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Just follow and practice the techniques Leo shares. You're doing great!

So what is stopping you? I'm in a similar situation as you, looking to join an ecovillage. Why do you feel you have to go back?

I had this too when I was coaching people. Totally get it. You may want to consider a sliding pay scale or "pay-what-you-want" model. In other words, let your clients decide how much your service is worth to them. If they want to pay you zero, then it's zero. If they want to pay you a million, it's a million. I found this way of doing things can take some of that pressure off of "now I have to DO something" instead of just following your intuition and treating your client like a human. But you'd have to experiment. It's obviously less guaranteed money and you don't want to tank your business.

No you're actually pretty spot on. Often one of the first things dating coaches for guys will do is get them to realize that they're not bringing anything to that table. It's still a competitive / transactional mindset ("I must out compete the other males with my looks, which I will trade for love"). But at least it gets guys on a path of self-development.

Hey man! Yeah I was a mod awhile back but took a long break from the forum. Told leo to take me off the team. Now I've come back . Basically I spent the last two years really diving inward. It wasn't just the forum, I also stopped making youtube videos, writing blogs and seeing a lot of my old friends. Hasn't been easy but I feel like a completely different person. I really like it. I may just do a Q&A post since several people have now asked me this question lol.

@Megan Alecia I want to be deeply connected with nature. I want to play my role in humanities healing. I want peace and quiet. I want my health. I want family, love and community. And I want to create my art.

The "laws" of nature are just one facet of creation. In fact, according to Rupert Sheldrake, even what we consider the real hard laws of the universe are more like habits. Theoretically, they could change. And yogis and other spiritually advanced people have been violating these supposed laws for a long time, e.g the siddhis.

They've never been my thing. I'm sure they work but it's a very physical approach to upping your sex life. Instead, I think you'd be better off thinking about sex in terms of emotion and energy. Best thing I've found you can do is just breathe, relax and be free and be present. Let the bodies do what they know how to do. You're not in control.

I'm basically your exact height. The girls can't be that much taller where you are than where I am. I won't say there aren't girls who won't date me because of my height, but really, how many girls do you need to like you? The last girl I dated only liked shorter guys. That was her type. How come I was able to find her? It wasn't luck. Trust the universe and believe in yourself man. I know it's easier said than done but that's what always works for me.

@Dumuzzi Fascinating. They don't talk about this in the pua community . I believe we can form relationships with deities, people have been doing it forever. How did Inanna come into your life?

Yes, that's right. I'd argue it's a problem in all those areas as well. I don't think the argument is that it's not valuable. It's that because these services are so valuable, they shouldn't be subject to transactional nature. Monetization is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more things are monetized, they more we need to monetize. But the reverse is also true. The less we monetize, the less monetization is needed. The phenomena of monetization at our current level is extremely new and not at all a guarantee or a requirement. Even now, there are communities that thrive largely off of non-monetized systems of organization, such as gift, time banking or LETS systems. So while it may be prevalent and necessary in modern society, we can still recognize the flaws of our current system and envision something new.

@ertopolice I actually find it's not that bad where I live. Yeah the bars and clubs are closed but that's not really my scene anymore these days. It has forced me to get a little more creative and branch out to areas I wouldn't normally go to.

@Florian I loved his music growing up. Hard pass from me as far as him being president. The only reason we are talking about this is because he's famous and has tons of cash to spend on a campaign.

I actually find this kind of disturbing. We really have turned every area of life into a commodity.

What are your business ideas?

I would disagree. Your energy does not lie. Can't hide what's inside Yes.

But if you're afraid that chasing her will drive her away and therefore you don't do anything, aren't you still needy? Aren't you still trying to manipulate the outcome?

But neediness isn't solved by pretending to not be needy. That whole paradigm only works when you're actually not needy. In his case, his neediness is manifesting as trying to not be needy. So it's still needy from my perspective, just hidden a bit better.

What's wrong with chasing and being needy? I'm asking these questions because I think you're a bit hung up on concepts.

So why not just be honest with her?

Flipside of the same coin. Why?

I totally understand, it's not going to be an easy conversation to have. If you're living with your mother maybe ask her for help. It just seems to me that this guy is basically threatening / bullying you into complying. And you're twisting yourself around to meet his demands. It's not normal. Even if he had a legitimate concern with your level of sound, the way he is handling it is not appropriate. He should be the one initiating a mature conversation here, but it looks like you're going to have to be the adult.

Awesome, looking forward to it. Wouldn't be life without it

@SirVladimir Awesome man! Love the insights and totally agree. How would you describe your state of consciousness and / or spiral dynamic stage prior to these 100 days? And what do you feel is next for you, if anything?

@Hellooo Positive thinking works, but not if it's done out of avoidance of your feelings. I personally find that if I just own and express what I'm feeling, it passes pretty quickly. It might take me six pages of journaling or 30 minutes of me talking to a friend / wall,D but eventually that energy is out. Do you have a meditation process?