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Since many people are going to be doing research on yoga after Leo's latest video, I'd thought I'd shoutout my favorite yoga teacher that I've found on YouTube. She's a hidden gem. Her name is Kimilla and she teaches Kundalini Yoga. ^One of my personal favorite sets. What I like about her is that unlike many yoga teachers, this girl will push you. She's also extremely practical and has a great vibe about her. There are tons of other kriyas on her channel she guides you through and you can practice. Forget about 5 years, I've seen benefits from doing these almost immediately. Share your favorite teacher as well if you have one.

@sarapr' I'll the explain the full circle I've come to on the topic of love because I think this might clear things up for people. Most of us have all been taught growing up is that co-dependency and neediness is love. Phrases like "they complete me" or "they're my savior" are usually tell-tale rationalizations for the fact that you and this person are addicted to each other in an unhealthy and destructive way. Not our fault. That's just default social conditioning. I was in that paradigm until about age 19. That's when my long term girlfriend, who I thought was the "love of my life", broke up with me. I was so crushed that it actually shocked me out of that paradigm. I started saying things like "love doesn't exist" and become extremely bitter towards relationships in general. Fast forward a couple of years. I'm starting to get into this weird thing called "enlightenment" and having profound experiences of what could only be called unconditional love. These experiences have been so beautiful that they've literally brought me to my knees crying. They will change your life forever if you have one. The best way I can describe it is that you just have a deep desire for the well-being of everyone. You realize that any small, petty personal concerns like your reputation or how you compare to others is just bullshit. All that matters is you just want to love everyone. Everything else is a front. So it's not a personal kind of love. There's no playing favorites. BUT that doesn't mean I still don't have preferences. This is the part I think people have a hard time grasping because it seems paradoxical from their paradigm. I can love someone and not want to spend time with them. I can love someone and set boundaries. I can love someone and not like them. It really just depends. If I had to translate what this kind of love feels like into a song, it'd be this: Feel, don't think

@toth7 I'm jealous. Breakups almost always lead lots of growth. Start with the basics. Exercise, nutrition, meditation and reading books. Once you start getting a handle on that we can talk more.

@Rilles I'll check him out, thanks

I wouldn't go that far. She's still human and prone to mistakes, don't idealize her.

@Stoica Doru Teal Swan is low key one of the best teachers I've come across. Just the nuance in which she breaks down different dynamics is incredible.

@Sahil Pandit Yeah I've had some bizarre experiences with dreams since I've gotten really deep into self-actualization. The pattern is that they're incredibly dark and revolve around trauma, pain or fear that I have. Then just like in those cheesy Hollywood movies, right at the peak intensity of the dream, I wake up and can't go back to sleep because my mind is on overdrive. The only explanation that makes sense to me is purging. Not a pretty process, but much better than continuing to live with that low vibration energy.

@egoless Then get hired by a company who does internet marketing. Plenty of people looking for social media managers these days.

You can choose to think that way, but you're going to have a very difficult making and keeping friends. The idea that their friendship can take away from yours in total scarcity and Win / Lose thinking. In reality, if I introduce two people, I'm praying they become best friends because now they see me as the person who brought them together. You should be self-validated and have enough friends in your life that it makes no difference if you're "the most important person" to them.

I definitely agree. I thought about going into business consulting for people in the spiritual community because so many of them have great products, but they really struggle with business. They know all about clearing their chakras but couldn't even tell you what a sales funnel is. If it's not your calling, that's perfectly fine. You definitely don't have to do it. But I think you're undervaluing what you could bring to the table if you really went in on it. Again, I think you're undervaluing what you could bring to the table. There are so many influencers who do just that. Value is completely subjective. Maybe you're "just talking", but if it's something you love and you're strategic, I guarantee you'll eventually start attracting a tribe. Overall theme seems to be you selling yourself short. If that's true, why do you think you would do that?

@egoless I'd try one of two things: 1) Buy a "done-for-you" Shopify store and practice figuring out how to market / drive traffic 2) Find well-established products on ClickBank and do affiliate marketing The information will come when you need it.

@njuufa I do coaching myself and I can tell you there's no formal qualifications absolutely needed for this. But don't think that means it's easy to break into. Low barrier to entry = lots of competition. You're going to have to really grind if you want to build a profitable, long-term business out of it.

@Joel3102 Yes it is. There are many perspectives we could look at, this was just one of them.

@Monkey-man A lot of so called "romantic" behavior is often needy, co-dependent behavior in disguise. Love is depicted as this thing where someone is supposed to "save you" from yourself. Or you're supposed to sacrifice and give up your life for someone else. Both of which usually end up backfiring on both parties.

@Cammy You stop being afraid. The reason people "live for the weekends" is because they know their life sucks, but they're too scared to do anything about it because they think they have something to lose. The weekends are a way for them to cope with the situation they've created for themselves. That narrative is rapidly changing though. The huge recent surge in the popularity of "entrepreneurship" reflects that people are starting to realize the system doesn't work for them and are deciding to step up. Which makes me extremely optimistic about where society is going.

