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Because if you don't, you're doing the exact same thing you're complaining about. You're just like them, only the way you express your negativity and ungratefulness is different.

Paranormal isn't just my belief, it's my experience. As long as you aren't open to it being real, you'll never find the evidence for it because you're closed off. It doesn't. We have some understanding of neuroscience, but mainstream science basically understands nothing about the nature of consciousness. Read books like Biocentrisim, The Holographic Universe and My Big TOE.

@Sven Read The Millionaire Booklet by Grant Cardone.

@wpw Julien has evolved a lot. It's legit.

And you won’t get it until you have your first mystical experience. But I’ll throw out some thoughts that may help. You think you are the person you wake up to everyday. You think you are @Violinpracticerdude. And while the story of your life is logically consistent, it’s not the deeper existential truth. The deeper truth is that your life is kind of like a projection. A projection of the evolution of something that I can’t describe. And that’s what you truly are. The awakening process is whatever this thing is (you) becoming aware of itself (you). The images you see in day to day life are like a metaphor for what is really happening. I realize this probably makes no sense at all. But you’re on this forum, so I’m assuming you’re open to hearing ideas like this. The paranormal becomes normal when you start to realize what I just said above. Your beliefs about what is possible / impossible radically shift. So yes, it’s all possible. Auras, angels, spirits, channeling, mediums, clairvoyance, etc. It’s all relatively normal for me at this point.

@FredFred I would say keep trying. The sensations are there, they might just be too subtle for you to notice at this point. Alternatively, drop the breath as a object of meditation altogether. There’s nothing special about the breath, it just works really well because it’s a constant cyclical stimulus. But you could just as easily pick something else to concentrate on.

Lower the bar. If all you can do is 5 minutes, do 5 minutes. That will get you going in the right direction. That might be what you need to do at this point, I don’t know. But what I do know is that’s not a long term, sustainable solution. Too much inner conflict. Do what you can in terms of action, but I would also go within. Ask yourself: why do I need to “force myself” to eat healthy and not watch TV? Why don’t I want to do these things naturally, with little effort at all? Wouldn’t that make more sense? How are my negative habits actually benefiting me? And don’t just go for the surface answer. Your mind is going to resist doing this and will throw up some lame excuse “cause I’m bored” or “I don’t know, I just like it” or “this exercise is stupid”. Lies. When you get to an answer that makes you feel uncomfortable, now you’re getting somewhere.

@Shroomdoctor I think the “just do it” approach has some merit. I might take that mindset if I’m in the middle of a really intense workout and need to will my way through it. But at a certain point, a useful understanding is to realize that if you could, you would. I used to work at a drug rehab center. Believe me, many of them desperately wanted to stay clean. But they couldn’t. They’re being run by unconscious mental patterns and low vibration energy. You’re not going to willpower yourself out of that. So I don’t nessesarily look at it like I want to discipline myself. Like @Nexeternity said, that implies resistance to the aspect of you that doesn’t want to be disciplined. Rather, I want to become conscious of why am I resisting what is good for me in the first place? Why am I resisting eating healthy? Why am I resisting advancing in my life purpose? Why am I resisting meditation? Etc etc. When you become aware of that and can truly let it go, now everything changes. You don’t need willpower anymore. You resonate with what is going to support you.

@Viking More meditation. Because you’re not present, you’re chasing stimulation and for entertainment to fulfill you. Listen to some Eckhart Tolle maybe too.

When I was younger, it was mostly about getting the success with girls I didn't have growing up. But for me it ended up being this whole rabbit hole where I learned so, so much about myself and the world as a whole. It was the catalyst for a lot of deeper change. One of the cool things about pickup is that it's immediate feedback on your actions. If you're too needy, the girl gets creeped out and walks away. If you're too passive because you have self-worth issues, you might miss an opportunity. I can't tell you how many times I thought I healed some inner trauma, but really it just wasn't being tested. Only to find that exact same pattern happening when I went to do pickup. Basically, it burns a lot of your fantasies to the ground if you do it properly and are willing to go through the process. At this point in my life I have higher priorities than just getting laid. But it still is a lot of fun to do if I want. Deeper connection with someone. Pickup can be fun, but you're probably not forming deep intimate bonds with the girl you're having sex with in a bathroom. Support is another one. If you're in a relationship with a girl that really brings you up instead of bringing you down, that's special. Finally I'd say the joy of giving. I think you hit a point in your development where it's just really enjoyable to give to a partner in whatever way is meaningful. That giving becomes as good as receiving. Of course that doesn't mean you have to jump into a relationship right now. You're 15, you may want to just date around and get experience so that you can understand girls and what you even want out of a relationship. My reasons are my reasons, they may not be your reasons.

