you meet. And if you want her as a friend then tell her that too. I know that doesn't really help you with this current girl, so here's my advice on that. Try teasing and flirting with her a bit. If she's not receptive and doesn't show any interest, don't make it a big deal. Still be friends. But also, I would stop messaging her. Girls will basically do what you want them to do. If she doesn't show any interest and you keep rewarding that behavior by giving her attention and affection, she will keep doing it. Conversely, if you draw a boundary by cutting off the messaging, you're making it known what is acceptable to you and what isn't. It doesn't mean she will automatically like you if you do that. Probably not to be honest. But you've got to see the bigger picture besides just this one girl. I know this might seem kind of complicated, so if you've got questions feel free to write back.
  10. Really read what you wrote here over again. The answers are staring you in the face. If I had to sum it up, I would say this: you don't like money. No one is going to force you to like money. That is ultimately your choice. But your choices do have consequences, and so if you're tired of being broke, I suggest you choose something different. You will never make money if you don't want money. Period. It is impossible. You need to get away from the hippie people and start soaking in some pro-money sources. People who actually think it's a good thing if you make money and become successful. See how they view the world, and how their mindset has led them to drastically different places than where you are now. For instance, you defined money as "a unit that has property of having a chance to make a human being do whatever". Already you're viewing money as this negative thing that has power over you. It doesn't. Rich people would say something like "money itself is neutral. It's merely a medium of exchange for value". That's a much more positive definition, which is going to lead them to be more motivated to becoming wealthy. No one wants to think that they are a bad person. If you think having money means you're going to end up exploiting people, you'll NEVER allow yourself to make it. Never. It's too much against your self-image. Try this belief instead: people who don't want to make money are typically selfish. You have limited resources with which to help anybody, just like with your family. When you have money, now you have the tools to make a positive impact.
  11. @non_nothing I would examine your relationship to money. What do you believe about it? Do you believe making money is unconscious or not spiritual? Do you think it’s impossible for you to make money? Did your parents fight about money growing up? What are your best and worst experiences around money? It’s likely that you’ve got an unconscious story that’s stopping you from making money. See if you can bring awareness to what that story is. Also, I would challenege yourself to read something like The Millionaire Booklet by Grant Cardone. Notice when and where resistance pops up when reading that. That will give you clues.
  12. @F A B Because it’s fake. “I can’t live without you”? Lie. ”Your love is all I need to feel complete”? Lie. If you listen to the mainstream definition of love, you’re going to have problems.
  13. @Brivido To me, intention is simply the truth about why you are doing what you're doing. You mentioned pickup in your post, so I'll pull an example from that. Let's say you walk up to a girl and your voice is very soft. Your intention at that moment for why your voice is soft could be so that you don't appear rude and risk rejection. Conversely, you could walk up to a girl with a soft voice and have a completely different intention. Maybe your throat is sore and so you don't want to talk loudly. That subtle distinction makes all the difference in the world.
  14. The point of all these techniques is not that you have to do them all. Be opened minded, but otherwise just pick a couple practices that resonate with you at the moment and go hard with them. For instance, I don't have a formal self-inquiry practice. Never liked it. I also don't care much for kriya yoga or contemplation. Figure out what seems to be getting you the biggest gains and go with that.
  15. @Annoynymous Those obstructions do exist, but it doesn't matter. If you want to live in society than take responsibility and find a way to do the work.
  16. @Adam M I think it's a great idea. How are you going to support yourself financially while you work on this business?
  17. @Finland3286 I've definitely been there before, but I actually don't think you're as lost as it might seem. Let's start at the beginning, what do you like to do? What interests you?
  18. I'll also add networking with other successful people, often through things like masterminds. Don't forget videography and photography, especially if you're young and on the come up. You're living in the age of content, so that's a skill a lot of businesses need. You can even use it as an "in" to network with people more successful than you, or who you want to mentor you.
  19. And just like that, it's gone. All things impermanent
  20. Dude that's not bad at all. Yeah you can do better, but I wouldn't be down on it either. Haha welcome to game. You're getting new problems, that's a positive sign. This has happened to me on several occasions. I think the max I've done is accidentally approach the same girl three times. Needless to say, it didn't work. I'm skeptical of anyone who hasn't had that happen, because that means they're not really taking action. Funny little line you can use in that situation when she says "you talked to me before" is "really, did we fall in love?" It might not work, but it makes me laugh. First practical thing you should consider is going somewhere that has more girls. If there's only three girls in the place where you're doing game, yeah you're probably going to run into problems like what you're describing. It be impossible not to. So you want enough girls at the places that you're going so you can fly "under the radar". But once you get better at game, I'd suggest you shift your strategy. That's when you actually want to start going to smaller venues with the same people over and over again so you're recognized on purpose. It becomes more social circle and less cold approach. So I would start with just trying to find areas where there are more girls. See if that solves the fear on its own. If not, then maybe there's some inner work to be done.
  21. @habibi87 What specifically do you want to learn? There's plenty of great books but they might not be relevant for you.
  22. @Sahil Pandit He's right from his paradigm. Organized religion has become a huge tool for delusion and unconscious behavior. I know because I grew up Catholic, it's a shit show. That being said, what your professor hasn't realized yet is that he threw the baby out with the bath water. Organized religion may have been massively corrupted, but there was still a reason people were initially drawn to it besides being delusional. There were actual powerful truths and ideas being conveyed. Anyway, your professor is on his journey. He believes what he believes because that's just where he is at. Who knows, maybe he'll have a radical shift in perspective as the collective keeps waking up.
  23. @graded24 Going to move this to the Life Purpose, Career section. Look, the reality is that sometimes spiritual awakening means letting go of old jobs or careers. You're changing, and that's going to affect every area of your life. And change is not always convenient, and that's part of why we resist it. You might hit a point where there is just no reconciling the two. You might be forced into a new job or career that is more in alignment, maybe because you slack off and get fired. I don't know. Or maybe there's a way you can bring your new values into the career you currently have. That could happen too. My point is that from reading your post, it sounds like you want to change, but you don't want what change actually entails. But it doesn't work like that. So I would open up to the possibility that you might have to make more radical shifts than you previously thought.
  24. @Socrates Hard to say. Mastery was excellent, I think everyone should read that. But some of the other ones like The 48 Laws of Power and The Art of Seduction are definitely a bit jaded and paranoid.
  25. @Javfly33 Because once you’ve accepted that you have to change, you realize that stagnation will always be a failing strategy. You know that “group 2”, even though it looks the same every year, is actually death by comfort. You realize that being in nonresistance to change and evolving is actually easier than holding on.