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This is a good strategy. Also, I'd add in that the more girls you're with, the less nervous you'll be. That will help a lot.

@Amit It's not about the amount of work you do. It's the fact that people who we might call workaholics are working from a place of inner deficiency and low self-esteem. They're out of touch with their spirit. As long as you keep up your spiritual practice (meditation, yoga etc), I wouldn't worry about it. And if your concern is productivity, you should be structuring ways for you to work less, not more. That's what productivity means: get more done with less time / effort.

@Vinnie Psychedelics. That's easily the fastest way I've seen to have an awakening experience.

@Paulus Amadeus Great thread idea. One business idea I have (which I'm not attempting to execute on) is opening up a marketing and / or consulting agency specifically for conscious business owners. It provides value because people in the consciousness community are often not effective in business. They don't learn it or they don't see value in it. I've fallen into this trap myself. Sometimes I get so "spiritual" that I forget I have to actually make money and do my marketing properly. It's also a way to help out amazing products come into being. If they're a conscious business owner, than what they are doing should be bringing real value to people.

Some of this definitely comes from inner blocks. For instance, if you talk too fast that's sometimes a sign that you are nervous. The "talking too fast" is just a symptom. All the inner work Leo talks about here, e.g meditation / yoga, will help you out here. @Serotoninluv also made good points. Spend more time around great communicators, even if only virtually. Your subconscious is going to pick up on those subtle little cues that make them effective at what they do. I'd also argue that there's no one "right way" to communicate. They all have value depending on the context. When I'm making YouTube videos on my channel, these are the main variables I'm looking at to judge my delivery: 1) Volume. How loud does the person talk? Great communicators know how to project their voice, but also speak softly when necessary to draw attention in. 2) Pitch. You can speak in a HIGH VOICE or a lowwww voice. Mix it up. 3) Tempo. You can speak reallyreallyreally FAST!. Or, ya know, slow...it...down. Pause. 4) Emotions. Emotional flatlines are boring, fully express your range of emotions. 5) Certainty. No one will buy into what you're saying if you do not buy in first. Drink your own kool-aid. I'd would try recording yourself talking and look at how you do on each of these areas. Then just practice, practice, practice. This is actually a separate question on its own. First off, there are no inherently interesting stories. There most objective "best" story in the world will fall flat if your delivery isn't where it should be. See ^ for work on that. The second thing is to realize that stories should be about you, not the story. You could tell an amazing story with lots of action, plot twists, celebrity appearances and great delivery, but if it doesn't say anything about you, that's a mistake. For that reason, a good story to tell in real life might actually be boring on the surface, but one that reveals a lot about who you are as a person. Also, every story should have a point. Especially if you're trying to influence someone. There's a satisfying conclusion and the listener feels like they understood exactly why they took the time to pay attention. So try taking some of these ideas and play with them. Start telling stories all the time, no matter who you interact with.

Thanks!

Cool. Sounds like some interesting insights to share with the world.

Definitely not too energizing, in fact I usually do it right before meditation myself. I haven't had any problems. It's also definitely good for concentration. There's so many little things that require your attention that you really have to focus your mind. I'd say that's the hardest part.

What I find is that you go from being like a black hole to being more like the sun. The black hole just wants to suck value out of any situation it encounters. It doesn't see any point in giving or caring because it's all about me, me, me. It's a bit like a little kid. The sun is the exact opposite. The sun just does its thing everyday, giving and providing light for everyone. And never asking for anything in return. So why be the sun? Seems like it's getting a raw deal and it would be much smarter to be the black hole. The answer is just that you can't help it. You care and it feels good to support others. Now, you could say "I'm not like that, it doesn't feel good to care about others for me". But I'd argue that's self-deception. The sun is your natural state. All this consciousness work is doing is removing the blocks to you seeing that. So don't be surprised if you start softening a bit as this process continues.

@Maheshwar This is more or less the whole name of the game of the work we do here. You're depressed because you're in resistance to what "IS". You feel like it "should" be some other way. Meditation and yoga will help you here tremendously because they will get you in non-resistance to the present. I'd also read a book called Letting Go by David Hawkins.

Can you give an example?

You might not. Self-actualization is in many ways a luxury. So I would say take care of yourself first if something like that happens.

I would challenge this belief. If you get Audible, you could be listening to an audiobook at minimum 10 minutes a day while you're driving, making food or whatever other trivial tasks you have. Most books are ~6 hours, you could finish one a month at that pace. That's 12 a year. That alone could change your life. No excuses not be to be getting the correct knowledge.

This one is no joke. See if you can do this 31 minutes a day for 40 days.

@Gligorije Are you meditating and doing yoga every day? If not, there's your answer.

No. If this is going to have any chance of succeeding, you need to pull wayyy back and get back in touch with your own path as a man. It still may not be enough. But the good news is it won't matter at that point.

Do you meditate? You can have whatever level of success you want with women if you put the work in. Baldness is not going to be the thing that ultimately makes a difference.

Yes, find a new girl. And while you're at it, examine deeply why you need one in the first place.

I mean start a podcast, YouTube channel, Instagram, blog or whatever else strikes you. If you don’t feel ready for that, no problem. Build soft skills in that area like video editing, photography or even writing.

@Robert I’ll let him decide whether or not he’s ready. There are plenty of teenages producing amazing content, and the fact that he’s even on this forum is a good sign. No better way to learn than to try.

Then I question how much of this list you are actually doing. Or it could just be the drugs.

@Ether If the anti-depressants are helping you right now, I'm not going to tell you to stop. But at some point you're going to want to consider dropping them. Other possible techniques for more energy: -Meditation -Yoga -Gym -Nutrition -Proper breathing -Sauna / Cold showers -Nature

@Stoica Doru I love music personally, it feels like it speaks straight to my soul. You might want to search something on YouTube called Solfeggio Frequencies if you haven't already. Try them out and see what happens.

@Gligorije Producing content via social media. Unless the world explodes in the next 15 years, that will be useful.

@Shin I think there's much better qualifications you can use to determine whether you should be in a relationship with a girl than Myers Brigg. That's not going to tell you very much. Examples of questions I'd consider much more important: 1) How does she treat her friends? 2) How does she talk about her ex? 3) What is her family life like? 4) What are her goals, if any? 5) What does she do for fun? Not saying you can't also look into Myers Brigg. I would just make sure you dig deeper than that.