aurum

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  1. @spicy_pickles Awesome man, keep up the good work.
  2. @blacksapp Feel free to disagree, but I don't think you actually dislike being around people. I think you dislike socializing because you've had some bad experiences in the past. The truth is that it doesn't have to be that way. Socializing can be amazing, it's one of my favorite things to do.
  3. You gotta find a way to move as soon as possible is what you have to do. Society wants you to cage the beast. They want you to be a little bitch. Fuck that.
  4. @Jonson Good question. Maybe the fact that you can't come up with an answer is a clue.
  5. @herghly It really depends on all the factors I outlined above. And you can start seeing changes very quickly. But personally, any affirmation I start I want to do at least 6 months. A year is probably even better.
  6. @Hardkill It's not contradictory advice. Both those statements are true in different contexts. Yes, sometimes in a club or a bar re-approaching can work because everything is changing. Maybe that girl who blew you off was just in a bad mood. If you're not reapproaching, you leave so much on the table as far as possible options. But if you're getting kicked out of gyms, you need to chill out. A gym is a social circle setting where you should be playing the long game, not burning the place to the ground with aggressive opens. Context dude. And you'll only really get the context the more you take action. That's how this abstract theory becomes real.
  7. @herghly No one here can speak for Leo. But I'm definitely a believer in affirmations. The hardest part of making affirmations work for you is actually doing them. People don't get results with them because they say them a few times and stop. Affirmations should be repeated so often they become your mantras. You should find yourself saying them in regular conversation with people. Or saying things like "one of my mantras is ...". It's that sheer volume that really makes an impact on how you see the world. The other struggle I've seen with affirmations is that a good affirmation should make you uncomfortable. It should push your current self-image. For instance, let's say you use the affirmation "I love myself completely and totally". If you have some with a poor self-image say that, it's actually going to make them feel uncomfortable because they don't believe it. There's too much cognitive dissonance. So you have to get over that initial hump of feeling like you're telling yourself this massive lie. You will change your mind as long as you don't quit on it.
  8. @Jonson First prove that there are these things called "other people".
  9. Praise thee. We mortals are not worthy of your divine Enlightened presence.
  10. @Slade Yes and no. You never want to take one concept and run too far with it. And this is definitely one of them. Suffering undoubtedly can produce growth in people. All my biggest personal leaps have occurred after periods of suffering and I definitely wouldn't be who I am without them. There's different explanations for this. In a book called Anti-fragile Nassam Taleb presents an argument that we need a certain level of disorder, chaos and breakdown in order to come back stronger. In spiritual work, people talk about the purification of the subconscious mind or the raising of vibration. So there's definitely something to the idea that suffering = growth. And it can be a powerful belief to help you cope in those hard times. But here's why I say you don't want to run too far with it. The point of suffering is ultimately so that you don't have to suffer anymore! When you go through experiences like that, they force you to let go of attachment. By letting go of attachment, happiness becomes your default way of being in the world. Life is meant to be light, joyful and easy. Not a constant bashing where you're in pain all the time. But if you think you need pain, that is what you'll get. So use suffering as a tool. But also be willing to let go of masochism and move up into the light.
  11. @Patang That's a bold statement. Why are you here making this post then?
  12. @Sahil Pandit I have a formal education (Master's degree), but I've also done a lot of independent learning online. I'd say there's pros and cons to each like anything else. Pros: Save time traveling. Less expensive so you don't have to go into debt. The ability to learn at your own pace and whatever subject you choose. Cons: Not having a peer group. Not getting the power of an "in-person" lecture. So if I were you, I'd make sure I balanced my online learning with in-person learning as well. Maybe go to some personal development seminars or join a club. Get best of both worlds.
  13. @Omario Good. And don't come back until it's done.
  14. It sounds like you have some good self-awareness on this. You may be on a collision course for a serious system shock. Meaning, something is going to happen so that the pain of not changing is finally going to become greater than the pain of changing. If that happens, roll with it. Have a breakdown, punch a wall, cry, do whatever you gotta do. And then message me again when it all turns out for the best anyway
  15. @Max_V Read Loving What Is by Byron Katie. Also, any of the classic books on the Law of Attraction like Ask and it is Given would help.
  16. @Shroomdoctor I just write down anything I find particularly profound or useful. I'm not going to take notes on the whole book unless it's really that good.
  17. @GrowingUp However you want you've realized the freedom you've always had.
  18. Could be time to find a new job. If that was truly your only motivation, the spiritual path is going to kill that part of your life. It's inauthentic. And nothing inauthentic survives this process. You'll be happier in the end for it. But this is partially why the spiritual path can seem so chaotic. Old pieces of your life constantly being ripped away as you evolve. Is there something else you would, ideally, like to be doing for work?
  19. @F A B My only concern is that for some guys it might be a slippery slope from "I'm jacking off to practice" to "I'm jacking off to avoid socializing". You'd have to make your own judgment call if you're in that category.
  20. @Octafish If you don't have clear goals, the problem isn't that relationships are a distraction. It's that you have no life. Everything is a distraction when you have no idea where you're going. So if you have no goals, make finding out what your goals are your goal. Take the life purpose course. Read books. Travel. Experiment. Whatever you feel you have to do to feel like you've started to find something worthwhile to achieve. Maybe that means you take time off from relationships. Or maybe it doesn't. But it's certainly not a requirement.
  21. @Charlotte Fully support his work and he seems like a cool dude. But as a teacher, we don't really resonate. He's a bit too new age / hipster for me.
  22. @Jedd Really depends on your level of commitment and what you need the site to be able to do. You could hire a dev company for 5-10k, depending on what functionality you need. Or you could start free with something like Wix or Wordpress. Or you could go somewhere in the middle with something like SquareSpace or Shopify.
  23. What's funny is that ego is actually what stops many people from living this kind of lifestyle. Either they're following their conditioning that says monogamy = the only answer, or their self-worth is tied up in their partners validation. Then they shame others who don't feel that way because it highlights their own fears.
  24. @Santiago You don't want to be jealous. Jealousy is only likely to make her want to see that guy more. But you do have to have personal boundaries, whatever that means for you. And if she crosses them, she's done. Break it off.