@ADD You got a couple different questions going on here so I'll hit them one at a time. Personally, the answer is zero. Everyone wants to feel safe, including me. And women can bring amazing things to a relationship. But because I understand gender dynamics, I know a relationship is not where I should be looking to get that need met. Safe is how I want her to feel when she's around me. If she's saying things like "baby you make me feel so safe", that's perfect. My safety is irrelevant. I could get hit by a train tomorrow and not give a fuck. And it's not because women aren't capable of taking care of you, themselves or whatever misogynistic things people want to say. It's because that perspective helps preserve the masculine / feminine dynamic. She has to feel a bit like you are this sturdy pillar she can lean on. And no, you don't get to do the same. Sorry. Welcome to most in relationships. They're incredibly challenging and most people have no idea what they are doing. You're basically talking about the honeymoon phase. Everything is new and exciting and everyone's needs are getting met. But as soon as those needs stop getting met and the novelty wears off, things change real fast. I'm with you man. If it was only a choice between what you described and being single, being single is 1000x better. But what I believe is that it doesn't have to be like that. It starts with you though. You handling your own emotional needs and becoming an independent person. And then being crystal clear on what kind of girl / relationship you truly want. Without both those pieces, you're gonna fuck up. You need to handle your shit so that you can be that "pillar" I was talking about earlier before and attract a high quality girl. You need to know exactly what kind of girl / relationship you want because great people with a bad strategy is still a recipe for disaster. If you do that, I truly believe you can have a great relationship. I don't at all think you're irresponsible. It's possible it's just a phase. I went through a phase where I was single for like five years while working hard on cold approach, and that was a great decision. All I would say is don't feel pressured into one because you feel like it's what you "have" to do.

@Slade I've actually been trying sungazing for the past couple of months because I wanted to see first hand what would happen. I'm going to make a vlog about it once I'm done. So far I'd say it's overhyped. People have made some pretty large claims about sungazing, like that it will cure all your physical problems or give you instant enlightenment. What I have found though is that i definitely seem to get a boost of energy once I'm done a session. Not every time, but enough that I've seen a pattern. The experiment continues.

That's actually not what it says at all. Spiral dynamics is about integration. You don't "stop" pursuing success because you evolved. You just become aware of the limitations of the previous paradigm and integrate what worked well with your new awareness. For instance, maybe in stage green you still have a desire for success. But it's based on the desire to help others instead of just trying to achieve some sort of material wealth, because you've realized materialism alone won't make you happy and ends up backfiring.

@Ether Yes, he helped me out a ton in getting through the really early stages of the awakening process. There was so much purging and general confusion about what was happening to me. Don't know how I would have done it without him.

@Scholar It's good you're contemplating, but you're making this harder than it is. The map is not the territory because it's a map of the territory, not the territory itself. Get it? When you look at a map, do you think you're actually look at trees, mountains, oceans etc? Or do you understand that it's just a model of the actual thing? Well, that's what all your beliefs are. Models of reality, but never actually encapturing the full essence of reality How could they? The only way to truly capture the essence of something is to BE that thing! Anything else creates a distortion.

I challenge you to find 10 pros who started that late or even later. Hate to say it, but probably going to have to get a least a part time job. I would look for something obviously involving skateboarding. Or, look for something involving marketing so you can learn how to promote yourself on social media. Maybe you can even find both.

@Seed Nice. I found adding it as your phone / computer wallpaper really helps as well.

@Emne Welcome to the community. This is a very common question, so don't be surprised that it's still confusing. Your spiritual practice essentially is a process of stripping away thoughts and behaviors that aren't authentic to who you really are. It's like achieving freedom, because you are free from acting in a way due to what others want. So there's no telling exactly what you will decide to do as you evolve. Only you can make that choice. What most people find though is that they don't desire to do nothing. Something calls them, and they feel more passion than they ever had before because it's truly authentic to them. Now we're talking life purpose. I encourage you not to look at these ideas of "life purpose" or "enlightenment" as binary things that you either have or don't have. The reality is that it's much more like a spectrum, and the goal should be to continually evolve till the day you die.

Nothing is technically happening in the brain, it's all spiritual. People want to say that emotions are just chemicals because they're assuming chemicals are a real thing that already existed and that we just discovered. Wrong. We made it up. It's a conceptualization that happen after observation in an attempt to model the world. But that's all it is, a model.

Life purpose was huge for me. Because when you're off your purpose, you have no reason not to distract yourself. Yeah, I could say that you just "shouldn't" be distracted because it's an addiction or whatever. But the reality is that if you're not moving towards something, why not just watch Netflix? Seriously. Your only options are either entertainment or do nothing at that point. So I would really place an emphesis on drilling down on your purpose. Watch how the personal boundaries about what you will allow for yourself just come right up.