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No, no, no, no. If you think just having cash or career success is going to get you girls just by itself, you’re wrong. Those are surface level solutions. Those things are useful IF you have some degree of game. Because then you can leverage them to get better logsitics / access. But without game, you’ll just be a rich guy who tries to buy his way into sex. Yes, there are guys who never did pickup who are great with women. That’s because game is not pickup. Pickup is just a practice to improve your game. But you do have to do something. Something that will install those behavior changes.

I’d start incorporating marketing, sales and basic accounting into your studies as well then if you aren’t already. Also keep taking any leadership opportunites you can. Maybe even try setting up a simple little online business.

@egoless I was raised Catholic and did that whole thing for about 18 years. Then spent about a year studying different religions, accidently became an atheist. Now I’ve come back to looking at religion but from more of a non-dual perspective. There’s more good there than I previously realized, but so much of it is also misguided.

@Charlotte Fast. After only a few months at half hour everyday, I had experiences of deeper peace than I’d ever known in my life. That’s really just the start.

@Shanmugam Nothing to add, just wanted to say that was a great explanation.

Keep seekig and you’ll find out ?

@Eudaimonia You want to form as clear a mental image or movie as possible of your goal already obtained or being completed. For instance, if I was a boxer, I might visualize the entire fight. Then I'd visualize how I'd knock out my opponent in the end and having the crowd go wild. You also want to add as much positive emotion as possible. Feel love, gratitude and like you want to celebrate for what you've accomplished. That pushes it deeper into your subconscious. The way you train visualization is just by practicing daily and improving your concentration skills. The more you can concentrate and flow energy into your vision, the better. I've never heard that first person or third person matters. I find myself doing both.

@Peter Zemskov The truth is you're not going to get much on 5-10 mins a day. But if that's what it takes at the start, then you do that. Build it like a muscle. Keep pushing yourself, but don't try to lift 300 lbs when you know you can only do 100 either.

@John Iverson Funny I just made a video about that book. It was the first real Non-Dual book I ever read and it blew my mind. Basically jump started my meditation habit. I still read it from time to time to bring me back into presence.

@Joseph Maynor Of course. It's infuriating to the linear mind with it's limited perspective. But looking back I can see that even my brakes have served me. I wasn't as ready as I thought.

@Jayden Birch I'd focus less on whether you're going to be a "sage" and just follow your curiosity. Sage is just a label. No one can give you a definitive answer on this. In general, college is good if you need some sort of technical knowledge or a degree. They're training employees. There's also your financial situation to consider. You'll save a lot of cash not going to college, cash you could be using towards your life purpose. Meditate on it. Ask for guidance. And then just make a call.

@h inandout Sounds like you're talking about running seminars or workshops. That's a proven business model, provided you really do your homework on marketing. I'd study people in the personal developement field who are great at running seminars. Tony Robbins or T Harv Eker come to mind. I'd also start attending a lot of seminars and / or get a job with a company that hosts them. That will be great training for you.

@-Rowan I'd suggest his latest one on motivation. That will inspire you to really take action on the course.

@Geromekevin I liked Sam Harris a lot too in the past. Coming from the scientific, rational paradigm of the world, he was kind of like my "bridge" into spiritual topics because I respected his opinion as a scientist. But I don't read or listen to Sam anymore. One of the bizarre things that Jed McKenna pointed out about this journey is that you sometimes quickly find yourself "surpassing" your teachers. I consider them more like vehicles that got me from point A to B than gurus who got it all figured out.

@Elton That's true, people do that. They've done it to me, so I empathize. Can you think of a time when you've tried to change someone?

How would you treat a little kid? To me, it's just about understanding that whatever I am or whatever I'm doing, it's perfect. It's a meta-level form of acceptance. Made a mistake? Perfect. Succeeded? Perfect. Angry? Perfect. Happy? Perfect. Nothing is not "allowed" or "wrong". You could start with this video from Leo. I know people on the forum really love this one: A lot of it is also about becoming conscious of why you don't accept yourself completely already. Ever think about that? As a kid, you didn't need to learn how to accept yourself fully. You just did. So what changed? What belief systems were you imparted with that brought you away from how you should naturally see yourself? Final tip, I'd also look into Energy Work. A lot of these emotional hangups can be due to stuck energy, and you can clear them with just one energetic practice.

How would you respond to someone who acted this way to you?

@smd Is that actually what you believe? Not being sarcastic.

@Mount Bananas The clouds parted for a little bit. Keep meditating and they'll keep parting more and more.

@John Iverson What do you want us to do? It's a sad story, but you're the only one here that can fix these problems. Go meditate. Things will become clearer.

I'd really question the assumption that the UN knows what it's doing. Don't fall victim to the authority bias. Anyway, if something on that list strikes you as important, fine. Start moving in that direction. Your life purpose is about narrowing the infinite potential list of things you COULD DO into that small niche of a thing you ACTUALLY want to do. So if you're just getting started, it's okay to go broad. You'll get more specific over time as you learn and development more self-awareness as to what you truly value. Just start moving.

@Ross You've got a long road ahead of you man. But it seems like you're open to changing, so I'll leave this here: General gist is this is gonna take a lot of work. You're going to have to find ways to practice socializing, improve your inner confidence and much more. But it can be done. If going out and socializing is too hard right now, you might have to take a step back and just work on you for a while. Start a meditation habit. Study what women are attracted to. Get some exercise into your daily routine. And then build from there.

@Spiral I like nudes if it's a girl I'm already having sex with. It's fun if you're both horny but can't physically get to each other at the moment because you're at work or something. You can use it to build the tension for when you finally see each other. It's like foreplay. Also, getting nudes from a real girl is way better than some random nudes on the internet. There's a connection with her and you know you get to fuck her later But some random girl I've just met? Nah, not my style.

@Hardkill I never understood how much slut shaming girls went through until I started doing cold approach pickup. What you quickly realize is that a lot of Game is not even being this super confident, alpha guy. It's creating a situation where the girl feels totally comfortable and that she is not being judged. Whatever that means for her. I've seen girls flip from cold to receptive in just a few seconds by alleviating that concern. I've seen girls flip from receptive to cold once they feel judgment. Then you start having sex and you realize how many girls are sexually repressed. They sometimes have these bizarre rules that have nothing to do with you, like she can only have anal sex or do it in certain positions. She can't let go. This is why something like Vegas is so popular. It's like a free pass for casual sex because Vegas "doesn't count". What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. Also, a lot of slut shaming is subconscious. Maybe people aren't running around going "don't be a slut!". But it's implied. It's in their subtle actions, not necessarily their words. It's really no different than how you get conditioned into all sorts of subconscious beliefs. Then you have to go on this whole personal development process to uncover it and rewire it.

@Hafiz I'd try exercise and a hot sauna. Also, get some sunlight. It's not a perfect solution but it will help with the day to day.