They have been for awhile. Watch this one from Tyler all the way through:

Guys @Mikael89 and @MM1988 have shown no interest in ending their delusional vicitm stories. Instead of trying to keep convicing them, let’s use this as an opportunity to detach. If misery is what they want, let them have their misery. Remember that we are not to judge anyone else’s journey. Be open minded to the possibility that we do not ultimately know what is good for them. Perhaps more suffering and delusion is exactly what they need to snap out of it.

You're halfway correct. In the situation you described, that would probably be sign of neuroticism. What you're not seeing is that once you hit a certain level, eating unhealthy is legitimately less enjoyable. Why? Because when you're tuned in and buzzing along in high vibration, there's really no feeling that compares. The mental clarity, energy and focus is addicting in a good way. If you now eat that unhealthy food, all that good high vibe feeling goes away. Your mind dulls. Your energy falls. Even your body revolts, usually with stomach pains. Conversely, when you eat healthy, it's like your entire being is singing. So there's no desire to eat unhealthy because you know it's just going to make you feel worse. Personally, the thought almost never even occurs to me anymore to eat that way.

@Kaity I have a reiki 1 certification myself. It definitely challeneged a lot of my beliefs about how healing works. If you feel called for it, I’d say do it.

@kieranperez The way people describe shadow work, it’s usually a specific technique to achieve spiritual purification. But yeah the end goal is basically all the same.

Not only that, but it also won't last. Any of your good deeds will be washed away by time. Now what?

Slow down the monkey mind and access presence. That's all you need to know.

@NoSelfSelf Superiority / inferiority is the whole point of the ego. "Look at me, I'm better than those people! Wait no I'm not, I'm a piece of shit and should die". That's literally the roller coaster the majority of people are on. It's how you maintain your sense of self. When true self-love comes in, you can just drop the whole thing and laugh at how pointless and even destructive it was.

No, I laugh from behind my cell phone screen.

@Torkys Oh god the misunderstandings are laughable.

It’s actually not fucked at all. You percieve it that way mostly just because you’re not having success. I do know the phenomena you are talking about well. That exists so that when you’re negative, toxic and trying to leech good emotions off of a girl, you don’t get laid. That’s what is supposed to happen. Because if you got laid, you’d never figure out what it means to be happy without a girl. It’s fine to show interest in a girl. But that probably doesn’t mean what you think it means. It’s very different than a guy who is just overtly hitting on her. You have to define “smooth”. If by smooth you mean she just throws herself at you and fucks you without any obstacles coming up, that basically happens 0% of the time. Every girl I’ve ever been with required some problem solving. That being said, I feel most of the time I meet a girl it’s very smooth. Even if some bullshit comes up it’s still all positive. I feel like I do very little. If it wasn’t smooth and it was this big deal, it probably wouldn’t happen anyway.

I get it. I just don’t like it as a practice. If you like it, great. Different people resonate with different paths.

@Amanda R Batista I never was a fan of self inquiry. I get that it works for people but it just seemed like too much mental gymnastics for me. My favorite practices are meditation, yoga, breathwork and bioenergetics. Really going deep on just one of these can cause huge shifts. Oh, also laughing and dancing for no reason

@universe Common themes would be things like: 1) An introduction by a close friend 2) Loving the present moment, no rush to "get" anywhere 3) Needing nothing from her 4) Immunity to bratty behavior 5) Having good friends around me 6) Leading 7) Free flowing That's how it's done. The specifics don't matter that much as long as you've got those things down.

@7thLetter Your old toys don't have the same effect because they were not the cause of your happiness. You've made a false correlation. What you miss is the sense of freedom and lightness that comes from being a kid. A sense that everything is going to be "okay". But as we grow up, the mind gets conditioned out of that. The good news is you don't have to watch old cartoons to get that feeling back. You can be an adult, live in the present and still have that sense of ease. Spiritual growth is the key.